HAPPENINGS

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surTHRIVERS, Friends & Followers:

THANK YOU ALL SO VERY MUCH

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

2022 Inductee: Bestselling Authors International Organization (BAI)

for your amazing support & genuine interest in my books:

my multi-award-winning spiritual fiction (inspired by true events)

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

prominently endorsed by James Redfield, bestselling author of

The Celestine Prophecy

series of books

among other notables in the Spiritual Community, including founding directors of IANDS-International Association for Near Death Studies

…which may become a movie!

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& my 8-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

an extremely well-received, creative response with tools & resources for understanding & healing from

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation,

 Intergenerational Family Trauma & Best Friend Betrayal

ALL OF MY BOOKS HAVE RECEIVED PRAISE & ENDORSEMENTS

FROM WELL-KNOWN, PROMINENT & RESPECTED INFLUENCERS

TDFL  supportive endorsers:  

Dr. Jennifer Harman-top researcher and advocate on Parental Alienation

Dr. Sam Vaknin-professor, researcher and renown self-proclaimed Narcissist expert

Lisa A. Romano-top influencer/advocate and breakthrough Life Coach

Tracy A. Malone-author, advocate and life coach of narcissistabusesupport.com

Sheri McGregor-author of the Beyond the Crying series of books and online newletters on adult estrangement

Anoushka Marcin-psychologist trainee and AskAnoushka podcaster

Ashley Berges-Live Your Best Life Perspectives nationally syndicated Radio Host, Influencer, Speaker, Podcaster & life coach

Paxton-founder and host of NATV-Narc Abuse TV

Tricia Barker-Professor, Author and Near Death Experiencer

Narc Survivor Chris– podcaster and life coach

Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney-founder and advocate, AGAPE Love Dominates, Intimate Partner Violence Survivor & loving mother to her 4 alienated adult children

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Also, check out my co-author chapter contributions to

 7 multi-author Bestselling & Award-Winning anthology collections

& messages (podcast/TV interviews, magazine articles, posts & talks) on

spirituality, faith, hope & healing after experiencing adversity, betrayal, abuse & loss.

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Our voices matter. Honesty matters. Goodness matters.

Be thankful to God for the many blessings on your life’s journey

& have an  ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE

You too can turn your obstacles into opportunities! 

Sincerely wishing you peace & happiness!

With much love from Marni

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Feel free to check out my website to learn more about my books, the amazing endorsers of my books and my many T.V./podcast interviews, events, book signings, speaking engagements and writing endeavors to blogs as well as national magazines. I also highlight many other wonderful influencers and their contributions to the spirituality and/or abuse recovery communities.

Our voices matter. Honesty matters. Goodness matters.

If you are interested and so inclined, feel free to scroll down to the very end of the “Happenings” menu tab for 

MARNI’S PERSONAL & HEARTFELT MESSAGE

as I reflect on my challenging, yet rewarding, life’s journey.

GOODNESS does prevail and TRUTH is eventually revealed.

I have been blessed to have the courage and strength to rise above adversity, abuse, loss and betrayal by connecting the dots, researching, looking within, taking ownership and making some changes and big decisions. We cannot control the actions and words of others, but we can choose how we respond, or not.

Deepak Chopra once said:  “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.”

I was fortunate enough to experience a spiritual awakening where I was clearly shown that the challenges, betrayal, adversity, injustices and heartache endured on this earthly plane are a very necessary part of our growth and evolving.

We can all be strong surTHRIVERS!

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says: I’M POSSIBLE.” ~Audrey Hepburn

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TDFL series Book 7

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Simple Explanations for Complex Terms

on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation

& Intergenerational Family Trauma

was released February 2024!!!

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE:

Simple Explanations for Complex Terms

on

March 20, 2024 this TDFL volume garnered a

5-STAR REVIEW with READERS’ FAVORITE !!!

They even posted this honor on KOBO and Books-A-Million !!!

..as well as socials: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram & Pinterest

BOOK REVIEW

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Honored to have the

INTRODUCTION

written by my very dear friend and fellow influencer:

ANOUSHKA MARCIN

“Understanding the terminology used by the narcissistic abuse community is crucial for several reasons. Primarily, it empowers survivors of narcissistic abuse to articulate their experiences and feelings accurately. This language provides them with the tools to validate their own struggles and connect with others who have faced similar challenges, reducing feelings of isolation and self-doubt. Next, knowledge of this terminology aids mental health professionals in recognising and addressing narcissistic abuse. This can lead to more effective therapy and support for survivors, helping them on their path to recovery. Further, awareness of the narcissistic abuse lexicon can contribute to broader societal understanding of this pervasive issue. The more people are educated about the dynamics and tactics employed by narcissists, the better equipped they are to identify abusive behaviour in their own lives, potentially preventing further harm. In essence, the knowledge of terminology within the narcissistic abuse community serves as a valuable tool for survivors, therapists, and society as a whole. It fosters empathy, support, and a collective effort to combat narcissistic abuse, ultimately promoting healing, resilience, and healthier relationships.

I am a motivational speaker and online presence talking about narcissism and emotional trauma. I am a trainee psychologist and my work is about enabling the survivor to realise that recovery is possible by reconnecting back to themselves and starting to build a strong alliance with their core spirit. This is a very important and necessary part of the process of healing. My work has reached audiences of millions around the globe through my thought provoking and enlightening videos, wellbeing blogs and social media posts. 

I met Marni a few years ago when she began writing her prominently endorsed and very well received TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE book series which provides terminology, tools and a creative approach to understanding and healing from Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma. We clicked the moment we met; you see, Marni values honesty and has a warm, compassionate and authentic disposition, which I would say is not typical nowadays. Some people are like a rare diamond and when you meet them, you want to keep connected to their kindness. Marni is a rare diamond and I feel blessed that our paths crossed. Through this dark subject that we both are well versed in, I hope that our friendship, along with our respective outreach efforts, can provide inspiration to others so they will know that there are genuine, empathetic and authentic people in the world. You just need to set and enforce healthy boundaries in relationships when your gut intuition tells you to pay attention to red flags, while you educate yourself, learn the many “simple explanations for complex terms,” acknowledge and take ownership of your foundational patterns, prioritize your wellbeing and make true connections with people of integrity 

I cannot praise Marni enough for her writing and what she brings to survivors to be able to put to words their experiences. These covert and dark experiences are intentionally kept in the shadows by the malevolent perpetrators and their accomplices. Many survivors do not have the linguistic vocabulary to describe what has happened to them. Through Marni’s work, she sheds light onto such a hidden and emotive subject, enabling survivors to be able to articulate what they’ve been through, which allows empowerment out of victimhood. There is no-one else like Marni who, with her work and collections, has provided such unique, supportive and compassionate tools to help the reader understand Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation, Intergenerational Family Trauma and Best Friend Betrayal and empower them with the vernacular to move forward in renewed hope. And hope is what every survivor needs to be able to step into a new chapter of their lives. I give my highest praise to Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro for bringing such impactful resources to a much needed topic with her TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE book series.”

~Anoushka Marcin

Motivational Speaker, Trainee Psychologist, well-being Coach, self-development Workshop Facilitator, YouTube/livestream vlogger, writer of SELF GENERATION: The Restoration of You, featured inspirational interview @BBC, Owner of @balance.psychologies

Website: askanoushka.co.uk

Mentorship: patron.com/askanoushka

YouTube: Ask Anoushka: @anoushkamarcin

Social Media Links:

instagram.com/anoushkamarcin

tiktok.com/@askanoushka

facebook.com/askanoushka

twitter.com/AnoushkaMarcin

 

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TDFL series Book 6

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Setting Healthy Boundaries

after surviving Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse,

Parental Alienation, Intergenerational Family Trauma

& Best Friend Betrayal

was released February 2024!!!

Honored to have the

FOREWORD

written by my very close friend and fellow surTHRIVER

TRACY A. MALONE

“Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro and I have connected through our shared experiences and the bond of becoming “surTHRIVERS” after experiencing Narcissistic Abuse. When a Targeted Victim has been in an Abusive relationship, several factors can make them more vulnerable and Trauma-Bonded. These may include qualities such as being a compassionate Empath, having codependent tendencies, over-giving and/or being a people-pleaser. However, what Abusers specifically target is someone with weak boundary-setting skills.

After years of attempting to establish Healthy Boundaries with others that were consistently disregarded, I reached a point where I almost considered giving up trying to stand up for myself by speaking up and staying true to my values. The notion crossed my mind that I might not be skilled at setting Healthy Boundaries. It was only through my honest, insightful conversations and inspiring friendship with Marni that I began to recognize numerous people in my life, including immediate family members, with whom my boundaries had never proven effective. This realization prompted me to research and do a deep-dive to understand the importance of strengthening my boundaries with everyone, and to conclude that those who didn’t respect my boundaries didn’t have a place in my life. As painful and uncomfortable as it was, it became necessary for me to let go of these toxic, unhealthy and unbalanced relationships.

As a global Narcissistic Abuse Coach, my mission is to empower Survivors to thrive and become “surTHRIVERS” who assert their boundaries and prevent being taken advantage of in their future relationships. In addition to my in-person and online coaching, I am also a best-selling author, experienced teacher, regular podcaster and sought-after international speaker who provides workshops, classes, healing journals and numerous resources, all of which can be found on my website 

http://www.NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

In this book, Marni provides real-life examples and stories that illustrate situations where individuals may find it necessary to establish, set and enforce Healthy Boundaries. Whether you’re dealing with a romantic partner, family members, friends or coworkers, Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro offers practical advice to assist you in your awareness as you learn to finally value yourself and your worth, and determine what you will and will no longer tolerate in relationships.

I believe that Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s work in this book on Setting Healthy Boundaries, as in all of her books in her prominently-endorsed and award-winning book series “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE,” is essential for shedding light on situations that may require improved boundary-setting skills.”

~Tracy A. Malone

Author, Teacher, Coach, surTHRIVER and Founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com, a global resource for Survivors

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The only other volume in my 8-book series that has a foreword or introduction is

TDFL series Book 1

 TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

15,555 Terms & Phrases on

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation

and it was written by Dr. Sam Vaknin from North Macedonia,

an Israeli writer & professor of psychology who is the author of

Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited

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Book 8

TRUE LOVE

Memorable Moments of a Mother’s

TRUE LOVE For Her Children

will be released soon!

lovingly dedicated to our children:

(my beautiful Kiss Girl & my handsome Sweetie Ding)

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To our wonderful son and beautiful daughter:

Your mom has always loved you both so very much!

My belief is that children need both their dad and their mom.

I wish that I could have prevented the extreme Parental Alienation Abuse that all three of us have unfortunately experienced for the past decade. I had no idea that adult children could be coercively controlled with a false narrative and be cult-like brainwashed with lies to unjustifiably reject, fear and hate half of who they are.

A parent who loves their children unconditionally would never sabotage their children’s relationship with their other parent. A parent who loves their children unconditionally would also never purposely keep siblings separated from each other.

The intentional harm that has been done to you kids by the favored abuser who you are aligned with is painfully damaging and has lifelong negative consequences.

Parental Alienation is criminal.

Parental Alienation is extreme Child Abuse.

The Secret-Agent Alienating Parent obsessively seeks revenge by using their children as weapons in their war against the Loving Targeted Parent to punish him/her for finding the strength and courage to escape and speak out about their awareness and healing journey after learning the truth of their spouse’s immoral or illegal behavior.

Narcissists, Psychopaths and Sociopaths wear a False Mask to keep up their over-confident public persona to hide their inadequacies, shame, low self-worth, immoral wrongdoings, illegal activities, character disorder and malevolent agenda. Their common coping responses after being rejected and the truth exposed (often by their own doing, as they tell on themselves) is to play the Victim Card and engage in blame-shifting, gaslighting, projection, exerting power and criticizing, often under the guise of protection, care and concern for their children’s safety and well being.

Alienators hate their ex more than they love their own children.

After vindictive Abusers have caused never-ending legal chaos and have taken everything away from their ex (the family house, money, assets, support system of friends, family, neighbors) the Alienator takes away what means the most to the Loving Parent, and that is their previously solid relationship with their children.

I am so sorry.

I did not know this would happen to us.

I have always done my best since before you were born and into your 20’s/30’s to protect you from any harm. I cannot protect you from this evil. I have always encouraged you to embrace happiness, be honest, follow your dreams and be emotionally/financially independent. These values are being undermined.

You don’t deserve this Abuse. It’s not your fault.

We three have been innocent victims of unthinkable Domestic Violence.

However, there is hope for healing.

You both have the power to make things right.

Please take some time to use your critical thinking skills. You are both very smart and can connect the dots to figure out the truth. Your heart knows the truth. It would be very helpful for you to look up the following terms to understand what has happened to you: Stockholm Syndrome, Psychological Splitting and Independent Thinker Phenomenon. Kids, be strong, research, embrace goodness and take back your life.

I hope that you both check out your Mom’s latest (orange) TDFL book series (volume #8) filled with words and photo collages to remind you of the

many amazing MEMORIES that we shared together.

I pray we will be back in each other’s lives someday soon.

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Click on the link below to watch

“The Role of Memory & Parental Alienation

from Madi: an Alienated 29-year-old Adult Child’s point of view” 

https://youtu.be/ESUGeZTO5Uc?si=uIljwV_A2zEeenjB

 

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Teal Swan articulately unpacks the complex and often misunderstood dynamics of

PARENTAL ALIENATION

The character-disordered narcissistic abuser, a severely damaged and misguided victim of generational abuse from his/her own parent(s), continues the family trauma cycle with coercive control by brainwashing their kids to align with them and getting them to reject, fear, hate and punish their loving, normal-range targeted parent.

In the malevolent alienator’s revengeful efforts to destroy their ex, they attempt to sever the other parent’s loving parent-child bonds, causing so much destruction to everyone involved. These abusive alientators inflict deep psychological wounds that traumatize and forever harm their own children. Narcissists view their children as mini-me extensions of themselves and tools to manipulate.

Alienators engage in coercive control and pursue their quest for power when they set out to punish their ex. They will stop at nothing in their mission to destroy their husband/wife who learned the truth, escaped and was successful in divorcing them.

The children are brainwashed to align with the abusive parent because they know there will be severe reprocussions if they don’t; the child is desperately in a fight for their own survival. They are used as weapons against their loving, healthy parent. Deep down, however, the child knows the difference between good and bad.

What the narcissistic, abusing alienator doesn’t realize though, is that the truth ALWAYS rises. The damage has been done, but in time the abuser is exposed.

Click on the link below to watch PART 1:

https://youtu.be/tecX9fTMmi8?si=OlXheIZ7_Pw3PX7V

 

Click on the link below to watch PART 2:

https://youtu.be/KPJ1F3xK_Fg?si=KCPcEkDm3MeqxfNP

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“IF YOU ARE AN ALIENATED CHILD,

THE KEY TO HEALING IS REACHING OUT TO YOUR PARENT.

YOU GOT TO REACH OUT TO YOUR MISSING PARENT.”

~Dawn McCarty

The Impact of Being a Weapon:

6 Former Alienated Children Speak

Thursday, April 25, 2024

The Impact of Being a Weapon:

6 Former Alienated Children Speak

The Facebook Watch Party and YouTube links are below:

https://gowjrw.clicks.mlsend.com/tl/cl/eyJ2Ijoie1wiYVwiOjY3ODE2NixcImxcIjoxMTk2MDUzMjEyOTg2MTAxMjQsXCJyXCI6MTE5NjA1MzIyNDk2MDgyOTUwfSIsInMiOiJkMzQ2M2M5NTczYTk5Y2QwIn0

https://youtu.be/q_ZZi99jGBw?si=GWRr8CrfdGsGlvC5

Earlier this month, Madi joined forces with 5 other survivors of severe child psychological abuse, often referred to as parental alienation. Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates their child to reject their other, loving parent… without true justification.

This is the first time that a group of survivors of this severe abuse have put on a live event, of our own accord, to shine a spotlight on the detrimental affects this abuse inflicts on innocent children. Are you ready to unravel the destruction of pathological parenting and challenge the status quo?

Madi is elated to share this discussion panel video, as well as an opening lecture by renowned researcher and expert, Dr. Jennifer J. Harman, with you on PA Awareness Day, April 25th, at 5 PM MST / 7 PM EST. Please join them LIVE to watch the event together.

The Anti-Alienation Project, together with the support of the Parental Alienation Study Group, The National Parents Organization, Psi Chi, and the Psychology Department at Colorado State University, bring you this revolutionary discussion panel and a special introductory lecture.

Expert, Research Scientist, Author, Speaker, Professor and Advocate

on

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Dr. Jennifer J. Harman

(who endorsed my TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE book series, see below!)

presented the opening lecture.

Click on the link below for an introductory “short”:

https://youtube.com/shorts/fggfhxtdonk?si=CEoQH1qqpNyKrVwQ

“Many people who have suffered abuse, whether it is Parental Alienation or other forms of family violence, are subjected to considerable verbal and psychological abuse. Language can cause considerable damage, but it can also help with recovery. Seeing commonly used words and phrases that others have expressed to describe and survive their abuse may be transformative to those who need understanding and another perspective on their experiences. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s book series, True Deceit False Love, may be very useful for individuals who struggle to find the words to explain what they have been through, and may aid in their healing process.”

~Jennifer J. Harman, Ph.D.,

Relationship Expert, Researcher, Professor, Author, Public Speaker

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Click on the link below to hear the

REPLAY:

https://audioboom.com/posts/8459487-replay-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-discusses-alienation

 

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Targeted men/dads and women/moms who have been

Alienated from their children

are always victims of a ruthless, intentional and calculated

*** SMEAR CAMPAIGN ***

The Abuser’s vindictive goal is to discredit your reputation, isolate you from those in your circle and punish you by using lies to damage your image, credibility and character. These extremely dishonest Perpetrators use Gaslighting and will do and say anything and everything to get those you care about, even your own children, to turn against you by portraying you as mentally unstable and dangerous. Nothing is off limits. They righteously act like they are the victim as they put enormous, deliberate deflection efforts into controlling their misguided narrative to preserve their false public persona, before the truth eventually exposes them for the evil, jealous, pathetic monsters they really are. They don’t care who gets damaged in their wake, even their kids, because for them, the ends justify the means.

Abusers and Alienators use Projection where they accuse their ex of the immoral/illegal activity that THEY are actually engaged in. These character-disordered people eventually and often unintentionally confess to their wrongdoings by telling on themselves with their own projected false accusations aimed at others. The reality is that these Malignant Narcissists, Psychopaths and Sociopaths are trying to protect their damaged and fragile ego and deceive others by coming across as upstanding and superior, so they use the revengeful, damaging Smear Campaign to destroy their target or ex, and deflect attention away from their own significant inadequacies, low self-image, numerous faults and bad behavior.

I have experienced being horrifically smeared by toxic others.

As soon as my Abuser knew that I knew his agenda and who he really was behind the mask, and he sensed that I was quietly plotting my escape after 27 years, his narrative was threatened. Almost overnight I found myself completely isolated as I lost my entire support system of friends, family and neighbors to his absurd lies and believable half-truths. In a blink of an eye, those who I knew for years and thought were close, turned away from me. Even the Girl Scout leaders and church associates I served with for decades. Even our family’s babysitter. All of our neighbors. Even our longtime handyman, who had for years warned me that I was being domestically abused when I didn’t see it or knew the Red Flags to watch out for.

Alienators abduct and isolate the kids and move them to undisclosed towns, states and countries. They may even change the kids’ names and appearances. The loving parent finds that they are now restricted from accessing their own child’s academic and medical records or supporting their children’s extracurriculars and sporting events, as court orders are not followed. You are not included in or even told about celebratory milestones, such as birthdays, holidays, graduations, weddings and funerals. Photographs of and mementos from you are destroyed. Communications and phone calls are blocked and texts are deleted. Cards and gifts are returned or thrown out.

Along with the Smear Campaign, the Abuser makes every effort to erase you. 

Alienators will even involve the police, commit perjury in court and try to silence you with false arrests and restraining orders based on lies and contrived premises. It is widely reported in our daily news headlines that some very dangerous Domestic Abusers take their anger to extremes to un-alive you or your children, either directly or by proxy.

I experienced Betrayal and Ghosting by most in my circle, including family.

Even my betraying childhood “Best Friend,” who sadly contributed to the alienation, specifically my relationship with our daughter, engaged in her own Smear Campaign against me (after I kindly and without confrontation voiced an opposing viewpoint on current events) however her backstabbing most likely had been going on for years, even decades. Her jealous mask unintentionally slipped where, on her own, she exposed her true dark character; this may have happened in the over half a century of our “friendship”, but this time I was finally paying attention and snapped out of the Cognitive Dissonance that I continually experienced around her. Yes, making the choice to walk away and losing this relationship hurt initially, but after realizing the truth of our unhealthy and unbalanced dynamics, and her constant use of Intermittent Reinforcement, and that for me, our relationship was more about the history and Trauma Bond, I was thankful to finally face reality, let her go and move on. Obviously, I had yet another big relationship lesson to learn.

I’m enjoying life much better now without these dishonest, toxic people in my life.

I have never been one to ever disparage others or conduct a Smear Campaign on anyone, not even those who have betrayed me or intentionlly caused me harm, as those behaviors are just not who I am or what I am about. I believe people’s actions and reactions can “speak” volumes about a person’s true character.

Luckily I didn’t react to my Abusers’ Baiting or directly question the consequences from the Smear Campaign and kept my calm composure. With level-headed grace, I maintained my virtuous integrity and let my actions speak louder than my words. Now, after educating myself about these toxic experiences and character-disordered individuals, I no longer spend my time or energy caring about these peope. I am actually thankful to learn about their true character and intentions so that letting them go is not really a loss, but a gain.

Abusive others actually make you a stronger person.

I had to self-reflect and look at my own foundational patterns to understand and break my Intergenerational Family Trauma Bonds and resulting behaviors. I acknowledge and accept my role that contributed to the unhealthy relationship dynamics.

Now I am blessed to be living more authentically and honoring myself.

Losing people who you thought were close friends is initially shocking and confusing, however people who go along with the Narcissist’s SMEAR CAMPAIGN by dropping you without ever asking clarifying questions about your perspective (even though you would think they know your character after all these years) are people that you really don’t want to be around and don’t deserve to be in your life anyway.

Unless those removed people are your children, and in that case the SMEAR CAMPAIGN gives the Perpetrator the ultimate high when that Pathogenic Parent is using the aligned, brainwashed kids to destroy you by inflicting one of the most horrendous of all Domestic Violence crimes:

PSYCHOLOGICAL CHILD ABUSE

of

PARENTAL ALIENATION

where a loving dad or mom is deprived of a relationship and is forced to grieve the loss of their own young or adult living child(ren).

It was baffling to me that my Abuser could or even want to do this me after over three decades together. I was mistaken when I thought he really loved our children and wouldn’t cause them any harm. I thought that even though I no longer wanted to be married to him, that we could at least respectfully co-parent our ADULT children. Boy, was a wrong! I was very naive and thought others had good intentions just like I did. I couldn’t even begin to think about what he could possibly say about my character to get everyone to believe his lies.

This short video explains the 7 possible false narratives he may have used, accusing me of:

1. criminal or illegal behavior

2. claims of social deviance or moral corruption

3. saying I was emotionally unstable, mentally ill or crazy

4. projecting that it was I, and not him, who was a serial cheater or permiscuous

5. wrongly stating I was an abusive, unfit or grossly neglegent parent

6. being incompetent, irresponsible or unreliable

7. being an addict, substance abuser or alcoholic

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His malevolent agenda worked, but goodness ALWAYS rises above evil.

Click on the link below to check out Jill Wise’s The Englightened Target’s

7 most common lies told to those in your circle during the

SMEAR CAMPAIGN:

https://youtu.be/do96HVkhjg0?si=Ealt1tewOhhpLKUA

 

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Enjoyed the April 8, 2024 TOTAL SOLAR ECLIPSE,

despite my “Total Eclipse of the Heart” of losing our children to

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Song lyrics by Bonnie Tyler: “Every now and then I get a little bit lonely and you’re never coming ’round, I get a little bit tired of listening to sound of my tears, I get a little bit nervous that the best of all the years have gone by, I get a little bit angry and I know I’ve got to get out and cry”

 

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Continuing to enjoy life, despite the loss of our children to

PARENTAL ALIENATION

we explored San Diego, California in March 2024.

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Tracy A. Malone’s 3-18-2024 interview features John McKenny, the Founder of Male Victims Of Female Narcissists. In this deeply insightful discussion, John opens up about his personal experience with parental alienation, shedding light on the profound pain caused by narcissistic abuse and its devastating impact on family dynamics. As someone who has experienced the heart-wrenching effects of being alienated from his children, John offers a raw and honest account of his journey, highlighting the urgent need for awareness and support for male victims of narcissistic abuse. Join them as they delve into this important conversation, exploring the complexities of parental alienation and the path to healing.

Parental alienation is a distressing phenomenon that occurs when one parent manipulates their child into rejecting the other parent, often as a result of high-conflict divorce or separation. This deliberate and harmful behavior can have long-lasting effects on the child’s mental and emotional well-being, as well as on the relationship between the child and the alienated parent. Common tactics of parental alienation may include denigrating the targeted parent, interfering with visitation or communication, and fostering an unhealthy dependency on the alienating parent. Recognizing the signs of parental alienation early on is crucial for intervention and preventing further damage to the parent-child relationship.

Dealing with parental alienation can be an incredibly challenging and isolating experience for targeted parents. They may feel powerless in the face of relentless manipulation and may struggle to maintain a meaningful connection with their child. Legal and therapeutic interventions are often necessary to address parental alienation effectively, with the goal of restoring the parent-child bond and mitigating the emotional harm caused by the alienating behaviors. It’s essential for targeted parents to seek support from knowledgeable professionals and advocacy groups specializing in parental alienation, as well as to prioritize self-care and resilience-building strategies to navigate this complex and emotionally fraught situation.

Click on the link below to tune into their 3-18-2024 conversation:

https://youtu.be/7qNIom_TKZI?si=hYLpmOsP8Y7m3AJL

 

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Madi, the 29-year old compassionate, insightful & articulate founder/podcast host of

THE ANTI-ALIENATION PROJECT

who finally figured out that her mom alienated her from her loving dad for 20 years, and is bringing awareness to this unfortunate family dynamic, has started a facebook support group for those parents and Adult Children who are interested and on social media. She also interviews others (parents, children, extended family members, friends of victims) who have experienced Parental Alienation and is venturing out to college campuses to reach other young adults who may or may not yet know they are Victims of this form of Child Abuse and who believe that they have one “good” parent to have a relationship with and is in their life and one “bad” parent who they should not have a relationship with and who “doesn’t deserve to be in their life.”

So many people may not know the term

PARENTAL ALIENATION

but they know the experience!

BOTH PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN

CHILDREN SHOULD BE ABLE TO LOVE BOTH OF THEIR PARENTS

Our children may, on their own, figure out that they were Alienated by one parent and encouraged (very covertly… Alienators act like they “care” about their children’s well-being) to stay away from, fear, be cruel to and cut off the other Loving Parent. Kids are brainwashed to go along with this manipulative evil agenda. They live in fear of being abandoned and losing the conditional love of the parent they are aligned with.

The reality is that the Alienators care more about harming and destroying their ex than they care about the well-being of their own children.

Some kids stop calling that Loving Parent “Dad” or “Mom” and refer to them by their first name. The Narcissistic Playbook is textbook predictable, so the child is also Alienated from and cuts off the Targeted Parent’s entire side of that family and anyone close to them, even pets. Most Abusers keep the Adult Children financially reliant on them and may even sabotage their child’s jobs, relationships, health and success, halting their independence and growth to become the person that they want to be. Abusers thrive on Manipulation and Coercive Control and are the parents who usually buy the Adult Children their electronics (phones-spyware-air tags-ipads-computers-gaming-movie/network subscriptions) and the related monthly plans so they can track and troll their kids’ every text, call, email, search, subscription, post, contact, as well as what they do and where/when the go somewhere. Also, if their kids are glued to a screen or virtual reality, they are groomed to prefer to be alone in their dark apartments, don’t get outside in nature, are more socially isolated and have trouble connecting with others in person forming positive relationships. This leads to many Adult Children struggling to hold jobs and be financially independent, along with becoming addicts, abusing substances (weed, hard drugs, alcohol, pharmaceuticals) just to get through the day. The ripple effects are destructive. The options usually boil down to getting sober, going to jail or dying.

Abusers will engage in Identity Theft, and Adult Children are shocked when they find out that the parent they are aligned with has racked up debt on credit cards that were illegally taken out in their own child’s name using their social security number, ruining their credit for years to come. Abusers will deplete their children’s college funds and cash in or force their spouse to cash in and hand over their children’s savings bonds so these Abusers will pocket the money, often to fund their own addictions to gambling, pornography and/or drugs, their numerous extramarital rendezvous and/or even support a “love child(ren)” or secret second or even third family. These character-disordered,  abusing and alienating individuals are always in need of quick cash and will get the money by any means, even stealing from their own children.

Alienators also often keep the siblings isolated from each other so that they can’t compare notes where the actual truth will dispel the False Narrative and lies they’ve been told. Many Abusers are Secret Agent Men and Women who go by many aliases, have complicated connections, embedding secret codes into their countless passwords and private accounts, because they have some immoral or illegal wrongdoing they don’t want exposed or others to know about. For some of these abusive spouses who have significantly harmful information that was revealed which they want forever hidden, they make sure that their divorce depositions are sealed. Abusers generally engage in numerous extramarital physical and/or emotional affairs and are often fiscally irresponsible as they struggle with addictions to infidelity, gambling, substance abuse and pornography, even illegal child or teen pornography. Many Adult Children later find out that they have half-siblings who they never knew about and if the secret love child remains hidden, who they may never find out about.

These Pathogenic Parents have a False Persona and Fake Image and narrative to maintain for the public, their families, their neighbors, their coworkers and even aquaintances. The ex spouse, who is the healthy, loving parent, knows who the real Abuser is behind the mask. The kids know also, as they have been witness to how the Pathogenic Dad or Mom treats their other parent during the marriage and after the divorce. Many of these Abusers are undiagnosed Covert Malignant Narcissists who are often leaders of companies and hold CEO or top positions within their workplaces as they crave power and control and like to be the boss of organizations, as well as oversee and misuse their budgets. They fear being exposed and the truth of who they really are being publicly revealed.

When our children eventually figure out the Alienator’s true underlying intentions, it will be a very painful realization for them, but it is one that our children need to come to terms with and make choices on their own on how they choose to handle this.

Many stay in the unhealthy Trauma-Bond because of fear, believing it’s just easier to keep things the way they are. Others who have more strength and a more solid moral compass will begin to critically think, connect the dots and act more authentically.

The Targeted Parent is often blindsided by their husband or wife leading a double or triple life of deceit, even with people the spouse knows right in front of their face, with the physical and/or emotional affairs happening both in secret, out in the open or even in the family home. The unknowing spouse was unaware of and ignored years of Red Flags or their intuition which could have alerted them to pay more attention. That’s why you see divorces seemingly happen “out of the blue” after 10, 15, 20 even 30 years of marriage!

The Targeted Parent’s own foundational patterns and unknowing Intergenerational Family Trauma contributed to this toxic dynamic. The Targeted Parent is often the parent who took care of all things home, school, extracurricular, holidays, birthdays, garden/yard, pets, trips, medical and family. They were so very busy and that was part of the Abuser’s strategy. The Targeted spouse’s good qualities (being a generous over-giver or empathetic people-pleaser) and past traumas, abandonment wounds or relationship rejections also set them up to be Abused. It’s not until their marriage “suddenly” falls apart and they suddenly are rejected by their child(ren) that these Loving Parents are forced to look at themselves and how they were unaware for so long. Unlike what is commonly believed by those who have no clue or experience, it doesn’t “take two to tango” when it comes to Narcissistic Abuse or Parental Alienation. It is due to one sick, character/personality-disordered individual who has a malevolent agenda and need to dominate and put down others, even if the kids are caught in the crossfire. The children are unfortunately used as weaponized pawns in the Alienator’s war against their ex.

Alienation is devastating for the Targeted Parent, but even worse for the child.

We ALL should care MORE about the CHILD!

In the long run,  it is the Abusive Alienators who usually end up being the ones who ultimately lose their relationship with their Adult Children, because when the kids find out the truth of Parental Alienation and the extreme efforts that the parent they’ve been aligned with all those years purposely lied about, caused harm to and kept them away from their other Loving Parent, as Madi says, “out of self-preservation, not choice,” the kids struggle to stay connected to the dishonest Alienator and often want to reconnect with the Loving Parent they wrongly cut off and previously refused to have a relationship with.

My 2024 message to

Targeted Dads & Moms:

It’s easy to give up hope of having your Alienated Child back in your life, especially if you haven’t seen them in years or even decades or you are dealing with an Adult Child who comes in and out of your life.

They may figure it all out one day and learn about the Abuse of Parental Alienation.

Parents, please don’t give up hope. Keep your hearts and minds open.

I continue to remain hopeful that our beautiful daughter will become aware of the dynamics surrounding Parental Alienation, forgive me as well as herself, and find it in her heart to reach out to me, her Mom, who has always loved her unconditionally.

Why am I hopeful?

Because I am a loving mom.

Because I know our daughter is smart and has a heart.

Because a prior healthy parent-child bond cannot truly be severed.

Because I know I did the absolute best I could being our daughter’s parent.

Was I perfect? No. Nobody is. Did I make mistakes? Sure, I am human. Did I do everything in my power to insure our daughter felt loved, cared for, capable and worthy? YES 100%.

Because I love our daughter just as much now as I did the 20 years that she was in my life.

Because our 10-year separation is not her fault. I don’t blame her for anything. She was a Victim too.

I’ve educated myself about the research on Stockholm Syndrome (where Victims align with and are sympathetic to their Abuser) and Independent Thinker Phenomenon (where the child is convinced that it is their idea to cut-off one of their parents, half of who they are). I know that for many Alienated Adult Children, it may just seem easier to leave things as they are to avoid further stress and pain. They are doing the best they can to survive. They engage in Psychological Splitting (where the child believes things to be black-and-white, with one all-good parent and one all-bad parent), just to cope and create a life for themselves. They believe and defend their stance that the parent they cut off is “bad” and to be feared, because that was what they were made to believe over and over by the Pathogenic Parent, either with Coercive Control, by being told directly or very indirectly under the covert guise of concern and protection. Plus, these Young and/or Adult Children have witnessed how the Alienator treats the other parent during the marriage and after the divorce, so these kids are in fear that the same would happen to them and they are scared of losing the conditional love of that parent, the “good” parent who they are aligned with (and are most likely, even in adulthood, financially and emotionally dependent on), so they outright reject and cut-off their other Targeted Parent, the safe parent who loves them unconditionally, and that entire side of the family and labels them all as “bad.”

The Alienated kids know deep down that the Erased Parent’s love is unconditional, and that the Targeted, Loving Father or Mother will always welcome their child with open arms if and when the Alienated Adult Child eventually reaches out to re-establish connection. And it is, in many cases. especially if the kids are adults, up to the Alienated Child to initiate contact, in part because of the parent being rejected so many times, but additionally if legal orders have also interfered with the loving parent-child relationship. That’s what happened in my situation. Even though the orders have long-since expired, and despite my natural maternal instinct to reach back out to our daughter with words of love and reassurance, I cannot and will not risk my physical and emotional safety, as well as my freedom.

Especially since it’s now 2024 and I am yet again (this time since 2021) still in court (this time with my 15th lawyer, even though our divorce did not include custody issues related to minor children), over a decade since I filed for divorce, forced to respond to my Abuser’s legal petitions in his unsuccessful attempts to get me on “contempt” at a great cost of time, energy and tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees (overall since I mustered up the courage to file for divorce in 2013, I have had to pay over $100,000.00 to escape my ex!) It is very sad and pathetic, but these character-disordered exes can’t ever let you go. The only way these obsessive predatory Abusers can stay connected to their targeted prey, especially the Grade A Supply that escaped to safety, moved on and moved far away, is by misusing the Judicial System.

I did what so many Targeted Dads and Moms do, by reaching out in every way possible, many times over many years (holidays, milestones and just everyday days), to let our daughter know that I love her unconditionally and miss her with all my heart. Unfortunately, after I flew out of state several years ago for our daughter’s 4-year college graduation to bring her thoughtful gifts and a suitcase full of her scrapbooks and mementos, even without seeing her, I was later served by the police with a PFA-Protection From Abuse Order and told that our daughter doesn’t love me or want me in her life, and that she feared for her safety. This was completely out of her character and came as such a shock. In fact, this was more like it was coming from the Pathogenic Parent who wanted me destroyed because I had the strength to escape and file for divorce after I learned too much. Even more shocking was that this out-of-state judge, who didn’t allow me or my lawyer to speak or share documentation or proof, granted our daughter a 2-year Order of Protection. The extreme harm that was done to both me and our daughter had significant negative consequences and was unjust, but it solidified the Alienator’s objective.

Actually, many Abuser’s want you, their Target, permanently erased. We read headlines all the time of husbands and wives committing the murder of their ex, and even the children, or their ex may be taken out by a proxy’s hired hit or was involved in an “accident” or was “suicidal” when the facts just don’t add up. Abusers and severe Alienators want you dead. They don’t want you to speak the truth of Abuse and Alienation, or the immoral or illegal activities the Abuser has been involved in. They want you silenced!

In my case, I was considered a great mom and devoted wife until I filed for divorce after 27 years. My relationship with our daughter was loving, positive, fun and supportive. There were never any accusations or reports to the contrary. But then it all ended abruptly. Our daughter was a 20-year-old adult at the time, and now it’s been close to a decade of Alienation! The guilt, pain, fear and regret she must live with has to be awful.

Children should know that BOTH parents love them.

Children should in turn, be able to love BOTH of their parents.

It should be OK for children to have a relationship with BOTH their Dad and Mom (& Alienated Brothers or Sisters, as well as cut-off extended family: Aunts, Uncles and Grandparents), especially when the kids are younger. As they get older, it should be up to them to navigate their own relationships. They can decide for themselves how to manage healthy as well as unhealthy relationships, even with their parents, and especially after learning that they were used as a pawn in their aligned parent’s war against their other loving parent.

I have been a Victim of an ongoing, relentless Smear Campaign by my Abuser (and his aligned supporters and Flying Monkeys), and as a result lost my support system of friends, neighbors, family and church, as well as losing the safety and security of our home, assets, investments, money and basically my “American Dream.”

I never conducted a Smear Campaign on my ex-husband. Not only is that behavior not in my nature, I didn’t have to say anything because his own actions speak louder than his words. His False Mask can and has slipped with others as well. I have never once disparaged our daughter’s father; not just because he and his criminal-divorce lawyer put a gag order/mum clause in the divorce decree so he could take me back to court if I were to contact his employer or family to speak negatively about him-even factual information, but because that just isn’t who I am or how I operate. I know who he really is. Other people might also, but they have the choice to believe what he says, even if they are outright lies or half-truths. I know the honest facts and choose to put my energies into other more interesting things, honorable people of integrity and productive endeavors. The people who are no longer in my life and never took the time to communicate with me to get my perspective, don’t deserve to be in my life. I was hurt and shocked at first, but considering the sources, no longer care and am actually relieved to have been shown their true character.

Letting go of toxic others opens you up to invite like-minded people of integrity into your life.

By my actions and words I have always encouraged both of our children to have a positive relationship with their dad; I don’t interfere or do anything to get in the way of them having their dad in their life. For years I encouraged them to regularly reach out to their dad and reminded them to contact their dad on special occasions, and early on even buying them Father’s Day cards and Birthday greetings to send to him. Even when I flew out for our daughter’s graduation before being unjustly served that PFA, in the gifts I brought for our daughter, I also included “congratulations Dad” gifts I specially ordered from the graduation section of her college bookstore. The same cannot be said on the flip side.

I do believe in honesty and openness; I believe in stating facts that tell the objective truth when I try to bring awareness about Parental Alienation and Abuse (Domestic, Narcissistic, Emotional, Physical, Financial and Sexual). Unfortunately, Parental Alienation is also knowingly and unknowingly supported and encouraged by many others: (many who are called Flying Monkeys) family, friends and neighbors who aid in this devastating form of Child Abuse. Every Adult Child Survivor of Parental Alienation I have heard of says that they wish that they knew the truth about the lies, false accusations and efforts by one parent to destroy the relationship with their other parent, because with the truth, they would have saved years of emotional strife, they would have been able to have both parents in their lives and could heal faster from the traumas they’ve experienced.

During that same time, our Adult Daughter also became Alienated from her big brother, our Adult Son, who she hasn’t seen in years either. Our kids used to be so close. It breaks our son’s heart that he’s also been intentionally kept away from his sister. Even though it was confusing and didn’t make much sense to him, our son was often instructed by the Alienator not to contact his sister because she was “busy with work and school.” The Alienator refuses to tell our son where his sister lives or share her contact information with him. Who knows what our daughter was told about her brother?

I believe that they are kept separate so the truth of some serious wrongdoing stays under lock and key, hidden deep within their psyche, soul, mind and spirit. Alienators manipulate, control and isolate their own children to keep secret their lies and bad behavior; I do know for a fact that our son’s high school classmates/teammates were contacted by the Alienator and deliberately told a False Narrative of calculated lies about him and were instructed not to contact him or reach out (which actually would have been a good thing, as opposed to him being intentionally isolated), because one of them called me to let me know and confirm whether what they heard was true or not (which it wasn’t at all.) How awful, underhanded and just plain cruel: sabotaging your own child!

I spent this past Christmas with our amazing son and reiterated to him a lot that he is LOVED AND CARED FOR VERY MUCH by his Dad, Mom, Sister and extended family on BOTH sides. It’s up to him to navigate these relationships. In time Adult Children do begin to understand which relationships are healthy and which relationships are unhealthy or toxic, however they are often conflicted and vacillate between on-again, off-again communications with both parents as they try to chart their own course towards independence.

Our son carries around a photo of his sister and him wherever he goes; he’s done this for years. He just moved to another state and the first photo he put out in his new apartment was a framed picture of his sister and him from happier times (which there were many, also for 20 years) when the once very connected siblings were free to have a positive relationship. He loves his sister so very much and misses her with all his heart. It’s hard to watch this compassionate grown man cry because his sister has not been in his life for so many years, and to know that his sister is being intentionally kept away from him with his dad not sharing, actually refusing to share, her contact information (phone number, email, address) and offering excuses that just don’t make sense. Our son is now becoming aware that this is a deliberate effort to keep the siblings separated. In time, hopefully the two of them will reconnect and discover the truth of why their dad wants them apart.

Our son wants and should have BOTH parents AND his sister in his life.

Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation have significantly detrimental effects, and the healing from these Abuses can and often do go on for our entire lifetimes.

It’s painful, as his Loving Mom, to know that at times our son feels unworthy and struggles with self-esteem as he continues to experience Gaslighting, Isolation, Cognitive Dissonance, Projection, Manipulation, belittling and so many common consequences mirroring that of someone who has been Alienated and Narcissistically or sexually Abused, as he tries to make sense of the situation in light of his related struggles, along with all the great things and wonderful opportunities that are happening for him in his life; that HE is finally trying to make happen for himself.

In addition to cutting off the relationship with the loving, safe parent, Alienators commonly separate siblings and keep their children away from friends and extended family members. I understand this from firsthand, personal experience because in my own family of origin, the severe sibling rivalry was allowed to escalate beyond repair. Isolation, Projection and Gaslighting are top tactics that are used by Secret Agent Abusers and extreme Alienators to keep people silent, especially their own children who have witnessed and/or experienced Abuse, so they don’t compare notes and the truth isn’t realized. Our son is really hoping that he too can have a relationship again with his sister. I also hope they are reunited very soon.

Targeted Parents know that this is a long shot and we’re not holding our breath, but wouldn’t it be great if the Pathogenic Parent could self-reflect and take a look at the harm that they have caused to the family and especially to their own kids. How much healing and unity could take place if these Alienators would just  acknowledge their wrongdoings, let go of their obsessive vindictiveness, stop the revengefullness and make some changes to LOVE their children more than they want to destroy their child’s other Loving Parent. I do pray for our character/personality-disordered Abuser and his wellness.

Writing and speaking the truth has been extremely therapeutic on my healing journey.

Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal.

I am the author of the prominently-endorsed 8-book series

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE“

that brings awareness, terminology, tools and a creative response to understanding and healing from

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse,

Parental Alienation, Intergenerational Family Trauma

& Best Friend Betrayal

The final volume, Book 8 is entitled

“TRUE LOVE:

Memorable Moments of a Mother’s

TRUE LOVE For Her Children”

Researching and learning about these destructive and toxic relationship dynamics and doing a great deal of self-reflection to take ownership in my role, along with setting Healthy Boundaries have helped me carryon and survive the unthinkable: having to grieve the death of our living child.

I am not on social media, so my books, interviews on podcasts, magazine articles and this website (along with my prayers and belief that truth and goodness will eventually prevail) are the only ways I can reach out to our beautiful daughter to let her know how much her Mom unconditionally loves her and would like us to have each other in both of our lives once again, of course, when she is ready and on her terms. My heart breaks for our daughter that she has had to endure Parental Alienation which has altered the course of her life.

My wish is that these MEMORIES will bring her back!

Our daughter knows how to contact me via email, phone or this website.

She knows how to contact her brother and extended family as well.

I pray that our daughter will someday soon be ready to reconnect with her mom and her brother.

Hopefully she will find

THE ANTI ALIENATION PROJECT

understand the abuse that has happened and open her heart.

It is OK to have BOTH parents in your life.

This is a new year and there is renewed hope.

Alienated Adult Children can make the decision to learn about Parental Alienation, reflect on it all, do some deep-dive questioning, use their critical thinking skills and chart a new course for themselves in 2024.

MAYBE OUR DAUGHTER WILL GO TO THE

ANTI-ALIENATION CONFERENCE

put on by adult children who were alienated

IN FLORIDA

OCTOBER 2024

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!!!  HAPPY NEW YEAR. !!!

MAY YOUR HEART BE FILLED WITH

LOVE!

TRUE LOVE!

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2024: A New Year

of

Peace, LOVE and Happiness!

I hope and pray that 2024 will be the year we are finally back together!

Click below to check out & support Madi’s: The Anti-Alienation Project:

https://youtube.com/@TheAnti-AlienationProject?feature=shared

 

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Click on the link below to tune into

MEMORIES

One Voice Children’s Choir

Maroon 5 cover:

https://youtu.be/XB6yjGVuzVo?si=RzGwCTzeXEsU4NRf

 

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MEMORIES

Hearing these amazing children sing about memories reminded me of pure joy and the innocence of our two beautiful children. I pray to God and remain hopeful that their hearts will be filled with LOVE & Compassion and they will both remember the special relationship with their Mom who has always unconditionally been there and will always be there for them. Our mother-child bond is forever.

As I reflect on our lives and the over-ten years we all have had to endure abusive Parental Alienation, I am forced to remember the unbearable heartache as my efforts to reach out in every way I knew how, were met with rejection. I don’t blame either one of you, as we all were victims to an unthinkable domestic crime. Nothing is your fault and you don’t need to continue this coerced estrangement. We all can critically think and educate ourselves to understand what happened, and it’s never too late to chart a happier course and create a more peaceful and connected life for ourselves.

Love is stronger than hate. Compassion is stronger than judgment.

Writing has been therapeutic for me, as words that have the power to hurt, also have the power to heal. I slowly found my voice, moving from anonymous essays to publishing my 8-book series to bring awareness, tools, resources, hope and healing. 

I look forward to when both of our children have both of their parents in their lives.

Mom loves you both so very much!

Click on the link below for a flashback video, posted years ago on April 25th-

Parental Alienation Awareness Day, where my anonymous essay was read aloud:

https://youtu.be/nn07lHJTC3E?si=QlR3TieDqVRmDfL9

 

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Domestic Abusers want you dead.

MY ABUSER ONCE SAID, EVEN IN WRITING:

“STATISTICALLY, A PERSON GETS CAUGHT WITH

ONLY one-tenth OF THEIR NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR.”

If that is true, it means that the victimized Targets do not even learn about 90% or nine-tenths of the Abuser’s immoral or illegal activities because these Abusers are not “caught!” Such deceitful Secret Agent Men & Women!

It is an all-too-common headline to learn of abusers and alienators killing or arranging an “accident” or the murder or “suicide” of their targeted victims, and/or even their own innocent, unsuspecting children! These covert, malignant narcissists will track, troll, stalk & harass. They project their evil onto others, play the victim and want their targets silenced so they can coercively control the false narrative and hide the truth of their malevolent, unethical, immoral and/or illegal wrongdoings behind their False Mask and fake “upstanding” public persona.

They portray themselves as trustworthy, generous and caring men or women, when they are anything but. The reality is that they are ill-intentioned, character-disordered, secret-agent master manipulators who put great energy into plotting and planning, and can fool most, including friends, family, neighbors, colleagues, school officials, business owners, church members, law enforcement, psychologists, guardian ad litems, attorneys, judges and acquaintances. They engage in Parental Alienation and are skilled at brainwashing and weaponizing your children. They are truly deceitful people.

Your demise is their sick obsession.

These abusive perpetrators have already stolen your home, assets, money, credit, car, health, job, reputation and support system of friends, family and neighbors. They have stolen your young or adult children and turned them against their loving, safe dad or mom with Parental Alienation, a devastating form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. These abusers are status-driven, live beyond their means believing they deserve only the best and have most likely stolen their wealth as they have been known to commit forgery, engage in ponzi schemes, create LLCs, coerce others to sign documents under duress with deceitful tactics and construct the most professional looking spreadsheets filled with false and/or misleading numbers. They are charismatic, well-connected pathological liars who come across as humble as they future-fake their targeted victims and struggle at times to keep their secrets, stories, accounts, aliases, emails, passwords and infidelities straight. Many have substance abuse issues and are addicted to infidelity, gambling, sex and pornography, even illegal/immoral child or teen pornography.

In the abuser’s obsessive and continual efforts to destroy you, the targeted victim and/or the ex-spouse who beat the odds and got away—some even escaping with their lives, many of these corrupt types use projection to accuse their targets of the very behavior they are engaging in. They thrive on creating continued legal abuse, financial hardship, emotional devastation and will misuse the judicial system for years, even decades. They ensure that their depositions are sealed to keep the truth of their unethical and/or illegal actions from being made public. They file confusing and misleading bad faith petitions, depleting your resources, causing you stress and monopolizing your time as they enjoy continually taking you to court where they wear you out and you are forced to pay thousands of dollars with multiple lawyers to defend the truth to prove that their contempt attempts and claims are unwarranted and fraudulent. It’s all about power, control and destroying their targets.

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” ~Martin Luther King

Even with indisputable evidence and clear documentation, including agreed-upon and previously implemented court orders signed by a judge that follow state code,  justice is not usually on the side of the honest targeted victims as even their own hired lawyers switch gears midstream and are in on supporting unethical and unfair outcomes. It’s shocking that the facts are ignored and legal results always seem to favor the calm, cool, collected and corrupt liars, where the honest are further abused and coerced into accepting unfair orders. The malevolent perpetrators often get away with their evil, deceitful acts and lies and are not held accountable. When they have unlimited funds to pay for (and pay off) their ongoing fight against their ex, along with the support of a narcissistic, unethical attorney, they are motivated to continue this ongoing pattern of abuse. Our justice system appears corrupt and unjust when the abusers win in court, even when the facts and documentation support the targeted victims.

These abusers can’t just let you go and move on. They are character-disordered.

Abusers and Alienators hate you, your success, your intelligence, your strength, your integrity, your inner and outer beauty and your resolve. You have been victimized by your obsessive and calculating abuser and his/her regime. They are the predator and you are the prey. It’s a game of love bomb, idealize, use, abuse, devalue and discard; then the next post-escape phase is that they obsessively hunt, stalk and harass you. They will misuse the authorities and judicial system by filing lawsuits and fraudulent paperwork to steal your assets and drain your money in their desperate attempt to stay connected to you in any way they can. If they can get away with it, they will murder you or have you killed by proxy, “suicide” or an unfortunate accident. They continue their Smear Campaign to discredit you. They want you destroyed, silenced and then erased so they can continue their false narrative without truthful opposition.

Don’t let this happen. Stay in the light. Rise above this evil agenda.

After acknowledging the wrongs done to you and understanding the abuser’s tactics, undiagnosed character-based Cluster B personality disorder and toxic manipulations, then doing the deep inner-work to understand yourself and your foundational patterns and/or Intergenerational Family Trauma that made you a perfect target for an abuser, you can put up healthy boundaries, take ownership for your role in the dynamics and make changes to how you interact with others so you can understand how you were coercively controlled and trauma-bonded. You no longer need to stay in victimhood and this abuse cycle; you can escape your abuser’s web of evil lies.

You will become stronger and wiser as you live in the truth. You can reclaim your life!

You have the power to move beyond surviving to thriving and become what my dear friend and colleague Tracy A. Malone terms a “surTHRIVER.”

https://narcissistabusesupport.com/

 

With love, compassion, time, courage, research, self-reflection, inner work, forgiveness and a strong commitment to stay true to your integrity and values, you have a great opportunity to rise above adversity to know your worth, honor your authentic self and move towards the freedom to live in safety, peace and happiness. 

Your healing journey and deep self-introspection to connect-the-dots to your experiences will most likely come with extreme shock, pain, heartache and significant losses, as you eventually find out about the deceitful actions of your family (your own parents and/or siblings) and/or “supportive” friends (even a “best friend” or your family’s babysitter or longtime neighbors or church relationships) who you thought had your back and shared your values of honesty, did not. They have aligned with your abuser and contributed to your abuse. In fact, so many of us loving, empathetic souls must learn the hard way that our foundational patterns and early abusive experiences contributed to us being Trauma-Bonded, Gaslit and betrayed. Many discover that going “No Contact” from your abuser and toxic others is really your only choice to totally break free from negativity and move towards positivity.

Your circle will become smaller, but will be more authentic. It may take years, but the truth is eventually revealed as the abusers expose themselves and their covert malignant nature and evil intentions. You will realize that you are stronger than you previously believed. With that strength, you will make the necessary changes to be more discerning with who you let in or keep in your life. You learn to put up and defend healthy boundaries to protect yourself from the harmful betrayal, hurtful words and awful actions of abusive others. You move away from negativity.

You don’t have to live in the drama of the trauma.

It’s a journey, but God is on your side. God is on the side of love and truth. Even if justice doesn’t result due to greed, corruption, fraud and authorities believing the malevolent abuser’s lies, half-truths and convincing False Narrative; goodness will eventually prevail. Despite your many losses (and believe me, the losses are significant and painful) you are and continue to be a positive and honest role-model and God will reward you for your pure, loving heart and staying true to your integrity. You can and should forgive others, especially those that you truly love, however, that doesn’t mean you must accept them back into your life. Be sure to honor and forgive yourself as your eyes are opened. Be strong and take care of yourself. A critical stage in the process is speaking the truth and providing information and support, as sharing your challenges and strengths helps others on their journey.

Living in the light with love overrules evil and darkness.

Please be vigilant and don’t become a statistic. Escape to freedom.

Stay strong. Stay true to your values.

You deserve to be safe and live a peaceful, blessed and happy life.

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“Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity.  Faithfulness and truth

are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind.” ~Cicero

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Click on link below to watch part 1 of Dr. Les Carter and Dr. Ross Rosenberg discussing the most devastating “form of verbal, relational and emotional narcissistic abuse that leaves a swath of destruction in the family, especially for the children exposed to it”:

https://youtu.be/LO2LP1oVJfM

 

Click on the link below to watch the Part 2 closing remarks and insights:

https://youtu.be/7B-T0De0-J8

 

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2023 WAS AN AMAZING YEAR OF WRITING & TRAVEL!

I’ve worked a month writing and revising a poem,

yes…one poem & yes…one month

entitled

“Hurricane Winds of Change”

and have submitted this poem to an international, refereed, literary journal for consideration for a blind review by the editor and a double-blind review by the jury. Fingers crossed that I will hear some good news regarding my poem’s acceptance in 2024!

In addition to completing the final 3 volumes of my

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

8-book series in 2023

I WAS BLESSED TO TRAVEL in 2023

& SEE MORE OF OUR BEAUTIFUL WORLD!

January marked the end of our 2nd ISRAEL trip…February we skied again at Alta in UTAH … March we welcomed a very special friend from Chicago, which meant we got to play “spring-break-tourist” on our own island…April we returned a 2nd time to COZUMEL, MEXICO for scuba diving, chocolate-making classes, swimming with sharks, stingrays & dolphins and taking the ferry to PLAYA DEL CARMEN…Spring  was mostly a “stay-cation” in ST. CROIX, UNITED STATES VIRGIN ISLANDS w/ Mother’s Day at the Flamingo Gardens after brunch at my favorite Blue Moon Fish Company in FORT LAUDERDALE, Florida…July we explored Machu Picchu, Lima, Cusco, Lake Titticaca and Puno in PERU, and even flew over the Nazca Lines!…August we skied again, but this time in the Andes Mountains near Santiago, CHILE, also in SOUTH AMERICA…September we met up with some like-minded souls on our 2nd cruise in amazing ALASKA…spent an October week in the “Music City” of NASHVILLE, Tennessee…November reconnected with good friends and cruised the Mediterranean visiting Barcelona, Valencia, Malaga and Cadiz SPAIN & Porto and Lisbon PORTUGAL and…December road-tripped with our son in FLORIDA to Daytona, NASA, Clermont, Orlando’s Epcot & River Ranch, with a big stop at Buc-ees.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2023

CHEERS!

Happy New Year!

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Check out Sally Harris and her support for moms.

Click on the link below to go to her YouTube channel:

https://youtube.com/@sallyharriscoach?si=HBjl5-VmeTIeZuZF

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My Bestselling 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

is featured on page 31 of the Winter 2023 Issue of

CONTEMPORARY FAMILY MAGAZINE:

Global Resources for Effective Co-Parenting (Policy-Advocacy-Resilience)

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As Targeted Parents navigating life without our children and surviving unthinkable trauma and losses with a very-reduced support system, we must strive to find joy and happiness. We must stay present and stay in peace. We must rise above challenging adversity by choosing how we respond. We must put up healthy boundaries. We need to redirect our attention when rumination, injustice, sadness, anger, disbelief and heart wrenching shock get the best of us. We need to take very good care of ourselves: physically, emotionally and spiritually. We need to stay positive and live in love and light when we are presented with more and ongoing obstacles. Evil and malevolence must not win. We are chosen. We are strong. We are loved by God.

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Click on link below to experience this beautiful song:

https://youtu.be/5YCNlQT6MTE

 

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January 2023 New Year Support Family Support Resources offers

Healing Presentations, Summits & Meditations

on Family Estrangement Guidance

Click on the link below to check it out:

https://familysupportresources.com

 

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MERRY CHRISTMAS  DECEMBER 25, 2022

&

HAPPY HANUKKAH DECEMBER 18-26, 2022

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5 Tips For Handling Family Estrangement During The Holidays: 

1. Remind yourself that you’re not alone.

2. Make a plan.

3. Give back.

4. Create self-care rituals.

5. Write a blessing for yourself.

Click on the link below to read Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg’s advice:

https://narcissistabusesupport.com/five-tips-for-handling-family-estrangement-during-the-holidays/

 

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Click on the link below to enjoy this beautiful Dad-Daughter rendition of

“The First Noel”

https://youtu.be/lq2Az0G9txU

 

Click on the link below to enjoy this beautiful Double Daddy-Daughter rendition of

“The Christmas Song”

https://youtu.be/XF5U6oeuvXI

 

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My article

“Saved By A Garage Sale”

is featured in the beginning of the December 2022 issue of

THE RELATABLE VOICE MAGAZINE

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As any man or woman who has survived Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse, or any loving dad, mom or child who has experienced the devastation of Parental Alienation, you are acutely aware that life as you knew it is forever changed.

It is critically important to research and learn about the undiagnosed, character-based Cluster B personality disorders and common playbook tactics of damaged, misguided and abusive others, as well as engage in the necessary self-reflection, deep inner work to acknowledge the effects and accept ownership of and responsibility for your own reactions to your experience with Intergenerational Family Trauma.

The losses you endure are devastating on many levels. This is felt in all aspects of your life and can be exceptionally challenging during the Holiday Season. You spent years enjoying and establishing family traditions, just to have your hopes, dreams and comforting heartfelt practices shattered and ripped away from you. 

It is emotionally painful to face the Holidays without your family, even if you are the brave soul who finally said “enough is enough” and decided to put up healthy boundaries, much to the dismay of others who liked things just the way they were. It takes a great deal of courage to live through Parental Alienation and separate yourself from abusive or toxic people and situations, realizing that there were many in your circle participating in the abuse, whether directly or indirectly. It takes inner strength and resolve to choose Family Estrangement to protect yourself from enduring further pain and suffering, whether it’s from your toxic and narcissistic parents/stepparents, siblings and/or your even your own adult children.

It is beyond challenging to face the Holidays without your own adult children, your own flesh and blood, especially knowing that you are helpless as these innocent and impressionable loved ones you raised and devoted your life to are being aligned, abused, brainwashed, coerced, controlled, manipulated, tracked, trolled and damaged forever, as alienators care more about erasing and destroying their ex by taking everything from them (with a false narrative and smear campaign) than they care about the well-being of their own children. It’s criminal what the malevolent abusers and their supportive (neutral, silent or active) regime do to destroy loving family relationships. Shame on them! And shame on those dishonest bullies, some who posed as your friends, who align and participate in this evil.

The true loving, honest, compassionate and faithful ones will rise above.

For close to a decade I have had to navigate these very heart wrenching challenges, which are amplified during the Holiday Season. With my own courageous and lonely journey of awareness, extreme loss, healing and personal growth, along with experiencing and working through the stages of grief associated with this trauma, I have had to refocus my mindset and reinvent my approach and outlook to manage painful triggers and create a new source of seasonal peace, comfort and joy.

Luckily I survived this unwarranted and calculated Intimate Partner Violence and found my voice, got to a safe place, followed my dreams and pursued my passion for writing (and received validation from endorsement support of experts and researchers in the field of toxic family dynamics) which has been healing for me and reportedly inspiring for other dads, moms, grandparents, extended family members and children who have experienced this toxic family nightmare.

After I finally mustered up the courage to escape emotional and financial abuse after 27 years of a domestically toxic marriage, and after being physically assaulted and verbally threatened (“Don’t you DARE divorce me or I will take your home, money and children”) I found out our “paid off for 10 years” home was in foreclosure and my malevolent abuser stole our assets, money and my support system of friends, family, neighbors, church associates, coworkers and acquaintances.

He was successful in his abusive and calculating Parental Alienation efforts and enlisted numerous allies to assist in brainwashing our two beautiful children to align with his false narrative of outright lies and believable half-truths. Our kids’s fear and the abuser’s efforts to very methodically rewrite history, perceptions and memories hinders our children’s critical thinking of our positive and loving experiences together. Deep down our kids know the truth. They lived the truth for 20 years.

Our children are being used as weaponized pawns in the alienating parent’s sick war to destroy another human being: their mom, me, who took such great care of them and loved them unconditionally. Despite constant undermining, I did my absolute best to provide a happy and healthy life for them filled with laughter, learning, music, art, nature, animals, adventure, travel, traditions, reliable comfort, unconditional acceptance and empathetic support.

For 27 years I was told I was a wonderful wife and great mom by my husband until the one day that I learned the truth, prompting me to immediately file for divorce. Then the narrative completely changed and the Smear Campaign went into full gear. All I ever wanted in life was to be a special education teacher (which I was), be happily married (which I thought I was) and have children (which I did, however I never had a clue about Parental Alienation, especially of ADULT children).

I taught our children to pursue their OWN passions, be responsible, have a work ethic, be honest, be compassionate and be generous to others. My efforts were constantly sabotaged. Was I perfect? No, nobody is. Did I make some mistakes? Of course, we all do…we’re human. Did I parent the best that I could with what I had and knew? Absolutely. I encouraged our children’s independence and praised their efforts, built up their self-confidence and instilled values of integrity and faith. I did my best to provide a safe, loving, happy and caring home and childhood for our kids.

I really miss our two beautiful children. I am sad that they have also been isolated and alienated from each other for too many years. Kids need and should have a relationship with BOTH parents, and siblings should also be free to have a relationship with one another. Our children are believing the lies told to them by the Pathogenic Parent, who has brainwashed them to wrongly believe that they made the decision to estrange from their mother and each other. It is unnatural and wrong on so many levels that our relationships have been altered by a malevolent abuser’s false narrative and smear campaign. Deep down I know our children miss me too and miss having their loving mom in their lives. I believe that they miss having a relationship with their sibling. Now that I’ve researched and learned about the dynamics of undiagnosed personality disordered alienators and their tactics, as well as the fear and aligning response of victimized kids, I can look at this sad situation through an objective lens. It doesn’t take the pain away, but it does help you live in peace and love, knowing that you did everything you possibly could for your children.

I love our kids to the moon and back; always have and always will. I am a loving mother living life without her children, which is heartbreaking, for me, but also for them.

Even though he has always earned way more than double my salary, owns a new home and luxury car, has many assets (I have NONE-NO assets), currently has three (3!!!) retirement pensions and holds numerous high-paying post-retirement positions, my abuser continues to take me to court with bad faith petitions, false accusations, unrelated documents and efforts to steal even more money from my already-distributed fixed teacher retirement pension. In addition to depleting my limited resources in attorney fees (I’m on lawyer #15!!), I am legally forced to respond to him and his criminal/divorce lawyer’s paperwork to ensure that agreed-upon and already implemented court orders will be honored, and not rewritten years after the fact. New money manipulations are presented with each communication. It’s unreal! It appears to the casual observer that my abuser continues to take me to court after 10 years because of money (even though the disparity of our wealth is staggering), but his malevolent actions are really about his insatiable need for power and control. He was rejected by me when I courageously escaped his abuse after 27 years of marriage. I then, am to be continually punished for leaving after seeing his true character as his secrets and unethical actions were revealed. It’s all about his continued Domestic Violence of forcing me, even after 10 years, to engage in his court chaos so that he can fraudulently steal as much from me as he can, depleting my fixed teacher pension monies to pay legal fees to fight each incorrect accusation.

My abuser just can’t let go of me and move on. He has to use desperate legal measures to stay connected to me at any cost. The documented proof in his sealed deposition of his financial fraud and extensive pattern of abuse (among many other concerning facts) should be revealed in trial, shaming him to cease this ongoing court chaos as he is hiding secrets and wants the truth of his behavior under lock and key, away from the public eye. 

I will be going into 2023 —A decade after I filed for divorce in 2013—still in court fighting for justice from his latest “bad faith” lawsuit from 2021. (Update…the court chaos continues now into 2024!) My abuser’s character disorder, vindictiveness, obsession for revenge, intentional and evil need to harm and inability to move on is sick and quite pathetic. He needs to get a life, get help, and get a new focus. I pray for his misguided soul and all troubled abusers and alienators.

I will not only survive these wrongs, but I will continue to thrive and embrace the blessings in life. Goodness does eventually prevail, even when justice doesn’t always.

I am so fortunate to have found love with an honest, kind, honorable and empathetic man who truly understands and cares. My amazing life partner Rick has been a Blessing and a gift from God. After both of us retired from our successful and rewarding careers, we did the collaborative work to make the transition from our solo lives in the Chicago suburbs to creating a wonderful life together in the awe-inspiring Caribbean. Rick has provided a beautiful home for us both to enjoy, and for me to experience happiness along with stability, as we explore the wonders and peace of island life. Second chances can and do happen to good and deserving people.

We both believe that we are living in Biblical Times, witnessing the Spiritual warfare between dark and light forces. The peoples of the world have endured shocking and immoral crimes of humanity, murder, injustice and betrayal on global, national and local levels. The world is waking up to the corruption, fraud, cheating, dishonesty and gaslighting as the evildoers and the truth are slowly being exposed. The false masks are slipping as the malevolent perpetrators expose themselves, whether they are controlling national and/or global elites with a sick, inhumane agenda or those narcissistic friends, family or acquaintances who lie, cheat and steal, even on a smaller, more personal level within our own circles.

Eventually true intentions and true colors are revealed so goodness can prevail.

“And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.”

Psalm 119:130

Both Rick and I are honest truth seekers and loving, good-intentioned light workers who sincerely choose to live in gratitude with compassion, forgiveness, integrity, faith, appreciation and God’s AGAPE love. We both have chosen to set necessary and healthy boundaries to respectively step away from negative people and situations, which is hard for empathetic, loving souls who put so much time, energy and love into our efforts and relationships. Letting go of what or who doesn’t serve you allows room in your heart for more like-minded, positive and honest people and situations into your life. It surely has been a journey and we are fortunate to have found each other when we did. We are living a peaceful, blessed and authentic life in paradise.

“For God, who said, ‘Let light shine out of darkness,’ has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” Ephesians 5:8

May God Bless you all, especially during this Holiday Season.

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With Happiness, Hope, Healing & a Hunger for Peace & Harmony

Rick & I were Honored to celebrate the 2022 Holidays in the Holy Land

We started our Jerusalem Journey by joining two of the most respected, conservative, Christian, political commentators and authors, and their lovely and equally accomplished wives:

Dinesh & Debbie D’Souza and Dr. Sebastian & Katy Gorka

on the Stand With Israel Tour hosted by

Inspiration (Christian) Cruises & The Salem Radio Network

We joined other like-minded Believers and Patriots as we gained geopolitical insights, along with visiting numerous archeological, historical and religious sites.

We met Michael Herzog, the 2021 Israeli Ambassador to the United States.

It was wonderful to return to The Holy Land!

Especially in December 2022; the timing of this trip was significant as it marks a turning point both globally and personally. The light will outshine the dark.

Rick and I previously spent a month in Israel in 2017. Five years ago, after an amazing time exploring the tombs and temples carved into the pink sandstone cliffs of Jordan’s famous 5th century BC archaeological site of Petra, Rick went scuba diving (and I was a snorkeling “bubble watcher”) in the Red Sea in Eilat before driving North to Mitzpe Ramon in the Negev Desert and then on to Tel Aviv and many of Israel’s wonders that we were fortunate enough to revisit on this trip. After the tour, we stayed on for a leisurely week at the Jaffa Gate Imperial Palace across from The Tower of David Museum in heart of The Old City in Jerusalem. Each evening we saw the “Night Spectacular” light & sound show from our balcony!

Jerusalem is the religious and historical epicenter of the world, and is now (finally!) the Capital of Israel. We explored The City of David and each of the 4 quarters of The Old City: Jewish, Muslim, Christian and Armenian. We walked through each of the 8 gates: New, Zion, Dung, Damascus, Lions, Golden, Herod’s and Jaffa. We were surrounded by ancient walls, including the Western Wall where we prayed. I prayed for our two beautiful adult children and all alienated children and targeted parents.

Both of our children know that their loving mom has ALWAYS prayed for

PEACE ON EARTH

We explored the markets and vendors of The Old City, which is always a multi-sensory experience, as well as a food festival! Everyday we enjoyed fresh pomegranate juice and meals prepared with just-picked vegetables, enhanced with local herbs. We came back with a wide assortment of fragrant spices, pure essential oils, colorful textiles and pottery, along with gorgeous artisan creations.

We’re thrilled to return to the islands with the original Christmas gift of Frankincense (“the kind of oils” from the resin of four species of the now-threatened Boswelia tree from the Arabian Peninsula and parts of Africa), purchased from a thoughtful and gentle man in the Arabic alleyway. Frankincense, as most know, was presented to the baby Jesus by three Magi (Melchior of Persia, Gaspar from India and Balthazar from Arabia) along with Myrrh and Gold.

After a lovely boat ride on The Sea of Galilee, and as the United States flag was being raised and our group spontaneously rose to sing The Star-Spangled Banner, we headed South to Yardenit where I was re-baptized on the banks of The River Jordan, the baptismal site of Jesus Christ. 

As lovers of water and its healing properties, we returned to The Dead Sea, bordered by Jordan, Israel and Palestine’s West Bank. I floated 1,412 feet below sea level in the deepest hypersaline lake in the world (with a salinity of over 34%, 9.6x as salty as the ocean!), the lowest point on earth. We enjoyed the Dead Sea mud bath as well.

We rode camels and returned to the ancient ruins of Masada National Park, situated on top of an isolated rock plateau at the edge of the Judean Desert. Jewish warriors of that time in history stood true to their values and as a result, because of the inevitable threat from the Romans, made some tough choices and suffered significant losses. (this reminded me of the Targeted Parents’ painful and impossible plight)

We walked the processional route, visiting the 14 Stations of the Cross of the Via Dolorosa, following the path Jesus took as he gave his life by crucifixion so we could live and our sins would be forgiven. At The Church of the Holy Sepulchre, which dates back to the 4th century, we saw Jesus’s empty tomb where he was buried and resurrected. I also lit candles and prayed for our two beautiful, alienated children. Again, we were advised that it was not safe to travel to Bethlehem. 

There were many signs and synchronicities. Rick and I connected with so many beautiful souls. We’re glad to be back home in sunny St. Croix in the United States Virgin Islands for our “Crucian Christmas” after our travels in the Middle East,

but Jerusalem will always feel like home to us.  Home is where your heart is!

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My books and I were featured in the 

2022 special “Book Fair” issue

of

THE RELATABLE VOICE MAGAZINE

for my multi-award winning Spiritual Fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and my best selling 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

My article is entitled

“Handling Life’s Challenges With Love And The Written Word”

The amazing Editor and Creator of “The Relatable Voice” Podcast & Magazine, Lucia Matuonto wrote:

“Books can be lifelines to our souls

and provide resources and comfort to help us along our journeys.”

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THE BLACK HOLE 

“Psychopaths always see themselves as victims, no matter how horribly they’ve treated someone else. Nothing is ever their fault—they’ve always been wronged in one way or another. To them, the problem is not THEIR lying, cheating, stealing, and abuse. The problem is that you started to notice all of those things. Why couldn’t you just remain happy with the idealization phase? How dare you betray them by standing up for yourself? Encounters with these people are like drowning in a black hole, because no matter how much they hurt you, it’ll still be your fault.”

“They (your psychopath ex-husband or ex-wife) destroys you because they hate you. They despise your empathy and love—qualities they must pretend to feel every single day. To destroy you is to temporarily silence the nagging reminder of the emptiness that consumes their soul.“

~Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free: Recovering from emotionally abusive relationships with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people

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What is DARVO?

Check out this NATV Network short to find out about the 3 steps of this manipulation tactic that abusers use (along with intimidation, feelings of guilt & shame, projection, gaslighting. word salad, coercion & a smear campaign ) to escape accountability:

1) DENIAL

The abuser denies any wrongdoing or minimizer their behavior

2) ATTACK

The abuser attacks the credibility of the targeted person or attempts to discredit them

3) REVERSAL OF VICTIM & OFFENDER

The abuser portrays themselves as the victim and the actual victim (you!) as the offender

What can you do?

Research Covert Malignant Narcissists and do the work to understand them as well as your own Trauma Bond responses. Stick to the facts, hold the abusers accountable, stay true to your values, live a blessed life, practice gratitude and speak the truth!

Some sur-Thrivers write books on their journey! I did!

https://youtube.com/shorts/5ZV2ZtSGrfM?feature=share

 

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Click on the link below to check out AVAIYA University’s many resources, and

Ken Page’s take on Understanding & Healing from

Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Trauma:

https://youtu.be/LgDq-dxq-Ss

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Tuesday, November 29, 2022 

Very enlightening conversation with

Deirdre Pippins (aka: Ms. Media Content)

on her podcast BOOKAHOLIC

for those that can’t get enough of books, authors, bookstores, book news and book trivia. This is a safe place for reading junkies. Deirdre also hosts The Writer’s Workshop on mental healing. We discussed my author’s journey, including my 5-book, soon to be 6-book, series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

I was asked to define many terms and phrases related to Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma.

We also discussed the STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences that prompted me to write my prominently endorsed and multi-award winning book

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Deirdre shared two very significant STEs she had that were life changing. So many of our encounters have similar parts to the experiences. It is so very important that we pay attention to the universe’s signs and synchronicities, and share our journey.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/Y2obBYn3xzM

 

Click on the link below to hear our interview:

https://readingjunkie.podbean.com/e/spiritual-awakening-waward-winning-author-speaker-and-educator-dr-marni-foderaro-episode-57/

 

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November 2022

Read an excerpt from my 1st chapter “Dancing Dragonflies”

from my multi-award-winning and prominently-endorsed spiritual fiction

“God Came To My Garage Sale”

on Randi-Lee Bowslaugh’s new show “Readers Intrigue”

I previously interviewed with Randi-Lee on her podcast “Write or Die”

Click on the link to check out this short video:

https://youtu.be/VpQj5uL3XzY

 

Click on the link below to check out my related blog post on RB Media:

https://writeordieshow.ca/2023/02/06/inspiration-to-write-god-came-to-my-garage-sale/

 

Inspiration To Write: “God Came To My Garage Sale”

I didn’t originally set out to write my multi-award-winning and prominently endorsed spiritual fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale.” It wasn’t until I had a story that I wanted to share and information I wanted to impart to a larger audience, that I put pen to paper. 

For most who have experienced numerous STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences, remembering each miracle and every specific detail often leads to a major transformational shift in our understanding of life and the world. So many experiencers are compelled to share their message with others in a way that can reach as many souls as possible. Writing a book and speaking on podcasts are a great way to reach out.

My first book writing endeavor was my 2022 Hollywood Book Fest runner-up, 2020 Best Books finalist and 5-Star Readers Favorite spiritual fiction (based on true experiences) entitled, “God Came To My Garage Sale.” My book has received praise and prominent endorsement support from James Redfield, the bestselling author of “The Celestine Prophecy” series of books. 

I then went on to contribute to seven multi-author anthology books, as well as writing feature articles which were published in numerous nationally-recognized magazine publications. I discovered that writing was not only enjoyable, but I found writing to be therapeutic on my own personal healing journey.

After moving to the Caribbean from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs, I wrote my prominently endorsed 5-book series “True Deceit False Love” which provides a creative response, along with tools and resources for understanding and healing from Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma.

Throughout this writing and publishing process, I have been thrilled to meet such amazing people, such as Randi-Lee Bowslaugh, and be a featured guest on numerous podcasts, including “Write Or Die” and “Readers Intrigue.”

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Wise Weekend Wisdom

Take time engage in activities that you enjoy, that make you feel good, to relax you, to calm your mind. Take time to pursue your passions and interests. Take time for

SELF-CARE

After experiencing Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation, your healing from the Trauma that you endured is a journey … a long journey.

To understand what you have been through, it is very important to research Cluster B personality disorders to learn the psychology about the tactics, traits and strategies of Covert, Malignant Narcissists, Psychopaths and Sociopaths.  It is equally important to do the deep inner self-reflection work to understand and acknowledge your own foundational Intergenerational Family patterns that contributed to your lack of boundaries, being a people pleaser and over-giver, someone who would ignore years of glaring Red Flags and tolerate behavior and treatment that is demeaning, manipulative and abusive. Make the necessary changes and have the courage to put up the healthy boundaries to keep you surrounded with only positive influences. 

It is important to forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know until you finally knew it. You hoped for the best and conducted yourself the only way you knew how at the time. It is not your fault that you were abused. You eventually come to realize that you were a carefully chosen target because of your admirable qualities and compassionate, forgiving nature. You were unknowingly victimized by someone you became Trauma-Bonded with, who you loved and believed loved you.

Evil people are very calculating, like a predator with its prey.  It is very hard, almost mind-boggling, for loving, honest, empathetic people to accept that there are people who have no problem lying, betraying, deceiving and intentionally causing harm to another person.

It is hard to think like a criminal when you are not a criminal.

It is necessary to be easy on yourself and take the time needed to heal your mind, body, heart and spirit after enduring such treatment and the significant losses that resulted when you escaped. There are many ways to work through this devastating pain. Staying true to your own moral compass and core values of integrity is essential.

Find or rediscover your passions. Knowing the truth does set you free.

I have found tremendous peace in the healing water of the ocean and being immersed in the beauty and wonder of the natural world. I found true love with an honest man and was able to trust again and create a wonderful life, despite significant losses and the Alienation of our adult children. To put thousands of miles between my abuser and me, I moved from the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago to St. Croix, USVI in the Caribbean, one of the farthest places I could go, but still be in the United States, although almost a decade after I filed for divorce, that distance doesn’t curtail my abuser’s obsessive stalking, harassing and his engaging in continual court chaos.

It is here on this beautiful island that I embarked on my healing and self-discovery journey. It is here that I have found peace and happiness, and regained my strength and confidence. It is here that I truly learned to practice forgiveness and pray for those who have hurt me. It is here that I came to understand that you cannot control the malevolent actions of others, you can only control how you choose to respond.

It is here in my Caribbean paradise that I found my author’s voice and wrote my prominently endorsed, best selling 5-book, soon-to-be-6-book, series:

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

My book series provides resources and a creative approach to understand, heal from and bring awareness to Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma.

I have been blessed with living in God’s Agape Love

I have restored hope and my broken heart is healing.

I am stronger now than I ever was before this shocking traumatic life change. I have a heightened awareness and have done the work to be able to now focus on the road ahead, to new and exciting literary endeavors and projects in the upcoming year.

I am so fortunate to be surrounded by such awesome beauty. This November weekend, like so many other weekends, I spent time at the beach swimming in the healing ocean. I am blessed to live in paradise, minutes away from the Caribbean Sea.

It is at the beach I practice the best SELF-CARE

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Check out Coach Kat’s video below for some

Wise Weekend Wisdom

on

SELF-CARE and how to “Climb Out Of Trauma”

after surviving Narcissistic Abuse:

https://youtu.be/5xdbDVvKB4g

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Happy Fri-YAY  November 25, 2022  JUMP UP!!!!

Outside of Denise Fashaw’s adorable store, Chaney Chicks Island Gifts, on the Christiansted Boardwalk (where I had my 1st St. Croix book signing in 2019) standing next to a very tall Moko Jumbie, created by my friend and recycled-wire artist Waldenmar Broadhurst; I am one of his biggest fans!

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING

May God Bless you always!

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2022

Counting my many Blessings and am very Grateful.

Thankful that I had 20 years with our daughter & 30 years with our son.

Dear Lord, Please watch over our two beautiful children.

Show them the truth, fill their hearts with love & keep them safe in your loving light.

AMEN

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THANKSGIVING

for Parents of Alienated or Estranged Adult Children

Click on the link below to read rejectedparents.com’s Sheri McGregor’s post

“Eating Alone: When adult children aren’t speaking to parents.”

https://www.rejectedparents.net/when-adult-children-arent-speaking-to-parents-eating-alone/

 

Click on the link below to learn more about rejectedparents.com

and Sheri’s many thoughtful and amazing books:

https://www.rejectedparents.net/about-helping-parents-of-estranged-adult-children/

 

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GRATITUDE & BLESSINGS

are this  Weekend’s Wonderful Words of Wisdom

Click on the link to listen to a Short, Sweet and Simple Prayer

for Gratitude and Thanksgiving

https://youtu.be/geT2S0R0pgw

 

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Click on the link below to check out

Dr. Sherrie Campbell’s take on the

“Divide & Conquer” of  toxic family gossip,

which includes the fear of PARENTAL ALIENATION:

https://pod.link/1591691842/episode/728832551755e8a1cbb7dc72c415f4d5

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Tuesday 11-22-22

Joined Spiritual Advisor Michelle Henderson on her LIVE podcast

MICHELLE’S INSPIRATION HOUR

What a fun conversation with a like-minded soul, and former educator. Michelle is a gifted psychic medium who is dedicated to inspiring others so they can know that anything is possible. Her podcast is fun with all her visuals and sound effects!

We spun the wheel for the final question, which was about Ghosts. I shared that last week when I was in New York City presenting at Columbia University I met an actress who was the understudy for the “ghost” in the movie “What Lies Beneath” and she believes 1000% in ghosts after her paranormal experiences on set.

We discussed my Spiritual journey, STEs and beliefs. I shared my transformational dancing dragonfly experience. Michelle read my book in its entirety and was moved by the last/13th chapter “The Sari.” I shared that I believe we are all here on earth to experience LOVE. Our Spiritual Awakenings move us forward on our journeys, which often include painful adversity, loss and deep suffering. There is hope to rise above and be inspired to live a happy and blessed life full of joy.

I’m excited to finish the 6th volume of my book series

“True Deceit False Love”

and focus on some new literary endeavors and exciting projects in 2023!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/S4WMdVybuMA

Click on the link below for the BuzzSprout audio version:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1985737/11746156-spiritually-transformative-encounters-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro.mp3?download=true

Click on the link below to watch our #short, which is exactly 1:11 minutes!!!:

https://youtube.com/shorts/Kcl3daE8gz8?feature=share

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Beyond honored that PAXTON of Narc Abuse TV  wrote an endorsement for my book series  “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE“

Paxton wrote me a special note wishing me a  Blessed Thanksgiving 2022

“I am so glad our paths crossed. Your courage and endurance under Parental Alienation is remarkable. The truth of the matter will soon reach your children’s hearts. You are a giving, inspiring and faith-strengthening person, mom and educator. Please continue to protect your peace. Don’t lose hope.

Stay strong & courageous!!!”

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Monday, November 14, 2022

Honored to be selected to speak LIVE at

COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY

the prestigious IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL in New York City

as part of  bLU TALKS PRESENTS where

“TEDx TALKS meets Chicken Soup For The Soul” 

Click on the YouTube link below to watch my

November 2022 presentation

“Making the Case for Synchronicity”

at COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY in NEW YORK CITY:

https://youtu.be/BsNobrp_DL4

 

To listen to my presentation on Apple Podcasts, click on the link below:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/marni-hill-foderaro-making-the-case-for-synchronicity/id1527944412?i=1000612189531

 

Click on the link below to watch the original replay:

https://www.dropbox.com/s/hculg56ha3t0fdw/NY-%20Speaker%204%20Marni.mp4?dl=0

 

Cory Porier titled my presentation

“MAKING THE CASE FOR SYNCHRONICITY”

Click on the Megaphone link below to listen there:

https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/blutalks?selected=CSN8376877305

My loving life partner Rick and I had an absolutely fantastic time in

“The Big Apple” – New York City.

The people we met in NYC-NJ were wonderful. We made many new like-minded friends through bLU Talks at Columbia University

We enjoyed seeing the beautiful changing colors of the leaves on our long walks in the crisp fall air. The urban skyline with its hustle and bustle of Manhattan, Broadway and Times Square in New York City was exciting, even at night as the weather became very cold and rainy when we were out and about. 

Our East Coast adventure was a real departure from our serene island life, which makes us appreciate our beautiful home, the expansive ocean and the wondrous rainforest even more. We love our great and adventurous life on our Caribbean rock,

St. Croix in the United States Virgin Islands.

We placed many signed copies of my multi-award-winning book

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

 in a number of New York and New Jersey neighborhood, community

“Little Free Libraries” where readers can take or share a book.

Together Rick and I also enjoyed taking a fun and delicious French cooking class and the pampering of a relaxing couple’s spa day. Our trip also turned out to be an ethnic food festival with double dinners at Greek, Thai and Italian restaurants!

Remember the Season 7 Seinfeld 6th episode “The Soup Nazi”where Jerry must choose between his girlfriend and the best bowl of soup in town? Well, there was “soup for us!” We even caught my favorite Broadway musical show 

WICKED at the Gershwin Theatre!

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Actually, TDFL is popping up many places nationwide!

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ASHLEY BERGES

Worthwhile & Wise Weekend Wisdom Warning us & Waking us up

So many victims and survivors of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation ignored years and years of Gaslighting, Projection and glaring Red Flags that their Secret Agent spouse (whether it be the husband or wife) was engaged in extramarital affairs, often multiple times with multiple people over multiple years.

Some of these unethical lying liaisons who served as your unethical lying spouse’s supply while you (the loving, honest, ethical, trusting spouse) were busy working or taking care of the children and all things home and family, were actually your neighbors or friends, or your spouse’s colleagues or past relationships.

Your children may eventually find out that as a result of their Secret Agent parent’s infidelities that they possibly have half-brothers or half-sisters and have wrongly cut off their honest and loving dad or mom due to the lies, brainwashing and false narrative. So much damage is done to families by one abusive, cheating parent.

Ashley Berges highlights 11 signs in this video, and there are many more indications to be aware of. Take some time to see if infidelity is happening or happened in your marriage. The truth hurts, but knowledge can be your power because then you are enlightened to reality and can make informed decisions about your relationships.

Click on the link below to learn about Secret Agent Cheating signs:

https://youtu.be/sBz8sAYqo_0

 

Check out & order Ashley’s books:

https://www.amazon.com/Ashley-Berges/e/B00JAJ6QKA%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share

 

Check out Ashley’s website to learn more about her, her podcasts, her events and Master Classes:

https://www.ashleyberges.com/

 

I was beyond honored that Ashley Berges found value in my 5-book series creatively addressing Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Ashley’s endorsement  means the world to me:

“When we’re able to apply the proper language to what we’re mentally and emotionally experiencing, we’re able to create personal clarity, it helps others to understand what we’re currently experiencing and allows us to open the door to finding solutions and to eventually work to heal from the abuse that we have endured. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s ingenious work focusing on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation allows the reader to understand, discover and fully realize what they have been experiencing. Often the victims blame themselves for what is taking place and are unable to see the full picture. Dr. Marni, through her TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series, offers terms and phrases, poetry and a workbook to help victims to be able to stop blaming themselves, to see the participants clearly and begin to safeguard their inner person. When we understand the truth of what we’re experiencing, we’re able to find solution, work to end the abuse and stop the cycle. We then begin the healing phase of our personal journey and stop engaging with what no longer serves our highest good.”

~Ashley Berges, Nationally Syndicated Radio Talk Show Host of “Live Your True Life Perspectives,” International Award-winning podcast, the Live Your True Life Coach and Author of “The 10 Day Challenge to Live Your True Life”

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“Part of you had to die to escape the Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse. You need to seek to exceed and transcend where you were to become your more authentic self. You must individuate and become reborn.” ~Richard Grannon

Click on the link below to hear Richard Grannon’s advice in 9 minutes 11 seconds:

https://youtu.be/T_XW1Iz4iIE

 

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Wednesday, November 9, 2022

Great conversation with Atlanta’s Carolyn Hall of  KURVE UNCENSORED

“Where life and reality intersect.”

Carolyn has real conversations with real people about real issues, and she encourages open, honest and raw emotions and discussions.

We discussed my life’s journey from experiencing spiritual miracles to becoming an author. We talked about self-reflection and making healthy boundary choices of who we surround ourselves with.

If someone lies to or betrays us or is deceitful, that is now a game-changer and a signal that we should only allow those in our lives whose values include honesty.

As loving mothers, we both know the deep bond shared with our children, and know the heartache of loss when our children are not in our lives. Bringing awareness to the brainwashing tactics of the malevolence of Parental Alienation helps others learn about this severe form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence, and hopefully contributes to our children’s lightbulb moments as the truth is eventually revealed.

Our two adult children should have BOTH parents in their lives.

I have been blessed with and will always cherish the wonderful memories of

20 years with our daughter and 30 years with our son. 

My love for our kids is unconditional and to the moon and back!

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/ZS_5y-Yjrig

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“Perhaps most insidious of all the psychopath’s evils: their relationship cycle, during which they gleefully and systematically wipe out the identity of an unsuspecting victim. Cold and calculated emotional rape.”

~Jackson MacKenzie, author of “Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People”

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https://youtu.be/nXmc2mVH-WY

 

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Wednesday, November 9, 2022

Joined like-minded soul and fellow author Kim Lengling on her podcast

LET FEAR BOUNCE

Kim believes in tossing positive nuggets of hope to nudge others to move toward a happier and brighter life. We discussed motivation, inspiration and letting fear bounce. Our candid conversations and sharing of our stories of how we overcame adversity can help others feel less alone.

We both chose to escape abusive marriages and not only survived the ordeal and obsessive post-divorce efforts by the predator to stay connected to his prey, we both went on to thrive beyond our wildest expectations. Doing the research, inner reflection work and finding our voices through the written word has helped us move towards living a life filled with purpose, love, safety and happiness.

Click on the link below to watch our interview,

Season 2, Episode 48:

https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/22a03ddf-d949-42d6-87f2-4b8a804e906d/episodes/b601b19b-989b-496e-8811-a9b40ff359a7/let-fear-bounce-god-came-to-my-garage-sale-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-s2-eps-48

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Tuesday, November 8, 2022

Joined Justin and Eric on

THE PARATRUTH RADIO PODCAST

Our episode is entitled:  LOOK! GOD IS HERE!

We discussed my STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences and how I needed and sought after proof and evidence before I could truly believe that I was experiencing Divine encounters, signs and synchronicities.

Life is a journey and we often experience peace and happiness after going through tremendous pain, suffering and loss. Our awareness, research, inner reflection, paying attention, following our gut intuition, being more discerning and staying true to our core values helps us move towards self-actualization.

Belief in and support from God plays a huge role in knowing that there are reasons for so much of what we endure on this earthly plane.

Click on the link below to tune into our thoughtful and deep conversation:

https://www.paratruth.com/look-god-is-here-wdr-marni-hill-foderaro/

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SUNDAY-FUNDAY

My article on

PARENTAL ALIENATION

is featured in the November-December 2022 issue of

TRUE BOLD MAGAZINE

Click on the link below to access the magazine issue:

https://rb.gy/lfqk6o

 

True Bold Magazine also included a FULL-PAGE advertisement

for my award-winning book GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

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My dear friend, advocate Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney, founder of

AGAPE LOVE DOMINATES

and alienated mother of her 4 children over 10 years

was sent by Patti King Emery this spot-on explanation of

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Healthy parents teach their children independence and self-reliance. But alienating parents foster dependency and vulnerability in their children. Alienators need to be needed. 

Healthy parents reward or punish their child based upon a standard of right and wrong. But alienating parents reward or punish their child based upon loyalty. The alienator’s psychological well-being becomes the standard of right and wrong. 

Healthy parents love their children more than they need their children. But alienators need their children more than they love their children. In younger children alienators sow seeds of fear. In older children they sow seeds of hatred. This ensures the child’s undivided love. 

Healthy parents teach a child that the world is full of imperfect people who sometimes make mistakes and sometimes disappoint us. But alienators teach a child to see the world in black and white; people are either all-good or all-bad. Any real mistakes an “all-bad” person makes become the entirety of who they are. 

Alienators are masters of manipulation, and there are two main subtypes. Alienators with narcissistic traits (mostly men) are control freaks. They see themselves as perfect and anyone who dares to oppose them as inferior. They speak with charisma and conviction. Alienators with borderline traits (mostly women) are sympathy freaks. They see themselves as victims and anyone who dares to oppose them as abusers. They speak with passion and vulnerability. 

Regardless of the subtype, alienators are very convincing. Most people are duped. And by most people I mean friends, family members, teachers, coaches, counselors, custody evaluators, guardians ad litems, and, of course, their own children. The end result of all this manipulation is that the child aligns themself almost completely with the alienating parent. 

There are many reasons for this, and comparisons have been made to Stockholm Syndrome/Trauma Bonding, but I believe a better analogy is that of cults. Whenever the child agrees with, or sympathizes with, or shows devotion to the alienator, then the alienator lavishes them with affection and makes them feel like a million dollars. But if the child ever falters in their devotion, then the alienator responds with the opposite extreme. This is exactly how cult leaders are able to manipulate adults over a period of months. 

Now imagine a vulnerable child, who has no escape, being conditioned in such a manner over a period of years. This phenomenon has been referred to as Pathological Enmeshment, since the child’s personality is basically subsumed by that of the alienator. It has also been called the gatekeeper phenomenon, since the alienator becomes the gatekeeper of the child’s heart and mind. Whatever the alienator likes, the child reflexively likes; whatever the alienator hates, the child reflexively hates. 

All of this happens long before the divorce, long before the actual alienation. And then, at the time of divorce, when the alienator feels rejected by their spouse, and the alienator fears they might lose the undivided devotion of their children, the actual alienation takes place surprisingly quickly. The gatekeeper simply closes the gate. 

This is also why the mental health and legal professionals often get Parental Alienation cases wrong. They cannot imagine how a child would suddenly reject a normal, loving parent. Certainly the rejected parent must have something wrong with them, right? And so all the focus is placed on finding out what those flaws might be. Meanwhile the extreme emotion between the child and the favored parent is left unchecked. “Just listen to my child!” the alienator cries to the court. “They’ll tell you how inferior/abusive the other parent is!” But it is no longer the child who speaks with its mental conditioning. 

Alienated children are exposed to almost constant manipulation. They are embroiled in almost constant drama. They end up hating half of who they are. They are prone to a host of psychosocial problems later in life.

#children #kids #childrensrights #parents #parenting #Parenthood #child #childhood #parentalrights #parentalalienationawareness #ParentalAlienationSyndrome #parentalalienation #childabuse #mentalabuse

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Saturday, November 5, 2022

Joined Founding Host Linus Lampe on THE SOLVITUR PODCAST

Linus and I discussed how confidence plays an integral role in our self-worth, our interactions with others and our successes in life. He believes that

CONFIDENCE IS A SUPERPOWER

Our conversation included talking about GASLIGHTING and how abusive others in relationships and the workplace use this manipulative strategy to get you to question yourself, your perspectives and your abilities.

I found my confidence by staying true to my values of honesty, love, and compassion and doing the research and inner work needed to fully comprehend the trauma and losses that I’ve experienced. 

Learning to put up healthy boundaries and being more discerning about who and what you let into your life is key to making better choices and protecting yourself from unaligned situations that are not in your best interest.

“IF NOT TODAY, THEN WHEN?”

Click on the link below to tune into our conversation:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-marni-hill-foderaro-says-sometimes-you-have-to-get/id1632943193?i=1000596908609

 

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Weekend Wisdom

in under 3 minutes!

What haunts a Narcissist?

These disordered abusers seek revenge. They want to get you back because they believe you got one over them. They are calculated in all of their actions. They want you destroyed, especially if you have figured them out and escaped to freedom.

“There is no low they won’t go.”

They wear a mask; they’ve spent time creating a false persona/illusion to exploit people. Their lack of empathy, along with their misguided grandiosity and sense of superiority and entitlement drive them to intentionally harm others.

“Narcissists seek to destroy other people’s happiness to feel better about their own misery.” ~ Elizabeth Shaw

https://youtu.be/Rr7yPDbbg2o

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Fri-YAY

November 4, 2022

Joined David Hackett from East Liverpool, OHIO on

THE JOURNEY PODCAST

David loves to connect with others around the world to learn about each person’s journey. We discussed my journey, which has led me from a Midwestern life as a loving mom and compassionate teacher to moving to the beautiful Caribbean where I have written many inspirational and resourceful books.

Our life’s journey is continuous and with great anticipation,

I am looking forward to new adventures in 2023!

Click on the links below to watch or listen to our conversation:

https://youtu.be/eCwI9PHLYJ8

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Click on Sun Lion’s link to learn about the CRIMES OF THE NARCISSIST:

https://youtu.be/69DeTaSY27Q

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Being married to & then divorcing a

Covert Malignant Narcissist

is a NIGHTMARE

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Wonderful Weekend Wisdom

Check out Common Ego’s Christina’s 10 tips in under 10 minutes

to boost your Happy Hormones and rewire your brain after Narcissistic Abuse.

Click on the link below for this weekend’s wisdom:

https://youtu.be/e3neCnOG3GY

 

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Two-For-Tuesday

October 25, 2022

Honored to connect with like-minded soul Greg Sheldon

on  THE SLOW DOWN TO GO FAST SHOW

Our episode is entitled: Gaslighting & Unfair Advantage on Living Your Best Life

Greg is following his gut intuition by embarking on hosting a very cool podcast where he has conversations with ordinary/extraordinary people from around the world. Greg believes that life is a paradox of knowledge, experience and wisdom with no remorse for you and your plan, but that doesn’t mean we can’t add value and live a blessed and happy life. We are always growing and evolving on our life’s journey, and sometimes we find that the more we learn, the more we realize how little we really know.

Learning more about life from others through candid conversations and thoughtful questions leads to learning and discovery, which are gifts from this life. Greg is open to creating a community of connected souls to improve our lives around a variety of topics: art, growth, adversity, hard lessons, relationships, business, parenting, mental health, spirituality, mindfulness, gratefulness, addiction and science.

Greg and I are both empathetic, loving souls who are doing the inner, reflective work to make sense of the challenges on our life journeys. It is validating to connect with others who seem to “get it” and even without knowing every little detail, can understand and relate to other’s challenges. As caring, compassionate people who have experienced familial traumas, we have been Gaslit to question our worth and abilities, and often take on responsibility for things that are not our doing. We must grieve the losses we have experienced, while continuing to take the high road in our responses. It’s important to step back and look at the big picture, acknowledging our role when appropriate and accepting others’ influence that we have no control over.

There is so much hope to live our best lives.

We must follow our gut intuition, do the research to know what we are dealing with, and take the time to self-reflect and do the inner trauma work to make needed adjustments to carryon staying honest and true to our integrity and values.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our heartfelt conversation:

https://youtu.be/PyoaeSw_7eg

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PARENTAL ALIENATION

is NOT normal

Parental Alienation only happens in 10-15% of divorces/separations.

Parental Alienation is when the young or adult child(ren) refuses or resists contact with the Loving, Targeted Parent. This devastating family dysfunction is caused solely by the Favored, Alienating Parent who encourages the All-Or-Nothing dynamic, directly or indirectly putting the other parent down because of their own destructive and emotional responses.

This undermining and belittling is absorbed by the children. Some kids even stop calling their Loving Parent “mom” or “dad” or refer to them by their first name.

Alienators aggressively create a False Narrative which is based on lies that coercively controls and manipulates the kids to unnaturally choose one parent over the other, so that the child(ren) believe the Loving Parent DESERVES to be rejected.

Deep down, children know the difference between the parent’s behavior; they know which parent lies, cheats and steals and which parent doesn’t. Researchers confirm that Parental Alienation is not a normal symptom of true abuse. The perpetrator of Parental Alienation also engages in misusing the court system and various forms of

D.V. Domestic Violence & I.P.V. Intimate Partner Violence

Click on the link below to watch this short 7-minute explanation

by therapist Bill Eddy:

https://youtu.be/Jml1_lAsuEI

To our son and our daughter,

from their mom who has always loved them:

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Click on the below link to check out this short message about the

Fall 2023 PARENTAL ALIENATION Conference from keynote speaker

Dr. Edward Kruk:

https://youtu.be/fIp1xntcQRo

 

Click on the link below to register or learn more about the

October 13-15, 2023 (one year from now!) virtual conference on

PARENTAL ALIENATION

“Alienation: The Truth Regarding Trauma and Abuse”

https://www.familyaccessfightingforchildrensrights.com/alienation-the-truth-regarding-the-trauma-and-abuse.html

 

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Tuesday, October 25

Honored to join Empowerment Life Coach

(who also happens to be an amazing mom and grandmother)

Denise Drinkwalter LIVE on FOR YOU, BY YOU, BECAUSE OF YOU

Denise is all about staying true to the core values of

Empowerment, Communication and Personal Development

 Denise is on a mission to provide inspiration to others to live life on your terms and make life-changing steps to fulfill your passions and purpose. Her guests provide thought-provoking and empowering stories to give a boost of motivation to inspire others on their path to self-actualization. It all starts from within us.

We discussed my journey and some of the lessons I learned along the way. As a loving mother, retired educator and award-winning author who stays true to my integrity and values of love, compassion, honesty and goodness, I have found that our choices and responses to all challenges put before us can impact how we present in this world.

Our candid conversations about our outlook on life’s adversities can have the possibility of resonating with others and golden nuggets shared can be the catalyst to help others awaken and positively change the course of their lives.

We must honor ourselves, be kind and treat ourselves with grace and give ourselves permission to chart the course of our lives. Life is a journey and we are always moving forward and evolving. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish. Self Care and Self Love are necessary. We must put our oxygen mask on first before helping others.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/-qGEsKmRmyw

 

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My

True Deceit False Love

5-book series made the cut: Barnes & Noble BEST BOOKS OF 2022

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/Foderaro

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My latest anthology book will be released in January 2023

& Yours Truly MADE THE COVER !!!!

I was asked to contribute a chapter to Anthony Muiruri’s new multi-author book. Book Place Media is a platform for authors to speak about their books and their journey in writing. Many want to write and publish a book, but don’t know where to start.  This book will be a great resource for aspiring writers. I wrote about my experience & journey to becoming an award-winning, bestselling published author.

Click on the December 2022 link to preorder our book:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BQN437Q1/

 

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Wishing all the Wounded, but Healing, Wise Men & Women, Dads & Moms, a

Wonderful Weekend! Check out Duane’s Wisdom on his latest post of

DSD DAD SURVIVING DIVORCE

Duane has experienced over a decade of tremendous Domestic Violence, Family Court chaos, Financial loss and extreme Parental Alienation as a result of his Abusive Narcissistic Ex-Wife. He points out that so many of our stories are very similar.

Abusers use and follow the same playbook.

Duane talks about taking care of yourself, especially with the holidays coming up.

My life with our children was forever changed as a result of my ex’s abusive

PARENTAL ALIENATION

I have not been able to spend any holiday and have not been included in any milestone celebrations with our children since I filed for divorce in 2013 and escaped after 27 years of marriage, so going on a decade. Not including the Loving Parent that devoted their life to and took such wonderful care of our kids until their 20’s is criminal and abusive on so many levels. Children should not be taught to hate half of their DNA and should have BOTH parents in their life.

Click on the link below to watch his YouTube video post:

https://youtu.be/6PPN-AQp2w0

 

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Fri-YAY

10-21-22

Rockin’ “real” conversation with Coach Kay (Kisha) on

THE EMPOWERING REAL TALK PODCAST

Our episode is entitled:  TRANSFORMING TRAUMA TO TRIUMPH

Coach Kay (Kisha) is the Founder of Upgraded Mindsetz where she provides support and very directly addresses an array of topics bringing awareness to restricted thinking and behaviors hindering positive growth, individually and collectively in our circles and communities. Many of her clients who are ready to do the inner reflection work to live their authentic and true life can benefit from the support, knowledge and resources from evolved souls who not only talk-the-talk, but walk-the-walk. So many of us need to crack the codes necessary to move in a positive forward direction to become more aware of ourselves and elevate our journey of purpose.

Kisha and I discussed how people need to relearn how we respond to unhealthy and abusive people and situations. So many of us empathetic souls are masters of suppression when it comes to people pleasing. At some point we need to practice self-care and put up some healthy boundaries, only allowing in people and situations that are for our highest good. We need to identify abusive and toxic people and let go of them. No explanation needed! Our circle may become smaller, but it will be more authentic. Stay true to your values and be intentionally mindful in all you do.

As we evolve emotionally and spiritually, we still need to acknowledge and mourn the losses on our journey. I have had to personally go through the grieving process of the loss of many of my hopes and dreams, realizing that the “Fairy Tale” life I wanted was not always grounded in reality or filled with good-intentioned people. I needed to do the inner self-reflection work to understand my foundational patterns and make some changes to my behavior and thought processes. I had to learn the hard way that some people are dishonest, controlling and manipulative and set out to intentionally harm others. I had to grieve many losses, including my marriage and wanting to live “Happily Ever After”, the loss of my gorgeous home to foreclosure, the loss of my assets and money, the loss of my support system of friends, family and neighbors,

but mostly the loss of the once loving and wonderfully fun relationship I enjoyed with our two beautiful adult children to the False Narrative of abusive Parental Alienation.

Writing has been very therapeutic for me on my healing journey,  just as it is for so many trauma victims and survivors. I have some upcoming, new and exciting literary endeavors on the horizon and am really looking forward to 2023, as I know it will be an amazing year. I am also finishing up my 6th and final volume in my book series

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

We must acknowledge our significant losses and heartbreaks, as we continue to be optimistic while we move forward to living our best life. There is so much hope for living a life with more peace and happiness. We need to rediscover or find our passions to focus on our healing and growth. 

You may even find writing to be therapeutic for you.

Kisha has. She will be making an announcement soon about her new book “From Havoc to Healing”  Kisha is publishing her journals from her years of inner work towards staying true to her values as she was replacing some comfortable habits with transformative Mindsetz!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/H6RvJiXJkx0

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Wednesday, October 19, 2022

PARENTAL ALIENATION IS CHILD ABUSE

joined Dr. G. Mick Smith & Kindra Riber on their podcast

THE AFTERMATH:

The Epidemic of Divorce, Family Trauma, Custody Battles and Healing

These two compassionate individuals and Loving Parents, both who have individually experienced extreme Parental Alienation and the injustice of the Family Court System, provide a safe space for education, healing and inspiration. They discuss the hard topics of devastating Family Traumas and the harsh realities of broken families, all caused by the misguided actions of an Abusing and Alienating Parent. Mick and Kindra are waging the war on ending the pain of this Family Trauma by giving you the tools on how to heal in the AFTERMATH of Family Trauma & Drama

Our episode is entitled:

“The Issues with Narcissists, Domestic Violence and True Love

with Dr. Marni Foderaro”

Dr. Mick is the author of “Burning America: In the best interest of the children?” which illustrates the confusion, terror and judicial missteps of a terrifying custody battle. He highlights the injustice of family law and the sheer fear that Loving Targeted Parents face. Mick’s Parental Alienation story is tragic. Mick has a podcast called “The Doctor of Digital” which simplifies the complexity of modern life, the internet, and businesses which unlocks your full potential by leveraging digital life and its many unrecognized opportunities.

Check out his work! What a loving and wonderful dad.

To purchase his book, go to the following link:

https://burning-america.com/

 

Kindra, a legislative advocate fighting for the rights of Parental Alienation Victims, who has already gone through 7 lawyers and over $120,000 in debt (very similar to my story with court orders not being followed by my ex, and I am STILL being taken to court (going on a decade) by my Abuser and on my 15th lawyer, even though our children were adults when I chose to escape and file for divorce after 27 years). Kindra continues her legal fight for access to her own children, continues to experience Parental Alienation of her children, and was recently told by her 11 year old son, with the support of his Alienating Father and Grandmother, that he no longer wants her in his life and has a new mother now; unfortunately, this is a common reaction of this Child Abuse, Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon. Kindra’s message consists of resiliency and grit, confidence and clarity. She has learned that with the right mindset, supportive tribe and tools, you can rise above any challenge. Her passion is helping others overcome hardships.

Check out her work! What a loving and wonderful mom.

Learn more about Kindra at “Speak Life Into Strife”

http://kindraspeaks.com

 

Parental Alienation is Child Abuse and is so wrong on so many levels.

Innocent children are being weaponized in the Abusing Parent’s war of revenge against the Loving normal-range Parent, and these malevolent Alienators will stop at nothing as they inflict emotional and legal harm on their ex as they Brainwash the kids and use Coercive Control to align them using a False Narrative  of outright lies and believable half-truths to teach the innocent children to hate half of who they are.

We discussed the early stages of how manipulative and intentional Parental Alienation can present. Even though it can seem sudden to the Erased Parent, most likely the Alienation, undermining and Smear Campaign was in the works for years.

Days without communication turn to weeks, months and then years. Even decades.

Milestones are missed and everyday contact is severed completely.

Extremely malevolent Abusing Alienators will go so far as to secretly relocate the child(ren), return any gifts or cards, discard photos/scrapbooks/mementos and block any and all forms of communication or access, so the Loving Parent is unable to see or talk with their own child(ren) and is not included in holidays or milestones.

In my almost decades-long, ongoing experience as an Erased Parent, the Alienating, Favored Parent secretly moved our adult child to another town at first. I was not included in the junior college graduation and had to watch our child’s ceremony on a computer livestream, even though I was only a mile away. The Alienating Parent did not follow court orders (Abusers very often disregard court orders and believe they are above the law) by then secretly moving our adult child out of state to attend a 4-year college (which I paid more for than the Alienating Parent because of his legal slight-of-hand transposing numbers, even though his salary was more than twice mine) and yet another graduation was missed and watched on a T.V. livestream. I watched this graduation ceremony together with our other adult child, who was shocked and heartbroken to be lied to by the other parent and was extremely sad to not even know about the sibling’s college graduation or even be invited. It was so painful to see the deep sorrow felt and expressed by the isolated and left-behind sibling from this situation, all because of an Abusing Alienating Parent.

For many years the Alienating Parent has also intentionally Isolated the siblings from each other, so they won’t compare notes or have a relationship with one another. 

Isolating the kids from one another and encouraging extreme sibling rivalry is also

Child Abuse!

Even with all this and much more,

our Adult Children are STILL aligned with, dependent on and loyal to their Abusing, Alienating Parent and his regime, causing lifelong relationship damage.

 

Our adult child, with the support and encouragement of the Alienating Parent and most likely his criminal attorney, took me, the safe, devoted Loving Parent, to court out of state (at great emotional heartache and financial, legal and travel expense) and without the judge listening to even one word from me to defend false accusations, was shockingly granted a 2-year Order of Protection from Abuse. Abuse???

As a loving mom, I would never abuse or harm our children in any way. Ever!

What is wrong with our court systems, the lawyers and judges? The guilt and shame our adult child will feel when they eventually realize the harm and damage they caused the one parent who truly was there for them their entire life. The real Abuse by the Alienator on his own flesh and blood is horrifying and so very damaging.

At 20 years of age, our adult child was Brainwashed and Weaponized with a False Narrative based on outright lies and Rewritten Memories and taught to fear, blame, hate and cut off the love from their Devoted Mom. Plus, the Alienating Parent is teaching our child that it’s ok to lie, cause irreversible harm to their other parent and they’re showing them how to falsify documents and misuse the judicial system. Evil!

Very early on in the Alienation, our child told me that their other parent told them that I never wanted this child to be born, wanted them dead and tried to murder them. OMG!!! This is absolutely untrue. How in the world could our beautiful, loving ADULT child believe such lies? What kind of mentally ill monster is their other parent to even come up with such a bizarre and crazy story, let alone say something so false and cruel to their own child? Abusers have no moral compass whatsoever. 

It is unbelievably mind boggling, the lengths Alienators will go to destroy their ex and the depths of their efforts to use, Abuse and cause harm to their own children.

My Abuser’s all-out obsessive efforts of destruction and Campaign of Denigration are because their trusting spouse of almost 3 decades figured them out and their secret-agent-man activities, discovered the numerous infidelities and documented proof of manipulating and theft of the family money, among other immoral and unethical wrongdoings, and chose to escape and file for divorce because our values were so opposite. Plus, they were already leading a double and triple life of deceit outside of our marriage and primary family. How unfortunate for us all, especially our kids.

How do these Abusers keep their lies straight, and hide the truth?

Abusers make sure that their damning DEPOSITIONS are SEALED!

They do everything to hide the truth of their immoral and illegal actions.

Another way I saw firsthand, as the Abuser in his haste to leave our marital home left behind a great deal of evidence and proof of some unethical, immoral and quite shocking and disturbing computer searches, is that they write bizarre notes to themselves in secret agent code, embedding birth years (BD) and initials (HF-NJJ-TAR) into the plethora of passwords to keep their extramarital affairs straight

(“don’t tell”)  How very sick & pathetic! What an exhausting way to live.

Kids know which parent lies, cheats and steals and which parent doesn’t.

Our two children know how strong my love is and that I always took great care of them, and made life happy and fun, celebrating who they are as individuals and supporting them to pursue their own interests and follow their own dreams.

Psychological Splitting, Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon sets in and lives are forever damaged. Children are Brainwashed using the same strategies used in cults. A “village” is used in this Abusive Bully Regime.

Shame on the Abusing, Alienating Parent and their regime.

“Whatever is hidden will someday be brought to light.” ~Mick Smith

Alienators are disturbed and malevolent people!

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

Our episode is 27 minutes long;

27 was how many years I was married to my Abuser

who is the primary Alienator of our two beautiful ADULT children.

27 is the current age of our first alienated child.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-issues-with-narcissists-domestic-violence-and-true/id1647001828?i=1000583477037

 

Our full interview was also on YouTube,

so you can watch our conversation by clicking the link below:

https://youtu.be/DHaW3KAYYYE

HOW DO I TAKE THE HIGH ROAD WITH COMPASSION?

CLICK ON THE SPREAKER LINK TO LEARN HOW:

https://www.spreaker.com/user/7768747/10000000-201903518866313-433963685810518_1

 

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Wednesday, October 19, 2022

Joined fellow educator Dr. Kristen Eccleston on

THE NEURODIVERSE TEACHER

Our episode is entitled:

Healing From Trauma: A Conversation with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

Dr. E explores how the education setting is impacting the mental health of our youth and the importance of making lasting change. She is a published researcher, professor and school mental health advocate helping others understand neurodivergency and push pass the fear of being different, embracing who you are and how you learn.

Dr. E also interviews individuals who have pushed past their fear as they deal with challenges and adversity to find out how they navigated their journey towards self-actualization. My spiritual journey has been woven into the fabric of my life, giving me support during a transformative time, that led me to writing to heal. We discussed my career as an educator and then as an author, moving from a lifetime in the Midwest to the Caribbean.

Our mindset is key to how we choose to respond to the many ups and downs we are presented with.

I found embracing the positives, with an honest approach to understanding and learning, was instrumental in my being able to handle such significant losses with grace and optimism.

Click on one of the links below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/NXyXBHh_EDc

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtDkfJCzhek6kqRib7Jm-UA

 

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Two-For Tuesday, October 18, 2022

Great connection with author and entrepreneur Melissa Leon of

Two Sense Consulting Consulting, who is host of

EFFICIENCY B.I.T.C.H.

(which stands for Bank, Inbox, Time, Community & Harmony)

Our episode is entitled H: HARMONY Melissa writes:

“This woman is a powerful example of how important it is to put up the fight and put in the work to get to a place of HARMONY in your life!”

Melissa is the self-proclaimed queen of having her cake and eating it too! She holds many titles: full-time finance professional, business, owner, speaker, mentor, Efficiency B podcast host, wife and mother….and now AUTHOR of her new book “Efficiency B.I.T.C.H.” to be released November 8th!!! I can’t wait to get my copy as I resonate with her mission and wisdom, plus it’s great to support other wonderful authors. Melissa uses her efficiency superpowers to automate, delegate and eliminate excess, leaving only the most important (and most preferred) tasks. Her mission is to show women how to be rockstars professionally.

Our heartfelt conversation was about finding/living in physical, spiritual and mental

HARMONY

I discussed some bold choices I made in midlife to live in harmony and reclaim my happiness by handling adversity, challenges and loss with honesty, compassion and the highest vibration of

LOVE 

We both discussed experiences with people who we believed were friends, but were really foes. It rocks your world when you unexpectedly lose your support system based on an unwarranted and untrue Smear Campaign.

The good, honest and more evolved souls

can rise above those who betray and are cruel.

Click on the link below to listen to our conversation:

https://tinyurl.com/2p8tay5s

Click on the link below to check out Melissa’s newly-released book:

https://efficiencybitch.com/

 

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Darren F. Magee nails it with the stages of an abusive relationship.

There are clear signs and stages of a Coercive Relationship.

This can even happen with someone you considered a lifelong childhood Best Friend. 

Your (so-called) Best Friend, just like other narcissistic abusers (this person who you once considered your “soul sister” or “soul brother”) can get caught red-handed in their betrayal of you; their True and condescending Deceit is shown when their mask slips and they expose themselves and reveal their covert malignant, disturbing, sick, misguided and pathetic character.

You may have known that they lied to and badmouthed others over the many years, but you never, ever thought they would lie, deceive and betray you. You knew for years that your integrity differed in many ways. For example, you may be someone that would always honor the sanctity of marriage, while they carried on years of having affairs disregarding the fact that both parties were married. You value all life, and as a loving parent…especially unborn babies, where they have had or support abortions. You might eventually realize that they have been Gaslighting, grooming and conditioning you for years, discounting your worth or abilities. They may have slowly isolated you or encouraged you to isolate yourself from other friends you have. They used intermittent reinforcement that is both positive and negative. They Triangulate, and now your high school or neighborhood friends are now his/her friends who have dropped you like a hot potato.

Many victims ignore these Red Flags and go along, believing that their “Best Friend” really has their back, when they really don’t. These narcissistic abusing “Best Friends” may be extremely jealous of you, your accomplishments and your triumphs. They may even try to take over your life, your friends and family, even your relationships with your own children. Some of these betraying characters cross the line, especially if they are not parents themselves, and aid in the Alienation of your kids, backstabbing and badmouthing you to your own flesh and blood, as if they are entitled and privileged to violate this boundary, damaging the children for life.

Why did you go along for years ignoring the differences in values?

The answer can be explained by Trauma Bonding.

Trauma Bonding occurs when a person/victim experiencing abuse, develops an unhealthy attachment to their abuser. They may rationalize or defend the abuser’s actions, feel a sense of loyalty, isolate from others, look up to their abuser for approval, ignore the glaring red flags and hope that the abuser’s behavior will change.

Our core wounds and projection of your goodness onto others contributes to why decades and decades go by without realizing the relationship was manipulative and damaging. When your lightbulb finally gets illuminated and you step away to regain your perspective, that’s the end. Goodbye Forever. This lifelong friend knows what they’ve done and don’t even bother to have a conversation to ask why, for the first time, you’ve set some healthy boundaries for yourself. They know the gig is up.

The next step on your “Best Friend’s” mission is to smear you and your name to anyone and everyone. They will turn on you as if you are now the enemy. It doesn’t matter that you were friends for half a century or more! Their evil nature comes to surface. They will never take responsibility for the hurt and pain they have caused. They will engage in outright character assassination, making every attempt to destroy you within your social circles. They will successfully get your friends, neighbors, coworkers and family to align with them based on a false narrative, all for them to save face from their malevolent response to you figuring them out.

Not sure if your Best Friend is true-blue?

Check out Darren’s take on the stages of an abusive relationship. One key thing in Darren’s video that really caught my attention was that he said that the abuser may claim to know even more about the victim than the victim themselves!!! I experienced a “friendship” with a backstabber where this person condescendingly said to me that she knows more about my own family (parents, siblings, husband and children) than I do. Well, given a great deal I’ve learned about her and other’s infidelities, she may very well be correct, at least when it came to my now ex-husband!

So many lies, so many secrets, so much betrayal and True Deceit!

Click on the link below to watch Darren’s video:

https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY

 

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Tuesday, October 18, 2022

Joined Steve Twynham from England & Wales on

YOWAH RADIO YOWAH stands for “Your Wellbeing and Happiness” station

This uplifting show is called “GLASS HALF FULL”

Steve’s amazing radio show and podcast brings inspiration to others with the “feel good” feeling to everyday. Steve aims to make a positive difference in people’s lives by sharing the stories of guests from around the world to help people break the limiting beliefs that hold them back. Everything happens for a reason!

Our discussion was about handling life’s challenges and adversity with a positive mindset. Key concepts that were difference makers on my healing journey include CHOOSING to be happy, CHOOSING to evolve emotionally and spiritually, and CHOOSING to do the self-reflection and research to really understand myself and others. Despite many significant losses and enduring shock and heartache, I am living a beautiful life filled with love, compassion and forgiveness. Truth eventually is revealed and goodness always prevails.

Click on the Podbean link below to listen in on our conversation:

https://www.podbean.com/ei/pb-htzt8-12fc5b6

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My 1st anthology contribution is when I co-authored

THE EVOLUTION OF ECHO:

Raising Our Voices:

Stories of Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

These stories of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery were compiled by

(the now late…may she Rest in Peace)  Angela Atkinson

and published in 2018. Angie dedicates this book to her SPANILY, the amazing group of empathetic, kind, intelligent, beautiful and supportive souls, along with every man and woman who has ever experienced the invalidation, humiliation and soul-sucking proverbial “death by a thousand cuts” that comes with being involved with a toxic narcissist. Angie wants her readers to keep going until they are thriving, evolving and living the very best life they can, knowing that they deserve it and are not alone.

I turned the tables in my chapter, which was told from an Abuser’s point of view.

My chapter is entitled: 

“Parental Alienation from a Malignant Covert Narcissist is Child Abuse”

Click on the link to learn more about this compilation:

https://youtu.be/ToffLxBoiHM

Angie Atkinson of QueenBeing

posted a video explaining how narcissistic abusers use the strategy of

INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT

to manipulate others and keep their victims/targets staying around in this toxic and very abusive relationship for years, even decades. The narcissist might be generous with gifts, compliments or praise to get their victims to trust and depend on them. Unpredictable and random acts of affection and Future Faking are followed by cruel and condescending behavior, but the cycle continues as though nothing has happened.

In this episode Angie explains how to recognize signs of intermittent reinforcement in a toxic relationship with a narcissist and what you can do to deal with it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_Q6gWMi7gY

YOU CHOOSE WHO IS ALLOWED IN YOUR LIFE!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_Q6gWMi7gY

The Narcissistic Abuse Support Community is mourning the loss of one of our colleagues. As my dear friend Tracy A. Malone said of Angie Atkinson’s passing:

“God needed a new Angel”

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Monday, October 17, 2022

Kate Cherichello is making the world a better place. Her podcast BE THE GOOD

inspired others to find happiness in their life. Our mindset and outlook on challenges and adversity can contribute to whether we see the glass as half empty or half full. Kate believes we need a reminder of the good in the world. She knows that a single person can inspire many and make a difference in our perspectives. Kate is on a mission to share all the good news and good people she can.

We discussed my journey as a Loving Mom, Special Education Teacher and Author. I talked about handing challenges with love, compassion, forgiveness and goodness. So many adversities are really opportunities to learn and grow as we self-actualize. Staying true to my values and integrity, while doing the inner work and research needed to fully understand people and situations, has helped me live authentically. My positive outlook has served me well and is inspiring others to find the good in all they can.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview, season 5 Episode 58:

https://youtu.be/wLyj6sCe9z4

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Monday, October 17, 2022

Honored to join Rev. Sheree on her podcast

BELIEF BUSTERS

This amazing preaching sister assists people in questioning their personal beliefs, assessing and analyzing if those beliefs are valuable or need to be changed, giving them permission to release beliefs which no longer serve them, and facilitates people in creating new empowering beliefs. We have the ability to question our convictions that we are able to create personal transformation which leads to a collective shift in consciousness.

Rev. Sheree is also the esteemed author of the book

“Turning Your Why? Into Why Not?!

We had a heartfelt conversation about letting go of the “Fairytale” and embracing the reality that life often throws us curveballs that shatter our hopes and dreams or expectations of how the trajectory of our life was to unfold. We all are faced with challenges and adversity, but within ourselves and with the knowing that we are loved and supported by a Higher Power, we can choose how to respond and create a new version of our lives. We can’t control others, only ourselves and our choices. If we look at our journey as being one of lessons, without judgment of ourselves and others, we can collectively live with more harmony and peace.

We can even find True Love! Love is the highest vibration.

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Psychopath vs. Sociopath

They’re manipulative people—completely devoid of empathy—who intentionally cause harm to others without any sense of remorse between each disorder. The bottomline is that their relationship cycles can be predicted like clockwork:

Idealize, Devalue, Discard.

“Understanding Psychopathy requires letting go of your basic emotional instincts. Remember, these are people who prey on Forgiveness. They thrive on your need for closure. They manipulate compassion and exploit sympathy.”

~Jackson MacKenzie, author of “Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and other Toxic People”

https://youtu.be/l-64XeXZiRM

https://www.cnbc.com/2022/10/16/common-signs-of-a-sociopath-they-can-be-harder-to-spot-than-psychopaths-says-psychiatrist.html

 

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Weekend Wisdom

Wishing you a Wonderful Weekend  Wherever you are in the World 

Check out Breakthrough Life Coach Lisa A. Romano’s take on how the Narcissistic Spouse/Favored Parent brainwashes your adult children to reject you under the guise of reason, care and concern (which is really a calculated abusive strategy).

The Alienator’s manipulative tactics are very sneaky, as they often indirectly put the Targeted Parent down or make completely false statements with outright lies or believable half-truths to the kids about you in a very “kind and caring” way. Parental Alienation of adult children is often gained through consistent, passive-aggressive conversations and brainwashing where the Abusing/Alienating Parent will use Projection, and paint the Targeted Parent as a Narcissist who has “moved on” and doesn’t care, or never really cared, for the children, when nothing could be further than the truth. The Targeted Parent is an Empath who is loving and compassionate.

The Erased Parent’s love is to the moon and back.

Alienated Adult Children need to stop and really reflect on their relationship dynamics with both of their parents. You should take some quiet time to try to remember the truth, and look back on your great childhood. Remember the many, many times the parent you have now cut off, was there for you with unconditional love and support. There are so many wonderful, fun times you shared together. Don’t let those memories be erased from your life by your other parent who is vindictive and using you in their revenge to discredit or destroy half of your DNA. Your loving parent would never put down, make up lies, rewrite memories, interfere with communications or encourage you to cut out the other parent.

It may be easier and less stressful to leave things as they are (your loving parent knows you are desperately seeking peace with no drama) but that is not healthy for anyone, especially you. You deserve the love of both of your parents. Open your eyes to what has really taken place in your family. Your loving, Targeted Parent is actually role-modeling for you that everyone deserves to be treated well, safe and happy. They had to save themselves from Abuse. They want you to be safe and happy as well.

The Abusing Parent uses their own children for Narcissistic Supply by distorting reality, marginalization, rewriting memories, brainwashing, withholding critical information, misusing the legal system, lying to the kids about the other parent and his/her extended family, interfering with communication, hiding contact information and discarding photos, mementos or gifts from their Loving Parent. These Alienators create dependencies that satisfy the needs of their adult children, and even track/troll their own adult kids using electronic spyware devices and paying for their phones and computers and their service agreements/bills so they can monitor who and when they contact anyone and where they go.  They judge and criticize their kids’ choices (job, education, relationships, interests, hobbies), compare them to others the same age and do not want their kids to have their own life and pursue their own passions.

Surviving this devastating Family Trauma is one of the most excruciating experiences for the Loving, Safe Parent who is blindsided by the depths that their ex-spouse will go to manipulate their children into rejecting them, especially when while you were married and up until the day you filed for divorce, you were considered a wonderful parent. The Erased Parent is forced to experience the death of their living child(ren).

These Abusers also often secretly encourage sibling rivalry and Isolate the children from their brother(s) or sister(s) to add to this Crazymaking Abuse.

Click on the YouTube link below to check out her video:

https://youtu.be/KIRrci20Ra0

 

I was beyond honored that Lisa A. Romano endorsed by book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

“Thank you Marni for being a lighthouse to so many.”

~Lisa A. Romano

“When you suffer from Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse you are conditioned to doubt your reality, as well as your suffering. In time, you learn to believe that what is happening is your fault. Disowning one’s right to honor what one feels and experiences is controlled through the manipulation of words and phrases used by the abuser. For this reason, a book such as True Deceit False Love is a lighthouse for so many who are having to crawl their way out of the psychic traumas caused by abusive others. Understanding terms and phrases as abusive helps a victim develop the ability to identify manipulation before a victim assumes blame for any impending abusive episode. Thank you Marni for being a lighthouse to so many.”

~Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, Bestselling Author and Spiritual Healer

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Fri-YAY !!!  October 14, 2022

Cool Conversation with Inner Intelligence Coach Maria T. Finch on

SILENCE THE MINDCLUCK

Got Mindcluck? (Yes, that’s a euphemism!)

Our episode, posted 1-13-23 is titled:

“Recovering from the Extreme Mindcluck of Gaslighting with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro” Quiet the mind and reap the rewards. 

Silencing Mindcluck makes life easier. How we quiet our minds can be rewarding so we can be present to experience our best moments. Decisions are easier to make, the path forward is clearer and you can observe rather than react to what is before you. It’s easier to move through life feeling calm, confident and secure. Maria provides inspiration and real-life methods to stop ruminating and perseverating when our thoughts can derail even the best moments. We have the power within us.

We discussed Gaslighting (by others or even ourselves) and the process of shutting down disempowering chatter quickly and easily so you can approach life moving forward, being happier and following your passions. I shared how experiencing Domestic Abuse and significant Trauma can create Mindcluck.

In my case, as a result of my choice to file for divorce and escape my marriage after 27 years, not really realizing that the repercussions would include such unbelievable losses, including the devastating abuse of Parental Alienation, there was an unleashing of an avalanche of angst, agony and anxiety. This led me to experiencing Trauma-Induced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences that provided reassurance and guided me on a path of self-reflection, healing and acceptance.

We are all on this journey called “life” and we all must find our own ways to cope and carry on. I pray for my children that the truth is revealed and they can move towards their own healing and self-actualization. They deserve a beautiful and independent life to pursue their passions free from abuse.

I found researching and writing very helpful in silencing my Mindcluck.

Knowledge is power and learning about what you have gone through, doing the inner self-reflection work and understanding the players and their often malevolent intentions is key to realizing that so much of other’s actions and situations you find yourself in are out of your control, and that it’s best to acknowledge and speak the truth, stay true to your integrity and align with those like-minded people who share your values…and move forward so you are not stuck in the Mindcluck.

Writing has been very therapeutic for me; putting my thoughts (positive and negative) from my heart and head onto the page using the written word has tremendous benefits and helped me release the pain and move forward. I’m thrilled to say that I have come to a peaceful and promising crossroads in my healing journey.

Click on one of the links below to watch our interview, aired 1/11:

https://www.spreaker.com/show/silence-the-mindcluck

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovering-from-the-extreme-mindcluck-of-gaslighting/id1622448074?i=1000593786702

 

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Thursday, October 13, 2022

Interviewed by Angeline Mitchell on her podcast  LET’S BREAK THE SILENCE 

Angeline wants women who are afraid to speak out to share their stories about experiencing and surviving Domestic Abuse. Out of her pain was born her passion for inspiring, educating and helping women who are ready live their authentic life free from fear and despair. She helps those that find themselves in an abusive relationship take the steps needed to transform themselves from victim to victor.

Domestic Abusers are often mentally ill individuals who are undiagnosed narcissists, psychopaths or sociopaths. Abusers want us isolated and silenced. They mirror their target’s goodness and project their evil onto others. They accuse their targets of lying, cheating and stealing, when that is what THEY are doing. They want their ex destroyed at all costs in all ways, and often weaponize the children and engage in extreme Parental Alienation, which is a serious form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. They eventually expose themselves when their false public mask slips and their true character and malevolent intentions are revealed.

It takes a great deal of courage to escape your abuser and speak the truth.

Our voices matter!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/HZnQTXkYhGg

 

Also, our interview Season 3-Episode 36, was posted 10-31-22 on Anchor:

https://anchor.fm/angeline-mitchell/episodes/Season-3–Episode-36–Our-Voice-Matters—Conversation-with-Marni-Hill-Foderaro-about-Domestic-Abuse–Parental-Alienation-e1q02e0

 

 

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Wednesday, October 12, 2022

Joined Prophetic Minister, Author, Speaker and Host Shayna Rattler of

A GOD SHIFT PODCAST

Our episode is entitled: TURN OUR PAIN INTO OUR POWER

Shayna empowers believers to unlock their Kingdom Authority to have more, be more and do more. She encourages her audience to grow their Faith, overcome adversity and move into a greater destiny with a deeper understanding of God.

A God Shift is the moment you ditch disruption or delay in your life, collide with God’s purpose, and move into a greater destiny. Life is full of setbacks, disappointments and uncertainty. Another dimension of destiny awaits us all, but a God Shift is required to reveal it and live it.

We discussed my journey of when my life collided with God’s purpose and I was put on the path that was designed for my safety, wellbeing and happiness. Sometimes when we are faced with betrayal and deceit from someone we loved unconditionally, we can feel that we are under attack, when these challenges may actually be alerts to serve as a wake-up call to take action to respond. Sometimes when we think things are happening TO us, they are really happening FOR us and for our greatest and highest good.

I have done the inner work, the self-reflection, the creative processing, the healing and the forgiving necessary to move towards reclaiming my life, as Shayna would say, “Unlocking my Kingdom Authority.” Despite enduring significant losses: home, assets, money and support system, especially losing our two beautiful children to the false narrative, brainwashing, rewritten memories and lies of extreme Parental Alienation, I choose to live a blessed life filled with Gratitude and Love.

In life there are many things that are out of our control, but taking control is possible, especially when we’ve been faced with painful circumstances. In our episode wc cover how to use inward silence in order to process out loud, how to find God in your “gut feelings” and ways to respond to negative situations and reclaim your life.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/dAjlwjHEJ_k

 

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/a-god-shift-podcast/turn-pain-into-power-w-marni-9ZkJtGiBmsg/

 

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So many of us have been through a lot. Continue to be grateful and count your blessings. Make sure to be “mindful” with your mind;

our thoughts influence our actions, which influences our reality.

https://www.theepochtimes.com/you-are-what-you-think-what-you-fill-your-mind-with-shapes-your-reality_4782824.html

 

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Tuesday, October 11, 2022

Blessed to join Dr. NiccKay Natson on her podcast

FLOURISH WOMEN: UNAPOLOGETICALLY BECOMING A BETTER ME

Dr. NiccKay is all about Honoring God and being authentic. She aims to empower, shift, uplift and impact women to be better and become the authentic person that God has destined them to be. She speaks from pure passion about inner healing and soul issues resulting from experiencing trauma. We all need inner peace, deliverance, mental stamina, mental stability, encouragement and prayer. Her candid conversations in her women’s ministry create an atmosphere of sisterhood and empowerment, bringing the audience their

“You GROW Girl” moments.

We discussed my healing journey and choice to embrace life by living with God’s Love and following my gut intuition to stay true to my values of honesty, love, compassion and goodness. Dr. Nicckay and Dr. Marni discuss trauma, divorce finding peace and flowing in the light and choosing to become better unapologetically. I am role modeling for our adult alienated children, that we can’t control what others do or situations we find ourselves in, but we can choose to rise above and live true to what is right and good by how we respond to handling challenges, adversity and abuse. It’s all about the highest vibration of

LOVE

Truth is eventually revealed and Goodness will eventually prevail.

Click on the link below to listen in on our inspirational and hopeful conversation:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6A8D16GmvzFnwXs3eqwMow?si=j31EumnvQbe9ZlHCBeFMPA

 

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Monday, October 10, 2022

Joined Alienated Dad, the compassionate Phillip Thomas from London, UK on

THE FAIR PARENTING PODCAST

Phil and I are both heartbroken Targeted Parents with Alienated children

Targeted Parents believe in FAIR and EQUAL PARENTING

unlike the Alienating Parent who teaches their child(ren) to hate half of who they are.

Alienation happens to the Erased Parent and that entire side of their family,

and damages the child(ren) for life, causing the Abuse Cycle to continue on.

We discussed PARENTAL ALIENATION

as the devastating Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence that it is. The personality characteristics of Abusing Alienators are all very similar and although  most are undiagnosed, their behavior falls into the Cluster B Spectrum of Narcissists, Psychopaths and Sociopaths; their mental illness goes undetected to the casual observer and the court system (even psychologists!!!) and becomes evident as these Abusers expose themselves when their mask slips and their true evil colors are revealed. 

To cause intentional harm to their ex-spouse and weaponize the innocent children in their sick war of revenge is what these malevolent perpetrators do. These Alienators are calm, cool and collected as they misuse the legal system and bait you to engage in their traps as they further their harmful agenda. They gain satisfaction with the chaos created in the the courts, and the money their Targets must pay in legal fees to defend the truth. These are competitive and misguided evildoers who want to win at all costs, even though their vindictive efforts are extremely damaging their own children.

We discussed the challenges that loving Targeted Parents face having lost our children to the False Narrative and Smear Campaign of outright lies and believable half-truths. The shocking reality is that justice does not always prevail, and although truth eventually is revealed, it’s not usually before irreversible damage is done.

We both shared our journeys and coping strategies, and although Phil’s alienated child is a minor and the two alienated children I share with my ex are adults and were adults at the time of aligning with their Abusing Parent, the same tactics and playbooks are use in both cases, in fact in most cases. Our exes hate us more than they love their own children, although we were considered wonderful parents until our light bulb moment and we chose to escape their Abuse and Coercive Control.

These predators are sick, misguided, relentless, obsessive and just plain evil. It is hard for the loving empathetic Targeted Parent to think like a criminal, because we aren’t wired that way. Our values and integrity do not align with who we had children with. Loving parents believe in honesty, compassion and the best interest of the child(ren).

We discussed the importance of reclaiming your life with self-care and pursuing your creative passions. It’s so very important to continue to role-model our positive responses to handling horrific situations. The children will eventually see that “actions speak louder than words;” the question is whether or not our children will have the strength and independence to understand Psychological Splitting, Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon so that they can fully comprehend the Child Abuse they endured at the hands of their Alienating Parent.

Choosing to live in light, love and compassion, along with doing the inner self-reflection work to understand our role in the relationship dynamics, is key to our healing. Our voices matter, and these candid conversations matter. Thank God for the brave souls who choose to turn their pain into power and bring awareness to

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Thank God for loving dads like Phillip Thomas who are making an effort to understand this damaging dynamic and shed the light of awareness to help as a beacon for other Targeted Parents so that they can cope and navigate this challenging and painful experience. Thank God that we are no longer under the control of our Abuser and his/her regime, who is Alienating our children from us. Rise Above and stay true to your values of Integrity, Freedom, Love and Compassion. Goodness will prevail. Please Pray for our Abused, Alienated Children.

Click on one of the links below to listen to our 2-hour !!! conversation:

https://audioboom.com/posts/8175647-books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-discusses-alienation

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-discusses-alienation/id1647238476?i=1000589729602

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/270-the-fair-parenting-podcast-102297132/episode/8-books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-105817556/

https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-fair-parenting-podcast-4867109/episodes/books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-d-157753914

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Wonderful Weekend Wisdom

Ben Taylor, a self-aware narcissist in recovery,  promotes awareness, healing, growth and change.  “The fog CAN be lifted by the facts!”  His latest video is on why Narcissists ISOLATE you. I experienced ISOLATION firsthand, many times and in many forms.

I remember a neighbor whose husband regularly used some of these first isolation tactics that Ben mentions and wouldn’t let his wife out of his sight. He monopolized every second of her every day. If she walked next door to a neighbor’s house, her phone would blow up or within minutes he would be physically tracking her down, banging at the door, demanding she return home. When this wife focused on others, he would get angry or act victimized and would guilt-trip her. She was on a very short leash. I always thought that he was so controlling and abusive. I knew for sure that he was super-insecure and needy. She always had an excuse and said he acted this way because he really cared about her and just loves to spend time with her.

 It was easy to see how some people abused others, but not as easy to see how you are being abused. Loving, empathetic people project our own values of honesty, compassion and care onto others, many of whom are not deserving.

I have also been isolated and lost a great work friendship with a fellow teacher and her husband as a result of me stepping away, but with the second isolation tactic Ben mentions. Years ago when I first began my teaching career, I was convinced to stop spending time with a great friend and fellow teacher all because my jealous “best childhood friend” didn’t like that I had another close girlfriend who could possibly take her place; so indirectly my “best friend” put my work friend down and I was influenced to also think negative thoughts about her and slowly break off the friendship. I know now that my childhood friend was intentionally driving a wedge so she could isolate me. She would slowly chip away at my work friend’s good qualities, so that I was gaslit to believe I should stay away from her. It is now 30 years too late to repair the damage done to that friendship from decades ago, but I have asked God for forgiveness now that I have learned about lying Narcissists and am aware of the deceitful actions of betrayal and manipulation from my former “best friend’s” narcissistic isolation tactic. Sometimes it takes years for a person’s true character to be revealed.

Actually, that intentionally malevolent action was only one of many other tactics I later discovered that this “best friend” used in her deceit, lies and betrayal. I accepted her even though I knew for years that she lied to others, had affairs (some even with married men who had families) and engaged in unethical, immoral behaviors. We clearly had different values our entire relationship, I just never thought she would turn around and lie to and betray me. I had to learn the hard way and put up healthy, safe boundaries to step away from her. I learned another lesson about how abusive Narcissists operate and how Targets can get easily Trauma-Bonded over the years, even a lifetime. I didn’t offer any reason for escaping this “friendship”, there was no conversation, and more telling, this lifelong best friend never reached out to me when she knew I stepped away without explanation. She knew that I knew and was done; I couldn’t unsee what I saw, and the many years of what she did. The damage she caused that not only impacted me, but my immediate family. What a violation of trust! I had to learn about MYSELF and my core wounds, and why I allowed this treatment for so many years. The key is the inner, self-reflection to learn your role in the abuse dynamic and make some healthier changes.

Of course, as a survivor of familial and marital Domestic Abuse, I experienced isolation from the result of a Smear Campaign of outright lies and believable half-truths, so you lose the relationships from your support system of friends, family, colleagues and neighbors (even church relationships!) all due to a False Narrative. After doing the inner self-reflection work, you become aware that much of this dysfunction was learned by the foundational tactics used by toxic and abusive family-of-origin members, even your own siblings or parental role-models.

Favored Parents, the abusive Alienators, isolate the children from their loving Targeted Parent by using Parental Alienation tactics.

They hate their ex more than they love their own children!

The Alienator will rewrite memories, discard photos and gifts, block all communications, not follow court orders, disparage the other parent and get the kids to fear, reject, hate, blame and cutoff the loving parent, causing so much pain to everyone. These abusing spouses will use false allegations to have their ex arrested or even support the adult kids in filing restraining orders to legally sever any connection. The result is lifelong damage to the family relationships and specifically to their own children. This form of Child Abuse permanently scars these kids for life, and the consequences play out in negative ways throughout the children’s life, even into adulthood and their relationships. Some of these adult children choose not to have families of their own; some do have families and end up in abusive relationships where they are alienated from their own kids and it’s not until then that they realize that they wrongly cut off a parent causing such heartbreak and pain and that they are continuing the intergenerational cycle of abuse.

To the Alienated Adult Children who want a more peaceful and truthful life:

If you are interested enough in learning about Parental Alienation,

and reclaiming your life, then understand this next statement:

This unfortunate Parental Alienation family dynamic CAN be reversed and relationships can be rekindled. After years of the loving Targeted Parent’s failed or sabotaged attempts to reconnect, it often takes the lightbulb moment in the adult child to realize how they were weaponized and for them to take the initiative to reach out to the parent they were coercively controlled to reject. It takes a lot of courage and strength to be independent enough to correct the wrong that has been done to you. You will feel guilt for the harm you caused to your loving parent, but it is not your fault. You were a victim, just like your loving parent was a victim.

Abusers will often isolate their own children from each other, so the siblings who used to get along and were a support for one another, no longer have their brother or sister in their life. This sibling rivalry is an intentional tactic by the Alienating Parent. Because of Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon, it takes years (if ever!) for the kids to figure out the abusive strategy and reconnect as siblings. Abusing Alienators are not mentally well.

Click on this weekend’s short clip about ISOLATION:

https://youtu.be/RxM_d8Q8-oo

 

Click on the link below to hear Ben Taylor’s short on why Narcissists think they are above the law and that the rules (and Court Orders) don’t apply to them:

https://youtube.com/shorts/vKgbadh4b1c?feature=share

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Wise Words from Jill Wise, the Enlightened Target:

“The person who watches you bleed to death, is no different than the person who is holding the knife.  Evil not only reveals itself by someone’s actions,  but also by their inactions.”  Your neutral silence and inaction are supporting the Abuser.

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Fri-YAY !!!!

October 7, 2022

Absolutely honored to join Debra Lindh on her podcast

PTSD & BEYOND

Dr. Deb and I had a heartfelt, down-to-earth conversation about surviving abuse and trauma, which can lead to a lifetime healing journey. We both acknowledge that Spirituality plays a role in our soul’s purpose. We both also had a pretty amazing license plate signs to reassure us that there is more going on in the universe than we know. What we may chalk up to coincidences are really synchronicities guiding us on our path. We can choose how we respond to any challenge that comes our way.

Our episode is titled:  Surviving Abuse, Trauma & a Lifetime Healing Journey

Dr. Deb believes candid conversations can be very inspirational to others, as well as validating for all. We can gain insights into PTSD, Trauma, Recovery and beyond (we must GO beyond to self-actualize) when we share our stories of overcoming adversity to stimulate our minds, touch our hearts, connect with our spirits and give us a greater understanding of ourselves and others on our healing and recovery journey.

Please check out Dr. Deb’s many podbean podcast episodes by clicking on this link:

https://www.podbean.com/pu/pbblog-4rfk7-5748f1

 

To listen our episode #160, click on the link below:

https://ptsdandbeyond.podbean.com/e/dr-marni/

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SELF DOUBT, FALSE NARRATIVES AND QUESTIONING ONE’S VALUES

post written by Rhonda Wasserman.  Original content by Ashley Berges.

Click on the link below to read this enlightening blog:

https://www.ashleyberges.com/self-doubt-false-narratives-and-questioning-ones-value/

Click on the link below to watch the video:

https://youtu.be/Qt0IwzQKzNE

 

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Fran encourages Targeted Parents who had children with a narcissist to learn about 

PARENTAL ALIENATION

https://youtube.com/shorts/85H8GVEK97g?feature=share

https://youtube.com/shorts/NMMBPlexbzw?feature=share

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Fri-YAY October 7, 2022

Interviewed by Traci Brown on her podcast

TRUTH, LIES and COVERUPS 

Traci Brown is a well-known Fraud-Busting, Body Language Expert who is ranked as the #5 Body Language Expert in the World! It was very fitting that she wanted to have a conversation with a survivor of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation because as survivors (victims who reclaimed their lives), we look back on our ordeal and realized we were, and often continue to be, the Target of a “Secret Agent” Fraudster who conned and Gaslit us into their False Reality and Web of Lies, leaving us homeless, penniless, in debt and severely traumatized.

Traci gets real and has seen it all when exposing the facts and the truth of those mentally ill men and women who commit fraud, crimes, scams and threats to your bottom line.  She’s had conversations with notorious criminals, victims, authorities and everyday Targets to get to the bottom of the deceit. Many of these malevolents carryon in plain sight and can pose as upstanding and wealthy community members, employees or spouses who appear honest and faithful to their families, when the reality is quite the opposite. Many of these types even steal their own children’s money! Where does all the stolen money go? Who really knows? Many abusers are into pornography, gambling, addictions, investments, prostitution, hiding cash, overspending and many of them even have secret second families or children!

Our topic was uncovering  FINANCIAL ABUSE

and the title of our episode, released 1-4-2023 is:  Unintentional Confession:

True Deceit and False Love with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

and the covert things these abusers do during the marriage and after you have escaped. These types, Traci calls Narcissists or Sociopaths, follow the same playbook with their financial manipulations and continuous fiscal irresponsibilities. They are money-obsessed. We uncovered many of the Red Flags of Domestic Financial Abuse, most of which are ignored by the trusting, obedient and controlled spouse.

I discussed my lightbulb moment over a pizza dinner where my now ex-husband confessed to taking money—lots of it. He was not who I thought he was. This was the catalyst to my choosing to get out of my 27-year marriage. This was the moment that began my journey of finding out how bad things really were and realizing the impact of the Red Flags that I had ignored for years.

The lucky Targeted victims are able to escape and move on or move far away, or try to because all-too-often these abusers continue to be obsessed with controlling and destroying you years after you found freedom. Some will even file bad faith petitions to drag you back into court decades after the divorce to steal even more of your remaining assets, and at the very least inconvenience you and deplete your finances with legal fees. Some will murder you and/or your children, even if by proxy.

Be on the lookout for Traci’s upcoming T.V. series featuring

TRUTH, LIES AND COVERUPS

and similar stories of Domestic Financial Abuse by an Abusing Spouse, along with other shocking crimes, despicable lies and secret-agent deceit. 

Look in 2023 for Book 6 of my prominently endorsed series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Click on the link below to listen to our interview, episode 112: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unintentional-confession-ture-deceit-and-false-love/id1506695449?i=1000593391089

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Thursday, October 6, 2022

Joined the beautiful, strong, fearless and amazing Dijana Llugolli on

THE FEARLESS AND SUCCESSFUL PODCAST

Dijana (Coach D) is a multi-passionate “mom-preneur”, supporting others on their journey to ultimate health, happiness and freedom. She is a Coach, Activator of Human Potential and Freedom Architect whose mission is to provide inspiration to overcome fear to be able to Dream Big, Plan for Success and Impact the World. She loves all things mindset, money and manifestation. She encourages all to activate their infinite potential by taking aligned and inspired action. Our voices matter!

As loving moms who both chose to divorce after decades because “enough was enough”, wanting a more fulfilling life for ourselves as we role-modeled strength and courage to our beautiful children, Dijana and I connected on many levels.

We discussed my journey from fear to freedom. After retiring from a successful and rewarding 35-year career in education and enduring significant losses as a result of my decision to step away from some abusive relationships, I went on to self-reflect and self-actualize as I practiced self-care. I created a successful, happy and peaceful life as an award-winning author moving from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs to the beautiful Caribbean rainforest to live by the ocean. Our thoughts can become our realities, and despite experiencing adversity and challenges, I choose to live a life of

passion, peace and purpose

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The opposite of coercive control is compassion and compromise.

Abuse has NOTHING to do with or is caused by the victim; it is ALL about the controlling and manipulative abuser, who targets you with intent to harm.

OCTOBER IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH

Many survivors are choosing to share their story as part of their healing journey.

THE TRUTHFUL VOICES OF SURVIVORS MATTER!

If you see people wearing PURPLE this month, especially on

Thursday, October 20, 2022—D.V. Awareness Day

you’ll know that they are supporting their brothers and sisters, dads and moms, extended family and the children who have experienced this form of familial trauma.

Click on the link below to see why abusers abuse:

https://youtu.be/PGw8n97eI7M

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Tuesday, October 4, 2022

Joined UK’s

GINA GARDINER & FRIENDS  syndicated RADIO SHOW

GENUINELY YOU 

Gina encourages her audience to embrace their genuine power. She is the co-author of the world-renowned bestselling book”The Change: Manifest Your Greatness Today“

Step into your authentic self, find genuine power, feel self-confident and find your true purpose. Imagine feeling happy and more confident with a greater sense of fulfillment. Imaging knowing you have the power to take control of your destiny with confidence and ease. Imagine living a life full of joy and abundance, achieving your heartfelt desires. The Genuinely You Radio Show helps you regain your confidence to challenge and change limiting beliefs in order to become more loving towards yourself and others.  Live Authentically!

Gina and I discussed my journey, which included heartache and losses, and how I made a conscious choice to live a free and fearless, authentic, powerful life! Everything starts with yourself and your mindset, including making the way forward. Gina believes Spiritual Awakenings are a result of remembering that you have the choice to be happy and fulfilled. I experienced a Spiritual Awakening when

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and continued writing to heal after moving from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs to the beautiful Caribbean where I wrote my prominently endorsed 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Click, on the YouTube link to watch our 30 minute interview:

https://youtu.be/1Trs10fbEJY

 

Click on the link below to listen to our radio interview:

https://amfm247.com/amfm247/2023/01/24/gina-gardiner-and-friends-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-sally-parkinson/

 

Click on the link below to access all of Gina’s archived interviews:

https://amfm247.com/amfm247/category/archive/gina-gardiner-and-friends-archive/

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Monday, October 3, 2022

Joined Australia’s Nadia Wildermoth on her podcast  DON’T WORRY, I’M HERE

So cool to see adventurous young adults pursuing their own dreams and following their passions. Nadia loves to do podcasts and share confidence-building advice. Her goal is to help others overcome struggles in their lives. She addresses topics that cover a wide range of emotions; you will cry and you will laugh. Just talking about the great and sometimes crappy situations life throws at you can make you feel better.  She asked about how I became an author and what I like to do for fun. We talked about how important it is to have a positive outlook, despite challenges, obstacles or setbacks and keep a positive attitude while striving for your goals.

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81YmMyZGZhYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw/episode/NmI0ZGU2NDMtNDRkMS00Y2QyLWI4NWEtZTJmNzRmZjBhZWIz

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WEEKEND WISDOM

Click on the link to hear Costa Rica’s Andrew’s  Take on TARGETS!

https://youtu.be/ehiZEiXqGjo

 

Also check out Andrew’s wise advice on removing yourself from the

NARCISSISTIC CYCLE

https://youtu.be/6-Tp2TjuNTM

 

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Fri-YAY !!!

September 30, 2022

I’ve always wondered who wrote “30 Days Hath September…..”

“Thirty days has [or hath] September, April, June, and November. All the rest have 31, except February …” The poem ends: “All the rest have 31 / But February’s 28 /The leap year, which comes once in four / Gives February one day more.” Although this poem has changed through time, its first lines continue to help us remember the idiosyncrasies of our calendar. This mnemonic helps us keep our months and days straight. But, where did it come from? The rhyme has been attributed to many different sources, including Mother Goose, but a Welsh scholar may have uncovered its earliest source. He claims that the poem actually dates back to at least 1425. It was found written in English in a manuscript that included information about saint’s day. A version of the poem was first published in 1562.

Today I talked everything BOOKS with Madilynn (Madi) Degraff

on her bookish podcast THE CHAPTER GODDESS

Madi interviews authors about their books, but the conversations dive deep into the practical, as well as the inspirational. We talked about my big move to the Caribbean, what inspires me and what I do for self-care.

We discussed my award-winning spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and my prominently-endorsed 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE 

Click on my Amazon Author Link to check out my books: 

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

Click on the link to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/REirKHIGTCI

 

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9-29-22

Interviewed by Rockshana Desances from Las Vegas on the

THINGZ OF THAT NATURE PODCAST

Rockshana is all about motivating, invigorating and inspiring others by talking with people from all around the world about a wide variety of topics.

We discussed my making the big change from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs to moving thousands of miles away to retire in the Caribbean paradise.

With continuing the theme of transformation, Rockshana also asked about my changing the course of my professional life (in midlife) … retiring from a rewarding and successful 35-year career as a high school special education teacher (with 12 of those years as a university adjunct graduate school professor) to becoming an author of the award-winning spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and the prominently-endorsed 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE  

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Thursday, September 29, 2022

Fun & Uplifting Q & A with newly-engaged Tim Douglas on his podcast

LIVING THE DREAM

Tim creates a community of super-connectors who inspire action, hold each other accountable and seek progress together. He is all about sharing stories of inspiration to help others achieve their dreams!  We discussed the dream I have of my award-winning book

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE becoming a MOVIE!

I’ve made some amazing connections and there is a great possibility that my dream to reach a wider audience with the message of  LOVE & HOPE

and paying attention to the universe’s signs and synchronicities, just might manifest itself into reality. I am following through with action steps, at the same time, I am being presented with some amazing connections.  It might just happen.

I so enjoyed this upbeat and positive interview with Tim, and wish him the best on his upcoming marriage and achieving his dreams, hoping they all come true.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our fun interview:

https://youtu.be/PHHNkD7PQJo

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Thursday, September 29, 2022

Absolutely Awesome conversation with Ammaar (Omar) Salih

on his thought-provoking podcast SURVIVAL GUIDE TO LIFE

Ammaar is a visionary who embraces life and cares about consistency in self-actualization physically, mentally, spiritually and financially. We both are from the same area of Illinois. Both of us want to give back to the world by sharing our insights from the lessons we’ve learned, so future generations don’t have to make the same mistakes; or at the very least, we want to offer suggestions on how we have chosen to handle challenges and obstacles that are placed in our paths, so we can combat them, defeat them and rise above them to live an authentic life of integrity and purpose.

Ammaar did his homework on my 5-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

and started off our interview with a quote I included in my book series by 1890’s anti-lynching and women’s suffrage activist Ida B. Wells-Barnett:

“The way to right wrongs is to turn the light of truth upon them.”

We discussed our philosophical views and advocacy efforts through honest living, acceptance, introspection, research, being open to other perspectives, staying true to our values and spreading awareness through candid conversations.

Ammaar is a gentle, kind, articulate soul who possesses great emotional intelligence, way beyond his 29 years.  However, I did stump him twice with his game…tell me 3 things, 2 that are true and 1 that is false. My false statement was that I have visited Australia; my 2 true statements were that I have bungee jumped and can catch boa constrictor snakes. It was such a blessing that our paths crossed. Consider checking out his podcast and subscribing to his YouTube channel.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our conversation:

https://youtu.be/-qYHE7Sam8o

 

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Wednesday, September 28, 2022

Interviewed by London’s Psychologist, Therapist and Educator

Nicoleta Porojanu on her podcast dedicated to Trauma Survivors

OPEN TO HAPPINESS

Awareness of what Parental Alienation is, as well as the thought patterns, intentions and actions of those who engage in extreme abusive and alienating behaviors is needed, especially in the legal system, but even for well-versed psychological practitioners who work with clients on handling trauma and helping them move to a place where they can be open to happiness after experiencing life’s hardships and pain within the family. There is a big difference between P.A. and estrangement.

Those that have endured and experienced Parental Alienation firsthand, either from their own parents or as a parent, know that reasoning using traditional talk therapy with abusers who exhibit covert malignant narcissistic traits does not work. You can’t just communicate with them like you would others who have empathy and can look at their role in the relationship dynamic. Empathetic targeted victims can move toward surviving and thriving because they are capable of this introspection, looking within and acknowledging their role and contribution to the dysfunction, and are able and willing to adjust and make changes to their thoughts and actions.

Targeted parents and empathetic exes encourage their children to have a relationship with both parents, where abusive alienators directly or indirectly teach and weaponize their children go against human nature to hate, fear, blame and cut off their relationship with the other parent, as a means to punish and destroy their ex who got away. They isolate their children using coercive control and manipulation, tracking and trolling as they hinder their children’s independence and growth.

Parental Alienation is Child Abuse!

Some psychological academics and researchers conclude that people on the Cluster B spectrum, including narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths, can be extremely dangerous. They are highly manipulative individuals who thrive on power and control and use fear tactics as they comfortably create chaos, pain and heartache. They hide behind a false mask, portraying themselves as upstanding individuals publicly, while displaying an entirely different behaviors behind closed doors.

 As a relationship coach, Nicoleta strives to help repair the discord and damage to grow relationship attunement and healing the hurts by addressing relationships with yourself, your family, others and the world. She believes abusers are very wounded individuals that are not evolved emotionally or spiritually (possibly playing out karmic scenarios from previous lives) so they cause harm to their targets, which impacts the whole family and is extremely devastating to children of all ages.

We discussed how Parental Alienation damages the family unit for generations. I shared examples of how a loving, targeted parent struggles with not having their kids in their lives, including the pain of missed milestones such as birthdays, holidays and graduations. We explored the beginnings of Alienation, when the erased parent’s attempts to connect with their child are rejected, which seems very sudden, even though the false narrative and undermining by the favored parent has gone on years before the loving and normal-range connections are abruptly severed.

Most young and adult alienated children experience Psychological Splitting, black-and-white-thinking and the concept of only one good parent and only one bad parent. All of these kids are brainwashed and some, in extremely abusive cases, are coerced to use authorities and the court system to cut off their other parent with false arrests or restraining orders; these responses are learned from and modeled after the alienating parent, as both the abusing parent and alienated child are not emotionally equipped or mature enough to communicate reasonably or resolve conflict without enlisting extremely damaging outside punitive and legal measures.

Survivors of this abuse who choose to respond through the lens of love, compassion and forgiveness can go on to analyze their own Intergenerational Family Traumas to understand repeated patterns and break the cycle of dysfunction. Targeted parents can hope and pray for reconnection, reconciliation and reuniting. The truth eventually prevails, however everyone has their own journey in life and acceptance is a must, because we can only control ourselves and our responses and not others.

The reality is that the stars may not line up perfectly for a happy ending, connecting the abused, alienated children back with their loving, targeted parent. Targeted parents may be in fact realizing their true purpose in life by having to experience these losses to bring awareness to Parental Alienation as they become advocates and voices for others to learn, grow and understand this unfortunate family dynamic.

We can only choose to live in love and spread the message of handling challenges, adversity and our significant losses with love as we choose our responses that will lead us to being able to live a life with peace and happiness.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Eg-nUWMzWk&t=2760s

Nicoleta’s podcast/website link is:

https://nicoletaporojanu.com/open-to-happiness-podcast/

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Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Joined Domestic Abuse Advocate, Author, Coach, Consultant and Speaker

Tonya G.J. Prince on her podcast SURVIVOR EYE:  We Survive Abuse

Tonya believes in making relationships (and life in general) healthier, happier and more safe. She helps people feel less alone by sharing healing stories, healing information and healing wisdom to help abuse victims overcome and grow on their journey to becoming survivors and thrivers.

We discussed my prominently endorsed 5-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

She was amazed at the blue book, Book 1, which includes 15,555 Terms & Phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation; as an advocate she knows the value of understanding terminology to come to “terms” (no pun intended) with what victims have been through. I will be mailing her a copy of Book 1.

She even knew that the purple book, Book 5, on word searches became a

BESTSELLER!  Our discussion was heartfelt and informational!

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Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Great conversation with Lee Jones on HINDSIGHT THE PODCAST

our episode is entitled:

FINDING BEAUTY IN THE CHAOS WITH DR. MARNI FODERARO

Lee’s show explores how our decisions can inadvertently shape who we are and how our knowing this give us the keys to the future. He believes that the sharing of personal stories on how our decisions have impacted our lives, whether these decisions are good or bad, can provide inspiration and hope to others.

We discussed my writing journey and the challenges I encountered, as well as my choice to respond to adversity by staying true to my values of honesty, compassion and love. Doing the inner shadow work and acknowledging your own past traumas, along with researching what you have been through. helps in the healing process.

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-beauty-in-the-chaos-with-dr-marni-foderaro/id1557042552?i=1000589924185

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Is it time to write your own story? Check out Tracy Malone’s latest journals.

There are two (2) books with different covers.

Click on the link below to get your own copy:

https://a.co/d/3gvZq7l

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Top 5 Toxic Money Manipulations of the Narcissist.

$ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $

Click on the link below to watch; Jill Wise really gets it:

https://youtu.be/0V-ezcZ0vKk

 

Do Narcissists Use You For Your Money? You bet they do!

Click on Narc Survivor’s blog link to read more about

Narcissist’s unethical behavior and fiscal irresponsibility:

https://www.narcsurvivor.co.uk/post/do-narcissists-use-you-for-money

 

5 Toxic Money Habits of Narcissists

by Chris the Narc Survivor

Narcissists will damage their own finances, as well as their spouse’s, because they are dishonest, lack moral principles, are not really good at money and are fiscally irresponsible. This has a devastating effect on the entire family, as these abusers also swindle their own children’s savings.

1. They will be secretive about their finances

2. They will spend all of your money

3. They are competitive with money

4. The have different and misguided priorities

5. They are hypocrites

Because I experienced, and continue to experience Financial Abuse, even a decade after I filed for divorce, I know firsthand that this list is actually much longer. Narcissists lie, cheat and steal. Most of them do their own taxes to hide their money manipulations. Many have secret accounts and stash your cash into private investments. Many fund their addictions to drugs, gambling and pornography. It turns out some have secret families or love children they support. They are constantly juggling bank accounts, pay enormous interest fees and are always looking for large sums of cash, which they need quickly and immediately. They cry poor, yet somehow, after the divorce, when the targeted now-ex-spouse has lost their home, assets and money, these narcissists are somehow able to buy luxury cars and expensive homes. That doesn’t stop them from going after the little income you have, even years after you have moved on from this abuser.

Click on the link below to read the blog written by Chris, the Narc Survivor:

https://www.narcsurvivor.co.uk/post/5-toxic-money-habits-of-narcissists

 

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Tuesday, September 27, 2022

From London to the USVI  We addressed the topic of

INTERGENERATIONAL FAMILY TRAUMA

with UK’s radio host Caroline Brown of

“The Crazy Over 40’s Life” Podcast entitled

DON’T MAKE YOUR TRAUMA DEFINE YOU

Caroline is a licensed integrative therapist and coach whose message is to revamp the midlife notion. She encourages rebirth of our adolescence, filled with curiosity, interests and desires. She also address various familial, relationship and mental health topics to promote physical, emotional and social wellness.

We discussed following our gut intuition, breaking unhealthy patterns including Trauma Bonds, setting Healthy Boundaries and paying attention to Red Flags. Self-Care and Self-Love are not selfish behaviors. We need to fill our tea cup first, so that when we give to others we’re not depleted and there’s still some left for us.

Click on the link below to listen in on our conversation, to be aired during her 1-week RELATIONSHIP MARATHON:

https://anchor.fm/crazyover40slife/episodes/Break-Intergenerational-Family-Trauma–Hosted-by-Caroline-Brown-e1nm361

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Monday, September 26, 2022

Interesting conversation with Michael Wiseman on his show

THE BIBLE SAYS WHAT!?

Michael engages in discussions challenging belief systems, especially between Atheists and Believers. We discussed my personal journey from growing up Atheist to finding the church-God-Bible to my current spiritual beliefs. I also shared some specific examples of the STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences that I wrote about in my award-winning spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Click on the YouTube link to watch our conversation:

https://youtu.be/rwsVOJI3RqI

 

Click on the link below to listen to our back-and-forth:

https://thebiblesayswhat.podbean.com/e/the-bible-says-what-episode-175-holy-yard-sale-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro/

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Spain’s Clarice has a YouTube channel called

EXPOSING THE NARCISSIST

Anyone who has experienced Narcissistic Abuse can tell you that you never need to or should try to expose them, as they expose themselves when their mask slips…which it will eventually.  According to Clarice, Narcissists are everywhere and come from all walks of life. She was raised by a narcissist and married for 15 years to one.

Her channel is all about shining a light on the hidden, dark tendencies of the Narcissist and bringing understanding and awareness to this evil that has plagued our society. The Narcissist’s world is based on lies and deceit.

Narcissists trap their Targets by having children.

According to Clarice, “Narcissists turn your own children against you. They will tell an endless amount of lies to get the children to side with them and view you (the loving parent) as the enemy! Their web of toxicity spreads far and wide.”

Sounds like  PARENTAL ALIENATION

Narcissists do tremendous damage to their own children. They even isolate the siblings from each other so they don’t have a positive (or any) relationship with their brother(s) or sister(s). They encourage sibling rivalry within the family.

If you know of a young adult who hates and doesn’t talk with their sibling(s) and also hates/fears/ignores one of their parents and that side of their side of the family, but has a great relationship with the other parent and that parent’s side of the family, chances are this young adult is in the throws of extreme Child Abuse due to Parental Alienation. Encourage them to learn about Parental Alienation, including Stockholm Syndrome, Independent Thinker Phenomenon and Narcissistic Personalty Disorders. The parent they love and are aligned with is a coercive controlling manipulator who has taught them to hate half of who they are based on lies and a false narrative.

Click on the link below to watch her latest 8.5 minute video entitled:

“The Most Evil Trap of the Narcissist: When the Narcissist Multiplies”:

https://youtu.be/IH1ISzG4Ydw

 

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Monday, September 26, 2022

Joined Lauren and Riley on the SOFIA UNFILTERED PODCAST

Our unfiltered conversation was about Transformative Wellness to expand our mindsets and delve deep into issues that impact our wellbeing. Sharing stories has the power to change lives, help others heal and transform the way we take care of ourselves.

I shared my personal journey and turning point that prompted me, a lifelong learner, to further research relationship dynamics, including personality/narcissistic disordered abusers, Domestic Violence and the devastating experience of Parental Alienation. It is so very necessary to do the deep inner work to self-reflect and look back to see how Intergenerational Family Trauma and Trauma Bonds/Patterns play a role in our unfulfilled expectations a d relationship issues.

We all can benefit from tools to address these often un-addressed issues. Sophia Health is a great resource.  My 5-book series  “True Deceit False Love”

is also just one of the many resources people can turn to when their lightbulb goes on and they realize they need to follow their gut intuition and set some healthy boundaries to protect themselves. It’s important to move from needing external validation to internally validating. Our healing journey involves acknowledging loss.

I am a loving mother without her children; that is real loss.

I also have to acknowledge that the choices I’ve made to leave an abusive marriage or set healthy boundaries with others, also contributes to experiencing grief and the loss of hopes and dreams. However, there is much to gain and a beautiful life to experience when you follow or rediscover your passions, embark on new experiences and stay true to your integrity and values.

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WONDERFUL WEEKEND WISDOM 

By  Lori Deschene

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Fri-YAY September 23, 2022

Heartfelt connection with  Andrea Vawda & Martin Lockett

on their podcast  ROCK THE BOTTOM

Andrea & Martin, two beautiful, thoughtful and articulate human beings, discover how we are all connected through our pain and struggles and how we can find healing likewise in our common bond. They both facilitate, through their amazing books and deep-reaching podcast, the sharing of stories that are compelling, inspiring and uplifting, exploring the challenges along with the journey to rise above adversity.

We discussed my personally heartbreaking “Rock Bottom” journey that was instrumental in positively changing my life trajectory leading me towards living a more authentic life. Despite enduring significant losses as a result of my choice to stay true to my integrity and values of honesty, love, compassion and forgiveness, I have been blessed to have the opportunity to enjoy a life of safety, peace, freedom and love.

How we choose to navigate our responses to life, directly contribute to being able to mentally overcome our challenges, whether these adversities are self-imposed or involuntarily presented to us. Truly self-actualized individuals go beyond themselves and are of service to others by taking their message to a wider audience with the intention to spread awareness by providing information and support.

Click on the link below to tune into both Part 1 & Part 2 of our heartfelt conversation:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-marni-hill-foderaro/id1590628093?i=1000590291694

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9-22-22

Sat down for a cup of TEA with Miss Liz, Elizabeth Gagnon of

TEA TIME WITH MISS LIZ

Miss Liz’s T.E.A. stands for Teach, Educate and Awareness

My T.E.A. stands for Trauma Survivor, Educator and Author

The goal of her podcast and her many, many other related endeavors is to encourage women to know that they can make a real difference in other’s lives by serving their own real TEA, which is a reflection on who you are.

Miss Liz and I had a heartfelt conversation regarding Parental Alienation and spousal abuse, which we both unfortunately have experience with.

She loved the creative and colorful approach to my 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview,

which is streamed on numerous platforms worldwide:

https://youtu.be/mnhsXs98ops

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Thursday, September 22, 2022

Connected with Canada’s Martika Whylly on her podcast

GRIEVE WITH EASE  Our episode is entitled

GRIEF AND PARENTAL ALIENATION

Grieve With Ease helps people find understanding and happiness after loss. Martika’s guests share stories of their experiences of death, loss, grief and the afterlife. Candid conversations help people heal and find comfort as they work toward achieving wellness. Martika is the author of  “Having Fun With God”

and was interested in my book

“God Came To My Garage Sale”

We both have a passion for writing and believe our words have the ability to help release pent up emotions and keep you in a positive frame of mind as you build a buffer between your negative thoughts and your sense of wellbeing. Writing provides a calming and clearing activity so your mind can release stress and help you define your struggles and successes. Our messages matter and can inspire others.

We discussed Parental Alienation and how going through this unfortunate family dynamic is like experiencing the death of your living children. You go through all the same stages of grief.  Surviving includes choosing to continue to live after loss.

I have unfortunately experienced all of the stages of grief

after losing our two adult children to the Child Abuse of

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1716882/11374192

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Thursday, September 22, 2022

Joined Pastor Robert Thibodeau on the  KINGDOM CROSS ROADS PODCAST

The KCR Podcast is rated in the top 0.5% of more than 2.7 million+ podcasts in existence, which Pastor Bob gives all the glory of that success to God. He wants to “get the word out” and wants others to be blessed in all they do.

Our interview highlighted my book

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and my 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE 

Our stories of our evolving faith are important to share.

Click on either link below to tune into PART 1 of our conversation:

https://www.boomplay.com/episode/2429856

https://kcrpodcast.com/episodes/god-came-to-my-garage-sale-marnie-hill-foderaro-pt-1

Click on either link below to tune into PART 2 of our conversation:

https://www.boomplay.com/episode/2435852

https://kcrpodcast.com/episodes/god-came-to-my-garage-sale-marnie-hill-foderaro-pt-2

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9-22-22

Took the  AGAPE LOVE DOMINATES  Challenge!

Click on the links below to learn about the challenge: 

https://youtu.be/ES5znTqKlrE

https://youtu.be/-Yz9QpcEF6E

Click on the link below to watch Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s

AGAPE Love Dominates Challenge:

https://youtu.be/dLn7FopitHM

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Wednesday, September 21, 2022

So Blessed to converse with JD Williams CEO OF YOU-STREAM-IT, LLC

on  REVELATION RADIO

JD explores God’s Word and Jesus Christ on  The Last Christian Podcast

and a wide variety of everyday subjects on his podcast called

IT’S PRIMETIME SOMEWHERE

JD’s outreach is enormous and extends to all 50 United States, as well as over 160 countries, however he believes that he has succeeded if his message reaches just one person. He encourages everyone to see the light and embrace the truth of what is happening in our world. I also believe that we are in Biblical Times where there is a spiritual war between the dark/evil and and light/goodness. JD, in his message, encourages folks to open the Bible and read the prophetic words of Ezekiel chapter 38, Isaiah 17:1 and much of Matthew to see the answers to today’s situation.

We discussed my journey from my childhood being raised in a devout Atheist household to my inner drive to discover if there was a higher power. I sought out organized religion as a young adult and was baptized. Later on I received other Sacraments and became a Lector for many years as I grew in my Faith.

It was after experiencing major traumatic events and enormous losses during a significant transition in my life that I had my lightbulb moments, which led me on a healing and awareness journey, bringing me closer to spirituality & self-actualization.

In fact, I believe I was shown the light of peace and salvation because

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

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Tuesday, September 20, 2022

Joined Marques Ogden on the podcast

GET AUTHENTIC WITH MARQUES OGDEN

Who is Marques Ogden? He’s much more than the host of an amazing podcast and a sought after professional public speaker. He is a former NFL player who went from riches to rags, but has risen from the ashes to help others stay true to their values and live with integrity. He interviews people ranging from award-winning authors, celebrities, professionals to athletes who have achieved the success they’ve always aspired to by living their lives with authenticity and vulnerability.

We discussed our philosophies on life and mottos we live by. It’s all about authenticity and living with honesty and integrity, doing the inner work to understand where you’ve been, where you are now and where you strive to go. Success looks different for each of us. Moving forward with authenticity brings you closer to you achieving your life’s goals.

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Tuesday, September 20, 2022

Long and Deep conversation with Kimberley Chapman of  WAKE UP WITH KC

Those souls that understand, break through and rise above from limited beliefs, programs and emotional energetic traumas can help others heal and transform their lives to discover the courage to begin again and be the best versions of themselves.

Kimberley addresses the misconceptions of who we are and the limiting beliefs and mental programs that hinder our spiritual growth and transformation. Overcoming traumas, especially intergenerational patterns and programming, that keep us prisoners of our own minds and bodies, can help us move away from being stuck in self-limiting beliefs and move towards freedom and self-actualization.

We need to get real, get real authentic and think outside the box. There are many who choose to stay stuck. Kimberley believes that some of those un-evolved souls present themselves as abusers or alienators that choose to stay in a very low energy vibration.

We discussed my books and how writing, research and doing the inner, self-reflection work has helped me understand my foundational flaws and preconceived ideas to make necessary changes regarding boundaries in relationships. Projecting my integrity and values of honesty, compassion, forgiveness and love onto others who are just not wired that way or aligned with a kind and caring heart, causes heartbreak. Surviving Domestic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma is a journey. The life lessons are life changing.

Click on the link below to watch the 200th episode:

https://youtu.be/7W97dwwL9CY

 

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Many adult children are finding out that they have half-brothers or half-sisters because their dad carried on a secret double or triple life for years, even decades, while he was married to their mom. It is more common than people know. These “love (affair) children” often look just like their dad, their siblings and even them.

For some of these “love children”, the question is: how confident are you that the man you call “dad”, who is married to your mom, is really your biological father?

According to a Live Science published study in The Guardian, one in 25 fathers may not be the biological parent of the child they believe to be theres! Their wife may have had an affair, got pregnant, had the baby and kept it a secret. She may have even kept the secret from the biological father she had the affair with! or not! The perceived “paternal discrepancy rate,” as it is called, ranges from 1%-30%.

There are some serious secrets and lies when cheaters engage in

TRUE DECEIT & FALSE LOVE

This happened in my own family! In my 50’s I learned of a first cousin I never knew about growing up and was kept a secret for decades. He looks like my brothers and me and has the same last name! This can happen with moms too…I know of someone’s grandmother who was married 8 times (yes, 8 times!!!) and had children with many of her ex or deceased husbands! I’m sure there were secrets! Bizarre!

So many “false love” secrets! So much “true deceit”!

Check out these stories how kids found out their dad has a secret second family:

https://www.insider.com/how-people-found-out-about-a-second-family-2019-1

Click the link below to watch a short video of yet another example of a dad living a double life with 5 children in his secret family; two women being duped for 15 years!:

https://youtu.be/b6sm0xx9Lic

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Monday, September 19, 2022

Beyond honored to have a conversation LIVE with Kim Becker of

the HELLO GORGEOUS podcast

Kim’s podcast addresses everything beauty and cancer, but she also invites other topics of overcoming challenges and reclaiming your life to be sprinkled into the mix. She creates a safe space to discuss acknowledging your situation and choosing to rise above to create a beautiful life for yourself, despite your losses and challenges.

We discussed my journey of surviving Domestic Abuse and Parental Alienation. Victims must learn to be aware and pay attention to the signs needed to get you on your survivor path to self-actualization.  Kim is a beautiful survivor of loss who brings hope and inspiration to the world by turning her pain into her power.

Click on one of the links below to hear our interview:

https://play.acast.com/s/the-book-nook/af89aee2-c488-48fe-8615-b58346772cf1

https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/1509a921-820e-44e3-9a89-93b29ae550e9/episodes/9361f966-54d2-453b-940a-ac472a4b0dec/hello-gorgeous-god-came-to-my-garage-sale—dr-marni-hill-foderaro

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Monday September 19, 2022

Joined fellow Midwesterner Keith Haney on  FROM MESS TO MIRACLE

We discussed my journey and how God is moving in the lives of everyday people, like you and me. Keith’s podcast highlights real life journeys in the lives of everyday people. I was invited to share how God showed up in my life during a very challenging time of transition to let me know I was loved and supported. I truly believe I came into direct contact with the love and grace of God.

Truth and goodness eventually prevails. Stay true to your integrity!

Click on the link below to listen to our season 4/episode 60 interview: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-mess-to-miracle/id1544613313?i=1000586407605

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Who knew it Would be a Weekend of Witty Ws?

Well, a tad Weary and Worn out from a Wet, Wacky, Wicked, Whirlwind of a Weekend of Wild and Wide band of Windy Weather Watches…

With Worrisome and Wretched Whopping Waves of Whirling Water…

Whipped up with Worthwhile, Wonderful, Whimsical, Wordy, Witty, Warrior Writing… (stay tuned for my essay on What Makes Me Happy!)

While We Waited, Wondered and Worried for 

FIONA’S  TROPICAL STORM/HURRICANE 

Wrath to Wind down, Weaken and Wither away and Wisk off to another part of the World! Sending prayers to our neighbors in Puerto Rico who were hit head on.

Wow! The things We do to entertain ourselves When We have to hunker down for days during a Weekend storm! I got a bit Wacked out With W Words, as you can see! 

There was a bit more excitement:  I caught my 23rd

BOA CONSTRICTOR SNAKE

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Woo Hoo! Wow! Wonderful Way to start the Weekend!

More international exposure by bringing awareness to the audience of

Contemporary Family Magazine:

Global Resources for Effective Parenting about

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation

My prominently endorsed book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

was featured on pages 7 & 22 in the Fall 2022  magazine issue of:

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Victims of Narcissist Abuse are surprised when others share their stories because they see their own story in other’s stories. These abusing types follow the same playbook:

What a bizarre threat, said to me by my Abuser along with his physical assault!

Isn’t it OUR house, OUR money & OUR children?

After almost 3 decades, why not a conversation instead of a threat?

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Thursday, September 15, 2022

Joined loving mom, Health and Vitality Coach, Christian, Nurse Practitioner

and TV Host Julie Ann Meyer on LIVE TV on

OWN YOUR WELLNESS

where guests on the trending and grassroots e360tv show, which highlights authentic people, important topics and real conversations with real influencers who share their journey to wellness and how they help others in the process.

Julie Ann digs deep to figure out the big WHY and helps others move forward with their life goals and stress relief for renewing their body, soul and mind. Own Your Own Wellness is about addressing the entire person and changes the way you look at your overall wellbeing. Everyone should be able to live a thriving life.

We discussed how our emotional wellbeing can affect our physical wellbeing. I shared my wellness journey, including my heartbreaks and my triumphs to offer hope and inspiration to others so that they can create a life they love. I have been fortunate to create a life I love and I live life enthusiastically with honesty, compassion and forgiveness, following my passions and newly found purpose. We need to love ourselves wholeheartedly and pay attention to our soul’s intuition.

I am thrilled that the messages in my award-winning spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and my prominently-endorsed 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

have resonated with so many, included the mentors that guided me who turned around and endorsed my books and supported my creative literary efforts to add to the resources and information available to help others understand and take positive action after realizing they have experienced Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch the replay:

https://youtu.be/YqK7x1HaFI4

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Thursday September 15, 2022

From New Zealand to the US Virgin Islands  met with an awesome “fulla” on the

JAKE CRULEE PODCAST

For a relatively young man, he is passionate, curious, thoughtful and wise beyond his years. Jake offers an empty space for others to freely express themselves with the intention to penetrate topics fully and honestly so his audience can take away nuggets of knowledge and insight, to improve their lives and make this a better world.

Our podcast episode #18 is entitled:  Surviving Narcissism, Deceit & Domestic Violence  (we also covered Gaslighting, Parental Alienation & Stockholm Syndrome)

Jake’s intention with his show is to have in-depth conversations that explore serious topics that penetrate the deepest levels of ourselves. With that in mind, we discussed narcissism and the absolutely heartbreaking and abusive dynamic of Parental Alienation, along with other topics related to healthy and unhealthy relationships. Navigating life is a journey and with each encounter we learn more, and our experiences increase our understanding as we grow in our self-worth and wisdom.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/isiRspjVihU

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Thursday, September 15, 2022

Joined Dr. Michael Thomas LIVE on

NITE MOODZ HQ

Our deep, honest and authentic conversation about life, destiny and navigating abusive relationships hopes to inspire others to know that they can get through adversity and challenges through trust, honesty, faith and

LOVE

Dr. Michael, through his life coaching and ministry, encourages all to deal and manage through stress and emotional anxieties which are connected to challenging situations we all face. We discussed how survivors can “COME THROUGH” trauma and pain, despite the significant losses endured and the amount of carnage abusers can inflict on their targets in the pathway of life. We can evolve and step into our freedoms as we understand our experiences and do the inner, self-reflection work to acknowledge what we must change, including strengthening healthy boundaries.

If you believe you are dealing with a dangerous covert malignant narcissist and/or experiencing Intimate Partner Violence, please don’t become a statistic at the hands of these mentally unstable, malevolent and unpredictable individuals. FYI:

DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE  1-800-799-7233

This hotline can also be reached by going to

 https://www.thehotlineorg

 

The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our conversation:

https://youtu.be/d1LerU7-QsI

 

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Wednesday, September 14, 2022

(Kids, so you know, 9/14 is your Loving Mom’s birthday;

I cherish all the cards you made for me for 20 years)

In-depth conversation on ONE MORE THING BEFORE YOU GO

with retired Police Officer Michael R. Herst who has an extensive professional background dealing with Domestic Violence, Spousal Abuse and alienators who want to destroy their ex by misusing the legal system, all of which I am unfortunately too familiar with. Michael also has personal experience with family dysfunction, so he was glad to bring awareness to Intergenerational Family Trauma and the creative resources provided by my prominently endorsed 5-book series:

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Michael believes that detailed discussions about real life issues with real people helps others feel less alone and can help them get through some tough times. He believes the personal journeys, the words never said, the deep discussions about loss and life are needed in this world. Our voices matter. Survivors’ voices matter.

Our episode is entitled: How To Manage Intergenerational Trauma

We focused in on Intergenerational Family Trauma and the role Domestic Abuse plays out throughout families, including the devastating dynamic of Parental Alienation. Doing the inner work to unpack not only the abuse you’ve endured, but the patterns of Intimate Partner Violence that resurface can lead to your realizing that setting healthy boundaries and the choice to intentionally estrange can protect yourself from the unhealthy and unequal familial relationships and further trauma.

Click on the link below to watch our in-depth and thoughtful interview, episode 216:

https://www.beforeyougopodcast.com/that-thing-about-managing-intergenerational-trauma/

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Tuesday, September 13, 2022

2nd amazing interview with North Carolina’s Pastor Brianna Headen, Lady B on

THE HEALING PLACE

we continued our conversation on handling adversity with honesty, compassion, wisdom, creativity and LOVE. She highlighted my 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

which provides resources and a creative response to surviving Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma. We then went on to discuss finding LOVE again, but TRUE LOVE this time round.

Through examples we showed that there is most definitely

LIFE AFTER ABUSE 

and you can go on to create a beautiful life for yourself, despite the significant losses you have endured and the malevolent, continued actions of others, knowing that you can only control yourself and your responses. Setting healthy boundaries with others and not enabling toxic interactions, including loving family and your own adult children from afar, means you are finally honoring your own safety and wellbeing. Lady B suggests that survivors look into Relational Intelligence. I sure will.

We shouldn’t concern ourselves with the false narratives spewed by narcissists’ outright deceitful or half-truth comments, as we know the reality and the

TRUTH WILL EVENTUALLY PREVAIL

“Your character will always outlive any lies told about you.”  ~Lady B 

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our 2nd interview:

https://youtu.be/jfyA_PsBcF8

 

Click on the link below to listen to our 2nd interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/life-after-abuse/id1524503764?i=1000580117301

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GCTMGS BOOK SHOUT OUT FROM RV!!!

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Tuesday, September 13, 2022

Honored to be interviewed for the

HEALING THROUGH LOVE PODCAST:  Shifting Awareness on Domestic & Family Violence

where Australia’s Adelaide-based Rose Davidson and Sharlene Lynch are shifting the awareness of Domestic Abuse and Family Violence with their social enterprise, where their vision is to support survivors with candid conversations and actionable takeaways.  Inside of my mess I had a message.

Healing doesn’t always come easy, and telling your story might make all the difference in your healing and helping someone else on their journey. You can heal and come out the other side. Even despite your significant losses, the gains you make by reclaiming your life can lead towards peace and happiness, and always  LOVE

Click on the link below to watch our conversation:

https://youtu.be/pl7NgWkw6Uw

 

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Monday September 12, 2022

Joined Bestselling Author Rob Actis on

LIVING THE LAW OF ACTION SHOW

on  LTR-LIFE TRANSFORMATION RADIO

Rob’s commitment to the show is to inform, motivate and inspire. He’s the Bestselling author of “The Law of Action.” Rob celebrates the challenges and the setbacks that ultimately lead to growth and betterment. Sharing stories of the healing spirit through candid conversations can help people live in love and take action.

Our episode is entitled  FACING LIFE’S CHALLENGES

We discussed my STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences and my positive outlook on my significant losses and life itself. Living in balance while moving forward with momentum and inspired action can help you overcome challenges and create success as you break free from fears, listen to your heart and amplify your life.

Click on the YouTube link below to listen to our interview:

https://youtu.be/8FIkJb9Tmio

 

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifetransformationradio/2022/09/15/facing-lifes-challenges-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro

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Click on the link below to check out my author interview featured in

Brand Education Magazine:

https://brand.education/the-rv-book-fair-author-marni-foderaro/

 

Hello author Marni, welcome to the RV Book Fair! What’s your favorite word and why? 

My favorite word is “LOVE.” I believe that LOVE is the highest vibration. All of us have challenges in our lives, but if we handle these challenges while looking through the lens of LOVE, then we can overcome anything.

What’s the last book you read?

As the author of the 2020 Best Books award winning spiritual fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale,” which was prominently endorsed by James Redfield, the bestselling author of “The Celestine Prophecy,” I enjoy reading about spirituality. However, since writing and publishing my prominently endorsed 5-book series “True Deceit False Love” which addresses surviving and thriving after experiencing Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma, I have been very interested in how professionals suggest to handle abusive and/or unhealthy relationships and situations. With that being said, the last book I read was Dr. Sherrie Campbell’s self-help book “Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to maintain boundaries, deal with criticism and heal from shame after ties have been cut.”

What’s the book that changed your life?

There have been so many books that have made a significant impact on my life. The Bible is one of those books that continues to enlighten me. I would have to say, though, that early on I was drawn to the writings of Anne Morrow Lindbergh because of her “Relatable Voice”  Her inspirational and bestselling book “Gift From The Sea” is one of my all-time favorites; her essay-style chapters highlighted various shells on the beach which inspired her to reflect on life, love, marriage, peace, solitude, contentment and caring for the soul. I regularly re-read this book and each time garner more insight into life.

What is your favorite thing about being a writer?

I am so thrilled to be an author as I truly appreciate the written word. I enjoy the entire process and that you can write down your thoughts, and afterwords you have a second chance at expressing yourself, the freedom to edit and make adjustments to clarify and add more detail to your message. Author Stephen King in his book “On Writing” states: “Books are a uniquely portable magic.” I also enjoy the quote by Nnedi Okorafor in “The Book of Phoenix”: “ I love books. I adore everything about them. I love the feel of the pages on my fingertips. They are light enough to carry, yet so heavy with worlds and ideas. I love the sound of the pages flicking against my fingers. Print against fingerprints. Books make people quiet, yet they are so loud.” One of my favorite musical performers is my friend Livingston Taylor (yes, legendary folk singer James Taylor’s brother and yes, for those that follow me, I have sung the duet “Loving Arms” with Livingston Taylor on stage 11 times over a 35 year period) and his original song “Railroad Bill” ends with the writer of the song taking charge of the character’s pen (literally and figuratively) and rewriting the ending of the song. Liv’s last line is: “Dear God, I love to write…” I love that Liv loves to write because I love to read Liv’s song writing. Throughout my own writing journey, I have personally found that words have the power to hurt, but words also have the power to heal.

If you could tell your young writing self anything, what would it be?

I would encourage my young writing self to keep a journal, and tell her that writing can refine your thinking and be very therapeutic, especially when you need to work out the thoughts that ruminate in your head.

What inspired you to start writing?

I didn’t set out to be an author, even though my late mother, Elizabeth Ann Waldenmaier Hansen, was a genius writer and her voluminous vocabulary and positive influence had a significant impact on me as she encouraged “the scholar sun to shine” on my reading and writing. Of course I was required to write and publish a thesis for my masters degree and a dissertation for my doctorate degree. However, my actual writing career began in midlife, just as I was retiring from a successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 of those years as a university adjunct graduate school professor. After experiencing numerous spiritual encounters at an ordinary garage sale I was compelled to put pen to paper to share my experiences. You see, I escaped an unhealthy 27-year marriage and as a result suffered significant unexpected and traumatic losses: my “American Dream” and most everything that provided me with safety and security, my home (which I was told was paid off for a decade, but was actually in foreclosure), my assets, my money, my support system (friends, family and neighbors who bought into a false narrative and aligned with my abuser), and I even lost my adult children to Parental Alienation. My choice to file for divorce and make this significant life change had many repercussions which resulted in my having to downsize… which led to having a life-changing garage sale… which led to experiencing spiritual miracles….which then led to writing my first book! This journey led me to self-reflect and do the inner work to understand my core wounds, family of origin traumas and role in relationship dynamics. This journey led me to leaving negativity and releasing unhealthy people and situations from my life, setting healthy boundaries, embracing positivity and connecting with honest and compassionate people, reclaiming my life, practicing self-love and self-care, following my passions, finding true companionship and living safely with peace and happiness. This journey led me to expressing my thoughts through the written word, resulting in me being an author.

Do you hear from your readers much? What do they say?

It has been amazingly validating to hear from the readers of my books. Readers of “God Came To My Garage Sale” tell me how relatable my book is, especially when they learn that everything I wrote about was inspired by true experiences; many have gone on to tell me that they have also encountered STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences or NDEs-Near Death Experiences, but never felt comfortable enough to talk about them and reading my book gave them the courage to share their testimony. Readers of my 5-book series “True Deceit False Love” appreciate having informative tools and a creative outlet to dealing with relationship trauma situations. I hear from many wonderful Targeted Parents, loving dads and moms, who have lost their young and/or adult children to the unfortunate dynamic of Parental Alienation (which researchers state is a form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence), who tell me that more awareness is needed on this topic and they appreciate the efforts I am making to help bring forward that much-needed awareness and understanding on how to cope after a parent basically experiencing the death of a living child or children. Having these candid conversations (with the written and spoken word) can help others because the voices of survivors matter and provide hope. 

What does literary success look like to you?

I believe that literary success looks different for each individual. As an author, I am not about book sales and know that choosing to be an author is not typically a money-making endeavor; it is a passion. Very few authors make it big with a top publisher or blockbuster bestseller. I believe literary success can be defined by achieving your personal writing goals. There is great satisfaction from seeing your writing published, and even more satisfaction knowing that your work has made a positive impact on others. I am honored that my award winning spiritual fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale” is a popular book club pick and has been chosen for numerous book clubs around the world! 

Where do you dream traveling to and why?

I have always been fascinated with world travel, ever since I lived in Athens Greece as a child, so I try to make my traveling dreams a reality. I am very fortunate to spend my days and travel with my loving life partner Rick, who also enjoys experiencing other foreign lands, cultures and people. We have spent a month in India, a month in Thailand and a month in Israel. We have visited numerous places in the United States, Mexico and Europe…even Iceland, most recently with a Book Signing tour which included a river cruise in the Pacific Northwest and visits to several National Parks.

Aside from writing, what do you enjoy doing on your spare time? 

After retiring from my career in education, I moved from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs to the Caribbean, where Rick and I have lived for over three years. I am immersed in nature and appreciate the beauty of the tropics and the culture of island living; I enjoy hiking in the rainforest, tending to my organic garden, taking art classes at the local museum, finding sea glass at the beach and snorkeling in the ocean.

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UNDERSTANDING THE TRAITS OF AN ADULT CHILD RAISED BY A NARCISSISTIC PARENT

“Narcissists make the world’s absolute worst parents and the damage they cause their children emotionally, psychologically and developmentally can be catastrophic and results in extreme and complex trauma from this abuse.” 

Jill Wise, The Enlightened Target

Many adult children of a narcissistically abusive parent develop the following 10 manifestations: 

1. low, fragile self-esteem

2.  continued intergenerational pattern of abuse

3. extreme people pleaser

4. substance abuse issues leading to full-blown addiction

5. deep feelings of inadequacy leading to anxiety disorders and depression

6. rigidness and perfectionism

7. eating disorders

8. self-harm or mutilation

9. chronic and continual self-blame

10. wrongly cutting out their loving, safe, targeted parent because the narcissist has used them as a weapon to destroy their ex

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE & PARENTAL ALIENATION ARE HATE CRIMES!

Click on the link below to watch this short video:

https://youtu.be/2WZPAxu9n3Y

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Woohoo! It’s the Weekend!

What a Wonderful surprise: I was just featured in  BLACKBIRD NEWS!

Embedded within this feature article is my May 2021 interview with World Authors’ award-winning author Lucia Matuonto of Uncut with Lucia & the September 2022 RV (Relatable Voice) International Book Fair that I was asked to participate in.

We discussed my first book, the prominently-endorsed spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

This is video is from the pre- “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

 interview when I was taking writing classes, co-authoring anthology books and my guest article was featured in the Mariel Hemingway-front-covered May 2021 issue of

EDEN MAGAZINE

We discussed my writing process, from organization to inspiration to publication.

Click on the link below to check out this shout-out in

Blackbird News:

https://www.blackbirdnews.com/celebrated-author-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-is-interviewed-in-the-uncut-with-lucia-series-here-are-the-insights/

 

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Fri-YAY 9-9-22

Great conversation with the wise & beautiful DJ Robinson on PLAYING 4 KEEPS

DJ’s mission is to help people build deep genuine connections in relationships through self-improvement. She believes it’s important to focus on emotional intelligence, mental health, love attachment theory and how that all relates to having healthy relationships and being more self-aware. We must self-reflect to grow.

Our topic was identifying Red Flags and following your gut intuition to help signal you to really step back and pay attention to the dynamics going on in relationships. Be careful because narcissists can be abusive and will use Mirroring in the Love-Bombing Phase and later on will use Gaslighting and Triangulation.

DJ asked what my deal-breaker was, and I shared that HONESTY is the virtue that will now determine whether I stay in relationships. I have learned some hard lessons involving betrayal and deceit from people who I loved dearly, and I no longer want to put up with (or like DJ says: “dance with”) liars.

Life is an ongoing journey and we must learn lessons regarding relationships so we can love and be loved in an honest, compassionate and healthy way.

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Happy Fri-YAY  September 9, 2022

Survivors who speak the truth and share their stories of adversity and perseverance in candid conversations hope to inspire, encourage and challenge us.

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Thursday, September 8, 2022

Honored to talk with Dave Pamah, an amazing father, retired firefighter, former track star, podcast host and fellow Balboa Press/Hay House author on

THE DAVE PAMAH SHOW 

This wonderful man seeks to revive, restore, awaken and reform our innermost capabilities. He believes and is a living proof that if you desire an accomplished life and want to develop the right mindset that drives your passions, you can self-actualize, even when faced with deep challenges and adversity.

These candid conversations make a worldwide connection through the pockets of experiences from those who have thrived and toiled and have been able to see the world’s beauty, knowing that life is so much more beneath the surface.

Hopefully our honest interview will inspire you to come away transformed, invigorated and energized to live life to its fullest.

Click on the link below to watch our conversation, episode 443:

https://www.davepamah.com/author-interview-true-deceit-false-love/

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Click on link for the Little Shaman’s take on the narcissist’s ego:

https://youtu.be/HggP91sNNGo

 

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9-6-22

“G’day mate”: zoomed over to Australia with Jake Pearson on his “bonzer” podcast

WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?

Jake wants to make happiness more accessible for everyone, so he gives his guests 5 minutes to share their short and sweet messages about what makes them happy. “With 1440 minutes in the day, it’s easy to spend time thinking about everything but your happiness. So why not take 5 minutes to remind yourself of all the happiness you have.” I was honored to share 5 minutes with Jake about what makes me happy.

I love writing, so I chose to write an acrostic for HAPPY.

I’ve always been a happy person. Despite enduring significant losses and surviving unbelievable adversity, I still believe “the glass is half full” and am grateful for the many blessings I’ve been given. I sincerely see the good in humanity and the beauty of God’s creations as I navigate this earthly journey learning life’s lessons.

Click on the link below to watch my interview on what makes me happy:

https://youtu.be/K9OyF79MVSk

 

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Tuesday, September 6, 2022

1st of 2 interviews with Pastor, Counselor & Life Coach Lady B: Brianna Headen

on her WDRB radio show & podcast platform

RESTORATION PLACE & THE HEALING PLACE

Our segment highlighted women who have gone through the healing process of trauma from Domestic Violence from an abuser who displays Narcissistic Personality Disordered traits. We got into the real-life issues that plague victims’ souls and create deep wounds that take years to understand, unpack and heal from.

Lady B wants to bring awareness to the schemes that these abusers use to keep targets in bondage while robbing them of their identity, self-worth and abundant life, not to mention that these calculating and controlling perpetrators rob their targets of their homes, money, support system and even children to Parental Alienation.

Even though targets were “love-bombed” to believe a false reality, very accomplished and capable women can easily fall prey to these types of predators, ignoring glaring red flags and suppressing traumas in what she call an “invisible box.” Lady B also wants to understand what goes through the thought process of the victims and how they can escape these abusers to live in safety and peace by reclaiming their lives.

Click on one of the links below to watch our 1st interview,

entitled “Surviving Domestic Violence”:

https://youtu.be/MoZjsqjAShw

https://youtu.be/SLL48J2JPtg

 

Click on the link below to watch our 2nd interview,  entitled “Life After Abuse”:

https://youtu.be/jfyA_PsBcF8

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Tuesday, September 6, 2022

met another soul-sister in Chrissy Cordingley, who is a wonderful mother from Canada and a successful podcast host of

THE FLARE UP SHOW

Chrissy wants to make empathy great again! Perseverance in facing life challenges head on, while understanding and dealing with tough situations, helps people overcome great obstacles and teaches us the many ways we can expand our minds and bodies to create a life and community worth living in.

A FLARE is defined as an onset of multiple systems. Just as flare ups can be negative, we can “flare up” in a positive way to rise above challenges toward becoming the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves. Our voices matter and we can positively impact the world by having these candid conversations with one another.

We discussed as loving mothers how important it is to stay true to our values of honesty, love and compassion by role modeling for our children the positive ways to handle adversity and life’s challenges. We have already given our beautiful children a wonderful foundation to guide them toward independence and awareness in their own life journey, and at some point we have to realize they will be influenced by others, and some of that influence may not be positive or in their best interest. We cannot control the harm that others do, but we can control how we choose to respond. We know our unconditional love for our kids and know that someday their lightbulb of truth will shine bright and they will realize it too. Goodness shall and will prevail!

Click on the link below to hear our interview, episode #27:

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/4DNB4I9vatb

 

Chrissy writes in her show notes:

“Dr. Marni shares her story of recovery and healing after experiencing abuse from her narcissistic former spouse which resulted in her losing everything – her marriage, friends, support, finances, her home, and eventually her relationship with her adult children. While she knew she needed to be free from her abuser, the unraveling and aftermath were traumatic themselves. Narcissists have a way of manipulating and positioning themselves as the victim and influencing those nearest and dearest to us to start to believe their false narratives. 

During these dark and isolating days, Marni found her faith and spirituality, which led to her healing and recovery journey, at an unexpected time – her garage sale! This sparked the idea for her book, a collection of stories called God Came to My Garage Sale and her healing inspired her set of 5-books ‘TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE‘ that help people recover from family trauma, parental alienation, abuse, and narcissism.”

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Monday, September 5, 2022

Sweet conversation with the very sweet Dionne Sanchez on her podcast

WORDS OF HEART

This young, beautiful woman is wise beyond her 27 years: she has not only survived many medical challenges, but she is a thriving miracle, both physically, emotionally and spiritually. She and I both know that LOVE is the highest vibration, and that God has blessed us on this amazing, yet sometimes challenging, earthly journey. What a joy it was to talk with her about the transcendental power of

LOVE 

When we, as empaths, learn about red flags and set boundaries with relationships…like Dionne said, “even with family”…it doesn’t mean we don’t love others deeply, it means that we need to love ourselves more than we have previously and honor our own emotional wellbeing. It’s about taking care of us, not about anything negative towards them; that’s not who we are or who we ever were.

We have just come to a time in our lives when we need to take an honest look at our relationship dynamics with others. There may be extreme imbalance or trauma bonds. Positive relationships are ones where both parties feel sincerely valued, truly supported and unconditionally appreciated. We should be able to live peacefully without chaos, judgment, negativity and the constant challenging of our beliefs, ideas and interests, prompting us to suffer in silence or naturally react in defense.

Putting up healthy boundaries may very well prompt them to gang up with others on a smear campaign against you, pointing the finger at your flaws while never reflecting on themselves and what they may have done that prompted you to step back. Narcissists are unable and unwilling to see their role in the relationship breakdown and resort to playing the victim, even though they have either stopped reaching out because they acknowledge their wrongdoing or they may obsessively try to engage with you, as they want to continue the unhealthy dynamics. We must sometimes make some tough decisions to lovingly walk away to be able to stay true to our values and integrity, and live without deceit. Sometimes the love is false and the deceit is true.

Learning to love yourself is also a long journey. LOVE WILL PREVAIL!

Click below to watch our video interview:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tLO1a-irnpo

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Labor Day 2022 September 5th 

Reading is a LABOR of Love, and so is writing!

Joined Courtney Ripoll-McBride on her podcast

RIPOLLSWORKSHOP READS

to discuss reading and writing. We highlighted

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

& my 5-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

but also got into talking about anthology books and what they are all about. I gave some tips to her audience on shooting for the stars and getting endorsements, along with other advice for those writers just starting out on their literary journey. 

Click on the link below to listen our interview:

https://www.ripollsworkshopreads.com/podcast

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Saturday, September 3, 2022

Joined E.V. Escher on disembodied podcast a non-religious tour of spiritual topics

E.V. is interested in raising consciousness with the focus on esoteric or inner work. She wants to broaden perspectives when it comes to spirituality.

We discussed my STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences (including my 50-100 circling dragonflies encounter and my dream visitation from my late mom, just some of my many other-worldly experiences) that inspired me to write my 

AWARD WINNING

(GCTMGS has won three —yes 3 !!!— awards, including the 2020 Best Books Award finalist, 5-Star Reader’s Favorite & 2022 Hollywood Book Fest runner-up)

Spiritual fiction & possible MOVIE (inspired by true events!) entitled

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Click on the link below to hear our interview:

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8xMTAzNjk5LnJzcw/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC0xMTQ5MTI1Ng

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Wow! What a Wonderful Weekend!

Honored that my dear friend and colleague Tracy A. Malone of

narcissist abuse support

reached out and asked me to write a feature blog for her website on 

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Tracy does amazing work as a surTHRIVER in providing resources, support and hope to men and women dealing with unhealthy, toxic and/or abusive relationships and understanding their trauma, including the Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence resulting from losing your young or adult children to Parental Alienation.

Click on the link below to read Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s blog essay on P.A.:

https://narcissistabusesupport.com/parental-alienation-what-is-it-and-how-do-you-cope/

 

Click on the link below to check out Tracy A. Malone’s website:

https://narcissistabusesupport.com/

 

Click on the link below to purchase Tracy A. Malone’s bestselling book:

https://www.amazon.com/Divorcing-Your-Narcissist-Cant-Make/dp/173650780X

Parental Alienation: 

What Is It and How Do You Cope?

Written by Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

After close to three decades and without any planning, I chose to escape a narcissistically abusive marriage. Wow! I wished I would have read Tracy A. Malone’s book “Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up!” because then I would have learned from her extensive research and experience about the “covert tricks they pull” and I could have planned for a more comfortable exit. 

I could have chosen one lawyer who understood covert, malignant narcissism as opposed to the very costly 15 lawyers it took over many, many years (and which still continues to this day; yes, I am still being dragged into court in  2022, even after filing for divorce in 2013 with the “final” judgement in 2015) to sift through the abuser’s fraud, bad faith petitions and legal chaos in my efforts to simply fight for truth, justice and equity. I might have been able to keep my house and assets. I might not have credit issues as I experienced the depletion of all my hard-earned money. I might not have lost all of my neighbors and most of my friends, family and coworkers to the false narrative, outright lies and believable half-truths of an aggressive smear campaign. But more importantly, I might not have lost my two adult children to Parental Alienation.

My decision to file for divorce came with shocking consequences that took me by surprise. I knew that there would be repercussions because my lightbulb was clearly illuminated when the narcissist’s mask slipped and some of his many secrets were exposed, but I had no idea of the extent of what was to come as a result of my choice. I honestly and very naively thought I could end my marriage and we could co-parent our adult children as we respectively went our separate ways. That’s not how these scenarios play out when you are dealing with someone who has malevolent intentions and psychopathic tendencies. 

When I lost my “American Dream,” and most everything that provided me with safety, security and stability, my reality was shattered. However, it wasn’t until experiencing a parent’s worst nightmare that my world was forever changed. I was certain that I had already endured my share of life’s obstacles and challenges, then the unthinkable happened: I lost my two adult children to Parental Alienation.

Parental Alienation is a worldwide epidemic affecting millions of men, women, children and families and is considered by renowned psychological researchers to be a severe form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. This unfortunate dynamic often happens to dads and moms after a divorce or separation where the children suddenly become loyal to and align with the parent who psychologically manipulates, brainwashes and empowers them to unjustifiably reject, hate, fear and become hostile towards their other loving, normal-range parent. Parental Alienation is a calculated and intentional campaign of denigration to attempt to destroy loving parent-child bonds by enlisting the children as a means for revengeful abusers to inflict further harm on their former partner.

The innocent children are used as weapons in the vindictive parent’s war of revenge to discredit, punish, isolate and hurt their ex, the loving, targeted parent. Despite positive, wonderful and firsthand foundational experiences that should prove otherwise, even adult children can be easily brainwashed with cult-like strategies into believing that one of their parents, and that entire side of their family, is bad, should be feared and avoided at all costs. The abuser’s calculated mission is to destroy your relationship with your kids. After they leave you homeless, deplete your finances, ruin your reputation and credit, jeopardize your job, negatively impact your physical health, turn your friends, family and neighbors against you and force you to engage in frivolous legal court proceedings, they will take away what means the most to you: your children. These alienators don’t take into account or even care about the lifelong emotional damage they are inflicting on their own children. The alienators care more about destroying the other parent than they care about the wellbeing of their own children.

If the children are minors, the alienators will often go to great lengths to misuse authorities and the family court legal system to convince therapists, guardian ad litems, lawyers and judges to deny the loving parent custody or limit visitation with false accusations, forged documents and misrepresentations. If the children are adults, the alienators set the stage for the children to be controlled, financially dependent and bought off with elaborate gifts. Some abusers even encourage the adult children to threaten the other parent with police arrests, or to actually press charges and file restraining orders against their other parent. In all cases, alienators will do everything and anything to destroy that other parent and the loving bond shared between that parent and the kids. Some abusers inflict the ultimate punishment by murdering their ex and/or the children. Questioning outsiders often believe that the targeted parent must have done something to deserve the estrangement. Nothing could be further from the truth. Researchers have shown that this form of rejection is absolutely unnatural, unwarranted and instigated by one malevolent person: the alienating parent.

Alienated adult children feel justified in their anger, fear and/or hostility, eventually cutting off all contact with one of their parents, and usually that side’s extended family. The alienating parent will directly or indirectly, through gaslighting, projection, smearing, blatant lies and believable half-truths, paint the negative picture that their other parent is crazy, unstable, dangerous or incapable of properly loving or caring for their own children, even if they were actually considered by the abuser as a wonderful parent with no complaints prior to the separation. Abusers will use blame-shifting by wrongly accusing their ex of mistreating the children or putting them in harm’s way to make themselves look like the better parent. They portray a false positive public persona as they act one way in front of others and another way behind closed doors. However, adult children know deep down which parent lies, cheats and steals and which parent doesn’t. Still, the children side with the alienating parent because they know the safe parent’s love is unconditional. These kids live in fear of abandonment and feel that if they don’t support the narcissistic abusing parent, the consequences to their life would be detrimental.

I am a targeted mom of almost a decade. My abuser, through his calculated and malevolent broad-reaching agenda, was able to get our adult children to align with him and reject me. It is very unnatural for a loving parent to have their children wrongly ripped away from their life, especially after raising them into their twenties and previously enjoying a loving and healthy relationship. Researchers conclude that children do not reject a normal-range, loving parent unless they are coerced to do so. Devastated, sad, confused and shocked, I struggled to understand why bad things and injustices happen to good, honest, loving, empathetic and upstanding people, and this includes Parental Alienation.

I was living the “American Dream,” raising my two beautiful children, working in a fulfilling 35-year career as a special education high school teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor, residing in a gorgeous home complete with the quintessential white picket fence, studying for an advanced degree, pursuing my hobbies and interests and volunteering for worthwhile causes. I was on top of the world. A deep sense of compassion was woven into the fabric of my empathetic being. As a person of integrity who believes in love, honesty, commitments, fidelity, fiscal responsibility, perseverance and good will, I thought that everyone I was close to had those same intrinsic moral values, especially my partner. Like many Domestic Violence victims and survivors before me, I learned the hard way that your spouse and others close to you can betray you, be covertly abusive and take advantage of your trusting empathetic nature. Abusers and Alienators are malevolent predators and don’t let their targeted prey go easily and for years I continued to be and am still smeared, stalked and silenced.

Although my adult children are alive, Parental Alienation can be compared to experiencing your children’s physical death; targeted parents go through all of the same stages of grief, you are just grieving the death of living children. Days of no contact turn into weeks, months and in my case years. It is still hard to accept that adult children would cut off all contact from a parent who gave them such a wonderful and happy life with unconditional love and support. Through researching this form of child abuse, I have now learned that cult-like brainwashing, coercive control and manipulation can lead children to experiencing “Stockholm Syndrome” and “Independent Thinker Phenomenon.” The children are empowered and rewarded by the alienator to feel justified in rejecting half of who they are. It’s so very heart wrenching for a loving parent to have no or limited ability to protect their children from the abuse of Parental Alienation. As we parents suffer, we need to remember that our children are also dealing with unbelievable pain and loss.

As an erased mom I was forced into survival mode. Despite the negativity, pain and darkness, I chose to embrace positivity, love and light, like I have always done throughout my life when faced with adversity. Through this trauma I chose to handle this life challenge with love, compassion, goodness and forgiveness. Yes, I have eventually come to the stage of forgiving my abuser and those who have caused me harm. Acknowledging my grief and loss and learning about the Cluster B behaviors and Covert Malignant Narcissistic Personality Disordered individuals ultimately became the impetus to reclaiming my life. Carrying on seemed impossible because motherhood was such a huge part of how I defined myself. Coming to terms with my new reality, I researched Parental Alienation to learn as much about it as I could. It has been said that knowledge is power. It doesn’t take the pain away, but knowledge does lead to greater understanding and acceptance.

Experiencing Parental Alienation and understanding the dynamics of my abuser’s undiagnosed condition and behaviors have helped me heal from the gut wrenching heartache caused by this severe form of Family Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined I would lose both of my adult children to Parental Alienation. It is still mind-boggling that this happened, especially with two decades of healthy, normal-range parent-child interactions. This devastating trauma has completely changed the course of my life.

To cope, I did a great deal of soul searching and research to make sense of my experiences and process what I’ve been through. A very necessary step in the healing process is to do the inner, shadow work. I needed to reflect on my own childhood experiences, family dynamics, core wounds and Intergenerational Family Trauma to see my role in the situation. I had to learn about and acknowledge my own traits and behaviors that contributed to my being a chosen target for abuse, which included being an over-giver, a people pleaser, an extreme empath and someone who did not have healthy boundaries. I had to learn about trauma-bonds. I had to do a deep dive into my own life conditioning to fully understand the situation I found myself in, and make some necessary changes to be emotionally healthier.

It wasn’t easy and didn’t happen overnight, but my healing journey eventually led to my living a blessed life filled with gratitude, purpose, peace and love. I even pray for my abuser and all abusers for them to heal their core wounds and to be guided to kindness and goodness. Even though I currently face life without my adult children, I understand that they have their own journeys on this earthly plane. Love, honesty and goodness have always guided me; I can only hope and pray that my alienated children remember those same instilled values, and the truth will be uncovered.

Over time I was engulfed with reassuring and peaceful feelings of pure love instead of anger, despair or vindictiveness. My heart was filled with hope and gratitude for so many wonderful years of treasured experiences and happy times my children and I experienced together. Even though the alienator has most likely destroyed or discarded anything that would encourage our children to elicit positive memories with me, I was thankful that I took numerous photographs, made extensive scrapbooks and kept digital files so there’s tangible proof of my children’s happy upbringing and the love they shared with their mother.

What keeps me going despite the devastating loss of my children to Parental Alienation? I would say that my integrity, belief in a higher power, staying true to my values and realizing that I cannot control the negative behaviors that others do; I can only control myself and how I choose to respond. I have made a conscious choice to reclaim my life. I know not everyone can handle this devastation. It’s important for me to show my kids that good, honest people continue to take the high ground, even when faced with adversity. Actions speak louder than words. Deep down they know that their mom is not the bad person their other parent made me out to be. At some point however, the loving targeted parent, must look out for their own emotional health and wellbeing.

I now have a renewed sense of purpose to live a joy-filled existence. Even though my adult children are not part of my day-to-day, I understand that we all have our own journeys and believe that eventually my children will know the truth they were fed a false narrative and that their mom has always loved them to the moon and back. I feel it’s important as a responsible mom to continue to be a role model for my children, so they can witness a positive, productive response to a horrific situation. Children need to understand that there will always be adversity and challenges in our lives, but that we have the power to respond in a way that does not contribute in a negative manner.

I found tremendous healing by processing my feelings and experiences through meditation, prayer and the written word, thus, the author in me was born. Writing has helped me make sense of this unwarranted alienation, transforming my pain into power. Recovering from the unbelievable trauma of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma is a process for all who are targeted by the misguided evil doers. Unfortunately, our abused children need to have their lightbulbs of truth turned on for them to begin to understand what really happened and to heal from the injustices done to them by their alienating parent. 

There is always hope for reuniting, although so much valuable time has been lost and abused children and targeted parents can’t get back the years of separation. The pain of missed milestones creates such sadness, but there is the possibility of reuniting and creating new connections and new memories. The abuser can try to erase you and rewrite history, but loving parent-child bonds cannot truly be severed. 

I am now finding my voice in the hopes of inspiring others and validating their journeys, as I continue to heal. The experiences and voices of survivors matter, and we should not be silenced for speaking the truth, despite the fear the abuser attempts to instill by their threats. Our words need to be heard, however uncomfortable the conversation may be or the abuser’s direct or indirect efforts to silence us. Truth, compassion, goodness, peace and love will and must prevail. 

I want to extend an inspirational message of empowerment to all the beautiful dads, moms,  children and family members who find themselves in darkness and despair, or living through life’s challenges, including Domestic Violence and Parental Alienation. Nobody deserves to experience abuse. However, enduring trauma and devastating loss can actually be the catalyst leading you to a positive turning point in your life. Just when you think you can’t survive and go on, you can find the inner strength to persevere. I did the work to understand Parental Alienation and it helps. Despite significant losses, I choose to live a blessed, purposeful and joy-filled life and am hopeful that others can as well. Seize life’s challenges as opportunities to reflect as you search for deeper meanings to make sense of your experiences. I sincerely pray that your journey brings you lasting joy, authentic love and many blessings. As a person who has experienced the trauma of Parental Alienation, I believe that there is hope that you CAN survive and thrive. As Tracy A. Malone says, “You can be a surTHRIVER!”

 Written by: Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro, award-winning speaker, educator and author of “God Came To My Garage Sale” and the 5-book series “True Deceit False Love.”

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro is an award-winning and celebrated author, speaker and educator. She earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard during a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor. Marni’s life was forever changed after experiencing numerous trauma-induced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Encounters. Marni’s 5-Star Reader’s Favorite, 2022 Hollywood Book Fest Runner-Up and 2020 Best Books Award Winning Spiritual fiction “God Came to My Garage Sale” is prominently endorsed by James Redfield, best selling author of “The Celestine Prophecy” series of books and founding directors of IANDS (International Association for Near Death Studies). Marni’s latest prominently endorsed 5-book series is entitled: “True Deceit False Love” addresses Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma. Marni is a lover of animals, nature, music and world travel who handles life’s challenges with love and compassion. She values honesty, integrity, equality and goodness and prays for peace on earth. Marni was born in the South, raised her children in the Midwest and lives in the Caribbean. In addition to her speaking engagements and various writing endeavors, Marni is a contributing author to numerous anthology books. In January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization. 

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s books are sold on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Balboa Press/Hay House and wherever fine books are sold. 

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

Her podcast and T.V. interviews, guest articles, speaking engagements, book signings and events can be found under “Happenings” on her website.

https://www.GodCameToMyGarageSale.com

 

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Happy Fri-YAY September 2, 2022

Time to talk healing with Marla Miller of  OPEN-MINDED HEALING

Marla and I had an in-depth heart-to-heart about how trauma and emotional stress related to staying in abusive and/or toxic relationships and situations can negatively impact our physical health. When your lightbulb is illuminated to the fact that you need to make the tough decision to leave behind certain people (your spouse, best friend, even some family members) that keep you in an unhealthy connection or trauma-bond and you escape to reclaim your life to honor your integrity, not only are you practicing emotional self-care and getting yourself to a place of safety, peace, and happiness, but you can enjoy restored physical health so you can pursue your passions and go on to live a truly blessed and authentic life.

Our 42 minute episode S1 E51 is called 

TRANSCENDING TRAUMA AND TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Only you can control how you respond to the challenges and adversities placed on your path. The mind and our choices play a large role in whether we stay as victims or we rise above as thrivers towards our self-actualization. The consequences of making these tough decisions can, and often do, result in many significant losses, but the positive gains from your life lessons are more rewarding than you can imagine.

There’s no time like the present to do an overhaul on your life, weeding out what and who no longer serves you and letting in the honest people and positive situations that add to your life. You don’t have to put up with people who don’t truly value or support you, or people that just make you feel bad after talking with them.

Click on the link below to hear our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marni-hill-foderaro-transcending-trauma-and-toxic/id1583105948?i=1000580057468

 

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Fri-YAY 9-2-22

Joined Wize El Jefe LIVE on his podcast  STUCK IN MY MIND

where Wize is passionate about helping others and inspiring people to have fun and enjoy life by having candid conversations with amazing, everyday people with authentic stories to share. We discussed rising above our losses and challenging situations to follow our passions and live a self-actualized life.

Click on the link below to watch the replay:

https://youtu.be/3vNiWoqnS5o

 

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Today I received a wonderful text from a very dear friend. Yes, many times, words can hurt…but today, my friend’s encouraging words provided healing. She wrote:

“Marni, I have never seen a more devoted and loving Mother as you. Keep doing what you are doing…living a full, active life and thriving in spite of heartache.”

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Wednesday, August 31, 2022

Honored to join award-winning author and podcast host Emily Thiroux Threatt,

from her island of Maui, Hawaii to my island of St. Croix, USVI on

GRIEF AND HAPPINESS

Aloha! Our episode is entitled:  HEALING & FORGIVENESS

Emily has experienced grief and has not only survived, but is thriving. She has taken her pain and turned it into her power, and now helps inspire others to find happiness. Emily’s podcast and mission as the author of “Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief” and her upcoming book “Ignite Forgiveness” is to help people who are dealing with grief or loss find comfort, support, love and happiness. She encourages those left behind to learn ways to live their best life, cultivate joy and carry on in the face of loss. We both find writing healing and therapeutic.

Grief doesn’t always involve the physical death of a loved one. Emily and I discussed my many losses after I chose to escape my 27-year marriage. I lost my home, assets, money, support system of friends, family, neighbors, but the most devastating loss of all, was the grief I experienced after losing the two beautiful adult children I share with my ex to Parental Alienation, which prominent psychological researchers believe is a form of Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence. I am a loving mom who experienced the death of my living children.

How targets choose to handle the adversities they face on this earthly plane, especially at the hands of malevolent others, highlights their innate goodness and integrity. Evolved souls can respond with compassion, forgiveness and the highest vibration of all….

LOVE

Learning about alienators’ personality disorders and understanding the dynamics resulting from their harmful actions can help targets process the horrors they’ve endured, make sense of their abuse and their losses and help them reclaim their life. It’s almost unbearable that a loving dad or mom can’t protect their own children from this form of Child Abuse, but with prayer there is hope that the truth will prevail and the false narrative and wrongdoings will be exposed where the children can eventually heal and find peace as they learn to reclaim their own lives.

Click on the links below to check out our conversation, aired 11/11/22:

https://shows.acast.com/grief-happiness/episodes/healing-and-forgiveness-with-marni-hill-foderaro

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-and-forgiveness-with-marni-hill-foderaro/id1589284828?i=1000584630447

 

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GCTMGS & TDFL have gone global!

My books are sold around the world, and are now with Australia’s ANGUS & ROBERTSON A&R, established in 1882, later merged with Bookworld, committed to continuing the long heritage of excellence in bookselling, now stocks ALL of my titles! Look close, I got an 11:11 sign from the universe; there are 11 results for “Foderaro.”

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Two-for-Tuesday August 30, 2022

Quick Convo with podcast host Dr. Lunide Louis on

THE BEST MORNING ROUTINE EVER

where she encourages you to Get up. Dress up. & Show up!

Starting our morning with a positive mindset can set the tone for the entire day. Be ready to be transformed by the renewal of your mind! This podcast goes forth to bless, heal, inspire, elevate and dignify the minds and hearts of men and women listening all over the world!

We discussed my personal morning routine of waking up in

GRATITUDE & APPRECIATION

for so many blessings I’ve been given.

Our episode is entitled: From Despair to Success!

We all experience hills and valleys in our lives, but we can choose to look on the bright side and let the sun shine into our minds and hearts.

As an expat who is fortunate to live immersed in the natural wonder of St. Croix’s west-end rainforest and passionate about island sustainability, off-grid living and farm-to-table existence, my morning routine involves collecting fresh herbs such as basil, sorrel, lemongrass, mint, garlic, ginger, bay leaf and adding juice made from our property’s passion fruits, soursop, mangos, carambola (star fruit), limes or pomegranates and making a pot of Caribbean Bush Tea. I drink half of it in the morning, as I sit in meditation and prayer in my rocking chair overlooking the beautiful ocean and I chill the other half to savor in the afternoon as a refreshing treat after enjoying snorkeling, swimming, gardening, writing or relaxing as I read a great book.

Click on the link below to tune into our interview:

https://www.ivoox.com/from-despair-to-success-my-story-as-an-audios-mp3_rf_102832114_1.htm

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Tuesday, August 30, 2022

Joined U.K.’s Gemma Lonsdale, a Guiding Light, on  THE HAPPY PSYCHIC

From living a more Spiritual life to psychic mediumship, Gemma explores a variety of topics that bring people closer to Spirituality and into alignment with their true self. We discussed my STEs that provided a catalyst for my Spiritual Awakening and transformation during a turbulent time of transition in my life. It’s all about our predetermined Soul’s Journey, which enables the understanding for us to truly practice forgiveness of those whose actions harm others because we understand they are less evolved because of their core wounds and childhood experiences. Our core values and integrity provide the foundation to positively handle earthly challenges.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview, episode 70 entitled “You’re not imagining it, the universe really is talking to you:

https://youtu.be/rDf_JRY19s0

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Monday, August 29, 2022

Honored to be included in the just-posted segment of

5 MINUTES FOR ME

You have to get the app to listen to my contribution HANDLING ADVERSITY WITH LOVE  highlighting inspirational messages on RESILIENCE

While the app 5 Minutes for Me is about taking 5 minutes to learn some insights of wellness, mindset, productivity and resilience with Great Expectation knowledge specialists and celebrities, it’s also to give daily inspiration and learnings through these challenging and often stressful times.  These inspirational and thought-provoking messages are delivered in only 5 minutes and will provide you with tangible strategies and tips that can be easily implemented into your daily life.

“We all have experienced adversity in our lives, but if we handle challenges with love, our resilience will lead to self-actualization.” ~Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

#5MinutesforMe  #GESpeakers

Click on the link below to download:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/keynote/id1522818898?mt=8

 

Hope you check it out!

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Sunday-Funday August 28, 2022

Cool Connection & Conversation with Jabari Courts on his new podcast

20 MINUTES OF YOUR TIME

Jabari wants to help others find happiness and learn information. We discussed the inspiration for writing my award-winning books and some tangible action steps of putting pen to paper and becoming a published author. 

Our episode is entitled:  YOU CAN BECOME A WRITER

We hope that others who want to write a book start making their dream a reality!

Click on the link below to tune into our 2-part interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-can-become-a-writer/id1640625149?i=1000581723773

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FABULOUS & FANTASTIC FRI-YAY!!!

August 26, 2022

MY 1st BOOK WON ANOTHER AWARD!!!

The Judges of the 2022 Hollywood Book Festival announced the

AWARD-WINNING BOOKS

that placed in the prestigious competition and

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

was a runner-up in the Spiritual/Religious category!!!

They have also included GCTMGS in the triumphant “Table of Honor”

Click on the link below to check out all of the winners:

http://www.hollywoodbookfest.com/

 

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Dr. Jennifer J. Harman discusses the difference between Estrangement and

PARENTAL ALIENATION

Parental Alienation is a persistent, consistent rejection of a parent caused by the actions of the other parent. It is a form of domestic violence and child abuse as the child has been manipulated to reject one parent.  The psychological impact this has on the child is severe. The child develops a psychological split.  The impact on the alienated parent is devastating as their child sees him or her as all bad and totally rejected.

Dr. Jennifer Harman explains the difference between alienation and estrangement, how alienation takes place, the often generational pattern that has taken place, and the psychological impact on both the child and the alienated parent.  Jennifer guides us in the strategies the alienated parent can engage in to help minimize the alienation as well as the support that is available to assist you.  We also discuss experts you can enlist to support during the legal process as you advocate for shared parenting while navigate divorce.

Click on link to hear her interview on “Journey Beyond Divorce”:

https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/blog/parental-alienation

Dr. Jennifer J. Harman supports my work and endorsed my 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

“Many people who have suffered abuse, whether it is Parental Alienation or other forms of family violence, are subjected to considerable verbal and psychological abuse. Language can cause considerable damage, but it can also help with recovery. Seeing commonly used words and phrases that others have expressed to describe and survive their abuse may be transformative to those who need understanding and another perspective on their experiences. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s book, True Deceit False Love, may be very useful for individuals who struggle to find the words to explain what they have been through, and may aid in their healing process.”

~Jennifer J. Harman, Ph.D., Relationship Expert, Researcher, Professor, Author, Public Speaker

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Thursday, August 25, 2022

Our Voices Matter with the Voss Lady

I was LIVE on TikTok, Facebook and other social media platforms for her show

“Single or Divorced” 

Theadora Voss and I talked about signs for empaths (like us) to be aware of in relationships: secrecy, gaslighting, belittling, love bombing, isolation, money manipulation, disrespecting boundaries, all their crazy exes, checking in too frequently, jealousy, your friends don’t like them or like them too much, and more!

Theadora finds light, joy and happiness through empowering others to rediscover themselves and become their own hero. Even accomplished women can find themselves in toxic and abusive relationships. Our interview episode was entitled:

CATCH THE RED FLAGS & RELEASE THE TOXICITY

Click on the link below to catch the replay:

https://community.singleordivorced.org/c/real-talk/replay-available-now-catch-the-red-flags-release-toxicity

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At 11:11 I came across an informative video that highlights even more Red Flags along with behaviors abusers use to psychologically manipulate their targets.

Check it out:

https://youtu.be/uSg-jT0bn4o

 

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Wednesday, August 24, 2022

Honored to have a candid conversation with Robert Colon of

REVIVE MINISTRIES 

The month of September his interviews are a tribute to Recovery and Suicide Awareness. Our interview/episode is called

“ONE MORE DAY” 

We both pray that our conversation provides hope, inspiration and information. Revive Ministries does not proselytize, but strives to provide a safe place to discuss uncomfortable topics (like Domestic Violence) that are too often ignored.

Healing comes in all shapes and sizes and sometimes just making it one more day is the only step one can take. Robert asked me what came to my mind after hearing the following quote by Alice Walker “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” I responded that many Domestic Violence victims don’t think they have power because their calculating and malevolent abuser is controlling and manipulative while gaslighting, smearing and isolating them so they question their worth and ability to make decisions, plus many Narcissistic Abusers are money-obsessed, steal assets, forge documents and control the purse strings.

(For the record….in case something happens to me….)

I personally have never been suicidal or depressed or diagnosed with any mental/emotional disorder, however there are many that are and have to deal with these unfortunate challenges and some that get so despondent as a result of their abuse that they contemplate ending their life. Unfortunately, there are some dangerous psychopaths and covert malignant narcissistic abusers that that go to the extreme and actually murder their targets (or the children). take them out by proxy or the victims end up having an unexpected “accident” or “illness” or “suicide.”

This is an all-too-common headline. Don’t be a statistic!

If anyone reading this is in a crisis or has lost all hope, please seek appropriate professional help immediately, and/or contact the new 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (available in the States) or the National Domestic Violence Hotline

Confidential support is available 24/7-365 at 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-799-7233

TTY 1-800-787-3224. You can chat or text online at www.thehotline.org.

Click on the link below to watch interview:

https://youtu.be/rxfBnKuDLpU

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Tuesday, August 23, 2022

Joined Cristina Francy on 

THE FRANCY LIFE: NOT YOUR MOMMA’S PODCAST

Cristina is all about empowering women to lead a well-balanced life filled with self-love, awareness, purpose, wisdom and prosperity. Our episode is entitled

The Effects of True Deceit in False Love

We discussed STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences and  how our world is currently experiencing the Spiritual differences between the Light versus the dark on a Biblical scale. It’s also important to know about and pay attention to good and evil in our relationships and learn about Red Flags in order to discern who is honest, loving and compassionate and who has malevolent intentions which can lead to unhealthy interactions and experiencing abuse. I shared how my 5-book series

“True Deceit False Love”

came to be and how these books are resources providing creative tools to help others understand and make sense of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma. We both provided hope and inspiration to others to live authentically and stay true to their integrity.

Click on one of the links below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/FL4au-SpQGc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FL4au-SpQGc

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Sunday-Funday August 21, 2022

Connected on a global scale with some amazing authors.

I’m from the Caribbean and the others in our panel discussion were from Spain (Lucia), Brazil (Lucio), New Zealand (Pat) and Colorado (Ron).

Click on the link below to tune into our panel discussion:

https://youtu.be/vd619AADen0

 

TRANSFORMATION IN BOOKS

was the title of our panel discussion for the inaugural upcoming RV Book Fair!

Lucia Matuonto, the host of UNCUT with Lucia by WorldAuthors and the host of her podcast The Relatable Voice (RV), is a best selling author who is the brainchild of this collaboration of like-minded, humanitarian-focused, empathetic souls.

Our panel discussion was about spreading the message of

LOVE and living an HONEST life of INTEGRITY & COMPASSION.

The RV Book Fair will be held virtually next month in September.

The promotions are beginning:

https://brand.education/the-rv-book-fair-2022-2/

You may be one of the 50 lucky winners to receive a free book from this event!

The RV Book Fair is an event to showcase literary masterpieces, diverse authors, talk about books, inspirations and experiences. This is an opportunity to find a voice that resonates with you and check out what they have to say. You may learn new perspectives that challenge you and give you a different insight into the world.

I am honored to join the RV Book Fair and have been selected to participate along with the other guests, spiritualists, dreamers, advisors and adventurers who wrote books to create awareness and spread encouragement to the world.

Stay tuned, my books and I are also going to be featured in 

Brand.Education magazine!

For more information about Lucia’s website, check out:

https://www.relatable.media.com/

 

For more information about Lucia’s Relatable Voice Podcast, check out:

https://www.luciamatuonto.com/

 

To listen to my 1st interview with Lucia, from 5-20-21, check out:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SAj6bRdaJix8CgyVhJ7tx

 

Can having a garage sale change your life? Mine did!

After escaping abuse from an unhealthy 27-year marriage, I suffered significant losses and found that I could no longer live “the American Dream.” I lost my (supposedly paid off for 10 years) home to foreclosure, found that all my money was depleted and I was left with a slew of stuff to sell, to downsize and just so I could make ends meet. I began the process of physically shedding the extensive material remains of my accumulated memories, hopes and dreams and had a summer Midwestern garage sale. The signs and synchronicities I experienced (pennies, dragonflies, repeating numbers, cardinals, songs, feathers, electronic interferences and dream visitations) provided the inspiration needed to switch my career from teacher to writer and pen my 2020 Best Books Award winning and 5-Star Reader’s Favorites, prominently endorsed Spiritual fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale.”

Throughout this garage sale, my heart, soul and mind were opened up to numerous synchronistically-orchestrated STEs-Spiritually Transformative Encounters. One mystical experience after another happened during this time and were instrumental in answering the profound lifelong questions we all ask: “What happens when we die?” and “Is there more to this earthly life?” During this revelation it seemed that our world’s collective consciousness was also simultaneously entering an era of major transformation. There was most definitely a personal shift (along with a universal shift) that led me to embrace the concept of a Higher Power as I became increasingly open to Spirituality.

At my garage sale, mystical Spiritual encounters came out of nowhere and seemed to be uniquely personalized. Pennies found on the ground at random places were dated with my alienated child’s birth year; uniquely colored feathers would appear unexpectedly; red cardinals regularly pecked at the windows when I experienced moments of sadness; developed photographs revealed recognizable faces present inside of light-filled orbs; the repeating numbers 11:11 and my birthdate showed up constantly; cool breezes were felt, immediately followed by silhouettes of Angels; celestial visions materialized and then disappeared into thin air; numerous dragonflies would gather and swirl around me in a dance; my late mother’s favorite songs would play on the radio every time I thought of her; the sweet aroma of my deceased aunt’s perfume would periodically fill the air; and lights would flicker on and off with every mention of a late girlfriend. These Heavenly events could not be ignored because there were too many to dismiss. I began seeking answers by practicing mindful meditation, attending metaphysical workshops, consulting oracle cards and devouring anything and everything supernatural to provide insight. The most incredible and compelling moments were the accurate readings from several psychic mediums, as they gave one validating confirmation after another, all filled with precise, detailed and exclusive information about my deceased loved ones.

These amazing and enlightening experiences opened up my world to the reality that there truly is a God. Our departed loved ones have not left us and are still very much “alive.” Our Spiritual souls and personalities transition and continue on after our physical death on earth. I now embrace the concepts that there are no coincidences and events are synchronistically orchestrated by Divine intervention. I believe the painful trials and tribulations experienced on this earthly plane are really karmic lessons that we choose to receive as part of our soul’s contract which we plan and agree to before we are born.

As a result of my garage sale and subsequent Spiritual Awakening, my soul was saturated with acceptance, forgiveness, love, light and a new awareness and perspective.

So yes, having a garage sale can change your life.  It changed mine!

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Thursday, August 4, 2022

BOOK SIGNING

on the American Song Cruise Line!!!!

…while going through 8 LOCKS from Astoria to Stevenson: Bonneville, The Dalles, John Day, McNary, Ice Harbor, Lower Monumental, Little Goose and Lower Granite

In the adventurer spirit and route of Lewis & Clark, we cruised the Columbia and Snake Rivers in a voyage between Hayden Island, Oregon and Clarkston, Washington (where my paternal grandmother Gertrude and Aunt Phyllis lived for several years.) We were immersed in the history and culture of the region and experienced breathtaking scenery. With Mount Hood as our backdrop, we visited Fort Clatsop in the coastguard town of Astoria, Oregon before experiencing Cape Disappointment State Park and the lighthouse high on the cliffs, 200 feet above the pounding Pacific surf. The Columbia Maritime Museum was our stop before heading out for a day of jet-boating Hell’s Canyon. We ate a lot of wild-caught salmon and wild blackberries on this  Book Tour!

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BOOK SIGNING TOUR

Columbia-Snake River Cruise extension included exploring three

United States NATIONAL PARKS

After all of the unjust & criminal global turmoil of the past couple of years, it was such an honor to connect back with our Patriotic Heritage and experience firsthand

The (Beautiful) Land Of The Free

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Glacier National Park, Yellowstone National Park & Grand Teton National Park

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My Pacific-Northwest BOOK TOUR

took us through some beautiful scenery in bison and elk country as we drove to Mount St. Helens, the youngest of the major Cascade Range volcanos, which is still active and is known for its 1980 eruption. (I was a sophomore in college when that happened!) Lovely time at Multnomah Falls, the second highest year-round waterfall in the US before a kayaking excursion on the Columbia Gorge in Stevenson, Washington, which is fed by blue aquifer melt from Mount Adams. Visited The Dalles in Oregon, with 10,000 years of Indigenous Native history, along with a modern twist at the National Neon Sign Museum. It’s like time stood still in this part of the West. Experienced the iconic Pendleton Rodeo, Hamley’s, Oregon’s underground tunnels and the Tamastslikt Cultural Institute of Cayuse, Umatilla and Walla Walla Tribes before heading to Sacajawea State Park.

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 After exploring Grand Teton National Park, we took the gondola up the Teton Mountain Range and were so close to the 4,000 meter peak! We most likely won’t be skiing in Wyoming as most of the runs are uber-advanced; Rick is a black diamond skier, but me…not so much. Had some wonderful times in Jackson Hole. Great to see the Mormon Row historic district and enjoy the Bar T 5 Chuck (covered) Wagon dinner show. Soaked inside at Healing Waters saltwater floatation chamber and outside at the Astoria Hot Mineral Springs. (We enjoy the water so much, that when we were at Grand Teton National Park we swam in Jenny Lake and at Glacier National Park we swam in Lake McDonald!) Loved the town square and had one of the best dinners ever at the Million Dollar Cowboy Steakhouse, which was established in 1937. Didn’t run into any celebrities, but I actually felt like a celebrity when on my  BOOK TOUR

I met several people who have heard of and read my spiritual fiction and learned that

“God Came To My Garage Sale”

is a  BOOK CLUB FAVORITE!

 MAJOR SYNCHRONICITY!!!!

The last day of my  BOOK SIGNING TOUR

I connected with a close associate of one of the biggest BOOK CLUBS in the Nation who expressed interest in my award-winning spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

Keep your fingers crossed!!!  I may have a HUGE announcement in the near future!!!

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Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s article is featured in a 7-page spread (pages 14-20) in the

August 2022 issue of the AUTHENTIC INSIDER MAGAZINE

Click on the link to check it out:

https://simplebooklet.com/authenticinsidermagazineaugust2022issue

 

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Marni’s “Survivor Story” article was selected for the August issue of the

CHICAGO WOMEN RISE  &Rise newsletter!!!

&Rise is a nonprofit organization whose Mission is to empower women to be the ultimate versions of themselves no matter what adversities they’ve faced and to change the stigmas around Domestic and Sexual Abuse by offering education for prevention to be the best versions of themselves while offering safe spaces to heal.

Click on the link below to learn more about &Rise:

https://www.womenrisechicago.org/

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Saturday, July 30, 2022

PORTLAND, OREGON  BOOK SIGNING

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Wednesday, July 28, 2022

Sandy Springs GEORGIA BOOK SIGNING

Shhhhh….. 

Secret Agent Man Seduction

Sandy Springs – Spiritual Store

Busy, bustling town with beautiful glens that were so airy and open!

We enjoyed amazing Persian/Iranian cuisine at Zafrons after the BOOK SIGNING

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Sunday-Funday July 24, 2022

Great interview with L.A.’s Jeremiah Smart on his

“SMARTWAY PODCAST”

Jeremiah asked me what advice I would give to young adults who have experienced learning and/or reading challenges, including Dyslexia. I shared a few strategies and suggested tools from my 35-years as a high school special education teacher, but also stated that it’s so important for each of us to feel good about ourselves and follow our own interests and passions; that is when learning will be more natural and enjoyable.

It helps to know that we all face challenges in many aspects of our lives (school, learning, jobs, relationships, health, just surviving) but if we handle adversity with a positive attitude, knowing that all of our experiences are important on our learning journey, we will gain more confidence, be more successful and enjoy life more.

Click on the link below to check out our interview:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1cJrard5a731xk8G4HDGCM?si=5ede5f7d27334307

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Wonderful Weekend!

My book series “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

is featured in the Summer 2022 issue of

CONTEMPORARY FAMILY MAGAZINE

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My Award-Winning spiritual fiction is sold all over the United States Virgin Islands, of course 25 places, including Undercover Books & the Caribbean Museum Center for the Arts, on my home “rock” of St. Croix, both Papaya Cafe & Bookstores on St. John, and in several places on St. Thomas, including Magen’s Bay

and is now featured at  Mystic By The Sea in Charlotte Amalie

&  I-love-VI Gifts in Red Hook

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Thursday, July 21, 2020

Joined Award-Winning Spiritual Soul Artist HOPE SHEREE (Askew) on

“A DOSE OF HOPE RADIO”

H.O.P.E. stands for H-elping O-ther P-eople E-ndure

on her Inspirational Author Series where we discussed

my spiritual fiction GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and my 5-book series  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

This worldwide radio show aims to provide HOPE to listeners through global good news, positive inspiration, thought-provoking interviews and great music!

Tune in to be inspired, loved and uplifted.

Click on the link below to hear our short, but sweet interview;

my interview is at the 13:00 mark of 25:00 minutes:

https://adoseofhope.org/a-dose-of-hope-radio/f/adoh-radio-presents-episode-76-%E2%80%9Che-came-to-set-me-free%E2%80%9D

 

 

 

To order Marni’s books, go to:

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

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LIVE show Wednesday, July 20, 2022 with North Carolina’s Alfred Harrell on

“LIFE IS ABOUT MORE THAN LIVING: THE PODCAST”

“Impromptu open dialogues, shared from the heart.

Informative, somewhat enlightening, often thought provoking”

our episode was titled  “OVERCOMING AN IMPOSTER MINDSET”

When we choose to or are forced to finally acknowledge that there is an imposter in our midst, a sick and damaged secret agent man or woman who wears a false mask hiding their true identity and malevolent intentions behind a public persona, we can also choose to keep our distance and stay true to our integrity, honesty and values. This may mean setting healthy boundaries with family members (which may not be accepted because they want to continue to engage,) going no-contact with a “friend,” leaving a long-term marriage, changing jobs and seeking other employment, moving far, far away….and in Alfred’s case, choosing not cave into expectations and attend an abusive family member’s funeral.

We do not have to allow or keep negative situations and abusive individuals in our lives and stay stuck just because others want us to. We can choose to live in peace and leave behind the deceit, betrayal, false narrative and challenging chaos. Sometimes it’s like peeling the layers of an onion; someone’s true character eventually is revealed, and often they are the ones who expose themselves when their mask slips.

Our conversation was real and it was vulnerable. We discussed remaining true to ourselves as we live in a society that challenges us daily to do otherwise.

Click on the link below to catch the replay:

https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-gegku-127c0f1

 

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Wednesday, July 20, 2022

Inspirational motivation from one “old” mom to a “new” mom, who both believe that motherhood is the biggest blessing we can experience on earth!

I was asked by 2X Latin Podcast Award Winner Angelica Vallecillo to be on

“A LITTLE BIT OF EVERYTHING WITH ME!”

We had an enlightening and casual conversation about the ups and downs on our life journey that led to our happiness and success. We shared our passions to gain and spread knowledge in the hopes of making someone else’s day a little bit brighter.

We both are passionate about our pursuits and showing others that despite life’s challenges, they too can accomplish their goals and achieve their dreams!

Click on one of the many links below to hear our amazing interview,

our episode #850 is published on over 40 platforms:

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-a-little-bit-of-everything-31159198/

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7f2Mkbdo1cnvpw3RiC0hfX?si=BNS5VbaIRW2Ev5ZxIQNlgQ

https://goodpods.app.link/CRAPu6FTsxb

https://music.amazon.ca/podcasts/7ce74daf-8375-4864-ae4b-5c82833ce30c/episodes/cad5639c-d7a9-4f5d-a598-4e9ccfdf7793/a-little-bit-of-everything-with-me-dr-marni-hill-foderaro—award-winning-celebrated-author-speaker-and-educator

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Tuesday, July 19, 2022

Cool Conversation with Chad Osinga (aka: Mr. Tenacity) on his podcast

“THE LEGEND OF YOU”

Our episode is called  WHEN PAIN BECOMES POWER

We discussed facing adversity and challenges and finding your way through the circumstances. Life is for thriving, not just surviving. There are some universal principles that unlock our untapped potential, however these conversations and different perspectives of what have helped others, may just be what will help you be successful, thrive in life and unleash the legend within you. Our topics ranged from spirituality and out of body experiences to moving on post-divorce from an obsessed, high-conflict individual and enduring significant losses, including Parental Alienation.

There is hope to reclaim your life if you do the research, inner reflection and stay true to your integrity. Living in gratitude and practicing self-love is essential to growth.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch to our interview:

https://youtu.be/UeISf16G80E

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Monday, July 18, 2022

From one island to another, across the globe, connected with Ken Primus

(Ken lives on Kohsamui Island in Thailand, a country I’ve visited and love and I am on St. Croix in the United States Virgin Islands, a place he has been and loves)

“THREADS OF ENLIGHTENMENT”

On this wonderful worldwide radio platform (reaching over 80 countries and 695 cities globally) we had a deep, thoughtful and heartfelt conversation about the journey into peace, power, self-actualization and wisdom gained from personal growth starting from the patterns learned in childhood through our adult challenges.

It’s about self-development and celebrating the triumphal human spirit!

We both agree that we are spiritual beings having a human experience and that we are all creators. God created the earth from a dark space, just as humans are awakened and our souls evolve from a dark space. We must pay attention to our gut intuition and our “until moment” as signs to stay true to our integrity and values.

God chooses those who have experienced challenges to bring awareness and provide hope to others through our patience, perspective, perseverance and creations. 

Click on the link below to check out our interview:

https://play.acast.com/s/threads-of-enlightenment/my-interview-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro

 

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Hopeful, Healing Message

on how to cope when a Narcissistic Parent (your own dad or mom, or your ex-husband, ex-wife or ex-partner) turns your family, siblings or children against you. (They’ve already been successful at turning friends, neighbors and colleagues against you with the false narrative from his/her underhanded and calculating smear campaign.) When you finally realize the unhealthy family dynamics, your own worth and set healthy boundaries to protect yourself from further abuse, you can live a happier and more peaceful life.

Sometimes you have to pray and send caring thoughts energetically and love them from afar.

There is a real connection between enduring narcissistic manipulation, triangulation, smearing, projection and abuse, experiencing that “lightbulb moment,” having the courage to make a change and leave the continuous discord, confrontation and chaos, stepping back and looking at the bigger picture, releasing the heart wrenching pain, AND moving toward your Spiritual Growth, despite having to grieve so many losses.

Click on the link below to hear Carol’s calm voice and message reassure you that you are LOVED and it’s okay focus on self-actualization and to heal through self-love and self-care:

https://youtu.be/6NdV6ZUyC9Y

 

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Dr. Les Carter of “Surviving Narcissism” explains  PARENTAL ALIENATION:

Alienated Adult Children are brainwashed by the abusive parent to reject the loving parent and these kids resent normal-range, tough-love decisions made by this loving “chosen” parent for their greater well-being to become free-thinking independent adults. These aligned children need to realize on their own that they are being used by one parent to inflict harm on the other, and that this has lifelong consequences. The false mask of the abusing parent will eventually slip and their true colors will be revealed. The truth always comes out!

https://youtu.be/mFLVpelZ8Aw

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What an absolutely amazing, awesome & artsy day!

The Caribbean is such a cool place to be creative…especially in Sir Clayton’s class!

I used a SANKOFA designed symbol in my painting:

Sankofa means “The return and importance of reaching back to knowledge gained in the past and bringing it into the present in order to make positive progress.” 

This was significant because my healing and return to my authentic being involved doing the past-intergenerational & self-reflection work to help understand my role in being a people-pleaser, over-giver and empathetic target for abuse and with love, understanding and well-wishes, release toxic holds on my self-actualization journey.

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HAPPY Fri-YAY !!! July 15, 2022

Wonderful Co-HEART conversation with the amazing Stephanie James.

“Your greatest pain is going to become your greatest gift.”

Stephanie is not only a dynamic presenter, transformational coach. podcast host, social worker, psychotherapist, author of two GREAT books (“The Spark-Igniting Your Best Life” & “Becoming Fierce-Creating a Bold and Beautiful Life”), she is a filmmaker of the upcoming and award-winning film: “When Sparks Ignite” a summit of worldwide Thought Leaders who collectively bring hope, information and inspiration to many who experience challenges and abuse on their life journey.

THE SPARK WITH STEPHANIE JAMES

Our episode is entitled: “Miracles Happen!”

We discussed breaking though limiting beliefs, opening your heart and reaching new depths of healing and expansion as we continue to gracefully handle challenges by cultivating a truly ignited life full of purpose and passion.

“There is an amazing life available to you. You hold the flame.

It’s time to ignite your best life.”

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://bbsradio.com/podcast/spark-july-20-2022

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Thursday, July 14, 2022

Honored to join holistic life coach Gretchen Smith on the

“SPIRITUAL LIFE MANAGEMENT PODCAST”

Our episode is entitled:  Spiritual Experiences & Healing Trauma

Our journeys to our spectacular Spiritual Awakenings and surviving calculated Intimate Partner Violence are similar, just like so many other abuse survivors, men and women, whose lightbulb moments force them to finally acknowledge years of Red Flags so they can navigate the dark with the light. Gretchen helps people elevate themselves so that they can live life to their highest and fullest potential.

We discussed my specific STEs-Spiritual Transformative Experiences

which inspired the 13 chapter vignettes in my

2022 Hollywood Book Fest runner-up,  2020 Best Books finalist Award, &

5-Star Reader’s Favorite “GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

and the related challenges of dealing with trauma, significant losses and shattered dreams with the uplifting knowing that we are on the right path and our positive outlook and actions will help us rise above, realize our worth and continue growing on our journey, living in safety, peace and more happiness than before.

We both count our many blessings, especially for our beautiful children.

Click on the YouTube link below to listen to our interview:

https://youtu.be/ow8vkvs6K7o

 

Click on one of the links below to listen to our conversation:

https://player.fm/series/the-spiritual-life-management-podcast/spiritual-experiences-and-healing-trauma-dr-marni-hill-foderaro

https://open.spotify.com/episode/33ZW9gJxPeZdat8Pzy37Am?si=sQ2o8q82RpGn-4DPkBggaA

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Wednesday, July 13, 2022

Joined Aubrey T. Johnson on  “THE ROAD TO REDISCOVERY”

We discussed how our journey of growth is life-long. There are times in our lives when we are at a crossroads and we are given the opportunity to decide to make a directional change. Self Reflection and Gratitude help us navigate our “road to rediscovery” as we reclaim our authenticity on our self-actualization journey. Amazing miracles can present themselves in the form of spiritual signs and synchronicities, providing supportive optimism and guiding us along the way. Sharing our experiences as we navigate the bumps in the road provides hope and helps others know that they are not alone and can rise above adversity.

Happiness can be yours! The best is yet to come!

Click on the link below to join us on this road trip:

https://road2rediscovery.com/episodes/the-miracles-of-a-garage-sale-with-dr-marni-hall-foderaro-086

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Wednesday, July 13, 2022

from the Caribbean Sea to the Idaho mountains…

great conversation with Jason Harwood of 

“HAPPILY EVER HABITS”

H.E.H. is a podcast about developing habits that make a difference in your life. It’s not just about grinding to do more and more; it’s about building better habits.

NOT MORE…BETTER!

The title of our episode is called:  The Habit of Slowing Down to Focus on Self;

The Habit That Helps You Get Through aLife Tragedy

We discussed how I was thrown a life-curve, but chose to make the best of my situation and am living a wonderful life, despite significant losses. The negative people and situations in your life are really blessings to help you self-actualize on your journey. Time is not wasted as everything is part of your growth moving forward. I was fortunate to be at a stage in my life where I could really choose the best life for me; this life involves getting out in nature on a daily basis, being able to write and publish books, and employing the daily habit of waking up in

GRATITUDE!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch a clip from our interview:

https://youtu.be/AErsN12P-W4

Click on the audio link below to hear our entire interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-habit-of-slowing-down-to-focus-on-self/id1595159273?i=1000578472746

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Monday, July 11, 2022

Joined Lifestyle Blogger LaToi Storr on  “CONVERSATIONS WITH TOI”

for a 2-interview series which will be aired on two different Fri-YAYs !!!

We discussed life’s journey through failure and success, heartbreak and happiness. We all have experienced adversity, but it is in the journey that we grow and learn from our mistakes. We discussed tools and resources, and having a positive mindset, that can help us overcome challenges we face in our life. We all make time for what is important to us, and the time to focus on ourselves and our wellbeing is NOW.

Click on the Fri-YAY link below (tbd) to watch Part 1:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000570766060

Click on the Fri-YAY link below to watch Part 2:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-narcissist-to-survivor-moving-past-the-traps/id1523002422?i=1000571528296

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Sunday-Funday  I finally have an Amazon Author Link!

Check it out:

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

“I soon realized that poets do not compose their poems with knowledge, but by some inborn talent and by inspiration, like seers and prophets who also say many fine things without any understanding of what they say.”

~SOCRATES

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Happy Weekend!

I was asked to contribute a chapter to Anthony Muiruri’s new multi-author book. Book Place Media is a platform for authors to speak about their books and their journey in writing. Many want to write and publish a book, but don’t know where to start.  This book will be a great resource for aspiring writers. I wrote about my experience & journey to becoming an award-winning, bestselling published author. I was selected by Anthony to have my name put on the cover!

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Is your abuser obsessed with you? Does he/she continue to take you to court years—even decades— after you filed and were granted a divorce? They can’t move on and don’t want to lose the connection and control of their #1 supply who got away: YOU! They are sad, sick and pathetic; wish them peace and pray for their spiritual growth.

Check out high conflict divorce lawyer and narcissist negotiator Rebecca Zung’s ways narcissists use the court system to abuse you:

1. file false/fraudulent complaints and motions

2. file baseless/frivolous lawsuits

3. blatantly lie to everyone including the judge/mediators/lawyer

4. trigger you emotionally then call you crazy

5. turn custody evaluators against you

6. refuse to provide any financial documents or follow court orders

Click on Rebecca’s link to watch her short:

https://youtube.com/shorts/427hrJXB35M?feature=share

Also, check out Rebecca’s video on False Allegations from the Narcissist. She states that “judges hate liars who don’t follow court orders” and that is what these narcissists do with their triggering False Allegations. Even with all this helpful advice, justice in family court doesn’t always (or even usually) prevail as these abusers are very charismatic and skilled manipulators, but the truth eventually is revealed and the narcissist’s false mask will slip as they expose themselves and their true colors. Unfortunately, so much damage has already been done to you and your children.

Click on the link below to watch Rebecca’s video on the narcissist’s False Allegations:

https://youtu.be/s6UROZsjJNU

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Fri-YAY !!! July 8, 2022

Joined Jennifer Norman

who has “juicy” conversations with beautiful humans on

“ROLE MODELS”

now known as “THE HUMAN BEAUTY MOVEMENT PODCAST”

Jenn’s podcast highlights odd-beaters, rebels with great causes, wellness gurus, benevolent souls and valiant warriors. She is the founder of The Human Beauty Movement out of L.A. who celebrates game-changers, sages and uplifters, those that fall seven times, but get up eight. She believes exceptional people thrive and their abundant energy flows to impart and bestow supreme wisdom to bring positivity to humanity.  What a positive convo with such a positive soul & beautiful human!

Click on the YouTube link to watch our episode #55 (lucky number!) interview,

recorded 7-8-22 and aired 5-2-23:

https://youtu.be/DMssEARt8NQ

 

Click on the link to listen on iHEART Radio:

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-role-models-113287835/episode/episode-55-marni-hill-foderaro–114296455/

Click on the link to listen on AMAZON AUDIBLE:

https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/4039c93d-a69d-4d3b-bf6d-57b693e9b0f7/episodes/ec7b5600-5e10-44ed-a86c-cfd0063a7cb1/the-human-beauty-movement-podcast-episode-55-marni-hill-foderaro—finding-god-after-trauma

Click on the link to listen on SPOTIFY:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2guZMlf5jAeigakhYBVY3A

 

Click on the link to listen on STITCHER:

https://listen.stitcher.com/yvap/?af_dp=stitcher://show/714037&af_web_dp=https://www.stitcher.com/show/714037&deep_link_value=stitcher://show/714037

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Fri-YAY !!!! July 8, 2022

Told my Special SARI Story to Dave Derksen

“STORIES TOLD BY FRIENDS”  

Our lives are stories and we create authentic human connections by sharing our stories. Dave provided this great platform as I shared my loving, informal, unvarnished recollection to simply celebrate the richness of life. My story transcended history, time, technology, cultures, memories and true love.

“Manifesting Mom’s Mumbai Miracle with Marni”

I recounted hearing a voice at my famous garage sale (where God came!) telling me to keep the Sari. Soon after I found a box of love letters written to my late mom from her first and truest love from India. Hours spent reading their “old school” correspondence led to “new school” electronic connecting, and then eventually visiting with this man and his family and traveling to India to meet in person as this story came full circle, inspiring chapter 13 “The Sari” in my spiritual fiction

“God Came To My Garage Sale”  Click on the link below to watch me tell this Marvelous Mumbai Memory;  I hope you enjoy it.

https://storiestoldbyfriends.buzzsprout.com/1740069/10956288-manifesting-mom-s-mumbai-miracle-with-marni

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Thursday, July 7, 2022

Joined Terry Lohrbeer on

THE KICKASS BOOMERS PODCAST

This is THE place to find inspiration and motivation from midlife and beyond to live a “Life Inspired” by sharing stories of those who embrace change and growth, taking on new challenges and welcoming exciting adventures. We talked about the beautiful life you can choose to have after surviving tough times with toxic individuals or situations and doing the inner work for understanding. We discussed Trauma-Induced STEs-Spiritual Transformative Encounters and how they are similar to NDEs-Near Death Experiences. We also addressed taking charge of your life in midlife, giving yourself permission to reclaim your authentic self, making choices to live well and taking care of your emotional and physical well-being.

Be Grateful and Count your Blessings.  BEE BOLD NOT OLD

Live active lives, take chances and make changes happen in the world!

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/94-what-is-a-trauma-induced-ste-how-is-it-similar/id1535678092?i=1000571077960

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Wednesday, July 6, 2022

LIVE Life Mastery TV in connection with  WELLNESS UNIVERSE

an award-winning organization that is committed to education and supporting your well-being journey to your best life experience, and where they believe

“Happy, Healthy, Healed humans lead to peace globally.”

My LIVE, interactive class and “powerful and transformative” episode is titled:

“BEYOND SURVIVAL”

Domestic Abuse happens to both men and women and is something that is far too common in our society, as evidenced by the almost daily headlines of detrimental consequences. It’s important for Targets of Abusers to do the “inner work” to self-reflect on their own Intergenerational Family Trauma and dysfunctional dynamics, and set healthy boundaries as they become more discerning about who to let in and let stay in their lives. It’s about learning from the experiences on our journey and staying true to our integrity and values. We need these candid conversations to bring about awareness to help people cope, heal and thrive after experiencing Trauma.

Below are the topics from this class to help identify some of the steps to reclaim your life after surviving Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation:

Red Flag Awareness, the Importance of Research, Responding not Reacting, and Doing the Inner Work leading to Self-Healing and Self-Actualization

Click on the link below to sign up for a FREE account to access replays of all the amazing episodes and to watch the “Beyond Survival” replay recording:

https://life-mastery-tv.com/beyond-survival/

“Be a pain transformer, not a pain transmitter. This is the only way the world will heal.”

~John Mark Green

Click on the link below to go to David D. McLeod’s amazon author page:

https://so-ve.info/DDMAuthorPage

 

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Tuesday, July 5, 2022

Double interview with Laurel, Maryland’s Mark V. Smith  on TWO (2) radio stations!  WGLRO Radio-Baltimore, MD: The people’s station for Peace & Diversity & Star 107 FM Radio: the heartbeat of the city

“Your why is greater than your situation, which is part of your process.”

THE PROCESS PODCAST 

“Taking a deeper look at how we cope with growing after our storms. It’s important to take time to evaluate our path of growth to make sense of our lives, to GROW FORWARD. Comfort is a casualty of growth and we must embrace the constant of change. We have to go through challenges to get through challenges.”

Mark is known for his acronyms, and asked questions about my thoughts on AIRR: Accountability, Integrity, Responsibility & Respect. During our inspiring & informational conversation, we discussed my books and staying true to upstanding values while doing the inner work to further understand relationship dynamics.

“The Process” WGLRO & Star 107 FM radio host Mark V. Smith, who is the “curator of a bigger vision within” where “knowledge speaks and wisdom listens,” is an award-winning STRIVE (Support Training Results in Valuable Employees) trainer at the Center for Urban Families in Baltimore, Maryland

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Cz769U88STiPR1w61CAH5xGwffqOmuJU/view?usp=drivesdk

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Sunday-Funday July 3, 2022

Joined certified professional coach and Atlanta podcast host Raven M. Harris

(yes, it’s been a double “Raven” weekend)   “RESET WITH RAVEN” 

Raven’s conversations are thought-provoking, yet uplifting and refreshing and discuss resilience after setback, disappointment and trauma. She hopes listeners takeaway tangible tools to overcome obstacles in their lives in spite of doubt, delay or devastation. Her guests share real and honest stories that soothe the soul and provide inspiration to live fully and embrace the process of continuous growth and healing.

No Experience is wasted because your pain has a purpose!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/_6k7mXdvNnU

 

The covert, malignant, sociopath-narcissist has skeletons in his/her closet!

#emotionalhealing       #narcissism

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Saturday, July 2, 2022

candid conversation with Author, Show Host and TV Personality

Raven Scott on the EMPATH & THE NARCISSIST PODCAST

where Empaths regain their sparkle and keep their unique light shining bright after Narcissistic Abuse. Raven inspires and empowers her community regarding improved mental health and aims to awaken spirituality and intuition after experiencing emotional harm inflicted by abusive others. She encourages survivors of adult, childhood, family and marital trauma through Spiritual-Awakening human design, self-development tools and calm meditations which energetically clear ancestral patterns, ridding codependent, people-pleaser tendencies to find your power and purpose. Our interview unpacked Narcissism, Boundary Setting and Projection

in addition to highlighting the healing and recovery tools found in my 5-book series:

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Be sure to check out Raven Scott’s new book:

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/C9Dof4fitic

 

“The Narcissist tried to ruin you to save themselves. Surrender your pain to the univese, then take action to draw boundaries and integrate the lesson.” ~Raven Scott

#healingfromabuse

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Fri-YAY Evening, July 1, 2022

LIVE with podcast host Rick Blane  GET UNSTUCK:

Live Happy & Free State of Unity

We discussed taking the initiative and having the courage to make a significant change in your life so you can live authentically, experience self-actualization, stay true to your values, be emotionally and physically safer and enjoy more happiness. Along with following our gut intuition, there are many tools and resources to help us make decisions to GET UNSTUCK from an unhealthy, toxic or abusive situation.

My 5-book series “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE” offers a creative approach to GET UNSTUCK, by understanding and healing from Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma.

Click on the link below to listen to both parts 1 & 2 of our conversation:

https://anchor.fm/getunstucklivehappyfree/episodes/179-Rick-helps-you-Get-Unstuck-with-guest-Marni-Hill-Foderaro–Part-1-e1knk7g

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Happy Fri-YAY!!! July 1, 2022

Joined Victoria lynn Weston on her podcast  “INTUITIVE EDGE”

…a smart, fast-paced blend of topics meant to elevate and expand human consciousness. We discussed my books and the experiences that inspired them!

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VANISHED VOICE  poem review

“The abrupt ending of a lifelong friendship with your ‘best friend.’ “

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Tuesday, June 28, 2022

Joined Dr. Will Miller LIVE on

Spiritual Revolution Radio KDXI 100.3 FM

We discussed my award-winning spiritual fiction GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE & my best-selling 5-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

This show is about raising our consciousness, vibration & frequency to create wellness, freedom, knowledge & joy….so much of what I stand for (along with honesty, love & compassion) and am experiencing on life’s amazing journey!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our segment:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vh9m6Y7kiY

Spiritual Revolution Radio airs nationally from UTAH

UTAH is a state that is close to my heart because that’s one of the favorite places my life partner Rick & I love to ski. Even though we are now enjoying summer fun and had an amazing Caribbean day in the sun & sea, we always look forward to the snowy slopes!

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Monday, Monday…ba-da, ba-da-da-da….June 27, 2022

Lovely connection with Gissele Taraba, a like-minded loving soul

“LOVE AND COMPASSION PODCAST”

Where extraordinary stories of Love and Compassion played a role in ordinary people overcoming great adversity. We have the power, honoring who we are, with our own resolve and God’s Love, to positively transform our lives!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/g1EDLHioVeU

Click on the YouTube link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-35-dr-marnie-hill-shares-her-spiritual-journey/id1505397661?i=1000586908629

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WOW!!! What a great way to start the week!

Book 2 of my 5-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE:

Alphabetical Acrostic Anthems on

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation

was just awarded a 5-Star Review by Readers’ Favorite!!! 

Reviewed by Vincent Dublado for Readers’ Favorite

True Deceit False Love: Alphabetical Acrostic Anthems on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation by Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro is a creative way of healing from domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, and intergenerational family trauma. If you are a fan of steganography or haven’t tried it yet, the art of concealing messages in a text through acrostic poetry is a form of self-expression that builds awareness in order to respond, understand, and heal from a traumatic experience. This is a collection of a unique form of poetry that takes advantage of line breaks to embed meanings in their vertical nature. Their form and structure allow for easy reading and you can choose any poem to digest or read them all in one sitting. They will also inspire you to pick up a pen to compose your own acrostic poetry and express what you have long been wanting to say.

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro encourages you to open up and acknowledge the trauma that festers inside you emotionally and psychologically. While words have the power to hurt, they also have the power to heal. Foderaro’s acrostic poetry shows excellence in giving names, themes, and ideas on the subject of trauma and abuse while keeping her language natural and precise wherein the hidden word or message becomes the poem’s sole reason for existence. Is it a substitute for the actual counseling experience? Definitely not, but when you are able to pull out the proper word choices to express your experience, especially with one that leaves you scarred for life, it allows you to take a step toward moving on, healing, forgiving, and becoming stronger. True Deceit False Love makes for an enticing read for writing creatives and for those who are seeking a supplementary form of therapy from a traumatic experience.

 

THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT AND FACEBOOK POST

FROM TAMARA GERSTEMEIER SWEENEY OF

AGAPE LOVE DOMINATES:

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Sunday-FunDay June 26, 2022

Connected with Frankie of  The Frankie Flores Spiritual Guide Podcast

What an empathetic and compassionate soul!

His goal is to spread hope and inspiration to the world and to uplift lives, by encouraging Healing of the Body, Mind and Spirit.

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://anchor.fm/frankie-flores/episodes/God-Came-to-My-Garage-Sale-Dr–Marni-Hill-Foderaro-e1kfvgl

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If you would like to learn more about NDEs- Near Death Experiences

consider attending (in person or virtual) the 8/21 to 9/4

2022 IANDS Conference

INTERNATIONAL ASSOCIATION FOR NEAR DEATH STUDIES

There will be some amazing speakers and even two movie premiers! I previously spoke at the Chicago IANDS. To see that video, go to their website!

Click on the link for more information:

https://conference.iands.org/

Also, my spiritual fiction is one of the featured books at the IANDS bookstore!

Click on the link to order or check out the many other wonderful books offered:

https://conference.iands.org/bookstore/

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Fri-YAY !!! June 24, 2022

Technology transported me to South Africa to have a conversation with 

podcast host Marlene McConnell of “My Centered Life”

“SURVIVING TRAUMA: STORIES OF HOPE”

We talked about experiencing Spiritual miracles that provided reassurance that we are loved and supported, especially when we are in times of transition after suffering significant losses and trauma. Staying true to our core values of love, compassion, honesty and goodness, along with practicing self-love and self-care, provides the foundation to our growth and healing. The many losses we endure as a result of choosing to leave behind toxic and abusive people and situations make room for future happiness. Our voices matter and provide hope and inspiration to others.

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-came-to-my-garage-sale/id1554089846?i=1000568149481

 

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Thursday, June 23, 2022

Joined Kyle “Koyote” Yates  “LISTEN TO THE VIBES”

a great show by a great guy who speaks to people of all walks of life who share words of wisdom and inspiration to provide hope to others  “Gratitude will change your Attitude”  Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/btUqImWXqn0

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Wednesday, June 22, 2022

So cool to be interviewed by Eddy Proietti Conti of

HUMMIN GROUP MENTORING

It was super-fun to go back to the earlier years of my career as a high school student, college student and resource teacher to discuss the secrets to my employment success! This amazing organization helps mentor and give advice to young adults and those embarking on their careers by providing valuable insight and wisdom so they can better navigate their journeys through college, careers, success and beyond.

Back in 1997 I earned my Doctorate Degree in Education and my Dissertation was on Job Search Strategies and how teachers get their first teaching jobs. I went on to teach high school as a Resource Teacher for 35 years, with 12 of those years as a university adjunct graduate school professor. I tutored for many of those years and helped young adults create hundreds of resumes and cover letters, so this interview was right up my alley. It’s great to know there are wonderful mentors to help others.

I shared what I did, my drive, motivation, mindset and actions that made me stand out professionally. I was someone who took advantage of a variety of experiences, not only to make myself marketable, but to gain more knowledge. I often fearlessly created many of these opportunities on my own. This outlook served me well as an Award-Winning educator, but also as a Best Selling Author.

Be your own advocate and handle any personal and professional challenges with honesty, grace and perseverance.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://www.hummingroup.com/marni-hill-foderaro

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I WON IN THE 2022 HOLLYWOOD BOOK FEST COMPETITION

AND MY SPIRITUAL FICTION “GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

WAS RUNNER-UP IN THE SPIRITUAL CATEGORY!!!!!

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Book 5 of the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series just became a

BEST SELLER!

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Monday, June 20, 2022

Joined Dauna Needom of “BETTER TO….PODCAST”

Dauna’s show looks back and reflects on people’s decisions, asking if it was better to have done something or not. We didn’t really follow the script, but as two women from the Chicago suburbs, we had a down-to-earth discussion of other worldly occurrences. There are so many signs and synchronicities presented to us, and it is up to us to notice them and act on them. Most definitely, we agreed that the Universe puts people and situations on our earthly path for us to grow and self-actualize.

Click on the link below to check out our conversation:

https://youtu.be/qycJgTtgUG4

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Monday, June 20, 2022  another LIVE radio interview on

“THE GOOD WITH KEVIN THOMAS”  on WRCR Radio in New York

So many bad things happen in this world and it’s good to be reminded of THE GOOD in the world with positive, uplifting and inspirational stories from all across the globe. Kevin asked about my journey to God, my decision to get to safety (physically and emotionally) by honoring myself and escaping a toxic 27-year marriage, doing the research on malevolent, calculating, charismatic people with Narcissistic traits (Control, Deceit, Financial Thievery, Over-inflated Ego, Love-Bombing, Dishonesty, Gaslighting, Smearing, Triangulation, Projection) as well as doing the inner work to understand why I ignored glaring Red Flags for so long, was an over-giving Empath and what Intergenerational Traumas and Core Wounds that I experienced in my own childhood that made me a Target for Domestic Violence and Betrayal from Dishonest and Abusive Others.

Surviving and Thriving after enduring so many significant losses (home, assets, money, support system…even adult children to the abusive family dynamic Parental Alienation) and the ongoing, obsessive stalking, harassment and legal chaos takes faith, a very strong will and staying true to your core values of honesty, along with a kind heart filled with love, compassion, forgiveness and goodness. I chose to turn my fear and pain into power by speaking the truth, bringing awareness and hope to other men and women experiencing Trauma, and writing my 2020 Best Books Award Winning and prominently endorsed spiritual fiction “GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE” and my critically acclaimed 5-book (soon to be 6-book) series “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

Life can and should be GOOD! I’m a testament that life can get MUCH better!

Click on the link below to listen to a replay of our segment, which starts at the 21 minute mark:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lkDhumRBjSLAXDml7u119?si=661839c9849a46ab

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Sunday, June 19, 2022

LIVE 3-hour SHOW

The FORCE was with us in the middle of the night! PARANORMAL SOUP

Host and Paranormal Investigator Jason Bland and I explored 

STEs-Spiritually Transformative Encounters & NDEs-Near Death Experiences

in this open forum for guests and listeners who have experienced the unexplained. Got to chat with and answer call-in questions from some wonderfully interesting people and we all had an enlightening and informative discussion. Both Jason and I are from the Midwest; he’s from Indiana, the setting of my 5-star spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

We both love our children deeply, are empathetic people who dislike controlling narcissists, and are fans of time-travel movies & the Ancient Aliens series! 

Click on the YouTube link below to watch the replay:

https://youtu.be/T1UOv8dpgBI

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Abusers don’t like it when honesty and your authenticity outshines their facade.

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Fri-YAY !!! June 17, 2022

Deep, Detailed & Delightful conversation with fellow Illinoisan Katina Horton of

THE VALLEY OF GRACE PODCAST

where she helps those on their healing journey reclaim their power, soul and identity as they rebuild their life after divorce and trauma. Many in toxic relationships struggle to make empowered choices and can benefit from these candid conversations to know that they are not alone and that there is hope. 

The Valley of Grace Podcast focuses on helping targets of abuse reclaim their power and identity so they will know that they are enough, especially when these courageous survivors decide that enough is enough; she calls it the “Be still and know moment.” We discussed why people stay so long and what holds them back before choosing to escape to live a life of resilient freedom and flourishing abundance.

At the end of the interview Katina asked me some rapid-fire questions, including my favorite kitchen gadget, songs on my playlist, books I can’t live without and my words of wisdom. As a woman of faith and believer in love, who values honesty and integrity, I believe we deserve to be safe and happy.

Click on the link below to check out part 1 of our interview:

https://youtu.be/11uJIQjkpcE

 

Click on the link below to check out part 2 of our interview:

https://youtu.be/RGjSjvQXUAI

A lot of times we find ourselves in toxic relationships trying to figure out what happened. The signs were there all along. You tried to create a lasting relationship between two people with different values, belief systems, and operating systems, hoping the superficial things on your list would be enough. The only thing that did seem to last is the trauma bond and soul tie that the toxic relationship left you with. One of the main reasons women do not want to heal is because they fear the pain of healing. Making the decision to heal involves pain, and staying right where you are on the hamster wheel of soul-tied toxic relationships with narcissists involve pain. There is no getting around it. The reward is on the other side of the pain. And after getting to the other side, you must set up boundaries so that potential partners can enhance, not restrict their knowledge of you.

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Thursday, June 16, 2022

June is PTSD Awareness Month

Discussed EXTREME PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder with England’s

Clare Davis on YouTube and podcast:  “Mental Health Chats”

We discussed how TRAUMA can present itself in various ways and to anyone who has experienced tremendous shock or devastating loss. Some symptoms include: Flashbacks, Nightmares and/or Insomnia, Anxiety, Agitation, Avoiding anything or feeling that may be triggering or reminding, Negative Thoughts towards self, Perseverating, Adrenaline Rush and/or Distorted feelings of guilt or blame.

People can heal from their traumas with knowledge and understanding.

You CAN rise above PTSD and Trauma and learn how to cope.  You CAN experience safety and peace. You CAN go on to live a happy and blessed life.

My 5-book series “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE” provides creative tools to work through symptoms of PTSD and the many losses associated with the trauma you experienced as a result of abusive others.

Click on the link below to watch our interview, to be aired in September:

https://www.youtube.com/mentalhealthchats

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6-15-22

Surprise Social Media (Facebook & Twitter) Shout Out from my publisher:

Balboa Press/Hay House

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Monday, June 13, 2022

Honored to connect with Barbara Lane on  “FICTITIOUS TRUTHS” 

We discussed Intergenerational Child Abuse and Parental Alienation.

Awareness is needed. 

We cannot un-see what we have seen. We cannot un-experience what we have experienced, despite our abuser’s Gaslighting, Smearing and Projection, and their covert attempts to hide the truth with their False Narrative and efforts to rewrite history as they publicly and wrongly portray the role of the upstanding, moral victim who acts like they only wants the best for his/her children. 

Stories of our lives, including abuse and significant losses, are powerful as they stir our emotions and impact our behaviors and future relationships. Our voices matter, even if it takes years and years to put the pieces of the abuse puzzle together. Knowledge and research on Trauma-Bonding, Gaslighting, Projection, Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon helps put the pain/disbelief into perspective. Children’s and Targeted Parent’s lives are torn apart by abusive others.

It’s good to know that with love, compassion and awareness, along with staying true to your integrity and truly admirable qualities, you can rise above your unfortunate heartaches. The damage has unfortunately been done, but victims can become survivors and thrivers by choosing to acknowledge the abuser’s wrongdoings, understand our role in the continuation of pain and take charge of our own future.

‘SEE IT. STOP IT.’

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGZo1Y-qTb4Wta8k5kg_7Yg

 

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Sunday, June 12, 2022

Presented LIVE tonight at the 

SAI-Spiritual Awakenings International  Conference 2022

Click on the link to watch my segment:

https://youtu.be/QeOr6TL5MNk

 

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Fri-YAY June 10, 2022

The name of the game for the Identity-Disordered, undiagnosed Narcissist is

POWER & CONTROL

Abusers are obsessed with money and your destruction and engage in extreme

FINANCIAL ABUSE

during your relationship and even decades after you have escaped.

Check out the Enlightened Target Jill Wise’s short video of a long list of examples:

https://youtu.be/XRCY3Sx_FDw

 

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Thursday, June 9, 2022 

Ashley Gonor and I had a heartfelt conversation on

“UNCOVER YOUR MAGIC”

Ashley believes that everyone has a story to share. She digs deep to uncover the beautiful miracles from her guest’s life experiences to inspire and encourage others to live life to the fullest with passion and purpose. Everyone has magic!

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://shows.acast.com/uncover-your-magic/episodes/how-an-atheist-found-god-at-a-garage-sale-with-dr-marni-hill

Yes, I painted that octopus!

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Tuesday, June 7, 2022

So glad to connect with Jackie Tantillo on her show:

“SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY MOTHER”

Jackie and I discussed how my mom played such a positive role in my life, influencing me and encouraging my love of learning, creativity, self-expression, researching and writing. I went on to be a high school teacher, college professor and writer, just like my beautiful mother did.  I look back in wonder at the many similarities of our experiences and her ingenious, unconventional, creative and ahead-of-her-time ways to instill life lessons with critical thinking, research and the written word.

I love you mom. I thank you mom. I miss you mom. I understand now mom. 

Click on the audio link below to listen to our interview:

https://shltmm.simplecast.com/episodes/host-jackie-tantillo-lessons-learned-from-my-mother-with-guest-author-dr-marni-hill-foderaro

 

The most beautiful gift and blessing in this world is being a mom!

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Wishing you a Wonderful first Weekend in June!

It is absolutely beautiful here in sunny St. Croix in the United States Virgin Islands. I hope that wherever you reside, you will take the time to get outdoors to enjoy your surroundings, reflecting on your blessings, accepting of your journey and grounding yourself in wonder.

I will spend the weekend being mindful, embracing gratitude and immersed in nature: hiking the rainforest, snorkeling the sea, going horseback riding, tending to my gardens and of course, reading by the pool sipping a luscious libation with our homegrown mangos and pineapples and locally-sourced Caribbean spices and spirits.

When I moved a few years back to this amazing island for healing and new adventures, one weekend at Sandy Point Beach my path crossed with Greg Ray Dunnett, a wise and witty writer who splits his time on our “rock” with his East Coast roots. I encourage you to check out his book “Cliffs of the Heart” (and his latest “365 Gratitudes”) or sign up for his interesting and timely blog.  This valuable volume is a collaboration of verse and witticisms as daily guideposts to better living, and was illustrated by Southington, Connecticut artist Clinton Deckert.

Today’s post resonated with me:

June 3, 2022 Connecticut, Greg’s Blog, St Croix

Have you ever noticed the more you heal, the more sensitive you get to recognizing bad energy and draining influences. It’s a fact. Those that love deeply and think deeply on life are usually honest, loyal and true, often finding themselves alone on the fringes of circus life. They are not easily hardened by the world. There is a gentle grace about their sensibilities, perceptive abilities and awareness. They are sincere and true souls that don’t create drama or division intentionally. Sensitivity is an aliveness, a harmony with life, being able to sense things that miss the common glance of surface folk. Sensitive people suffer more but they live more, dream more and accept less negativity from others but are also great listeners. Sensitivity is a sign of strength, a wising up, not some wishy-washy snowflake thing. Our wounds that have been healed become overtures to the deepest and most beautiful sides of ourselves that have acquired wisdom and patience through the process of suffering our fate faithfully. The most harmful things that hurt us deeply can also bring out the best because we learned to grow and evolve instead of setting us back. Sensitive souls are born out of chaos and disharmony and are more understanding of others who have similarly suffered misfortune and turned it into sunshine on a rainy day. Most people are too busy living other people’s lives through assumptions and judgments while pissing away their own creative talents by not fully examining their own heart. Peering into the abyss of self makes us adept at reading the hearts of others without prejudice or misconceptions…

To purchase Ray’s book or sign up for his newsletters, click on his website link below:

https://cliffsoftheheart.com/f/have-you-ever-noticed-the-more-you-heal-1

LIVE on #THE LOUNGE

Fri-YAY night!!! June 3, 2022

I was interviewed LIVE by Marisa Liza Pell.  We talked about the often-ignored Red Flags of relationships with abusive, dishonest others and eventually finding the courage to leave, valuing your emotional well-being and physical safety, despite enduring hardships and significant losses. We also discussed STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences and how paying attention to the universe’s signs and synchronicities can lead to greater spiritual awareness.

Click on the link below to watch the replay:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttZ3JC23lU4

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Fri-YAY !!! June 3, 2022

I joined Dr. Damaris, Integrative Family Nurse Practitioner, Mom and Veteran on the

MINDFULLY INTEGRATIVE PODCAST

where she highlights inspirational and successful people who have found mindful investor ways to help themselves achieve optimal integrative wellness and balance in their lives. We discussed taking care of ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually, which may involve making some tough choices about what people and situations we let into or keep in our lives.

Click on the link to tune in to our chat:

https://www.listennotes.com/fi/podcasts/mindfully/mindful-chat-with-dr-marni-_QWp9iZP6RG/

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Thursday, June 2, 2022

Honored to interview with the amazing

TRACY A. MALONE 

Tracy is a survival coach, educator, speaker, podcaster, author & founder of 

NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

a global resource to empower victims of emotional abuse. She coined the term “SurTHRIVER” and helps victims find the light at the end of the recovery tunnel. She helps people understand the personality disorder known as narcissism and is passionate about raising awareness about Domestic Violence of men & women.

Our discussion was on new tools to help victims of Narcissistic Abuse heal.

Our interview highlighted my 5-book series  “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/al4wjhU6emU

Tracy A. Malone endorsed my 5-books series:  “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

“True Deceit False Love is THE must-have reference guide for the many terms and phrases associated with Domestic Violence. As a surTHRIVER, Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro objectively and thoughtfully brings awareness to Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation. When you begin to heal, you need words to articulate your feelings and experiences. This validating volume is an extremely helpful resource for your recovery journey.”

~Tracy A. Malone, surTHRIVER, Coach, Speaker, Author of Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up and Founder of the internationally renowned

narcissistabusesupport.com

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2-part interview series starting Wednesday, June 1, 2022

with host and life coach Deborah Brown on

“TAKING A LEAP” doing life YOUR way! the show that expands your comfort zone

We discussed my big LEAPS of Faith: my 1st LEAP of choosing to honor myself and stay true to my values of HONESTY, COMPASSION AND LOVE by leaving an unhealthy relationship and my 2nd LEAP of moving from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs to embarking on new and exciting adventures in the CARIBBEAN!

Click on the link below to listen to Part 1 of our two interviews:

https://pod.co/taking-a-leaps-tracks/marni-foderaro-pt1-god-came-to-my-garage-sale

 

Click on the link below to listen to Part 2 of our two interviews:

https://optimalleap.coachesconsole.com/taking-a-leap.htm

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Great conversation with a fellow Midwesterner, podcast host Tammy Haldeman of

“TAMMY FOR A CHANGE”

We discussed handling life’s challenges with gratitude, optimism, positivity, kindness, compassion, forgiveness and the highest vibration of LOVE.

“BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD”

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“Exploring Ascension”

with two amazing influencers, experiencers & survivors:

Tricia Barker & Lisa A. Romano Check out their conversation on

“Be the Light of Your Own Healing” by clicking the link below:

https://youtu.be/JhD5dXCYy-U

“Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro empowers readers with knowledge and unconditional love on their healing journey from Narcissistic Abuse. The TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books provides deep insight, validation, education and support to those who are healing from emotional abuse and sabotage on their life journey. This resourceful series of books offers much hope to those who are working to recover the truth of themselves before abuse and Alienation. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro is helping to transform trauma and bring more light to this world, and I enthusiastically recommend her books.”   

~Tricia Barker, Near Death Experiencer, YouTuber, Intuitive, Medium, Professor, Author of “Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival and Transformation” and “Loving Narcissus & Sometimes God: Poems”

“When you suffer from Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse you are conditioned to doubt your reality, as well as your suffering. In time, you learn to believe that what is happening is your fault. Disowning one’s right to honor what one feels and experiences is controlled through the manipulation of words and phrases used by the abuser. For this reason, a book such as TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE is a lighthouse for so many who are having to crawl their way out of the psychic traumas caused by abusive others. Understanding terms and phrases as abusive helps a victim develop the ability to identify manipulation before a victim assumes blame for any impending abusive episode. Thank you Marni for being a lighthouse to so many.”

~Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, Bestselling Author and Spiritual Healer

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WEEKEND WORD SEARCHES  informational, relaxing and healing

& an Amazon BEST SELLER!!!

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My article was featured in the May 2022 issue of the

CONSCIOUS COMMUNITY MAGAZINE

The Conscious Community Magazine is a Chicago-based publication and is the oldest spiritual magazine in the United States dedicated to elevating consciousness. They believe that mindful communication can foster positive growth and we are all co-creators of this world. My article is entitled:

“LIVING IN GRATITUDE AND WRITING

AFTER EXPERIENCING SPIRITUAL SYNCHRONICITIES”

Click on the link below to read my article:

https://consciouscommunitymagazine.com/living-in-gratitude-and-writing-after-experiencing-spiritual-synchronicities/

 

By Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

There have been thousands of documented testimonials supporting the correlation of surviving traumatic life challenges with experiencing Spiritual Awakenings. Numerous people have publicly shared their testimonials after experiencing accidents, medical mishaps, severe hardships, abuse, loss, and death resulting in these ordinary people’s lives being forever changed. Many of them report experiencing STEs (Spiritually Transformative Encounters) and NDEs (Near Death Experiences) that have had such a significant impact on them that they “see the light” and are engulfed with feelings of profound gratitude, love, and connection to the Divine.

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Thursday, May 26, 2022  “WE BELIEVE…DO YOU?”

So neat to join the kind, articulate, interesting, inquisitive and accomplished young adult brother & sister duo, Michelle & Eric Connor, who explore weird and unexplained brushes with the paranormal. We discussed psychics, mediums, manifesting, synchronicities and my numerous trauma-induced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences that led to my Awakening and inspired my 2020 Best Books Award Winning and 5-Star Reader’s Favorite spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

Click on the link below to listen to our audio interview:

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5yZWRjaXJjbGUuY29tLzNhNDc0NTdkLWZmMGYtNGQ4Ni1iZTc3LTdhYzc5M2VhODlmNg/episode/NTg4OWYwNTEtNTMwZS00NWUwLTg3MTQtNDFkM2Q1NDg4ZjJk

 

 

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Wednesday, May 25, 2022

I was invited back by host extraordinaire Kevin McDonald of KM Media to return to

 POSITIVE TALK RADIO LIVE

We discussed staying true to your values and making choices to live a beautiful life despite the calculated efforts, Gaslighting and Abuse from (mostly undiagnosed) narcissistic and obsessive personality disordered individuals. We both agreed that honesty, goodness, forgiveness, awareness and LOVE are what life is all about; we should pray for those who are misguided and intentionally causing harm to others.

KINDNESS MATTERS:  Let’s all be kind to one another!

Click on the link below to watch our LIVE interview on Positive Talk Radio:

https://youtu.be/_0jlWJLMGYc

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“It became clear to me that neither I nor my readers were quite ready to say goodbye. However, I’d already reached the conclusion that the series had come to its inevitable end. But that didn’t necessarily mean that all the characters had.”

~Karen White

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Fri-YAY !!! May 20, 2022

joined fellow author, the very COOL Tony Peters of

“COOL EXPLORATIONS”

as we discussed experiences and inspiration to write books!

I recounted my early beliefs before learning about God and how my life was forever changed by my quest to seek answers, along with my Spiritual encounters.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/Wd5ayXNrxZM

Tony asked ME for an endorsement of “Cool Explorations”

as he has some exciting opportunities for his podcast. I wrote:

“As a guest interviewed on Cool Explorations, I was honored to have a conversation with podcast host Tony Peters. He is very open to hearing the unique journey of individuals, with varying beliefs and foundations, that lead them to God which positively changed their lives. Experiencing inspirational truths and clarity often results from living though life’s hardships and adversities. Tony brilliantly and personally connects with and gently challenges his guests and audience to uncover thought provoking insights through a respectful and open dialogue. Tony’s podcast Cool Explorations is a gift to anyone who tunes in, and will assist all in finding a more positive path in their life.”

~ Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro, award-winning educator, speaker and author of “God Came To My Garage Sale”

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Thursday NIGHT May 19, 2022

LIVE RADIO interview with Paranormal Phil on  “TALK IN THE NIGHT”

We discussed NDEs-Near Death Experiences and STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences, as well as our common experiences of traveling and experiencing different cultures!  Click on the link below to listen to our conversation:

https://www.spreaker.com/user/4448626/god-came-to-my-garage-sale

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Thursday, May 19, 2022

Marni joined the beautiful and articulate Sara Troy on the

SELF-DISCOVERY MEDIA NETWORK

This podcast provides keys, inspiration and empowerment to living a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Marni’s episode is entitled:  “CHOOSE POSITIVE LIVING”

Marni is passionate about handling life’s challenges with honesty, love, compassion, forgiveness, research and self-discovery. Like most of us, her journey has been that of peaks and valleys, with many life lessons learned along the way. Staying true to your values and following your passions can help you overcome adversity and live a more fulfilling, self-actualized life. Marni found her survivor voice midlife, after experiencing significant losses as a result of her choosing to leave unhealthy and abusive relationships and doing the inner work to reclaim her life. Our voices and conversations matter because they can inspire others to rise above their challenges and encourage them to choose positive living on their own road to self-discovery.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/e8LD9H1yesU

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MOTHER’S DAY 2022

This Loving, Targeted and Alienated MOM is making new and meaningful Mother’s Day Memories with a Magnificent Miami, Florida Book Signing and a Marvelous Mexico Holiday (I even swam with 4 sharks, 2 dolphins & many stingrays)

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Dr. Sam Vaknin, psychology professor and author of  “Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited”

discusses the Covert, Malignant Narcissist’s Collapse and Disintegration as he/she is Defeated and Shamed because he/she Exposes themselves and their calculated False Narratives, Lies and Half-Truths; in time, Victimized Targets can figure out the Malevolent motives of these Obsessed, Disordered Psychopaths/Sociopaths, popping their “Grandiosity Bubble” and Delusions by no longer providing Grade A or B Supply. The bigger their inevitable Failure and the older they get, the more the NPD person makes futile attempts to self-generate their own Supply.

Still, people need to be Vigilant! These Paranoid types Traumatize and Punish their Victims as their Mask Slips; They are Abusive, can be Violent/Dangerous and after all their attempts to Destroy fail, some have been known to murder their associates, exes and even their own children.

All people, including these Abusers, need our Prayers and God’s AGAPE Love.

Click on the link below to tune into today’s (5-22-22) 45-minute video:

https://youtu.be/QtnaiA01GeM

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BOOK RELEASE ANNOUNCEMENT

Book 5 of the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE SERIES

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Word Search Puzzles on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma”

is available now at Balboa Press/Hay House, Barnes and Noble and Amazon

This 5th volume is a creative response to deal with the trauma that Targeted individuals, both men and women and dads and moms, experience at the hands of their abuser(s). When you solve each TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE Word Search Puzzle, you are one step closer to solving the Family Violence puzzles in your life.

Solving Word Search Puzzles can be challenging yet rewarding. Playing “detective” and uncovering the secrets and dishonest double-life that Covert Abusers work so hard for years to conceal behind their False Masks and fake public image/personas is very challenging, but learning the painful truth of their calculated betrayal and deceit can help you make decisions to be safe, honor yourself, create boundaries and eventually reclaim your life, despite your significant losses.  Let the healing begin!

 

“A puzzle challenges the player to get from a problem to a solution.” ~ Ernest Adams

I have said that “Words have the power to hurt, but words also have the power to heal.”

The same day Book 5 of my “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE” series arrived on island, I came across this island sign which states:  “Words kill. Words give life.”

There are no coincidences, only synchronicities!

This 5th book of the

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series became an

Amazon BEST SELLER!

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Fri-YAY, April 29, 2022

Had an AMAZING conversation with two AMAZING people:

Laurel and Amie of the LOVE FOOL Podcast

Our episode is called: “Some Kind of Heaven”

These two are all about sharing heartfelt and real-life stories in all their messy, glorious, honest detail. They speak with women who are building lives on the other side of “supposed to” using self-love as a guide through any type of relationship. We even played a “would you rather….” game at the end of our time together!

This week on Love Fool, we talk to Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro. Each week we speak with women who have chosen to live their lives on the other side of ‘supposed to’ and Marni tells us how she was finally able to build that bridge for herself. 

She speaks with us about the long term affects of narcissistic abuse, starting over, and living her best life as an author in the Caribbean. We were so fortunate to get to learn from her about moving on and moving up while you heal your life. 

Click on the link below to tune into our interview:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6T9VtGOY24VnyqphFXCAhZ?si=r48BasW4QYGWtK19lnWvwQ

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Monday, April 25, 2022

PARENTAL ALIENATION AWARENESS DAY  !!! P. A. is Extreme Child Abuse !!!

Below is the Free-Verse Poem “PERVERTED PURPOSE” from:

Below is the Acrostic Poem “GRIEVING PARENTS” from:

***** Grieving Parents *****

G —rieving parents are just naturally

R —eacting to losing their once-

I —ntact relationship with their children who were

E —ffectively lost after the divorce when the

V —indictive Spouse (and it can be either dad or mom)

I —solates and Brainwashes the kids with

N —asty, outright lies or believable half-truths to

G —ain their kids’ loyalty and favor. This is called

 

P —arental Alienation. It’s a devastating form of Child Abuse

A —ffecting way over 22 million people worldwide. This

R —adical change in the family dynamic

E —rases the Loving Parent from the child’s life.

N —arcissists are known to cheat, lie, steal, isolate and Alienate.

T —hese Abusers don’t really love their children if they

S —eparate them from the love of their other parent, causing grief and the loss of a living child.

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Fri-YAY, April 22, 2022

This interview addressed some very tough abuse topics with Kellie McKenzie

a survivor of familial sex trafficking and Domestic Violence on

THE UNBROKEN PODCAST

We discussed how our voices matter.

Martin Luther King, Jr. said: “For good people, staying silent isn’t an option.”

Kellie’s favorite quote is:  “I will not remain silent just so you can stay comfortable.“

Click on the link below to hear our conversation:

https://anchor.fm/theunbrokenpodcast924/episodes/Interview-with-Dr-Marni-e1hqinj

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Part 2 on 2-21-22

Second Interview with Ohio’s Pegi Robinson on NDE TV

Today marks ONE MILLION views on her show!

We discussed both of our numerous STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences and how they are similar to NDEs-Near Death Experiences

Click on the link below to watch today’s Part 2 Interview:

https://youtu.be/c9Aoi2qJCLM

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Monday, April 18, 2022

Joined Empowerment Keynote Speaker, Consultant & Podcaster Diane Halfman of 

The “Live Your SPAlife” podcast  (S.P.A. stands for SEEK POWER ALWAYS!)

Our interview was part of the Freedom Fighter Series. We discussed the Divine Power within each of us to improve our own lives, while positively impacting the lives of others. Handling life’s challenges, personally and globally, becomes easier when we stay true to our core values and trust in God to help us discern the dark from the light. Our voices matter! Goodness and Honesty matters! Living in Gratitude with an appreciation for nature can help ground us to bring us towards self-actualization.

Click on the YouTube link below to check out our conversation:

https://youtu.be/7TjDSgi6bCM

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Monday, April 18, 2022

Heartfelt conversation with Ohio NDEr & STEr & author Pegi Robinson on

NDE TV: Near Death Experience Television

where we discussed TRAUMA-INDUCED Spiritually Transformative Experiences

In addition to discussing the amazing out-of-body experiences where time stood still that happened as I was embarking on a new journey after choosing to leave a covert, malignant abuser and my 27-year marriage, prompting me to find my survivor’s voice and write my 2020 Best Books Award-Winning spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

and eventually my prominently endorsed 5-book series

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

Spirit guided Pegi to talk about Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation and how God watches over the honest, empathetic, loving souls to stay in the light and handle these often painful earthly challenges with honesty and goodness.

It’s important to live with no malicious intent and only

LOVE and GRATITUDE in our hearts.

Click on the link below to tune into our conversation:

https://youtu.be/0ZPI8AoULao

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AFTER YEARS OF ONGOING DOMESTIC ABUSE DIRECTED AT THE LOVING AND EMPATHETIC EX-HUSBAND OR EX-WIFE,  ALONG WITH EXTREME PARENTAL ALIENATION, BRAINWASHING AND CONTROL OF YOUNG AND/OR ADULT CHILDREN, THIS SACRED SEASON WE ALL SHOULD PRAY FOR THE ABUSING ALIENATORS THAT THEY WILL FIND THE PEACE AND HAPPINESS TO GET WELL BY LEARNING ABOUT NPD AND THE IMPACT THEIR BEHAVIOR HAS ON OTHERS, MOVE ON, LET GO AND END THEIR EVIL AND VINDICTIVE OBSESSION WITH DESTROYING THEIR EX-SPOUSE. THESE ABUSERS NEED GOD’S LOVE & OUR PRAYERS.

THE TRUTH EVENTUALLY TRIUMPHS

& JUSTICE WILL HOPEFULLY PREVAIL!

POST-SEPARATION ABUSE WHEEL INCLUDES:

Domestic Abuse by Proxy, Neglectful/Abusive/Counter-Parenting, Isolation/Discarding, Under-the-Radar Harassment/Stalking, Financial Abuse

and of course continued decades-long Legal Abuse

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Thursday, April 14, 2022

Absolutely honored to be interviewed on  “THE GRIND ACADEMY”

with founder of Grind Equity and host Rob Paterson, who features world-class athletes, life specialists, industry titans, entrepreneurs and respected authors to share real life stories and practical skills NOT taught at school. This is an Academy for excelling at the school of life! We discussed my life’s journey and all of the amazing signs, synchronicities and determined efforts that led to awareness, understanding, growth and deep healing to being able to enjoy my wonderful life in the Caribbean.

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My book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

is featured on page 16 of the May/June Issue 3/Volume 50 of

 

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Wednesday, April 13, 2022

Joined Rick Nuske of the “My Future Business Show”

We discussed creating a new career and life by following our values, finding our passions and working through our past relationship traumas

“Tools for living your best, most productive life”

I shared my journey of becoming an award-winning author

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://myfuturebusiness.com/marni-hill-foderaro/

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Wondering what the signs are of PARENTAL ALIENATION?

You’ve read the definitions; below is a list (using Dr. Amy Baker’s guide) of 17 strategies/behaviors that the Covert, Malignant, Abusing Alienator does to brainwash and align the children to reject the Targeted, Loving, Normal-Range Parent:

1. Badmouth-Denigrate-Gaslight (directly or indirectly)

2. limit contact-keep kids away

3. interfere with all verbal, written and in-person communication

4. hide or throw out photos-gifts-mementos; rewrite memories

5. withhold love and approval; conditional relationship

6. lie; tell kids the other parent doesn’t love them

7. force children to choose-bribe with money

8. create the impression the other parent is dangerous and unsafe

     encourage adult kids to file false orders of protection-get parent falsely arrested

9. confide inappropriate secrets

10. encourage kids to reject the other parent in multiple ways

11. get kids to spy and report on other parent

12. tell kids to keep secrets or tell them what to say

13.  encourage kids to call other parent by first name, not dad or mom

14. encourage kids to call stepparent dad or mom to erase biological parent

15. withhold medical, social and academic information from other parent

       get professionals against other parent 

16. changing child’s name-or secretly move them out of town/state

17. undermining other parent’s authority-inducing unhealthy dependence, especially with money

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Why do we stay in Toxic Relationships and Abusive Marriages for years, even though we know of their Secret-Agent-Man-or-Woman Double Life? Do we stay for the sake of and stability for the kids? We don’t want to be the one to break up the family? We believe we should honor our vows? We don’t have access to any of our joint money and don’t feel we can make it on our own? We have been Gaslit to believe we are not worthy or capable? We have been beaten down by the Abuser, so now the extreme Emotional Stress has manifested into physical ailments and we just don’t have the strength or stamina? The Intermittent Reinforcement keeps us Trauma-Bonded?

Or, have we been threatened with harm or losing everything?…

“Don’t you DARE divorce me or I will take your home, your money and your children.” 

And then when we seriously contemplate leaving, we come to learn that we no longer have a support system with friends, family and neighbors because of our Abuser’s underhanded and Covert Smear Campaign of outright lies and believable half-truths.

REAL LOVE DOES NOT ABUSE

The author Suzanna Quintana starts out by saying….

“The way he ignored me for days, the smirk that appeared on his mouth whenever I was in pain, the black eyes that glared at me without feeling…Days, months, years passed. And I stayed.”

Well, “it’s finally your time to heal after Narcissistic Abuse.”

“HOW BAD DOES IT NEED TO GET BEFORE YOU LEAVE?”

Click on the link below to read her enlightening article:

https://medium.com/the-virago/how-bad-does-it-need-to-get-before-you-leave-5a7e3ce021

 

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Check out “WOMEN OF IMPACT”

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Monday, Monday…ba da… ba da da da….4/11/22

Joined the beautiful and lovely podcast host Lynn Wadsworth of

“LIVING LIFE NATURALLY”

We discussed choosing to live your best life after surviving and escaping Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma, staying safe from your perpetrator(s), doing the inner work to help understand your experiences, and checking out resources to help in your recovery, including the information and activities in my 5-book series

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/tO9inZ2G3BA

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Let the TRUTH PREVAIL!!!

Praying that Justice will finally follow suit & the abuser’s lies are exposed!

Survivors have real reasons to live in fear of their abusers, as these malevolent individuals are capable of unthinkable acts and go to great efforts to stalk you and learn your unpublished whereabouts. If they can successfully alienate you from you own adult children, get otherwise close friends, family and neighbors to turn against you and completely destroy you financially, they are capable of murder. (of course, they won’t ever get their hands dirty…that would be too obvious!) Be & stay vigilant!

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Fri-YAY, April 8, 2022

Honored to present for the 2nd time at the annual

Virgin Islands Literary Festival and Book Fair  Book Bacchanal

This year’s theme was:  DISRUPTION, DISGUISE & ILLUMINATIONS

Victims of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma can relate to having their lives completely disrupted by their calculating, malevolent, personality-disordered abuser who disguises himself/herself with a false mask/public persona as an upstanding, honest, ethical and caring person, when they are anything but. Survivors are those fortunate individuals who are illuminated to the truth when the abuser’s mask slips and have the strength to escape. There are many ways to heal, including reading. writing (journaling or creating poetry) and even doing Word Search Puzzles, which provide a creative outlet to understand your ordeal/experiences and cope, while inspiring other survivors to live their best life.

At this year’s Book Bacchanal, I highlighted my 5-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

and read one of my 13 free-verse poems from Book 4 entitled:  CARIBBEAN CALLS

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So many people are now becoming aware of and speaking out on

COVERT NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

Read the short QUORA synopsis by Trauma Expert, Master Healer, Physician & Narcissist Survivor Dr. Melissa Kalt, MD:

The victim of the narcissist is repeatedly abused throughout the duration of the relationship. As a result of this abuse, the victim will gradually lose their self-esteem, self-confidence, and sense of self-worth.

They will develop physical, mental, and emotional symptoms they didn’t have prior to the relationship. The victim will get sicker and sicker.

At this point, one of two things will happen. They will either become aware of the abuse and choose to stand up and fight for their life OR they will die.

Awareness is the first step.

As the victim becomes aware of the abuse, they start to do a lot of research – voraciously consuming books, articles, and videos. They may start seeing a therapist, join a support group, either in-person or online, or start asking for feedback from friends.

At some point, the victim realizes they are in a relationship with a covert narcissist. For the first time since the relationship began, things start to make sense. The victim starts to realize they were not the problem.

The victim starts to recognize projection, deflection, denial, dismissal, blame-shifting, future-faking, and more. The pieces start to fall into place.

The pieces begin to fall into place.

Just like in one of those online puzzles, once enough pieces are in place, it’s easy to recognize the subject of the image. You’re no longer guessing if it’s a gorilla, a sailboat, or a race car.

So too, for the victim. As the pieces fall into place, the victim discovers they are NOT

• Too needy

• Too controlling

• Too sensitive

• Too weak

• Too insecure

• Too overweight

• Too full of themselves

• Too into their career

They realize they DON’T

• Put money before people

• Bring on the abuse by being annoying

• Own the narcissist’s behavior

• Have to feel confused anymore

• Have to stay in the relationship

Next comes righteous indignation.

At this stage, the victim will start to stand up for themselves and challenge the narcissist. They don’t yet know what they’re dealing with and how dangerous this action really is.

The narcissist may initially get a lot of narcissistic supply from this exchange. Crying, sobbing, yelling, screaming, threatening to leave, but then ultimately choosing to stay gives them a crap ton of supply.

This supply for them comes at great cost, as they also increase their internal shame, fear, and rage. The narcissist will want to put you in your place, to shut this behavior down immediately. They will either disappear for a period of time, hoping to punish you with a silent treatment until you beg them to come back and stop this behavior, or they will intensify their devaluation of you.

In either case, it’s not pleasant. In some cases, it’s downright dangerous.

The beginning of the end.

Over time, if you stay, you will see their mask slip more often. They will be stressed, desperate, and more prone to mistakes. You will be more aware, more able to see what’s happening before your very eyes.

You will stop making excuses for them.

Eventually, you will see them so clearly, it’s impossible to unsee it.

At that point, they will discard you or torture you until you discard them.

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Tuesday, April 6, 2022

1-hour podcast interview on

“I KNOW YOU HEAR ME with Flynn Hendrix”

We had a great conversation about my successful and rewarding 35-year career as a Special Education Teacher and how

INTEGRITY, KINDNESS & SINCERITY

and as a caring, compassionateteacher and a loving mother

encouraging independence in others and staying true to my core values of

HONESTY, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, GOODNESS & LOVE

helped me surTHRIVE and positively process life’s challenges, including Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma

Flynn and I also share a passion for  ANIMAL WELFARE & RESCUE

Flynn posted the animal welfare organizations that I support in the show notes. Please consider supporting them and showing love to our furry friends.

Our interview took place the evening I returned home to the Caribbean after a wonderful 3-week ski & spa vacation out West, which included a Book Signing!

Click on the link below to watch our candid conversation:

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NmQ5YmE4Yy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw/episode/MGJlOGIxMDQtOGJlNS00NzgxLWIwNTAtYTY4YjRjNzZiYTVi

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“S“eries of “S“o many “S“pecial, “S“piritual & “S“ignificant adventures over my 3-week “S“ensational “S“ki & “S“pa “S“pring Break in “S“nowy & “S“unny

“S“alt Lake City, Utah at the Alta “S“nowpine:

Successful Book Signing, Skiing, Stillwell Spa & Sandy’s Synchronicities Salt Cave

I worked/wrote during my vacation,

continuing with the theme of terms & phrases to inspire healing,

I also completed the soon-to-be-released Book 5 of my series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: Word Search Puzzles

on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma

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The extreme child abuse indirectly inflicted by the deceitful narcissistic parent on their innocent children has negative and detrimental lifelong consequences. As a result, adult children aren’t able to self-actualize and be independent. 

Click the link below to listen as Anoushka dives deep into these personality-disordered individuals and why they cause the harm they do. 💕🙏🏼😃📚📖✏️.

https://youtu.be/AcrE_I69WCw

 

Thank you Anoushka for the  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE  book series shout out!

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Thursday, March 24, 2022

Joined the lovely and talented Chou Hallegra on  THE GRACE & HOPE PODCAST

where the focus is on empowering people to achieve mental and emotional wellness, reach their full potential and live fulfilling lives

We discussed RESILIENCY and how resiliency relates to life & career changes and challenges. If we look at adversity with the lens of GRATITUDE, then we can endure life’s hardships in a positive manner and rise above the negative, creating a beautiful life. Click the link below to listen to our interview:

https://anchor.fm/graceandhopeconsulting/episodes/Retired-High-School-Teacher-Turned-Award-Winning-Author-Shares-Her-Journey-From-Divorce-to-Living-in-Paradise-e1jcphk

 

Click the YouTube link below to watch to our interview, which aires June 15, 2022:

https://youtu.be/M793OB4KIJw

 

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March 22, 2022

!!! BOOK RELEASE ANNOUNCEMENT !!!

Book 4 of the series  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE was released 3-22-22 @ 2:22 am by

a division of

HAY HOUSE PUBLISHING

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Violence at the hands of a malevolent, calculating abuser, someone you cared for and loved unconditionally, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting, deliberate smearing and significant losses you’ve endured and then to be able to understand, express and heal from your trauma can be especially challenging.

Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal.

Book 4 (this yellow volume) of the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books

provides information on and an emotional, experiential response to many terms & phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation, as well as Intergenerational Family Trauma. Reading these free-verse poems may result in much-needed validation as you reflect on what you’ve been through while you connect the dots to your own experiences. In time, the abuser’s mask slips, and with your own research and creative outlet, you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice, reclaim your authenticity and live a blessed and happy life filled with abundance, gratitude and love. 

I would like to offer words of hope and encouragement to all of the men, women and children who find themselves navigating Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and/or Intergenerational Family Trauma. Know that you are a beautiful, loving soul who should be treated with kindness and respect. You are not crazy. You didn’t do anything to deserve the malicious treatment you received at the hands of your abuser and his/her Flying Monkeys. Don’t be hard on yourself that it took you so long to finally see things for what they really are; abusers are skilled master-manipulators and put great efforts into hiding their venomous, vindictive and vile deceit behind their fraudulent mask. Remember, nobody is perfect and we are all here on earth to learn life’s lessons. You know the truth of what you’ve been through. Understanding ourselves, as well as learning the dynamics of toxic individuals who engage in Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and/or Parental Alienation can be very enlightening and help empower you to move towards peace and self-actualization. Your survivor voice matters. Turn your negative experiences into positive opportunities to evolve into the genuine person that you were meant to be. Don’t be surprised if you experience some type of Spiritual Awakening and are now more in tune with the universe’s signs and synchronicities. This may be a good time to reconnect, embrace and trust in a Divine Higher Source.

You never know, God could even come to your garage sale!

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Fri-YAY, March 18, 2022

Interview with Australia’s kind and soft-spoken Isaac Marano of the

AFTER DARK PODCAST: The Brave, The Strong, The SURVIVORS

We discussed the various types of abuse that can happen as a result of being in toxic relationships: physical, emotional, financial, sexual and Parental Alienation. Abusers often use covert, underhanded Gaslighting, Isolation and Smearing in an attempt to slowly destroy their targeted victims. Many abusers work in top leadership positions where they appear to be morally ethical, upstanding and financially responsible as they wear a false charismatic mask in public, but in reality, they are anything but behind closed doors. These disordered individuals display traits of covert, malignant narcissism and are master-manipulators who put forth extreme, calculated energy to completely fool your family, your friends, your neighbors and of course, lawyers, judges and the courts; they fooled you in the beginning and for years (even decades) throughout the relationship until your lightbulb was finally illuminated and you saw your abuser’s true colors. Healing after leaving an abuser is usually a long process and you often have to contend with continued personal and legal stalking and harassment long after your separation. Your journey eventually involves doing the inner-self work to look back on your own upbringing and family dynamics to see how possible intergenerational abuse and trauma played a role in you being the perfect chosen target for your perpetrator. However, there is hope to reclaim your life and enjoy a positive future. At first you need to take care of your basic survival and safety needs, but in time you can take the steps to restore your physical, emotional, financial and spiritual health.

Rediscover who you are, pursue your passions, practice self-care and surround yourself with honesty, goodness, true love and like-minded, HONEST people. Hang in there! You CAN live a better life.

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://afterdarkpodcast.com/index.php?page=episode&ep=45

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Wednesday, March 16, 2022

Joined Kimla Lowe on 27* SAG The Galactic Center Metaphysical Show

We discussed chapter 1 on dragonflies of my Spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Both of us have experienced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Encounters

Click on the link below to watch our interview; I joined in at the 25 minute mark:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mP5uIMGCRMlkHuRAMpo2vTBaK0FTxrN8/view

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Shout out to THE LITTLE SHAMAN

The Little Shaman is a NARCISSISM Specialist who works internationally with people to help them understand & heal after abuse. She is an amazing and articulate resource with her YouTube channel and/or individual counseling. If you would like her support, she offers reasonably-priced phone, text, email and Skype appointments, workshops and The Sacred Healing Recovery Group.

Her website is www.littleshaman.org

“Unconditional LOVE does not equal unconditional tolerance of behavior.

Unconditional LOVE does not equal unconditional sacrifice and abandonment of one’s self.

Unconditional LOVE does not equal an unconditional relationship.

LOVE can be unconditional. Relationships cannot.”  ~The Little Shaman

Check out her audio post on “Boundaries With Narcissists” by clicking the link below:

https://youtu.be/bqXMWH9Ak_8

 

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Fri-YAY 3-11-22

Honored to join Canadian podcast host Denise Eckert from

THE RELAXATION LOUNGE

Our “Balance Me” episode is:

Finding Yourself After a Toxic Situation with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

If we handle our challenging relationships and situations with LOVE, honesty, compassion and goodness, along with doing the inner work to stay true to our core values, make a plan to take positive steps toward self-actualization and pursue our passions, then we are on the road to reducing our anxiety and living a happier, less-stressed lifestyle. So many of us are overwhelmed with anxiety by taking on too much or staying in abusive/toxic relationships. If we can follow our gut intuition and take control of our circumstances, we can positively alter our destiny.

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview, which will aired June 7th:

https://youtu.be/T9kC1s5k0bs

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To the young or adult Children who have chosen to cut out one parent from their lives:

Hear from someone who was alienated by his mom to systematically reject his dad. Alienators are abusers who use the children to get back at their ex for leaving them after they found out the abuser’s true character and immoral, illegal or narcissistic behavior. Alienators can openly put down the other parent (like in Ryan’s case) or they can be SECRET AGENTS who very subtly get YOU to reject your loving dad or mom, you know, the parent that you always loved and who always loved you, but you believe they did something terrible to you, which they didn’t.

Please do some critical thinking on your own so you can realize the BIG LIE.

Please click on the link below to hear RYAN THOMAS, who has been through all of this control and chaos and finally realized that his dad was alienated and ALWAYS LOVED HIM.

https://youtu.be/8U54NF_mAck

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Tuesday, March 8, 2022

cool conversation with the beautiful and wise Mitzi on the

MITZI LET’S THINK ABOUT IT PODCAST

We discussed my award-winning and prominently endorsed spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and how important it is to speak our truth about what we’ve experienced with our

SPIRITUAL AWAKENING

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/CYPawzdlvp0

 

Click on the link below to listen our interview:

https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/e3b142f2-9f64-4431-973b-3895c17bafa5/episodes/6e9315ec-e9ff-42d0-b78f-fc5316de0d60/mitzi-let%E2%80%99s-think-about-it-let%E2%80%99s-think-about-%E2%80%9Dspirituality%E2%80%9D-w-sg-dr-marni-hill-foderaro

 

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Another Fri-YAY 3-4-22 Interview

I was on “The Solomon Tention Podcast” (a great guy) whose audience is mainly millennials who are navigating their life’s path and purpose, which includes how they handle ADVERSITY. Life’s challenges present themselves in many forms, including navigating Family Trauma Issues. Young adults who are aligned with one parent (either your dad or mom) and unjustly reject the other parent most likely are experiencing

PARENTAL ALIENATION WHAT CAN YOU DO?

Well, do some inner reflection and soul-searching to get to know yourself, YOUR interests, and YOUR goals…BE YOUR OWN PERSON, not the person someone else thinks you should be. The alienating parent who you are aligned with often compares you to others of the same age, isolates you, criticizes your abilities and interests, puts you down for the level of education, type of job and pay you have, and doesn’t truly love you for the person you are, the way you think they do anyway. They lack empathy and are very dishonest, controlling and manipulative, so they aren’t capable of really loving you the way a normal-range parent does. They are critical and dismissive of you and discount who you are. Your self-worth is negatively affected and you are left feeling like you are never good enough. Yet, this parent you are aligned with continues to fund you in order to control you and make you constantly dependent on them, even into your late 20’s and 30’s.

Some sneaky parents even use spyware and tracking devices on your electronics (computer, phone, gaming or movie subscriptions, etc… did they ever “gift” you an Apple Air Tag??? if so, beware). They set up cameras in your apartment or even on your car to monitor and micromanage you, invading your privacy. If they bought your phone and pay for your monthly bill, know they are tracking ALL your calls, texts, emails and location.

You currently choose this relationship over the relationship with your other, more loving, accepting and normal-range parent who you have cut out of your life, but hopefully this only temporarily because you eventually learn the truth. You are Trauma-Bonded with an abuser; he or she is unfortunately hurting you and the children the most, even though their intended Target is their ex-husband or ex-wife, your other parent. Also, if you don’t have a relationship with or have seen your sibling(s) in years and your aligned parent doesn’t tell you their address or contact information, making the excuse they are busy or they are honoring and respecting their wishes, you are being ISOLATED and manipulated. They don’t want you and your siblings to compare notes and realize the TRUTH about them or anyone else.

Researchers confirm that Parental Alienation is teaching a child to HATE and is a form of CHILD ABUSE.

It is NOT your fault. You are NOT to blame. But, you CAN make this better for everyone.

Learn about family dynamics and behaviors. You can still have both parents in your life, just be more aware of the relationships and their personalities. CHOOSE to rise above these negative narratives. You can be successful and happy on your OWN terms. With this information, knowledge and self-reflection, you may find it’s time to reach back out and connect with the Targeted Parent who you haven’t seen or spoken to for weeks, months or in severe cases years, because they are really the parent that LOVES YOU UNCONDITIONALLY, encourages independence with responsibility and wants you to realize your amazing potential to live a HAPPY LIFE filled with LOVE, HONESTY & GOODNESS.

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Today, Fri-YAY March 4, 2022

I was interviewed on LIVE TV by Arti Kumar-Jain of diyaholisticlifecare on the

 LIGHT UP YOUR LIFE PODCAST

This show addresses health and wellness and the guest interviews address personal development and self-improvement. We discussed handling family and life changes and challenges with love, honesty, knowledge and understanding. Specifically, Parental Alienation dynamics were explored in our conversation.

The title of our episode is: Addressing Trauma: Making sense of our stories

LIVE IN GRATITUDE AND MINDFULNESS WITH LOVE

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/xZoWXE2JFcQ

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3-3-22

Honored beyond words

FRONT PAGE ARTICLE & 3-page spread in today’s newspaper!

Today 3-3-22 was also the day that Books 2 & 3 of

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE  were delivered on island!!!

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Wednesday, March 2, 2022

I presented at the live streamed

HEALTH, WEALTH & WISDOM Summit PARENTS’ EDITION

I joined Dr. Ali Lankerani, “The Parent Whisperer”

who teamed up with experts in a variety of fields from across the globe  to give solid tools, tips, resources and a large dose of inspiration and support to parents who are navigating family challenges.

(Dr. L said there were 17 time zones represented! I didn’t even know there were that many time zones…I looked it up and there are actually 24 different time zones!)

My ROLE MODEL MAKER presentation was entitled:

“UNDERSTANDING PARENTAL ALIENATION”

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/2ayD_glWGlw

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I have just been selected by the SAI Board of Directors to speak at the 

SPIRITUAL AWAKENINGS INTERNATIONAL  online Conference in June 2022

I will be presenting with the “STEs, Trauma, and Spiritual Emergency Panel”

Click on the link to watch my segment:

https://youtu.be/QeOr6TL5MNk

Please check out one of SAI President Yvonne Kason‘s books:

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NarcAbuse TV Network 2-25-2022 LIVE YouTube Show

Click on one of the two links below to watch the 1.5 hour replay:

https://youtu.be/Sh6goVxzOiE

https://streamyard.com/ndhgg857vgax

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Wellness Wednesday 2-23-22 with Dr. Kingya 

Just Breathe & Get It Done! That’s the motto of this amazing influencer!

Dr. Kingya is also a survivor of Domestic Violence and Parental Alienation, so he understands the heartache and loss experienced by the Targeted Parent and the Child Abuse inflicted on your young or adult children. It’s important to stay positive and hopeful, and to take care of your mind, body and spirit!

Life is a wonderful blessing when you choose to handle challenges with

LOVE & FORGIVENESS

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/OAvkO2GGqI0

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2-22-22 

The TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series  will be featured in the May/June issue of

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2-22-22

Today is an important day in numerology; it’s a reminder of the need for harmony and equilibrium. More stable energy is around the corner, which will be a welcome relief from the world’s chaos as well as Mercury & Venus Retrograde. We are reminded to make choices that help us find our true path and purpose!

Honored to be interviewed by Larissa Russel of the

CREATIVE SOUL HEALING PODCAST

We discussed how exploring our inner creativity can help with healing from trauma, especially Family and Marital Trauma

Click the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/bLNuWH11fDg

 

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Fri-YAY, February 18, 2022

Cool Conversation with the very cool Russ Catanach Host of the

“LEARNING MORE” podcast

We discussed Toxic Relationships and how to go from experiencing tremendous challenges and losses to eventually living a happy life by acknowledging your past, but choosing to live in the present with gratitude and love.

We all can be inspired to stay true to our values and follow our passions.

Click on the audio link below to listen to our interview:

https://www.learningmorepodcast.com/toxic-relationships/

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Listen to the experts:  Parental Alienation is CRIMINAL Domestic Violence:

https://youtu.be/YQXSAVUNngg

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Tuesday, February 15 & Wednesday, February 16

It’s all about LOVE

Honored to join so many amazing speakers at the 2022 LIVE premier summit

sponsored by Kimberly Crowe of Entrepreneurs Rocket Fuel with host Katrina Sawa

LOVE YOURSELF SUCCESSFUL SUMMIT

I spoke on loving yourself after surviving and healing from Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation & Intergenerational Family Trauma with integrity by staying true to your core values of honesty, compassion, forgiveness & LOVE

Click on the link below to catch the 25-minute replay:

https://www.dropbox.com/s/jyywv26d7kxyqz5/Dr.%20Marni%20Hill%20Foderaro-surviving_and_healing_from_domestic_violence%2C_narcissistic_abuse%2C_parental_alienation_and_intergeneration%20%28Original%29.mp4?dl=0

 

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https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

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Valentine’s Day 2-14-2022

CELEBRATE LOVE…THE HIGHEST VIBRATION EVER!

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…….remember when you wrote me this?

remember our fun Valentine’s art projects?……

$5 “name that tune’s artist” game:

Truly Scrumptious. You two are Truly Scrumptious.

Your guess? _______  _______ _______ _______

hint: it’s from one of our favorite movies

and the title has 4 words…actually 2 words used twice!!

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BELIEVE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURVIVORS.

THE SICK, MALEVOLENT AND CALCULATING PERPETRATORS ARE OBSESSED WITH  CHAOTIC DESTRUCTION AND GO TO EXTREMES SO THAT THEIR VICTIMS LOSE EVERYTHING…THEIR HOME, ASSETS, MONEY, JOB, HEALTH, FRIENDS-FAMILY-NEIGHBORS, AND WHAT MATTERS THE MOST… THEIR OWN INNOCENT CHILDREN.

THESE ABUSERS AND ALIENATORS CANNOT SUCCEED IF VICTIMS HANDLE THE CHALLENGES OF BEING STALKED AND HARASSED AND SURVIVING SUCH DEVASTATING LOSSES WITH LOVE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS AND GOODNESS.

CHOOSE TO RISE ABOVE THE ABUSE TO LIVE A BLESSED, HAPPY AND PEACEFUL LIFE.  STAY TRUE TO YOUR CORE VALUES. YOU DIDN’T DO ANYTHING TO DESERVE THIS TREATMENT. ABUSERS ARE VERY SKILLED AT CHOOSING THEIR VICTIMS. THE TRUTH EVENTUALLY PREVAILS.

Today’s date is: February 13, 2022;

February 13, 1988 was my marriage date.

I filed for Divorce and was alienated from our ADULT children in 2013.

Divorce was final in 2015 after 27 years…

and in 2022 I am still being taken to court by my abuser!

(court continued into 2023 and is ongoing!!!)

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow! Hope your day is filled with LOVE!

TO OUR ADULT CHILDREN:

Your MOM loves you both to the moon and back!

Please consider ordering and reading Book 2 of my series:

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE:

ALPHABETICAL ACROSTIC ANTHEMS ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, NARCISSISTIC ABUSE & PARENTAL ALIENATION

Your Loving MOM

has written and published 338 acrostic poems that are gender/role neutral (not autobiographical). Just reading these poems can help you both understand Intergenerational Toxic Family dynamics and what happened after I uncovered decades of many wrongdoings, learned the truth and chose to escape the abuse to live a happier life with honesty, goodness and peace.

You both deserve & should have the love of BOTH of your parents, AND A RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER (It is so wrong that you siblings have been purposely isolated and separated from each other for all these many years … a sick coercive control, manipulation and abuse tactic).

I am so sorry that you have had to endure such Family Trauma.

You did nothing wrong.

As your loving mom, I sincerely apologize for anything that I did that hurt you.

I love you BOTH with all my heart!

It’s time to break the trauma bonds and live a happier life.

Below is the link to order your copy of your MOM’s poetry:

https://www.amazon.com/TRUE-DECEIT-FALSE-LOVE-Alphabetical/dp/1982279192/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1IGI6HAUVN3VV&keywords=true+deceit+false+love+alphabetical+acrostic+anthems&qid=1644798247&sprefix=true+deceit+false+love+alphabetical+acrostic+anthems,aps,100&sr=8-1

 

 

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

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Y​       our kids will return is a common response from

O​       utsiders who mean well, but don’t really

U​       nderstand. Parental Alienation is difficult to

R​       ecognize, even for professionals. To be Rejected by your

 

K       ​ids and watching them slip away from you

I​         s like witnessing the Emotional

D​        eath of Living Children. Your Alienating Ex-

S​         pouse is severing your Loving Relationship

 

W​        ith the kids and gets them to Align with Evil.

I​          f children are to survive this Abusive, Polarized

L​         ife, they have to distort reality, subconsciously engage in ​​​Splitting, which

L​         ends itself to Independent Thinker Phenomenon. These ​​​children now

 

C​         laim that their Loving, Normal-Range Parent is Dangerous

O​         r Abusive, when this narrative is Falsely Implanted into ​​​their hearts and minds by the

M​        alevolent Alienating Parent. Our children are in

E​         ffect being Brainwashed in cult-like fashion.

 

B​         eing aware and educating yourself on Parental

A​         lienation helps Targeted Parents make sense of what’s ​​​happened 

C​         ognitively, but this knowledge won’t miraculously bring your

K​         ids back to you. I pray for my children’s Lightbulb Moment ​​​and that they come back.

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Saturday, February 12, 2022

Talked with podcast hosts Jai and Trent & the team of

“THE URBAN PARANORMAL”

about the magical, metaphysical, mysterious and memorable experiences that forever changed my beliefs about life and the Afterlife. We discussed NDEs & STEs, Dream Visitations, Time Travel, Past Lives and technology’s role in our earthly reality.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://soundcloud.com/trent-johnson-16/synchronicitiesspiritual-experiences-and-time-travel-with-dr-marni-hill-forderaro?

 

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Interviewed (aired 2-11-22) with Johnny Burke who hosts one of the Top 5 Reincarnation podcasts, a SAI-Spiritual Awakenings International Affiliated Network

THE CLOSER TO VENUS

We explored metaphysical topics, including my STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences that inspired my 2020 Best Books award-winning Spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

click on the link below to listen to our conversation:

https://closertovenus.com/episode/63-god-came-to-my-garage-sale-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro/

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Monday, February 7, 2022

joined host Mike Vara LIVE on

WCET AM/FM Radio Show “The Last Frequency”

to discuss true stories of Spiritual Awakenings.

We had a down-to-earth conversation about out-of-this-world experiences!

We both believe that eventually the truth prevails. Even now with the challenges we face in the world with dishonesty, deceit, denial, disinformation, demons, division, demeaning and devaluing…which also happens to courageous victims of Parental Alienation or those who speak about their paranormal experiences. The so-called conspiracy theories (such as UFOs) are eventually turning out to have validity and tangible proof of their existence. The misguided fact-checkers got it wrong, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Honesty is Honorable.

I have been told by Oracles and Psychic Mediums that my particular trauma-induced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences

(when GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE!) 

involved Time Bending!!! Very cool! I’m going to look into this further as the concept of Astral Projection is intriguing! Research and investigation leads to understanding and knowledge. Asking questions and having candid conversations with varying viewpoints leads to discovery, which can be life-changing. Our voices matter.

Click on the link below to listen to the show:

https://www.lastfrequency.com/radioarchives

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Fri-YAY, February 4, 2022

Internet Soulivity T.V. conversation with the lovely Teresa Greco of

“The Steps To Happiness Show”

We discussed letting go of TRAUMA to return to self, reflecting on the challenges we’ve experienced by educating ourselves on the Domestic Violence we’ve endured and escaped from to understand the abuser’s undiagnosed personality disorder and our own intergenerational family baggage and role in the dynamic. We must address our traumas and the dark to move towards inner peace and the light.

We all can take the steps to move towards HAPPINESS

Our episode is titled “Releasing Trauma to Return To Self”

The first half of the episode features Coach Sandra Cooze of

“Rise Above Your Story” and the second half is my interview.

Click on the link below to watch the airing of the show:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7B0sE8jc9SM

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2-3-22 Joined podcaster Joshua Sanchez on  “YOUR SPIRITUAL BEST FRIEND” 

We discussed choosing our career paths and evolving on our journey as we experience life on this earthly plane. Spirituality is very connected to psychology and mental health. Additionally, Joshua gave me an Astrology reading! I knew my sun sign was Virgo, but learned from my chart that I have emotionally-intense Scorpio rising with balanced-reasonable Libra in Mercury. Fascinating stuff!

Click below to listen to our conversation:

https://linktr.ee/Yourspiritualbff

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On 2-2-22 

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro  was inducted into the

BESTSELLING AUTHORS INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATION

Honoring Bestselling Authors Across The Globe

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Love Yourself Successful Summit  February 15-16, 2022

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Violence at the hands of a malevolent, calculating abuser, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting, deliberate smearing and significant losses you’ve endured and then to be able to heal from your experiences can be especially challenging. Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal. Award-winning author Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro offers information on and an emotional, experiential and creative response to numerous terms and phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma in her book series

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE.”

Understanding the terminology used while reading and creating acrostic poems may result in much-needed validation as you reflect on what you’ve been through while you connect the dots to your own experiences. Writing can help make sense of your emotions and experiences and can be extremely therapeutic on your healing journey.

In time, the abuser’s mask slips, and with your own research and creative outlet, you will come to understand the real truth, find your survivor’s voice, reclaim your authenticity and live a blessed and happy life filled with

abundance, gratitude, peace and LOVE.

Above is the speaker line up for the

LOVE YOURSELF SUCCESSFUL SUMMIT

Below is the link to tune in:

https://youtu.be/5I5AbpFIPYg

 

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1-28-22 WINNING @ LIFE Interview with Deborrah Cooper

We discussed Domestic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma and the Red Flag signs to watch for to be able to let go of toxic relationships to make room for positive others with integrity and healthier situations. We also discussed following your gut intuition to guard your emotional and physical safety.

With time, research, education & doing the inner shadow work

(including using my 4-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE as a resource)

you can overcome challenges and live your best life.

Click on the link below to tune into our Day 11 conversation: air date 2-8-22

https://youtu.be/VU374gpVciw

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!!!!!!!!!!!!      BOOK (S) RELEASE     !!!!!!!!!!!!

Book 2 (acrostic poetry) & Book 3 (survivor’s workbook) were released January 2022 and Book 1 (15,555 terms & phrases) was released in September 2021

All 3 books in the TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series are now available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble & Balboa Press/Hay House (working on the 4th book)

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

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Thrilled that Books 2 & 3 of  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE were endorsed by a “beautiful light-filled soul”  TRICIA BARKER

“Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro empowers readers with knowledge and unconditional love on their healing journey from Narcissistic Abuse. The TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series of books provides deep insight, validation, education and support to those who are healing from emotional abuse and sabotage on their life journey. This resourceful series of books offers much hope to those who are working to recover the truth of themselves before abuse and Alienation. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro is helping to transform trauma and bring more light to this world, and I enthusiastically recommend her books.”     ~Tricia Barker

Near Death Experiencer, YouTuber, Intuitive, Medium, Professor, Author of “Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival and Transformation” and “Loving Narcissus & Sometimes God: Poems”

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Tricia is the author of the following amazing books:

Tricia’s poems in “Loving Narcissus & Sometimes God” are unapologetic in tone and highly relatable to anyone with strained familial relationships or to anyone who has experienced a relationship with a narcissist. Her poems range from heartbreaking to self-empowered and capture and array of emotions with impeccable imagery and brimming intensity. The final poems in this book offer readers a spiritual release and connection to universal consciousness.

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Wednesday, January 25, 2022 honored to join Genesis Amaris Kemp on the

GEMS PODCAST  where real topics are discussed with real people

We all are on a journey and have our unique stories about going from pain to power. By speaking the truth transparently about how to work through life’s challenges to come into your own self-actualization, we can educate, motivate and inspire others.

Genesis believes we need to engage in the following 6 Rs:

Refuel, Recharge, Rejuvenate, Relax, Relate & Release

Click below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/2JZCkIJ5Zr8

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Tuesday, January 25, 2022 had a great

Healthy and Well-thy Conversation with Casey Bell.

We discussed Intergenerational and Marital Abuse and how our experiences, eventual awareness and choices can help us recover from past traumas to go on to live a beautiful life full of abundance with  HEALTH & WEALTH

Click below to watch the 2/22/22 air date of our interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9n4IxGNVJI0

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Generally, the abusing covert, malignant narcissist continues to obsess over his or her escaped supply years after he or she was discarded, and both have moved on, even if the supply has moved far away.

The narcissistic injury caused to the abuser is deep, as their mask slips and the truth of their immoral and/or illegal wrongdoings may be exposed revealing the false upstanding public persona they worked so hard (and for so many years) at achieving.

The stalking and harassment continues, and the abusers will use (or misuse!) the legal system to keep engaged, hoping the fear, chaos and control will continue as they keep up their efforts of emotional and financial destruction. They have already taken everything else from their victim.

Concern eventually turns to safety because these abusers don’t seem to stop. They ramp up their efforts, even the extreme research and the calling on favors from unethical connections it takes to find out where their victim lives, somehow, even if the residence is not listed anywhere.

Because these abusers are so disturbed and malevolent, the next level of their obsession may involve permanent, physical harming of their targets. It’s so important for victims to become educated on these abusers’ undiagnosed personality disorder to understand the condition of these abusive types.

They are dangerous.

Do not become another deadly statistic; stay vigilant. Live free and be safe.

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Narc Survivor endorsed my

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

book 2 on Acrostic Poetry and book 3 Survivor’s Workbook:

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE exposes the truth of narcissists and betrayal. An unfortunate circumstance for anyone to go through, but something that we can all learn and grow from. Let Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s thought-provoking writing validate your experiences and guide you to finding your survivor’s voice.”

~Narc Survivor,

Life Coach & CEO Chris of Narc Survivor Ltd.

Click on the link below to check out today’s January 24, 2022

blog by Narc Survivor on  THE PREDATORY NARCISSIST

http://www.narcsurvivor.co.uk/post/the-predatory-narcissist

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1-21-22 joined Trudy Beerman on PSI TV

as we discussed being an author and my latest 4-book series

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

with terms, phrases, poetry and a survivor’s workbook

which is a valuable resource and provides a creative response to understanding Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation

& Intergenerational Family Trauma

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://lnkd.in/dTzgbXb7

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Tuesday, January 18, 2022 joined Susan Rosin’s  Healthy Tips After 50 Podcast!

We discussed living your best life and living your life from LOVE! Advice for the New Year: take some time to reflect on the situations and relationships in your life and make some hard choices to let go of negativity to make room for positivity.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/vXnuoWDcbf0

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Beyond honored that Sheri McGregor endorsed Books 2 & 3 of

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

With her books, workbook and blogs,

Sheri offers support for dads and moms who have experienced

Parental Alienation and/or Adult Child Estrangement.

After so many years and so much truth of the abusers in my life being revealed, I am “beyond done with the crying” and fully immersed in safeguarding my boundaries, pursuing my passions and living my best life.

Check out Sheri’s latest blog “In My Garden” and my response

by clicking the link and reading below:

https://www.rejectedparents.net/in-my-garden/

Marni Hill Foderaro  December 12, 2021 at 3:56 am

Dearest Sheri,

Your writing, whether in one of your thoughtful newsletter posts or your resourceful books, provides such a real level of support to dads and moms navigating life without one or more of their adult children. 

With your thoughtful words, you have the ability to wrap us all with a virtual hug, just when we need a reminder to carry on. Your messages are hopeful and reassuring, at the same time you never diminish the painful reality and emotional responses of our experiences. 

This garden post was very thought provoking as I planned to do some gardening today. In my previous life I spent a great deal of time cultivating various gardens around my gorgeous suburban home when I was living the “American Dream.” Looking back, I used this time gardening as an escape from abuse as I created little inviting alcoves where I could physically or mentally find temporary peace. Just like me, the garden looked perfectly happy on the outside, even though the reality was a different story. 

When I left my abuser after 27 years and was shocked to lose my (“paid off 10 years ago”) home to foreclosure, I didn’t have the time, money or need to garden, plus I didn’t even have a home or garden! My focus shifted to my survival, since losing my adult child to Parental Alienation also happened during this time. The desire to care for and cultivate plants was a painful reminder of losing everything that I had spent decades cultivating, including my beautiful adult child. 

Time, though, does has a way of healing our hearts. I have also found writing to be extremely therapeutic on my journey as an Erased Mom. Sheri, thank you for your support and endorsement of my 4-book series TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE which is a personal effort to creatively address Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation. 

In my healing journey I also chose to move to the Caribbean from the Midwest and have found the change in scenery to have a positive effect on my day-to-day. There are still triggers that pull on my heartstrings, but I’m creating new memories and enjoying new experiences. After close to a decade, I am now ready to create and tend to a new garden. Because of the change in locale and climate, there is a great deal of learning and experimentation that will need to take place for the plants to flourish. My heart, soul and life will be simultaneously evolving as well. 

Sheri, thank you for planting the seeds of hope and love, mixed with acknowledging the harsh reality of what we’re experiencing, to give so many dads and moms reassurance and support. 

Much love to you,

Marni Hill Foderaro

“Marni Hill Foderaro’s acrostic poems in TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE reveal the cruelty of Narcissistic Abuse. She understands the twisted reality, the devastation in recognizing it and the loss associated with escape. Readers who have walked this path—and particularly those whose children have been alienated by an ex-spouse—will feel understood, thus less alone. Even those well-versed in the Narcissistic Abuse vernacular will find some new terminology to label their experiences. The format allows for short reading sessions, so as not to overwhelm the more sensitive Trauma Survivor, yet prompts deeper contemplation. Marni’s perspectives cut straight to the heart … and pave the way to healing.” ~ Sheri McGregor,

M.A., Life Coach, RejectedParents.NET Founder/Blogger and Author of the books “Beyond Done: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children” (2021) and “Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children” (2016)

Lettuce from my hydroponics garden in the USVI!

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Happy Fri-YAY !!!!  Today, Friday, January 14th, 2022

“The Relaxation Lounge” podcast with Denise Eckert

 Creating a happier, less-stressed lifestyle after re-evaluating your life, your values, your relationships, your choices, and your environment will help to make 2022 be the year you honor yourself and your higher purpose.

Goodness, Love and Happiness will be yours if you choose to live a stress-free life.

I know, not everyone can realize their path and purpose by moving to the Caribbean to be surrounded with God’s Beauty and Wonders,

but we ALL can make conscious choices to take positive growth steps

to relax, re-evaluate and move towards self-actualization!

Our interview was postponed, so check out March 11th with a June 7th air date!

https://youtu.be/T9kC1s5k0bs

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1-11-22

WRITE OR DIE  Podcast & YouTube Channel

SPEAK OPENLY & HONESTLY- our voices matter!

Randi-Lee Bowslaugh interviews authors who share TRUTHS about ABUSE! Spreading awareness of

Intergenerational Family Trauma & Marital Partner Terrorism

UPLIFTING EACH OTHER THROUGH HONESTY!

Click on link below to watch our interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UdgcFs6TnmA

Randi-Lee wrote a book review for  GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Click on the link below to check it out:

http://Review: God Came to My Garage Sale by Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro – Randi-Lee Bowslaugh (rbwriting.ca)

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Positive Talk Radio, My Independence Report & Think Energy

features positive discussions designed to entertain, enlighten, empower and educate us all by declaring our freedom from hate, division and fear and to create a better way of living. Kevin McDonald’s podcast, with Nathan the assistant extraordinaire, helps everyone to be the best they can be.

Today I was on LIVE RADIO on KKNW 1150 AM in Seattle, Washington

Click on link below to listen to the show:

https://www.thinkenergy.fans/dr-marni-hill-foderaro-award-winning-author-god-came-to-my-garage-sale/

 

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January 5, 2022  “Sticks & Stones (& kicks from stoners) may break my bones, but Narcissists and Abusers will never EVER again hurt me!”

True Courage consists in doing what is right, despite the obstacles! Making the hard decisions to remove abusers and narcissists from your life is a necessary step in honoring yourself and choosing what you will no longer tolerate.

I will “NURSE” myself back to restore my physical and emotional health, just like Nurse Janet, the protagonist in my Award-Winning Spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

In good faith and with charitable generosity, I was helping a drug addict at Christmas and was viciously assaulted in an unprovoked attack.

Sometimes, unfortunately, “No good deed goes unpunished.”

Photo of a much younger Marni wearing her favorite Christmas gift, a Nurse’s uniform.

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Check out Tracy A. Malone’s new book.

I was honored that Tracy asked ME to write her an endorsement.

Below is an amazing book review from

Complex Trauma and Addictions Therapist Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW.

My dear friend Tracy is a fellow SurTHRIVER and endorsed Book 1 of

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 Terms & Phrases on

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation“

This is the #1 “how to” manual loaded with valuable information that all of us SurTHRIVERS wish we had consulted before we escaped and divorced our

Covert, Malignant, Grandiose, Narcissistic Abuser and Alienator!

“Having found the courage to liberate themselves from a marriage to a malignant abuser, these survivors are then challenged to cobble together psychological, financial and legal resources to assist with dismantling the Stockholm Syndrome they have been experiencing and ride out tireless court litigation. This process is not just exhausting, it is also traumatizing all over again.”

Click on the link below to read Rev. Sheri Heller’s amazing book review:

https://medium.com/the-virago/divorcing-your-narcissist-by-tracy-malone-1b193a22afb2

 

To order Tracy’s book, follow the Amazon link below:

https://www.amazon.com/Divorcing-Your-Narcissist-Cant-Make/dp/173650780X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=25TR2TXUU6IY7&keywords=tracy+malone&qid=1641507789&sprefix=tracy+malone%2Caps%2C222&sr=8-1

 

Tracy asked ME to endorse her book! Here’s my praise:

“Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up is a must-read resource for anyone who finds themselves in a toxic relationship, whether it is with a spouse, partner, colleague, friend or family member. Author, Speaker, Coach and Founder of the internationally renowned narcissistabusesupport.com, Tracy A. Malone, an experienced surTHRIVER herself, has carefully compiled a comprehensive and straightforward guide of what you can expect and how to effectively plan when you know it’s time to escape your narcissist and reclaim your life. In addition to her extensive online presence, Tracy is highly respected as an authority in narcissist abuse recovery and has spent years providing spot-on validation and support to help those targeted and affected by all forms of Narcissist Abuse, Intimate Partner Terrorism and the Domestic Violence of Parental Alienation. This extremely helpful book, filled with practical strategies, is a game changer as you navigate ending the relationship with your narcissist.”

~Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro, SurTHRIVER, Speaker and author of the award-winning Spiritual fiction God Came To My Garage Sale

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Monday, January 3, 2022  explored  Intergenerational Domestic Abuse

& my 4-book series  “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”

with the beautiful Brook Wright of the SheBlurbs Podcast

“Life is what you make it!” Celebrities and non-celebrities alike are interviewed to inspire people to follow their dreams and stop at nothing!

Healing is a process. Take care of yourself!

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/088Sv5t-gQg

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Happy New Year!

May 2022 be the year you honor yourself, your safety & well-being.

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I am also honoring my late mother (who wanted to be referred to as Granni)

Elizabeth Ann Hill-Waldenmaier Hansen,

who was also a victim, but NOT a Survivor, of Intergenerational & Marital

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation

“Mama, better late than never; I know the truth now about the mental, professional, medical and legal abuse from dad that you suffered for your entire married and divorced life and I’m breaking the Intergenerational Abuse Cycle! I’m so very sorry it took so long for me to be fully aware. I know you’ve already forgiven me as you waited until I was 60 years old for me to put the pieces of our family tree trauma puzzle together. I subconsciously chose to marry an abuser because you subconsciously chose to marry an abuser, and our stories are similar. We were carefully chosen for our beautiful, empathetic, honest loving souls.

I love you and your “Motherwords” so much!“

You always told me I was God’s favorite pupil because I had to learn the hard way.

May you Rest In Peace. Until we meet again in Heaven.

I love you Mom. “Clickety-Clack!” Your Marnoola Moo.

Mama, your GRANNI pearls of wisdom “Motherwords”

will be highlighted in my chapter contribution of

Tammi Morrison’s multi-author book (my 6th co-authored anthology!)

“PASSING THE PEARLS: stories from the heart”

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As we reflect on the numerous challenges of the last couple of years, it’s time to consider releasing the toxic and abusive relationships and situations that no longer serve our highest good, resolving to surround ourselves with only positive, honest and healing energy. Give yourself permission to step away from the negative; you deserve more! Let the light/good prevail over the dark/evil!

Blessings & the highest vibration of LOVE… Always! Marni

I have so much to be thankful for as a surTHRIVER of

Intergenerational and Marital

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation

The losses are many and there will still be challenges on the healing journey, but I have been blessed beyond words with a new awareness, profound connections, meaningful relationships and exciting opportunities to self-actualize.

Books 2 & 3 of TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE are now in the bookstores, and I am honored and grateful that my work has received so much support with endorsements from major influencers in the Abuse Recovery Community.

Thank you so very much to my book endorsers:

Dr. Jennifer Harman, Dr. Sam Vaknin, Lisa A. Romano, Tracy A. Malone, Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney, Sheri McGregor, Anoushka Marcin, Ashley Berges, Paxton, Tricia Barker & NarcSurvivor

….and to the many podcast hosts I’ve had the pleasure to interview with.

Check out my 3-interview series with Paxton on the NarcAbuse TV Network:

  

https://youtu.be/9CON1Ww2F-4

https://youtu.be/tAubjGeAsAw

https://youtu.be/Si_5m4Tcpl4

 

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Malignant, grandiose, narcissistic FATHER & SON relationship

Darren F. Magee outlines the dynamics of the malignant, grandiose narcissistic father & son relationship. Common characteristics of an abusing dad include a sense of entitlement, being resistant to criticism, need for admiration, an over-inflated sense of importance with a lack of empathy, an expert on everything, where the dad has unrealistic and unfair expectations of the adult son, who must be financially dependent and obedient. The dad is emotionally abusive, overly critical, condescending, demanding respect and wears a false mask to appear confident and superior as he controls his son while sabotaging him and setting him up to fail in life. As the son was growing up, the narcissistic dad wanted him to be a “mini-me” and often forced him compete in the dad’s failed sport, playing in the same position and even demanding he wear the same jersey number. The son is openly taught to disrespect and undermine his mother and has been weaponized to devalue, alienate and abuse her. The dad is often a Secret Agent Man who has a double life of infidelities, deceit and crime. He even plants spyware, hidden cameras and uses tracking devices to exert control over what the adult son does and where he goes; that’s why the dad is constantly giving the adult son computers, phones, electronics and even video-gaming equipment and manages their plans and subscriptions. These sons struggle with addictions, anger, mental illness, delusions and very low self-esteem, and often become narcissistic abusers themselves.

Check out Darren’s 15-minute description:

https://youtu.be/MLFc36iFL7k

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Honored that Anoushka Marcin, UK Psychologist Practitioner who specializes in Narcissistic Personality Presentations, endorsed Books 2 & 3 of my 4-book series:

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

She is a voice of reason regarding the unreasonable so you can “stand in your power.” Check out her website and “Ask Anoushka” videos. She has wonderful resources and weekly journal prompts to help navigate the abuse and limited thinking from toxic people. 

https://www.askanoushka.co.uk

Tuesday, December 28, 2021

Anoushka is recommending books: God Came To My Garage Sale was listed #1 

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Pull up a barstool and join the 12-21-21 conversation with the one and only

Johnny Carbo of “Makin Time With” podcast

We’re both down-to-earth, honest, thoughtful and compassionate souls from the Chicago suburbs so our interview was more like connecting with an old friend. We discussed navigating challenging life situations, questioning the relationships we’re in and if they are serving our higher good and making the hard choices in life to move towards self-actualization and a happier and more fulfilling existence.

Click on the link below to watch:

https://youtu.be/iJX3Wh9Klas

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12-20-21 Fit Minute Podcast with Gabrielle Mazar

We discussed surviving trauma and the self-care needed for mental fitness

Click the YouTube link below to watch our conversation: 

https://youtu.be/fqzYYAORd5w

 

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Click on link below to watch a short snippit posted 12-16-21 about my

STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences

from IANDS: International Association for Near Death Studies

https://youtu.be/W3hEDVbSJbo

 

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5-Star Review on 12-15-21 from

READERS’ FAVORITES: book reviews and awards contests

God Came to my Garage Sale, by renowned Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro, is an intriguing work of fiction that delves deep into the nature and existence of God from an atheist’s point of view, using a garage sale as the focal point and setting. Spiritual awareness and self-realization are explored in this well-received novel, as well as life after death. We have protagonist Janet hosting a weekend garage sale due to money issues, and during this time, signs come to her that bring messages and clarity from deceased loved ones.

This author has created such an inspiring spiritual journey that you can take along with her, and it’s more down-to-earth than it may seem at first glance. You have real-world problems that almost anyone can relate to such as financial difficulty, the challenge of simplifying your life, trying to sort through a cluttered life, losing a cherished home. But the truths that are unveiled during the garage sale are life-altering, and readers can benefit from these spiritual revelations and lessons. Science is beginning to explore the hidden truths and experiences of spirituality and consciousness and may bridge the gap at some point, allowing all of us to have a better understanding. The book can inspire us to be more connected to one another, and share everyday spiritual events. 

The story may challenge your beliefs or bolster them, or maybe have no effect at all. But this book makes a giant effort in explaining that spirituality can thrive in the midst of dark times. As you read, you can feel the author’s sense of compassion and urgency for her subject matter, and she really has a gift for conveying it in a way we can understand. The story opens with a bit of sadness for Janet, but the honesty is there, and you may see yourself or someone you know in her, but the story does pick up in a positive way from there. For a novel that may elevate your understanding of spiritual matters and your place in the universe, God Came to my Garage Sale by Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro should be at the top of your reading list.

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Tuesday, December 14, 2021 interview with Dr. Dan Amzallag, Ph.D. MBA, Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Psychotherapist, Life Coach and author, specializing in toxic relationships and Narcissistic Personality Disorders. He explained that “Hurt people Hurt people.” Abusers alienate, gaslight, smear, control, manipulate, harm others, lie, cheat and steal (and in some cases murder their ex or the children) because most abusers were abused themselves in childhood. Their calculated and severe treatment ramps up after the victim escapes because the perpetrator fears rejection and their wrongdoings/false image being exposed. 

HAPPYNESS JOURNEY PODCAST

Life is challenging, especially if your journey involves an abuser. Sharing coping strategies  can uplift others and provide insight and inspiration to live your best life!

Click on the link below to listen to our conversation:

https://youtu.be/heiUMeYXwIg

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Monday, December 13, 2021 I had a very intimate and thought-provoking conversation with Mande Nankes and Shanna Vavra of the

SENSE OF SOUL PODCAST

whose mission is to universally connect with like-minded souls who are spiritually awakening to their inner quest of discovering their path. We discussed awareness and moving from pain to power as you handle life’s challenges. Our journeys and traumas are real and can bring enlightenment so we can live a more positive and fulfilling life with an “attitude of gratitude”. No coincidence that our conversation was 15:15:11 minutes long!!! Click on link below to listen to our interview:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sense-of-soul-podcast/id1468725665?i=1000555226210

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TOGETHER WE TRIUMPH 

My 5th anthology book is a #1 International BEST SELLER !!!

Plus, I as a result, I was inducted into the

International Bestselling Author’s Organization

In my joint venture with 23 other authors from around the world,

“We’re All In This Together: Embrace One Another”

offers distinctive insights of strength and resilience with a collective aim to  spread the message and manifest wisdom into shaping the future of LOVE

Check out the YouTube video and Amazon link to get your copy! 

https://youtu.be/hcx9QtbGUGE

https://www.amazon.com/Were-All-This-Together-Embrace-ebook/dp/B09N2VB3RS

All 24 authors of

“We’re All In This Together: Embrace One Another”

were part of a 1-hour audio show. My 5-minute segment starts at the 19:30 mark.

Click below to listen:

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/expertsinsights/2021/12/16/meet-the-authors-of-the-new-1-intl-bestseller-were-all-in-this-together

Inspired by Cultural Change, Best-Selling Visionaries share how they overcame obstacles and have helped others in their communities and beyond to thrive as well. There are many wonderful, moving stories of overcoming fear for personal and collective freedom shared by the talented authors of this beautiful book. The authors paint a beautiful tapestry of color, gender, beliefs, cultures and experiences that flourish in an outpouring of  LOVE!

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TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

is a resource for Domestic Abuse survivors, but can also be a valuable resource for navigating Toxic Relationships in Business and the Workplace.

On Thursday, December 9, 2021 I was honored that

Dr. Vaneeta from BIZEMAG PODCAST chose to interview me and highlight my latest book series. Click below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/z-7R8JkIJFo

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Monday, December 6, 2021

 What a lovely conversation with a lovely gentleman. I am so grateful that our paths crossed, even if it was virtually. Andy, from Andy’s Personal Development Podcast, asked such very thoughtful and interesting questions during our interview. The inspirational message take away is that there is HOPE to overcome any challenges that you are faced with if you approach adversity with

LOVE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, HONESTY & GOODNESS

Andy wrote me the following note after our interview: :

“You are a gem among gems, and I have no words to express the thanks and gratitude, that I now feel for the level of your selfless and encouraging act. You are truly a blessing, and I cherish your time spent with us on the show; keep your glow and your honesty alive, and continue to be the beacon of hope you were obviously intended to be. Your message will give inspiration to many, and I will ensure they get it.”

Check out our conversation by clicking on one of the links below:

https://youtu.be/4peuvf6UHb0

https://www.spreaker.com/user/16709388/dr-marni-live

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Great to enjoy a 2nd AUTHOR TO AUTHOR talk with Kenya, Africa’s

Anthony Muiruri of  BOOK TALK @ BOOK PLACE

 I love spending my days at home in the beautiful Caribbean,

but I look forward to revisiting Athens, Greece, where I lived when I was 10 years old and Anthony streamed from!

Click on one of the links to watch our international interview:

https://youtu.be/XgPe-BRaSts

https://bookplacemedia.com/drmarnihillfoderaro/

Anthony asked me to endorse him and his podcast. I was glad to and wrote:

“As a guest interviewed twice on Book Talk, I was honored to have a conversation with author and podcast host Anthony Muiruri. He is very open to hearing the unique journey of individuals, with varying beliefs and foundations, that lead them to authoring books which positively changed their lives. Experiencing inspirational truths and clarity, and finding one’s voice is often a journey, and Anthony explores these journeys through his candid conversations with interesting guests from all over the world. Anthony brilliantly and personally connects with and gently challenges his guests and audience to uncover thought provoking insights through a respectful and open dialogue. Anthony’s podcast Book Talk is a gift to anyone who tunes in, and will assist all in finding a more positive path in their life and provide inspiration to achieve your goals.” ~ Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro, 

award-winning educator, speaker and author of “God Came To My Garage Sale” and the 5-book series “True Deceit False Love.”

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Check out Heidi Craig’s profound Near Death Experience in another one of Anthony Chene’s  enlightening productions. This amazing mother experienced a lifetime of Domestic Violence, found her survivor’s voice and learned to thrive. She was clearly given the message from her Angels and Guides that 1) we are unconditionally loved, 2) everything is always as it is supposed to be, and (3) everything will always be all right.  She so very articulately confirms that we come into this life with lessons we are to learn from our soul contract so we can raise our vibration higher to God and Source. Every challenge is a learning opportunity for a Higher Purpose, and for Heidi its was for forgiveness and self-love. By posting this inspirational message I hope to bring HOPE & HEALING to others who are navigating the various stages of

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation.

Our experiences are real: You did nothing to deserved the abuse. Abusers and alienators set out on a calculated mission to isolate and inflict harm on their targets. As Professor Sam Vaknin states, “The abusive, alienating parent will never forgive; they want to eradicate, eliminate and possibly execute their ex-spouse. The abuser is hell-bent on destroying you and inflicting pain by any means, including weaponizing the children against the loving parent.” Click below to watch Heidi Craig’s 30-minute testimonial:

https://youtu.be/YSa3El8VFOo

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Honored to join Rustie MacDonald on her amazing blog talk radio show podcast:

LIVING AND THRIVING WITH RUSTIE

We continued our conversation on surviving and thriving after experiencing Family and Relationship Traumas. Our healing journey involves understanding what we have endured, finding and pursuing your passions and living your best life with happiness and love.

We discussed the therapeutic value of my 4-book series  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

Click below to listen to our interview:

http://percolate.blogtalkradio.com/offsiteplayer?hostId=259457&episodeId=12009292#

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Message from Tamara Sweeney of

AGAPE Love Dominates to the ADULT Alienated Child:

It’s time to reach out to your Alienated parent, grandparents and extended family…and maybe your brother or sister….who you have been cut off from for many years.

The parent that truly LOVES you will welcome you with open arms. They are so sorry that you have gone through such heartache and trauma. Deep down you know that cutting off all contact was wrong. Too much time has gone by. Ask yourself: Why is it that you only believe one side of the story? (The story that the parent you are aligned with told you). Do you ever wonder what the other parent is doing, or how they are handing their life without their adult children? Maybe you should listen to their side of the story and come to your own conclusions. It’s time to stop living with this misguided hate, anger and fear.

A child naturally loves both their parents. A child that rejects and cuts off a parent was taught this behavior. Hate is a learned behavior; it’s not natural. Please know this is not your fault. Unfortunately, your loving parent is telling the truth and the controlling parent is lying. Nobody is perfect; we all make mistakes so we can learn and grow. Do not judge, because one day you may be in the same situation.  Have compassion over Judgement and choose the LOVE in your heart, rather than allowing the Hate, anger and false narratives to trigger you. Treat others how you want to be treated. Never disrespect a parent or anyone for that matter. If someone teaches you to disrespect, demean, bully, or harass someone then you know right there, that person or parent is not good for you to be around or as a role model.

Feel free to contact me and we will make a game plan to reach out to your alienated parent safely. I promise to do this in full confidentiality and I will hold your hand through this whole process. I promise you, I am doing this from the Love in my heart ❤, there are no strings attached and there is no money involved. My only goal is to reunite families. My reward is to be successful in getting the children back into their parents lives. You can never replace the Love from a parent.

Contact me at Tgsyb@yahoo.com or on whats app +1-215-601-3234  I also want to say, sometimes its not only the dad or mom alienating you from your other parent, it could be other family members, friends, neighbors, a co worker, a boss, etc. There are so many cult like groups out there and this is the agenda to Divide and Conquer, to destroy the family unit so you can be controlled and isolated through emotional and psychological abuse.

LOVE CONQUERS ALL – LOVE WINS –

it’s time to reconnect with your other loving parent!

https://youtu.be/CqixUvrvKGc

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Today, Wednesday, November 17, 2021

I was on LIVE RADIO in England!

I was interviewed by Ron Clark from CHAT AND SPIN RADIO

which reaches over 998,000 listeners worldwide!

We discussed my 10 books: 5 anthologies, 1 spiritual fiction & 

4-book TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE series!

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https://youtu.be/tMJU0iXLiqQ

 

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Narcissistic Abusers & Parental Alienators are Thieves and want their Targeted Victims dead.

When these malevolent, mentally ill Narcissistic Abusers & Parent Alienators know they’ve lost their control over you after you escaped to safety, moved far away and are living a beautiful life, even after stealing everything that matters to you-including your brainwashed and manipulated young or adult children, these evildoers refuse to move on and ramp up their efforts to control how others view you with their ongoing Smear Campaign. Their obsession with financially and emotionally destroying you is often carried out with their continued legal stalking and harassment, as family court is their playground.

Stay vigilant, strong and safe! Truth and goodness eventually prevails, even if justice doesn’t.

https://youtu.be/QIrqPc_1rDs

https://youtu.be/qCR6UP-NcnY

 

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Blessed to be interviewed on Beth Graham’s podcast:

LESSONS FROM LIVING: wisdom of everyday heroes

The title of the show is titled: DIVINE INTERVENTION

We discussed my award-winning and prominently endorsed spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Beth’s guests are ordinary people doing extraordinary and inspirational things. Check out Beth’s podcast as topics that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good repute, excellent and worthy of praise are discussed, dissected and respectfully debated. It’s important to inspire others to live their best life.

Author Marni Foderaro discusses how God intervenes in one’s life–as a woman who was raised as an atheist, but came to belief in God as a young  child, from simply witnessing God’s hand in her own life.  Today, she believes there are no coincidences, but only expressions of God’s faithfulness in our lives.  We discuss dealing with adversity, why it’s important to tell our stories, why everyone has worth, and the power of truth. click on link below to listen to our interview:

https://lessonsfromliving.net/divine-intervention/

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Look what arrived on island today!!! The 1st book in my 4-book series: TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 Terms & Phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Violence at the hands of a malevolent, calculating abuser, someone you cared for and loved unconditionally, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting, deliberate smearing and significant losses that you’ve endured and then to be able to express your trauma to others can be exceptionally challenging.

LANGUAGE HAS THE POWER TO HURT,

BUT LANGUAGE ALSO HAS THE POWER TO HEAL.

In time the abuser’s mask slips and with your own research and investigation you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice and reclaim your life.

TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE  is prominently endorsed by:

Dr. Jennifer Harman, Dr. Sam Vaknin, Lisa A. Romano, Tracy A. Malone and Tamara Sweeney

Books 2 & 3 (Acrostic Poetry and Survivor’s Workbook) will be released January 2022!

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BOOK RELEASE DECEMBER 7, 2021 !!!!!

Honored to be included in my 5th Award-Winning anthology

WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER: EMBRACE ONE ANOTHER

This project is an absolute inspiration and the conscientious, beautiful co-authors each have an amazing story embracing unity from around the globe with the goal of spreading the word of LOVE, PEACE & HOPE to the whole of society and all of humanity. Our voices matter and we have a responsibility to get our story out to the world. My chapter (12) is entitled:

“Surviving and Healing After Losing Your Children To Parental Alienation”

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Honored to continue our conversation with the amazing

PAXTON of NarcAbuse TV

on November 1st, 2021, our third interview in a 3-part series.

Click on link below to watch our interview. Passcode is: $pKLRU3*

https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/xE36dYteBKqntjBa9lmSZKnYlZFRPttW3ISYxgfS6iCf8MwW03JsV1W2BtwGxPM.cbGwxdZexkGbO_Vg

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Friday, October 29, 2021 I joined the gifted Daniel John Hanneman,

founder at YOUR SACRED PURPOSE & host of the

SPIRITUAL ROCKSTAR PODCAST

who celebrates empowering truth tellers, light leaders, consciousness change makers and spiritual entrepreneurs who rock the grid with deep wisdom & insights!

click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview (1 hour 11 minutes!!!) :

https://youtu.be/983KIqorZsc

 

click on link below to listen our interview:

https://www.audacy.com/podcasts/spiritual-rockstar-podcast-34020/191-dr-marni-foderaro-spiritual-awakening-at-a-garage-sale-915772427?utm_campaign=sharebutton&utm_medium=social&utm_source=email&utm_term=NATL-RC

 

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Monday, October 25, 2021 awesome interview with Steve Stasczak of

FINDING YOUR MOTIVATION podcast

We discussed the motivation behind becoming an author,

from my award-winning spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and chapter contribution to 5 anthology books, 

to my new book series  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

click on the link below to listen to our conversation:

https://anchor.fm/steven-m-stasczak/episodes/How-to-Break-Through-Your-Personal-Barriers-e19b5a6

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Wednesday, October 20, 2021 Enlightening conversation with

U.K.’s Ejay Soulguide of “The Spiritual Cafe” podcast

“Healing Humanity One Soul At A Time.”

We discussed Time Travel, synchronicities and our human journey! Ejay Soulguide believes I’m a “TIME BENDER” because of my experiences that inspired my book

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

Click on the link below to listen to our interview:

https://player.fm/series/the-spiritual-cafe/dr-marni-hill-foderaro-from-domestic-violence-to-becoming-a-time-bender

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Fri-YAY, October 8, 2021 conversation with Melisa Ruscsak,

founder of Trient Press/Triennium Lyons Media and podcast host of

Dove and Dragon Radio  “Our voices matter…even what we tell ourselves; saying daily affirmations positively impacts our self-worth. Survivors know the truth!”

Click on YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/PJ5PYKROdPo

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How fortunate I am to meet such beautiful souls!

On Tuesday, October 5, 2021 I was honored to have a conversation with the lovely

Tammi Morrison of  Straight Outta Savannah, Talkin’ with Tammi podcast and TV show!  We discussed the characters and vignettes in my spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

and how our outlooks, perspectives and core values shape how we handle life’s challenges. So excited to be a co-author of her upcoming multi-author anthology

PASSING THE PEARLS

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/YcCO_NKyO2U

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Honored to have my 2nd of 3 in-depth (almost 2 hour !!!) conversations with

PAXTON of NARC-ABUSE-TV  on October 1, 2021

We discussed my new book series:  TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE

as well as understanding and surviving Domestic Violence and Parental Alienation. Enduring this type of abuse is challenging at all stages, but there is HOPE. Knowledge is power. Sharing your story and listening to what others have gone through is part of the recovery. It’s important to release the trauma in positive ways, stay true to your core values and continue to be a positive role-model for your (even adult) children. In time, the truth will be revealed so everyone can heal.

Stay tuned for part 3 on November 1st.

Click on link below to watch our interview. Passcode is: tx0pt?s%

https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/play/g4DcdCDB9EjlJuVIMI3_bXwWtycdMByaihEWe1g_Rmr3Tj_xAOBhyGB1MdCU9xRHIZtiQEP5f95qg_0t.p6cr7UwQnKx4RVY1?continueMode=true&_x_zm_rtaid=CXqCE9NkQwS0GJ2_PEyQlA.1633136366360.6c98772f92719552758c32f4c826239c&_x_zm_rhtaid=563

 

 

We also discussed the devastating practice by abusers:

MATERNAL ALIENATION

In Maternal Alienation, a revengeful ex-husband brainwashes, manipulates and alienates children from their loving, normal-range mother to continue the coercive control and emotional abuse by punishing and attempting to destroy his ex-wife, especially if he was the one discarded because she had the courage to file for divorce and escape. With outright lies and believable half-truths, the father often successfully isolates the children from each other so that the siblings don’t have support or can compare notes. The father is skillful at convincing family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, courts and any professionals, that the mother is “mad or bad”. The abuser usually manages to persuade the children and all those involved with the family that they are blameless, innocent, upstanding, honorable and misunderstood, and that the mother is the cause for all the problems as he is just trying to “protect” the children. In this way, Maternal Alienation successfully hides the man’s responsibility for the Domestic Violence and Abuse, and directs people’s attention towards the so-called “bad” mother. The father who uses these tactics remains “invisible”. In their need for control and power, these abusing men who alienate children from their loving mothers also misuse legal authorities by continuing to take their ex-wife to court to prolong the emotional and financial abuse. They are obsessed with keeping up their false public image and use whatever tactics they can to keep the mother traumatized and silenced so the truth about their abhorrent, immoral and/or illegal behavior won’t be publicly revealed. This Domestic Violence is against both women and children and has lifelong negative and intergenerational consequences. Researchers also label Maternal Alienation Child Abuse and consider it a Hate Crime.

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Marvelous Meeting of the Minds (and hearts) with

“I’m A Survivor” Radio Show host Misty Chaviers

on Thursday, September 27, 2021

   Domestic Violence Awareness leads to healing and happiness.

Click below to listen to our conversation.

https://anchor.fm/hmisty387gmailcom/episodes/special-Guest-Dr-Marni-Hill-Foderaro-e17vhj7

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Realizing you’ve experienced Family Abuse and expressing your ordeal can be challenging. The words in True Deceit False Love will help you on your healing journey.

When you finally realize that you’ve been a victim of Family Violence at the hands of a malevolent, calculating abuser, someone you cared for and loved unconditionally, finding the words to understand the methodical gaslighting and deliberate smearing you’ve endured and then to be a able to express your trauma to others can be exceptionally challenging. Language has the power to hurt, but language also has the power to heal. This unique and ingenious reference book TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 Terms & Phrases on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse & Parental Alienation, is a must-have resource to help you articulate what you’ve been through and recover from your experiences. Just reading these commonly used terms and phrases can be extremely therapeutic on your healing journey. In time, the abuser’s mask slips and with your own research and investigation, you will come to understand the truth, find your survivor’s voice and reclaim your life.

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Dr. Jennifer Harman, Lisa A. Romano, Tracy A. Malone & Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney

Available NOW on Amazon, Balboa Press/Hay House & Barnes and Noble

Click below to order your copy:

https://www.amazon.com/True-Deceit-False-Love-Narcissistic/dp/1982272449/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=true+deceit+false+love&qid=1633048082&sr=8-1

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https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/true-deceit-false-love-dr-marni-hill-foderaro/1140225090?ean=9781982272449

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

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Excited to have a conversation with the amazing and very insightful

Kristi Peck of “Living The Liminal” podcast

on September 22, 2021, the first day of Autumn!

We discussed experiencing miracles by paying attention to signs and synchronicities. We also chatted about faith as it relates to handling life’s challenges with happiness, hope, curiosity and a grateful heart. There are so many blessings to be thankful for and we need to trust that we are loved and supported. Our voices and souls matter in the Collective Consciousness.

Click on link below to watch our interview: Episode 50: Believe in Miracles

https://youtu.be/DqJpPw0bO3Q

 

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Celebrated my 60th Birthday with friends & family in ILLINOIS

successful book signing

w/the

Chicago Writers Association

@ the

CHICAGO PRINTERS ROW LITERARY FESTIVAL

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My spiritual fiction is featured in my Illinois hometown area of Barrington/Inverness/Fox River Grove, and is now in McHenry/Crystal Lake!!!

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September 1-5, 2021

Celebrating the 40th Anniversary of the Founding of

IANDS- International Association for Near Death Studies

Thrilled to be a panelist for the annual International IANDS Conference to discuss STEs-Spiritually Transformative Experiences along with Keynote Speakers Bruce Greyson, Eben Alexander, Karen Newell, Mark Anthony, Nancy Rynes and Oscar Miro-Quesada; plus presentations from numerous other notable influencers including Raymond Moody, John Audette, Michael Sabom, PMH Atwater and my friend Tricia Barker, an author, speaker, professor, NDEr and fellow narcissistic abuse survivor who is most definitely a “beautiful light-filled soul”.

Check out the ONLINE IANDS BOOKSTORE: you’ll find all of the speakers’ books, along with my book! Click on the link below for some great reading:

https://virtualconference.iands.org/bookstore/

My 2020 Best Books award-winning Spiritual fiction,  “God Came To My Garage Sale”

was endorsed by IANDS founding Directors and Presidents: Diane Willis from Chicago, IL and Barbara Bartolome from Santa Barbara, CA. (Barbara also wrote the Foreword!)

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Honored to have a conversation with the amazing PAXTON of NarcAbuse TV on September 1st, 2021, our first interview in a 3-part series.

Stay tuned for part 2 on October 1st and part 3 on November 1st.

Click on link below to watch our interview. Passcode is: w.1KE?fs

https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/play/04uGnxcaoN6t_71ILu4gVrfwDozi7ZMZCJAQ0Q8cs01leYRceyu2pZSxTof1lLqGOBaCqCEmO1L2f4zv.44oFVFuvTxVcFQBW?continueMode=true&_x_zm_rtaid=CXqCE9NkQwS0GJ2_PEyQlA.1633136366360.6c98772f92719552758c32f4c826239c&_x_zm_rhtaid=563

 

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So many of the accounts of Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation are so very similar. Abusers seem to follow the same playbook. Listen as narcissistabusesupport.com life coach Tracy Malone reads an anonymous essay about the devastating situation of a targeted parent losing their children to this abuse. Then check out Tracy’s interview with Parental Alienation researcher Dr. Jennifer Harman as well as family systems psychologist Dr. Craig Childress’s Parental Alienation video on the 3 signs that ALWAYS indicate the pathology of Child Psychological Abuse. Also, watch a heartfelt reunion of a beautiful daughter and her very strong, loving mom after 8 years of alienation!  Stay hopeful! Truth and Goodness eventually prevails!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZ10TMzs2yI

 

https://youtu.be/qvIToLjLpb8

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pI3MfThrZoU

 

https://youtu.be/r5Sqaki5iQc

 

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RELEASING TRAUMA Radio Show with Host and survivor Tracey Osborne

Our August 26, 2021 interview aired September 29, 2021, which is my late mom’s birthday and the release date of my new book: TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE !!!

click on link below to listen to our conversation:

 https://releasingtraumapodcast.com/surviving-and-thriving-after-domestic-abuse-parental-alienation-with-dr-marni-hill-foderaro/

 

 

We discussed tips for healing and releasing trauma after experiencing Domestic-Intimate Partner Terrorism and Parental Alienation.

It’s critical to stay vigilant while following your gut intuition, paying attention to the many red flags, executing a safety escape plan and believing the abuser when he/she unintentionally reveals and confesses to their malevolent agenda (yes, although it may take years, at some point the abusers and alienators expose themselves, shattering their false public persona as their mask slips right in front of you!) Stay hopeful and true to your honorable values of love, honesty, forgiveness and compassion. You can’t control the evil and hurtful things that others do, you can only control how you respond.

You too can survive, thrive & move forward to live a beautiful and purposeful life!

“The truth eventually prevails, even when justice doesn’t. Adult children know which parent lies, steals and cheats and which parent doesn’t. It took us Targeted Victims decades to understand Parental Alienation, so it will take our isolated, controlled children years before their light bulb of truth goes on. Living with honesty and goodness helps release trauma so you can live a beautiful and purposeful life.”  -Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

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A big “Thank You” to Khatie, the owner of The Blithe Co 222 E. Commercial Blvd. Suite 107  Lauderdale-By-The-Sea, FLORIDA for hosting my August 21st book signing! If you’re in the SOFLO area, stop by her awesome shop for healing rocks, stones and crystals, and beautifully unique creations from over 35 women artisans…as well as a great $10 book to read at the beach or on your plane ride home:

Check out my spiritual fiction  “God Came To My Garage Sale.” 

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

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I joined Carma Spence of THE AUTHOR’S SWITCH on August 10, 2021

as we discussed my author’s journey, including the challenges and miracles that led to the writing and publishing of my spiritual fiction

GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

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Honored to connect with Natalie Sist of

MYSTIC LIVING TODAY RADIO

who brings love and light to the world. On Friday, July 30, 2021

we had an authentic and unscripted LIVE conversation about handling life’s losses and challenges with grace and love, leading to Divine awareness, amazing experiences and a self-actualized life.

Click on the link below to listen to our hour-long interview:

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/starzcast/2021/07/30/meet-educator-author-dr-marni-with-host-natalie-sist-live

 

To all the alienated adult children who are isolated, sad, angry, confused, exhausted and numb and to those who conversely feel empowered and righteous in their estrangement because of the lies they’ve been told: The loving parent (your dad or mom) and that entire side of your family, who you wrongly cut out of your life, haven’t heard your voice in years; however, our hearts and souls have hopeful conversations with you every day.

You are loved beyond words.

We’re sorry that we can’t protect you from the covert coercive control and abuse that you don’t deserve and pray for your safety, independence, awareness and the return of the real memories of the unconditional love you previously shared. It’s not your fault that you aligned with the abusive parent; they have a condition and are very calculated “secret agents” and are skilled at deception and manipulation.

However, it is critical you know that the negative consequences of you continuing to live your life with this misguided hate are detrimental to your emotional wellbeing, physical health and future relationships.

To the alienated adult children: Please open up your heart and mind to the truth; reach out to your loving parent.

You have the power to stop this. You deserve a happy and wonderful life.

Message to the Adult Children who are learning about Parental Alienation:

To hear other alienated adult children’s stories, check out the monthly interviews with adult kids on Dr. Petra Deeter’s YouTube channel “Victim To Hero.” You will meet others who have gone through what you experienced after your parents divorced and one of your parents used you as a weapon in their war to destroy their ex and brainwashed you to hate, fear and cut off your other parent. It is so wrong that you were put in the middle and used this way. You think that YOU made the decision to estrange because of some awful thing you think that parent did. Look up

“INDEPENDENT THINKER PHENOMENON”

and you’ll learn the truth about what really happened. These interviewed adult children eventually figured out that the parent they stopped talking to was actually the parent that loved them unconditionally and would never harm them. ever.

Stop Parental Alienation!

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My chapter in

“WE’RE ALL IN THS TOGETHER: EMBRACE ONE ANOTHER” is entitled:

“Surviving and Healing After Losing Your Children To Parental Alienation” 

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In addition to co-authoring my 5th anthology book, the first book in my 4-book series entitled:

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE”  was released September 29th!

“TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE: 15,555 TERMS & PHRASES ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, NARCISSISTIC ABUSE & PARENTAL ALIENATION”

has been blessed with magnificent praise and endorsements from significant influencers in the Domestic Abuse and Alienation community. Click on the “Praise” menu tab and scroll down. Check out what the following leaders had to say:

Dr. Jennifer J. Harman, Ph.D.

Relationship Expert, Researcher, Professor, Author, Public Speaker

Dr. Sam Vaknin, Ph.D.

Professor of psychology, Author of Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited

Lisa A. Romano

Breakthrough Life Coach, Bestselling Author and Spiritual Healer

Tracy A. Malone

surTHRIVER, Life Coach, Speaker, Author of Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up, Founder of the internationally renowned NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney

Advocate, Speaker, Founder of the 501(c)(3) non-profit organization LoveDominates.com

My latest book: TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE is available NOW:

https://www.amazon.com/True-Deceit-False-Love-Narcissistic/dp/1982272449/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=true+deceit+false+love&qid=1633048082&sr=8-1

 

 https://www.balboapress.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/832829-true-deceit-false-love

 

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/true-deceit-false-love-dr-marni-hill-foderaro/1140225090?ean=9781982272449

https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro

 

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So happy to have a conversation with Dylan Thomas from Ohio

the very cool host of the “IN SEARCH OF REALITY”

podcast. On Thursday night, July 15, 2021 we had a down-to-earth discussion about miracles, signs and synchronicities. I shared how I was transformed by numerous experiences, but that it was the tangible proof/evidence that led to my Spiritual Awakening and believing without a doubt in paranormal phenomenon and life after our earthly physical death.  Click on link to check out our conversation: 

https://youtu.be/jjvtvw7R5tg

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So blessed to be interviewed by and connect with Author & Trauma Survivor

IRENE WEINBERG of Grief and Rebirth: Finding the Joy in Life Podcast

In our July 5, 2021 conversation we discussed SPIRITUALITY as it relates to significant loss, intergenerational abuse, spousal Domestic Violence, best friend betrayal and heartbreaking Parental Alienation as well as practical strategies to reclaim your life and flourish by staying true to your core values (my values are: honesty, love, compassion and goodness), learning to identify red flags and trauma bonds, following your gut intuition and rediscovering your passions.

Click on link below to our August 12, 2021 air date of episode 121:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJvqCLfWohg

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June 24, 2021. So nice to have my THIRD

“Living and Thriving with Rustie”

LTR conversation (in our 3-part series) with Internationally renowned multi-book Author, Speaker and Domestic Terrorism Survivor Rustie MacDonald

 an amazingly strong, very accomplished & inspirational woman. We explored the  road to recovery from the trauma we experienced at the hands of our malevolent abuser, rediscovering ourselves and our passions and what life looks like for survivors post-Narcissist Abuse and post-Parental Alienation.

Click on the link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/jswg–H276U

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Honored to be interviewed LIVE by

Mari Mitchell of “Dare To Be Authentic”

Blog Talk Radio Show on June 22, 2021. Mari’s passion is helping people tap into the majesty that is inside of them to create the life they desire. She states, “Being authentic and connecting with your inner guidance brings the highest level of joy.” I resonate with Mari’s “Dare To Be Authentic” message and  make efforts to stay true to my own core values of love, honesty, compassion and goodness.

Click on the link below to hear this radio interview:

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/marimitchellporter/2021/06/22/stay-true-to-your-values-and-your-authentic-self-with-guest-marni-hill-foderaro

 

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I was thrilled to participate in the 2021

“Spirit of the Islands Spiritual and Healing Arts Expo & Fair”

held at the Cane Bay Campgrounds on the North Shore of the tropical US Virgin Island of St. Croix! Hundreds of locals and visitors came to be inspired, empowered and uplifted by connecting with our amazing community as the exhibitors provided multiple opportunities for all to experience enlightenment for the body, heart, mind and soul through art, music and positive exploration of holistic, herbal and energetic healing methods, plus the opportunity for literary enjoyment and to receive a signed copy of my award-winning Spiritual Fiction:  God Came To My Garage Sale

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June 15, 2021

Podcast Interview: LTR: LIVING & THRIVING WITH RUSTIE

Honored to have my SECOND of three conversations with Internationally renowned Author, Speaker and Survivor Rustie MacDonald, an amazing, accomplished and inspirational woman who has endured years of extreme Domestic and Intimate Partner Terrorism, and like me (after escaping to safety, moving very far away and creating a beautiful life) chooses to remain positive and handle the challenges of CONTINUED abuse (emotional, financial and legal), malevolent betrayal, unfathomable loss and severe Parental Alienation with love, honesty and compassion, inspiring other survivors to honor themselves, know their worth, find gratitude, live a meaningful and fulfilling life and stay true to their core values of goodness, even in the darkness.

In response to Rustie’s viewer questions, we discussed TRAUMA BONDING, GASLIGHTING, FINANCIAL ABUSE AND CONTINUED LEGAL ABUSE by the mentally ill and often obsessed narcissistic sociopath ex, as well as DOMESTIC VIOLENCE  & FINANCIAL MANIPULATION of their own (even adult) children, as these abusers and parent alienators discourage independence and take advantage of their trust. Click on link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/ViExKRMQ6vY

Rustie MacDonald is a multi-book author, with more books on the way! Rustie is known internationally for sharing her harrowing story of abuse, poverty and rape. Her Domestic Violence, Parental Alienation and legal harassment continues to this day over a decade after she escaped her abuser and her ex remarrying four times!!! Rustie will not be silenced as she continues to inspire survivors worldwide to find gratitude and live in authentic happiness, even in the darkness.

I encourage survivors to also check out another great resource on Intimate Partner Abuse, Parental Alienation of her 8 (eight!) children and trauma recovery in the memoir “Bonshea: Making Light of the Dark” by the immensely courageous author, advocate, speaker and reporter Coral Anika Theill, who also had her “American Dream” shattered and shares her true experiences of heartbreak and salvation. Coral continues to be stalked after more than 18 years by her ex-husband, Oregon’s Marty Warner, through the family court system and vows to lift the evil veil of secrecy. Her book is “intense in its effort to open the doors behind which many Domestic Violence perpetrators have stood for so long in the name of privacy.” She states: “I will not stay silent so you can stay comfortable. It is terrible for everyone when the truth does not come out. It is terrible for some when it does.”

check out Coral’s website for more information: 

https://www.coralanikatheill.com/read-bonshea-making-light-of-the-dark-

 

“MATERNAL ALIENATION IS THE ULTIMATE HATE CRIME”

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Please join me for another conversation with Spain’s Lovely

Lucia Matuonto! Not only is she the host of  “THE RELATABLE VOICE”

podcast, she has teamed up with the digital magazine WORLD AUTHORS. In her exclusive interview series “UNCUT WITH LUCIA”, she interviews book authors, songwriters and wordsmiths. I am honored to be a repeat guest on her show!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWk9pyYcr1w

 

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Anthony Muiruri from Book Talk @ Book Place

was streaming live from ATHENS, GREECE!

Click on the YouTube link below to watch, along w/40,000 viewers,

our Facebook LIVE interview:

https://youtu.be/-k6BJvgkXhc

In Greek Mythology, Echo was the victim of the original narcissist, Narcissus.

In the anthology, The Evolution of Echo compiled by (the late) Angie Atkinson

read and listen to the voices of survivors share not just their own story, but the story of thousands of other men and women.

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Just selected as a Panelist for the IANDS 2021 online 40th Anniversary Celebration LIVE conference: “Past Reflections, Present Enlightenment & Future Illumination”

Friday, September 3, 2021 “DEEPENING SPIRITUAL UNDERSTANDING”

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Friday May 14, 2021

I interviewed with the lovely Lucia from Spain’s

“THE RELATABLE VOICE”

podcast

Check out the google.com podcast link below to listen to our interview. It is also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, RadioPublic and BreakerAudio, along with Lucia’s website:

https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy80NTkwMzUyYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

 

Here is the link to my written blog for Lucia’s site:

https://www.luciamatuonto.com/post/having-a-garage-sale-can-change-your-life

 

This is Lucia’s author page:

http://amazon.com/author/luciamatuonto

Marni & Lucia, Soul Sister Author Friends from St. Croix USVI to Spain, where she is making arrangements for me to be a presenter at a University in Barcelona, Spain!!! Hoping to travel again soon!

(notice the garage sale sign, her signature RV & the dancing dragonflies!)

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Honored to have a conversation about handling Narcissist Abuse with

LOVE, GOODNESS, COMPASSION AND AWARENESS

with Trinidad & Tobago’s Favorite Radio Host: Corine La Font

***   BETWEEN THE LINES  ***

click on the YouTube link below to watch our LIVE interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTlh6GRZXRw

 

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May 3, 2021

Podcast Interview: LIVING & THRIVING WITH RUSTIE

Honored to have my FIRST of several conversations with Internationally renowned Author, Speaker and Survivor  Rustie MacDonald

an amazing, accomplished and inspirational woman who has endured years of extreme Domestic and Intimate Partner Terrorism, and like me (after escaping, moving very far away and creating a beautiful life) chooses to remain positive and handle the challenges of continued abuse (emotional, financial and legal), malevolent betrayal, extreme loss and severe Parental Alienation with love, honesty and compassion, inspiring others to also find gratitude, even in the darkness.

Premier was June 10, 2021 at 1 pm EST. Click on link below to watch:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbPVTTkqpzE

 

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Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s Guest Article is featured in the MAY 2021 ISSUE OF

EDEN MAGAZINE

click on link below to read article on pages 60-63:

https://www.magcloud.com/webviewer/1975468?__r=577352&s=w.

“I choose to handle adversity with LOVE, FORGIVENESS & COMPASSION. HONESTY and GOODNESS must and will prevail.” -Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

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Honored to be included in the April 30th BOOK BACCHANNAL

2021 USVI Literary Festival & Book Fair

Click on the link below to hear my short presentation at the 1:19:28 mark:

https://youtu.be/Vl3_wGCWbVM

 

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Click on the YouTube link below to watch our interview:

https://youtu.be/4rFYH3j3b-0

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April 20, 2021 Amazing podcast interview with

CJ Peterson of THE JOURNEY IS REAL PODCAST

with REAL people, REAL passions and REAL hearts!

Click the link below to check out our interview:

https://youtu.be/Ts3nuEGAgx0

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ADULT CHILDREN OF PARENTAL ALIENATION:

IT’S TIME TO UNDERSTAND WHAT REALLY HAPPENED

AND REACH OUT TO YOUR LOVING PARENT

Interview (Part 2) with LOVE DOMINATES

Parental Awareness Day is April 25, 2021

click on YouTube link to watch interview:

https://youtu.be/Yfuw-2tVrqk

 

Parental Alienation Awareness Day is April 25th.

To continue this much needed conversation and in response to the plethora of positive comments and numerous requests for a follow up discussion with Marni, this video is Part 2 of LOVE DOMINATE’s first interview with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro. She is the esteemed author of the award-winning inspirational fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale.” Marni is a contributing author to numerous best-selling anthology books, in addition to her speaking and writing endeavors on embracing spirituality after surviving Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation.

This video speaks directly to the adult children who do not communicate with or have a relationship with either their dad or mom after their parents separated or divorced. We explore the definition of Parental Alienation, a severe emotional form of child abuse, and provide both general and specific examples to help adult children (and others) understand this campaign of denigration and devastating family dynamic. We discuss how the adult child is trauma-bonded to the aligned/favored parent by very secretly being manipulated, controlled, gaslit, bought, silenced and even tracked or in severe cases poisoned or murdered. This can lead the adult children to experience severe anxiety, stress, low self esteem, splitting, isolation, addictions, mental health issues, suicide ideations, school problems, job loss, financial dependence, and more, but can also lead to these adult children forming unhealthy friendships, choosing an abusive or narcissistic boyfriend or girlfriend, struggling with boundary issues and possibly experiencing alienation later on in life with their own children. 

In addition to the alienating parent doing whatever they can to vindictively destroy their ex, these abusers will use their adult children as weapons in their war of revenge to hurt their child’s other loving parent. Often disguised as genuine concern, these favored parents create trauma bonds and dependence with their adult children with underhanded condescending projections, put downs, lies/half-truths and cult-like brainwashing, some even going so far as to encourage the child to file protection orders so the loving parent is legally forced into silence and submission. This abuse is often done so subtly that the children experience “Independent Thinker Phenomenon” and believe that cutting out their dad or mom, and usually that side’s entire extended family, was their decision alone. The favored parent often plants the seeds of doubt, fear and false scenarios to discredit their own children and distort their childhood memories; this can be in the works for years. In reality, these alienating parents are not well and very afraid of the truth or the malevolence of their character and behavior being exposed, as they have their own deep-rooted traumas and are overly concerned with their false public stature or image.

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro believes that adult children need to and should have a relationship with both parents, they just need to be aware of the dynamics of Parental Alienation and set up healthy boundaries for themselves. Research shows the parent-child bonds that were formed in childhood are strong and it goes against human nature for a child to reject a loving normal-range parent. Check out Dr. Jennifer Harman’s TEDx Talk & Dr. Craig Childress’s 9-video series Speaking To The Adult Child.

WELL, ADULT CHILDREN…

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO STOP THIS CHAOS AND ABUSE! 

You can live a more peaceful and independent life, where you can fulfill your own dreams while enjoying the loving support of BOTH parents. It’s time that you understand what really happened in your family and how you are still being played. Your targeted parent loves you very much, is so very sorry that this has happened to you, wants to be reunited, wants to hear your concerns and struggles, knows that you are hurting and will welcome you back with open arms, but most likely has experienced so much rejection and/or legal threats for so many years that now the ball really is in your court. Trust can be restored and you can be whole again. It’s time for you to take back your life and get back in touch with your dad or mom that you haven’t seen in years.

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro with

Tamara Gerstemeier Sweeney, Erased Mother of 4 and Founder of 501(c)(3)

LOVE DOMINATES

“CHOOSE LOVE OVER HATE AND COMPASSION OVER JUDGEMENT IN EVERYTHING YOU DO”

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On April 23, 2021 !!! 

WORLD BOOK DAY !!!  WE WON !!!

My interview is featured in “PUBLISHED” Magazine !!!

The Anthology I coauthored,  “The UltiMUTT Book For Dog Lovers”

won the 2021 EIPPY AWARD Expert Insights Publishing-Best Selling Authors 

Our Anthology book also won GOLD in the 2021 eLIT Book AWARDS !!!

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My Alma Mater Northern Illinois University where I earned my doctorate in 1997

just gave a shout out March 24, 2021 on their ALUMNI ACCOMPLISHMENTS

page for my 2020 Best Books Award Winning spiritual fiction

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE.”

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THRIVE GLOBAL MAGAZINE

just published my March 12, 2021 interview with Authority Magazine

Click on link to open and read.

https://thriveglobal.com/stories/dr-marni-hill-foderaro-stay-true-to-your-goals/?fbclid=IwAR2oWB1zxRPAiyQLThwURn0EbIv7iqk9SejjqlA7B25KxiqoejQZgHQdgj8

 

 

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Thrilled to have my guest article featured as the “TOP STORY”in the

March 15, 2021 issue of Baby Boomers Magazine!

Speaking the truth and sharing survivor strategies helps victims heal

and can provide hopeful inspiration to many.

“Surviving Domestic Violence and Writing to Heal.”

Click on link to read article:

https://www.babyboomers.com/article/surviving-domestic-violence-and-writing-to-heal/604a86bbe4b0a391e438b796?fbclid=IwAR1rmhmVLfruERbpRnLhzirKFBzsQFh3Ozls0SQeJUpTheyjCJmXWaeRqk4

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Great time teaching a Writing Workshop on Tuesday, March 16, 2021 at the

Caribbean Museum Center for the Art inSt. Croix, United States Virgin Islands.

Glad to provide inspiration to some very talented and soon-to-be published authors!

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Honored to have a short book excerpt featured in the March 2021 magazine issue of

MYSTIC LIVING TODAY

Miraculous signs and synchronicities can grace your awareness if you choose to handle life’s challenges (and we all at one time or another have gone through some tough situations) with the highest vibration of LOVE! 

There is so much in this world to be thankful for.

I sincerely wish you ALL peace and happiness on your journey.

Click on link to read excerpt:

https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3103&fbclid=IwAR2V_N20usmrYzKW2WZXWOfCu3NuKjoVasZPi84K7LTBnvaBHHyGO3BKeRw

 

 

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I read my

bLU Talks Presents: Business, Life and the Universe chapter:

“A Spiritual Journey from Devout Atheist to Unwavering Believer”!

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WOW!! I was nominated and selected as one of 100 presenters for the

Global United Nations Voices of Women Summit

which aired Monday, March 8, 2021 on International Women’s Day.

Click on link to watch my 23 minute talk:

https://www.icloud.com/photos/#0qcQcBSqNeavyI3n_IBQ-PYdA

 

https://voices-of-women-summit.heysummit.com/?sc=iEuautLD&ac=KhLf4cAR&fbclid=IwAR00oUkTTgytSKrwl6-lnPIJjTJypL1lQ9wuF-MBYyJ1xX-j6EPrQcnrgTs#

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On February 25, 2021 in Murray, Utah (after a few weeks of skiing)

I had another successful book signing at an amazing venue

The Sacred Energy Empowerment Center

featured in “Play it Now Utah.”

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Featured in

THE NEW YORK TELEGRAPH!!!

I’m in Volume 2 of bLU Talks Presents: Business, Life and the Universe.

My chapter is titled:

“A Spiritual Journey from Devout Atheist to Unwavering Believer.”

Click on link to read article:

https://www.newyorktelegraph.com/news/267851387/108-authors-write-in-a-book-together?fbclid=IwAR0JHhmctZngWbdV3QmoSO7Gxsuoe-ARqperU-_jDzTUqrNX0xG_t7-4Y6I

 

 

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Honored to be featured in the February 17, 2021 issue of

AUTHORITY MAGAZINE!!!

Click on link to read this interview:

https://medium.com/authority-magazine/inspirational-women-of-the-speaking-circuit-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-on-the-five-things-you-need-to-f96cae13f6c0

 

 

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My 2-hour !!! 2/13/2021 presentation at the

Chicago IANDS (International Association for Near Death Studies)

I was humbled that Founder Diane Willis asked me to share my real spiritual experiences with this audience, many of the experiences that provided the inspiration for my spiritual fiction, “God Came To My Garage Sale.”

Click on link to watch:

https://www.chicagoiands.org/videos?fbclid=IwAR1omDxmlxissPFVlzMBcZS92m4mZ-5Ab1ZCghyGhS-cIGG5YtCUe5aS3ao

 

 

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I was interviewed for the Donna Seebo Show!

Click on link to hear our audio interview:

http://209.95.35.49:2197/ondemand/donnaseeboshow/2735%20February%2024%202021%20Wed-Dr%20Marni%20Hill%20Foderaro-Donna%20Seebo%20Show-PRrec0205-100752.mp3

 

 

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Dr. Christiane Northrop, M. D.

the brilliant and lovely visionary pioneer from Maine, gave my award-winning spiritual fiction “God Came To My Garage Sale”

a shout out on her February 8, 2021 daily podcast! I had many positive signs: I watched it at 11:11, the podcast was exactly 11:01 minutes long (she reads my note and holds up my book  4:15 minutes in)…and there were 1.1K views!!!

Dr. Northrup acknowledges our individual and collective capacity for growth, freedom, joy and balance and embraces living in God’s love and goodness, truth and light….my sentiments as well.

Click on link to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/DrChristianeNorthrup/videos/1097971441033386

 

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Audio interview 1-10-2021 with the amazing, strong and inspirational

Max Nijst, author of  “FEARLESS HAPPYNESS”

click on link to listen:

https://fearlesshappyness.libsyn.com/fearless-happyness-episode-4

 

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1-11-2021

ST. CROIX SOURCE newspaper feature story!Also, this article was featured in

PARENTAL-ALIENATION EDUCATION MAGAZINE!

Click on link to read article:

https://stcroixsource.com/2021/01/11/frederiksted-author-named-finalist-in-2020-best-book-awards/?fbclid=IwAR3OwjZKrbeKZMsnmL_s0T4uB0mfvztYV-aKX4x11iIt43fTUnsx5j9crL4

 

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On 1/11@11:11  

my publicist sent out this announcement through

Globe News Wire! 

Click on link to read article:

https://www.globenewswire.com/news-release/2021/01/11/2156100/0/en/Critically-Acclaimed-Spiritual-Fiction-Vividly-Details-an-Atheist-Woman-s-Transformative-Encounters-at-an-Ordinary-Garage-Sale-Challenging-Her-Beliefs-about-God-and-the-Afterlife.html?fbclid=IwAR2CEot8T7l7QiGN5Y51bcWNtF_tFDi5Vuuf6MTS6AGYnCJIWmSzfAnvlUw

 

 

 

2021 is going to be a great New Year as the truth is revealed!!!

OKAY, turns out it may have to be 2022!

Court continued to 2023 and now into 2024!

Goodness & Light will prevail over evil & dark.

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INTERVIEW WITH

bLU TALKS PRESENTS KELLY WOODHOUSE FALARDEAU

Award Winning speaker and 7x Best-Selling Author.

My Chapter is in Volume 2 and is titled,

“A Spiritual Journey from Devout Atheist to Unwavering Believer.”

Click on link to watch interview:

https://www.facebook.com/kellywoodhousefalardeau/videos/10157636195876674/

 

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This doesn’t really count for contributing to another book, but I was thrilled that my cookie recipe

“Marni’s Melting Moments” was 1 out of 16 recipes chosen by the

Lake Forest (Illinois) Library for my hometown cookbook.

Click on link to view or download this little cookie cookbook:

https://www.lakeforestlibrary.org/sites/default/files/2020-12/lakeforestlibrary-community-cookie-cookbook-booklet_0.pdf?fbclid=IwAR0jt4Oop6YwroxaVtYjjmRbQX0ZqlKd-nyn3uLTBE7KRs2P9ElBI5FZRbg

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INTERVIEW WITH

TAMARA GERSTEMEIR SWEENEY

FOUNDER OF THE 501(C)(3) CHARITY  LOVE DOMINATES

 Click on photo link to watch interview:

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro discusses her #SpiritualAwakening after experiencing and escaping the #Trauma of #DomesticAbuse and how she went from losing it all (home, money, support system and adult children to #ParentalAlienation) to thriving, by remaining vigilant using her own inner strength and values of integrity and honesty, while embracing #Spirituality and choosing to live with #Compassion in the highest vibration of #LOVEandLIGHT.

 She provides advice, support and coping strategies for #TargetedParents, fathers and mothers, who have wrongly lost a child or children to the cult-like #Brainwashing and #Manipulation by their other alienating parent. Marni states, “As devastating as this #DomesticAbuse is, there is peace in knowing and realizing that you can only control how you respond and choose to live your life.”

 Hopefully alienated innocent #AdultChildren worldwide will one day realize that they have been wrongly isolated and used as weapons in their #AbusiveParent’s revengeful mission to destroy their ex-spouse. Children deserve to have BOTH parents in their lives. Stop the #Abuse. You can take your pain and turn it into power, and reclaim yourself as you live a beautiful life. 

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INTERVIEW WITH LUISA from Australia’s

PASSION HARVEST

“LOSING EVERYTHING AND FINDING ME:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, FINDING COURAGE & DISCOVERING LOVE.”

I was honored to be interviewed with Luisa from Australia’s Passion Harvest, which aired November 17, 2020. In this podcast I discuss overcoming adversity and embracing love, encouraging those that have experienced Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation to be open to God, Spiritual signs and synchronicities and live in the present with mindfulness, compassion honesty and goodness.

Click on YouTube link to watch interview:

https://youtu.be/zS4USq4WUCc

 

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INTERVIEW WITH DEBBI DACHINGER

 award-winning coach and producer, host of the “Dare to Dream” syndicated radio show and media visibility strategist, for

“THE ULTI-MUTT BOOK FOR DOG LOVERS”

a great, international best selling and award winning book I co-authored!

Join esteemed author Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro and 13 other dog lovers in this INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER compilation which offers unique stories, experiences and contributions of moving, funny and insightful “tails” to pay homage to our canine companions. 

Marni instilled the love of all living things to her two human children and is passionate about animals. She was known as “Aunt Marni” to an Australian Shepherd rescue Bella, & was the loving toy-supplier to 3 Angel Aussies in Heaven:

Wanabe, Hoosier and Ceydee.

There is no coincidence that “dog” spelled backwards is “God.” 

Honored to tell Bogey Sweeney’s story in Chapter 5 “Doggy Divorce,” written from the dog’s point of view using whimsical puns and play on words, Marni chooses to live a spiritual life focused on compassion, goodness and the highest vibration of

LOVE  

while addressing the serious issues of

extreme Domestic Violence, Covert Malignant Narcissist Abuse,

severe Parental Alienation & debilitating Intergenerational Family Trauma

This was a very long (2 hours) Facebook Live interview of the authors in this compilation anthology. Marni’s contributions are at the 44:00; 1:24:30; and 1:34:00 marks. Click on link below to listen:

https://www.facebook.com/debbi.dachinger/videos/10158995226753669

 

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Thrilled to be a Co-Author of:

THE LAST BREATH

True Stories of Mediumship, the Afterlife & Messages from Heaven

My chapter is entitled

“Pay Attention! The Universe is Sending You Signs!”

BOOK LAUNCH September 14, 2020 (on my birthday!!!)

Join us on a magical journey of the soul, where professional mediums from around the world share their experiences of the afterlife and spirit communication. The stories in this book provide validation that our soul continues to survive, long after the death of our physical body. Our departed loved ones are not gone; they are alive and well in the Spirit World. They continue to watch over us, supporting and guiding from the Other Side. You can learn to connect with them through mediumship, spirit signs and synchronicities.

Whether you are a believer in the afterlife or an open-minded skeptic, these stories allow you to experience loss and grief from a different perspective. Death and dying are not final, but a spiritual transition to another realm. When your divine time comes, know that your loved ones will be there to greet you. Love Never Dies!

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INTERVIEW WITH

DR. MICHELLE “MOTHERELLA” PIPER

Please join us and watch Dr. Motherella’s interview with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

LIVE June 22, 2020!

Give a listen to this iHeartRadio podcast, a conversation about

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro‘s

new spiritual fiction book

“God Came To My Garage Sale”

the intriguing backstory of how she transitioned from Atheist to Believer after surviving

Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation.

Motherella interviews Marni about her upcoming writing and speaking projects. A joyful life in the Caribbean and brimming with gratitude, Marni illustrates that from out of darkness, light will come if you choose to live with love, goodness and peace in your heart. Truth is eventually revealed as evil is exposed. 

Click on YouTube link to watch interview.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8c42ArBCBc

 

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WELLNESS RADIO INTERVIEW WITH

DR. JEANETTE GALLAGHER  6-1-2020

Click on link to listen to our interview.

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/dr-jeanette-gallagher/2020/06/02/exploring-lifes-keys-one-garage-sale-at-a-time

 

Dr. Jeanette, global online radio host who shares topics of wellness, spirituality, health, life challenges and inspirational stories, welcomes

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro

author of

God Came To My Garage Sale

to share a story of the keys of life that God sends if we are willing to see. What are the messages he is sending? God Came To My Garage Sale is a spiritual fiction work that takes us on a journey of items and people in a garage sale; how the stories that are imprinted in them bring us to explore the deepest of our hearts and soul. The characters that visit the Garage Sale are messengers with important God keys that can allow us to see things differently in retrospect. Your life is a great journey of challenges, love, pain, sorrow and joy; one step at a time. How glorious is that? We all hold on to material items over decades of life as the memories they hold seem to have meaning and helps us create our identity and journeys. Letting go includes stepping away from toxic situations, including malevolent people which may include breaking the trauma bonds with deceitful family and friends. If you are fortunate, you too can be awakened to the truth and really begin to live an authentic and more purposeful life.

For a free newsletter and book from Dr. Jeanette visit: www.DrJeanetteGallagher.com

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BOOK SIGNINGS 

THURSDAY, JANUARY 14, 2021  4:30 – 6:30 PM

Undercover Books

   Gallow’s Bay  St. Croix  USVI

Thursday, January 16, 2020 during Art Walk

Chaney Chicks

on the Christiansted Boardwalk USVI

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FEATURE ARTICLE IN  ST. CROIX THIS WEEK MAGAZINE

Very excited to announce a feature article in

ST. CROIX THIS WEEK

regarding the official release and 1st book signing of my critically acclaimed

and 2020 Best Books Award Winning spiritual fiction,

“GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE”

in both the April and May 2020 monthly issues of St. Croix This Week!

Due to the changing tides in the world and on the island, the April 23rd, 2020 book signing at Undercover Books in the U.S. Virgin Islands was rescheduled for

January 14, 2021.

I send my thoughts and prayers out for peace, healing, and community,

and especially truth, as it will be eventually revealed in time.

Truth always prevails.

Let us open our hearts and minds to the numerous signs and synchronicities around us.

God bless each and every one of you.

Marni

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THE LIVINGSTON TAYLOR SHOW  9-15-2020

Singer/songwriter extraordinaire (and yes, James Taylor’s talented musician brother) and my very dear friend for over 4 decades, Livingston Taylor gave me a birthday shout-out and featured my spiritual fiction,

God Came To My Garage Sale

on his Tuesday, 9/15/2020 Facebook Live show! What an honor! I love his music. I love this man and his charming producer wife professional chef Gail Arnold. Great management Ralph and Brittany. Amazing folks! Feeling blessed!

Tune in and give him a listen. Liv mentions my book and me @ 15:15.

Click on YouTube link to check it out!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wzcwHX0Rnwk

 

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THE S.E.A. AUCTION 2020
THE ST. CROIX ENVIRONMENTAL ASSOCIATION

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GOD CAME TO MY GARAGE SALE

IS NOW ON ALL 3 UNITED STATES VIRGIN ISLANDS !!!!

My rock…St. Croix, St. Thomas & St. John

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Wonderful Wildlife!

The “Heron Haven” (actually an Egret habitat)

near my rainforest home!

The Beach is my happy place!

CHRISTIANSTED- the East End & Boardwalk (yellow fort)

FREDERIKSTED– “West is Best” (red fort)

I’m beyond grateful to live on a tropical island in 

PARADISE!

Everyday on St. Croix is a multi-sensory adventure!

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*********** MARNI’S PERSONAL & HEARTFELT MESSAGE***********

After moving from a lifetime in the Chicago suburbs and retiring from my successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor, I never imagined I’d be an

Award-Winning Author of so many prominently-endorsed books

living in the 

CARIBBEAN!

To be able to survive and carryon, I was forced to face the reality of the dangerous situation I found myself and reinvent my existence after acknowledging the truth and choosing to escape an abusive 27-year marriage, losing my “American Dream” (home, assets, money, support system of friends, family, neighbors, church). I had to deal with the heartwrenching fact that our adult kids were brainwashed with a False Narrative and one of them, our beautiful daughter, was ripped away from my life (leaving me grieving this loss like the death of your living child-and the sadness of knowing that you can’t protect this child as their life is forever changed by them losing the safe parent who loves them unconditionally by aligning with the character/personality-disordered Alienator), then trying to rebuild my life while experiencing over a decade of post-divorce obsessive stalking, endless financial abuse and ongoing chaotic legal harassment.

I mustered up the courage to file for divorce in 2013

after a pizza dinner lightbulb moment with our now-alienated adult child and her dad as a result of his unintentional confession and blatent stealing $12,000 of our daughter’s money that opened up my awareness to years of my own Financial Abuse and other betrayals and ignored

Red Flags

then the following day, my then-husband’s verbal threat:

“Don’t you DARE divorce me or I’ll take your home, money and children,”

followed by a shocking, first-ever physical attack.

Like so many Domestic Violence Victims, I was too scared to file a police report.

When I mustered up the courage and had him served divorce papers after 27 years of marriage, my Abuser contacted me and asked if the grounds for my wanting a divorce were due to

“Mental Cruelty”

His question seemed so very odd to me at the time, but certainly makes sense now because Abusers know the emotional harm that they inflict on their Targets and they can’t conceal their true intentions for long, so they always tell on themselves and on their own, expose their evil agenda.  The divorce was “final” in 2015, however as anyone who has experienced divorcing their husband or wife who has Covert Malignant Narcissistic qualities and undiagnosed character/personality disorders, even if there are no minor children or custody issues, your ordeal is never really “final.”

It’s now 2024, and over a decade after I found the strength to escape and the resolve to file for divorce, my obsessive, malevolent and pathetic Abuser can’t seem to let me go or move on, even though he’s robbed me of most everything, but especially my previously-loving relationship with our daughter. Plus there continues to be an ongoing stonghold of abusive, alienating alignment efforts with our son. The only way the ex can stay connected to me these days is through the judicial system, so he continues to take me to court with bad-faith, dishonest petitions in his unsuccessful attempt to get me on Contempt, as he depletes my teacher pension (which is much smaller than his 3 pensions) in his ongoing, and also unsuccessful,  effort to destroy me by any means he can with his misguided “power” & “control.” Abusers have no problem shelling out $10,000 to fight a $100 dispute, especially if it means you have to to incur $10,000 to $20,000 in legal fees because you’re forced to respond to court petitions, even if they are filled with lies and unrelated documents, and even if they are done over a decade after you filed for divorce! It’s a sick and enjoyable game to them.

Well, Abusers and Alienators are the ultimate losers, because their deceit is eventually revealed, even if it takes decades. In fact, in time and in the long-run, most Alienators end up losing their relationship with their previously-aligned children when the kids put the pieces of the puzzle together to find out the real truth about the favored parent’s lies and manipulation tactics and they learn the common strategies used in abusive Parental Alienation to covertly coerce the children to cut off the relationship with their other Loving Parent.

The Alienators’ scheming can and does backfire when the truth comes to light.

I’ve done the work, reclaimed my strength and found my inner warrior.

My good heart and loving, empathetic spirit cannot be destroyed.

GOODNESS, TRUTH & LOVE PREVAILS!

Happiness and peace abounds! AMEN!

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”  Galatians 5:22-23

I must fully acknowledge and am appreciative that there were many amazing, wonderful (what I believed to be) happy times throughout my life, including with my family of origin (parents, brothers, extended family) and within my 27-year marriage. Intermittent reinforcement is a powerful tool to keep a Target hopeful and hanging on, focusing on the good times and not the bad times. Our children and I most definitely experienced extreme love and joy, including the two decades (pre-divorce & pre-Smear Campaign) when our now-Alienated Child was in my life and when I was considered a great wife, mother, daughter, sister, neighbor and friend by all.

I am forever grateful for the positives, the love, the generosity and the care.

Stepping away from some of these people and relationships doesn’t mean I don’t or never loved them, it’s just that for self-preservation and honoring my values, I must look out for my own peace and happiness and finally make my well-being a priority.

It has been a challenging earthly journey to get to the point in my life where I was at a crossroads and basically forced to research, understand, survive and heal from years of marital, familial and Intergenerational Domestic Violence, Covert Malignant Narcissistic Abuse, Best Friend Betrayal, Intimate Partner Violence and Extreme Parental Alienation, which prominent researchers state is a form of severe Child Abuse. It is shocking how many years it takes to step back, look at the big picture and find the strength and resolve to take a stand to set Healthy Boundaries, especially when you’ve gone along accepting poor treatment for years and even a lifetime.

It is clear to me now because of my firsthand experiences and research, and I believe 100% that my father engaged in extreme Narcissistic Abuse of my mother and was instrumental in my becoming SEVERELY Alienated from her during my formative years. My dad refused to acknowledge and ignored the fact that he was a child of an abusive alcoholic, just as he vehemently denies that he’s an alcoholic even though I have never known him to miss a day without drinking.  I believe that he must have had his own fears of abandonment and issues of shame. My dad always redirected our attention and focused any negatives on my “unstable” mom and her upbringing, stating to us kids that she was mentally ill like her own crazy mother and just not capable of taking care of us, even though she really wanted to. But, how “lucky” we kids were to at least have one “healthy, stable, good” parent to take care of us.

For their entire 14-year marriage, my dad proceeded to slowly manipulate and methodically sabotage my mom’s mental and physical health, stripping her of her independence and career as he dismissed, controlled and isolated her and made her question her own abilities and worth. My dad had my mom involuntarily committed to locked psych wards numerous times, where she was forced to take psychotropic, mind-altering pharmaceutical drugs and even endured painful and damaging electric shock treatment (ECT-Electroconvulsive Therapy), with its use still controversial, especially after a 2020 ban was overturned, but was used in extreme cases back then.

As a result of her being “committed” into mental wards of hospitals, my mother was not consistently home to care for us kids, and I was not regularly taken to see her. Just that scenario alone can solidify Alienation. So my dad could work his flexible full-time job while carrying on with his double life, the eldest brother and I were regularly sent away to spend months at a time with out-of-state relatives, while the youngest brother was even sent to Foster Care for a time. The narrative was twisted so my father would gain sympathy from others; he sought out attention and assumed the role of the self-sacrificing, hard-working, well-meaning victim as he always blamed my mother and was “forced” to seek companionship outside of his marriage.

Now that I’ve researched common traits of personality/character-disordered Abusers, it appears to me that my dad engaged in ALL of the textbook actions that are typical behaviors in a Covert Narcissist’s Playbook: Gaslighting, Projection, Isolation, Belittling, Control, Intermittent Reinforcement, Financial Abuse, playing the Victim, and engaging in a double life which included numerous extramarital affairs. Over time, my mom’s emotional and physical health suffered tremendously.

My mom struggled with understanding and coping with this underhanded and calculated type of Abuse, especially from her “loving” husband who held an upstanding position in the community who always played the victim, garnering sympathy from everyone as they were duped to believe he was always such a caring, devoted husband and perfect father. Back then this form of Intimate Partner Violence was not openly discussed and there weren’t the support groups, books, research or informational videos to help Targets cope, as there are now. My mom was isolated (one of an Abuser’s primary tactics) so she had no support system. The Smear Campaign destroyed her, coupled with postpartum depression, and like many Targets, she turned to alcohol to numb her pain and wanted to (and actually attempted 3x) to end her existence on earth to escape this no-win situation and life-sentence.

The video below by Lisa A. Romano really hit home for me.

It also reminded me that just a few short years ago my father was extremely critical about my weight, which was never previously brought up or an issue in my (then) 55 years! This Gaslighting comment was very inappropriate and very purposeful; it was a put down to make me feel bad about myself and what I looked like, not a sincere concern about my health or well-being. I am quite certain that my dad was also critical of my mom’s weight, because I remember her telling me that she “chose” to have bypass surgery so she could look better for him. Narcissists are judgmental and I know firsthand that Abuse from these misguided and character-disordered Abusers can take it’s toll on a Target emotionally, spiritually and physically.

Finally now I CAN SEE THE FOREST FOR THE TREES!

Click on the link below to watch:

“Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers & the problems we face”

https://youtu.be/pAewNAv7sjM?si=t8__rixB_u70QU8k

 

The reality was that before my mom entered into this Holy Union with my dad, she was a very beautiful, confident, accomplished, intelligent, witty, creative, attractive, healthy, slim and empathetic woman who was unfortunately targeted by the man she believed would honor and cherish her forever. Their drawn-out, contentious divorce after 14 years of marriage was considered by the family court system as high conflict, and all three of us very young children were forced to testify on the stand, along with our teachers, family friends and neighbors, which was very traumatic, emotionally painful and just plain wrong. The Alienation efforts instilled conscious and unconscious negative thoughts of my mother, so deeply ingrained by my father, which impacted me tremendously and played out in my relationships and life choices.

The brainwashing and forced alignment behaviors are very cult like.

Later on during my mother’s efforts to survive and take steps toward reclaiming her identity and life, I believe that her reaction to my dad’s Abuse led me to become sympathetic to my mom’s ordeal, resulting in my choosing to cut off my father as a young adult. My mom engaged in retaliatory tactics and when I was in college, enlisted me to lie on court documents so that she could recoup a small portion of the finances that were stolen from her. I experienced Stockholm Syndrome and Independent Thinker Phenomenon because at some level I could understand her unfair plight and circumstance, especially since my dad moved on, ended up marrying our neighbor and continued to live in our beautiful neighborhood in a beautiful house, where my mom was left with no career and very little money to be able to make ends meet. My mom shared with me that she “won custody” three times, but my dad made sure she was hospitalized so she could never live with the children. So I was hit with Parental Alienation from both sides, but mainly as a direct result from the abusive actions of my father, the malevolent, Pathogenic Parent.

For a number of years I was able to have both my dad and my mom in my life, equally. However, just before and certainly after my mom’s passing in 1997, the alignment with my dad and his 3rd wife was solidified and went on unquestioned for years. I so desperately wanted connection with family, especially since my marriage disolved and I experienced extreme Parental Alienation. I believe that my dad thought he ultimately “won” and his contrived and carefully constructed legacy would carry on after he leaves this earth. My dad has defended his False Narrative for so long, that it appears he actually believes his lies, which is common with Abusers. It was when I was doing the research on Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation and looked deep within at my own Intergenerational Family Trauma that I started to put the pieces together.

A big turning point happened recently when my dad used the exact same phrases that are common for Narcissistic Abusers to say and I realized that even in his 90’s he was Gaslighting me, most likely just like he did my mom.

One day, seemingly out of the blue, after I had published the first three volumes of my “TRUE DECEIT FALSE LOVE” book series and shortly after I had treated my dad and youngest brother to an all-expenses-paid Caribbean vacation (with the offer extended to lovingly include their wives, my stepmom and sister-in-law, who chose not to join us and who have subsequently never spoken to me since), my next interaction with my dad changed our relationship forever. I finally figured it out, in my 60s!

I was always seeking my dad’s approval and experienced a lifetime of being used to him not even acknowledging my achievements, including the degrees I earned or books I wrote. My dad contacted me, questioned my education and challenged my credentials, accusing me of being dishonest, possibly as a result of his being in competition with his own child’s accomplishments and successes.

The liar was using Projection by calling the honest person a liar!

When I provided my dad with physical proof to dispell his claims, he dismissed his accusations, immediately backed off and reluctantly offered an insincere apology. However, his next responses were textbook-common from that of Abusers and opened my eyes to the type of person I was dealing with. This was heartbreaking for me, as I loved my dad and still wanted a positive relationship with him, despite the early trauma and Parental Alienation behaviors I experienced in childhood. My dad said: “Oh, c’mon, you’re overreacting.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “I have, in effect, told you that I was mistaken.” Put it behind you.” “You heard me wrong.” Then when we talked further and I pointed out that these comments made by him are identified by psychological researchers as typical discounting put-downs used by Abusers (and are word-for-word examples in the literature on Narcissist Abuse), and I told him that I am beginning (finally at age 60) to understand similarities with his divorce and my own divorce, his response was: “You surely can’t blame me for having affairs, your mother was so very ill.” WOW! This was so painful to hear. Reality hurts.

Unlike my dad and other Abusers and Flying Monkeys in my life, honesty and integrity are virtues that I believe in and hold dear above all other qualities.

This very enlightening but emotionally painful conversation with my dad was a game changer for me. Actually the light-bulb moments I’ve had with my now ex-husband, my dad, my brother and my “best friend” happened without warning, it was just that I was finally at a place where I was paying closer attention to their comments and actions, along with how I felt around them, which ultimately exposed their true intentions and character. I was Trauma Bonded and allowed these toxic individuals to continue for years, and only I could stop this abuse.

Well, I finally figured it out. Better late than never.

The residual effect of growing up with these unhealthy role models and toxic family dynamics impacted me throughout my life and played out with my fierce efforts at a very young age to make it on my own by breaking free to seek independence and stability. Yet in my desperate efforts to find love and family, I unknowingly continued the cycle of ignoring Red Flags, being an over-giver and people-pleaser, internalizing and blaming myself as I continued to choose or stay in toxic relationships. I had to take responsibility and ownership, and it was now up to me to make the tough choices to stop this Generational Cycle of Abuse.

There were and are so many patterns repeated and similarities in the scenarios: even the fact that one of my dad’s many extramarital affairs was with our longtime neighbor, who became his third wife and last I heard (well, saw on recent court documents) was that my ex’s fiance just happens to be our longtime, next-door neighbor! You can’t make this stuff up!

This Intergenerational Abuse and Alienation stops right here and right now.

It wasn’t until my 50’s and as a loving mom who was recently divorced, wrongly assuming the ex and I could together and respectively co-parent our two adult kids, that I surprisingly realized that one of our children was all-of-a-sudden completely alienated from me and aligned with their dad.  I had lost the once-loving 20-year relationship with our daughter. Our son, the other adult child, has been isolated and cut off from his sister for years and in his efforts to survive and become independent, seems to vacilate back and forth when it comes to his parental relationships. Trauma Bonds with an Alienating Parent are very hard to break, especially when their efforts are covert and constant. This Child Abuse must stop. This Trauma must end.

I did the work and continue to do my best to understand what was/is happening to connect the dots. Finally in my 60’s, I am able to see and put an end to these toxic familial patterns. I am learning to set (and respect others’) Healthy Boundaries.

Researchers state that both Abusers and Targets are often Abused by their parents, even though the Alienating Parent often vehemently denies that he/she was a product of Abuse stating that they were raised in a “perfect family with no issues at all.”

(Hurt People often Hurt People)

I had to do a deep dive into my own foundational upbringing and abandonment issues, as well as people-pleasing and over-giving behaviors, do the Shadow Work and learn about my Intergenerational Family Trauma and fully acknowledge my role.

I had to put all of the pieces of the puzzle together to finally see the big picture.

Then the shock, pain and heartache continued when I realized I was unaware (for over half a century!!!) that I was a conditioned Target for Best Friend Betrayal and the additional Smear Campaign that ensued. I learned a big lesson about myself and our unhealthy relationship dynamics and was forced to accept that for most of my life, I allowed myself to be Gaslit, manipulated, dominated and controlled by someone I believed to have my best interests at heart, but didn’t. Just because you have history with someone doesn’t make the relationship positive, especially when you eventually acknowledge that your values and integrity have never quite been in alignment. I finally, and with kindness and compassion, set a simple Healthy Boundary and her reaction was extremely telling: condescending Projection, continued scolding and even more underhanded Gaslighting. Thank God that I finally found the inner resolve to recognize years of Betrayal and quietly walk away from a toxic “Best Friend” whose moral values I never really shared anyway, but who I was Trauma-Bonded to since my childhood.

I sincerely apologize to anyone, especially our children, my family and friends, who believe that I’ve mistreated them or wronged them in any way. I have done my best my entire life to come from a place of love, compassion, service and thoughtfulness. However, I am human. I am not perfect. I have made mistakes along the way. This is a life-long journey and there is still much for me to learn. Please forgive me.

I’ve had to set Healthy Boundaries out of love for myself, but also love for those relationships and people who I now understand to be (for me) unhealthy, abusive and even toxic. Walking away from people and situations that negatively effect your happiness and well-being doesn’t negate the positives in those relationships that you once shared, it just means that you have finally prioritized your own emotional health and have taken a stand on what you will or will no longer tolerate and who you want to invite in and/or keep in your life. Your circle will most definitely become smaller, but it will be authentic and more in tune with your values and awakened self.

I consider myself a loving, compassionate person who only wishes well for others. Actually, I hold a space of love, gratitude, peace, healing and forgiveness for those people and relationships I let go of (even when there was Abuse), because they contributed to my overall awareness, positive growth and self-actualization. journey.

It was so very necessary for me to do the inner Shadow Work to self-reflect, take responsibility/ownership and understand my role in relationship dynamics as I embarked on my healing and self-actualization journey. It was critical for my healing and understanding to do a deep dive into my own Intergenerational Family Trauma and foundational patterns, and to make changes as I learned, with compassion, to set Healthy Boundaries to protect myself physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Losing my loving relationship with one of our two beautiful Adult Children to Parental Alienation, a calculated “campaign of denigration,” has been the most devastating and heart wrenching consequence as the result of my courage to choose safety and living true to my core values of integrity, honesty, compassion, fidelity, fiscal responsibility and love. A loving and devoted parent (dad or mom) without their child for over a decade after raising them to adulthood as they aligned with evil forces and were methodically brainwashed to believe a false narrative, is a cruel life sentence, and has lifelong negative consequences for everyone involved, especially the children.

Stockholm Syndrome, Psychological Splitting & Independent Thinker Phenomenon really do happen in the Child Abuse of Parental Alienation!

Despite the significant losses I have had to endure, along with some tough choices of who to let in or keep in my day-to-day, I have redefined my soul’s existence, found my passions, surrounded myself with honorable and kind people and am living in self-sustaining abundance. I am fortunate to have the inner strength to stay true to who I am and spend time on what brings me peace and happiness, including my love of animals, nature, gardening, cooking, crafting, swimming, art, music, writing and world travel. I have been supported by God, my loving life-partner Rick and a few true friends. Guided by light and goodness, I am blessed to have a second-chance at living a safe, wonderful, interesting, peaceful and authentic life in the beautiful rainforest of a tropical island paradise. I am truly happy and forever grateful.

Thank you for taking the time to hear my story and read my books.

May God Bless you always. 

Sincerely, 

Marni